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My apartment complex is pristinely quiet at night. We live in single-story homes, it's nice.
That said, some gamer seems to be shouting in his room down the way. I can hear him crystal clear and I assume most others can too. It's late. He does it nightly.
I'd shout but he's probably got headphones on.

I'm assuming he's a gamer. People don't really shout at their tv's watching football like they used to.
Should I go confront the dude? How do I stay cool while doing it? I could hardly tell my brother face-to-face when we were kids. My eyes got crazy and I shook. Total panic mode.

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There's this girl in my college whom I talk to a lot on our shared interests and we are great friends so far. We started sharing our secrets bit by bit too. I don't have a love interest on her now but continuing this pace, I can see where things are going to end up.I'm cool with that.

Now she has told me that her parents and both her siblings treat her like utter dog shit. No one talks to her at home and everyone yells at her. That's sad and not right at all.

My doubt on her arises in this instance. She sings and occasionaly sends me the recordings of it. However in the background, her brothers are playing the guitar and keyboard in a complete joyful manner where they even sing the chorus and support her. Is she lying that family is not treating her good? I mean why would she lie?

What do I do now? Should I confront her?

>pic totally unrelated

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How to stop being paranoid about significant other cheating?

I've been married for 4 years and dated for 3 years before that. Never had any reason to suspect that my wife would cheat. However, she's the type that is always the center of attention at parties, and likes to drink a lot. She's also very attractive.

Whenever she goes anywhere, I think she could be cheating. Slightly different from that paranoia is that whenever she drinks at any type of gathering (wedding, party, etc.) without me, I think some guy could take a liking to her, and she could think he's funny/handsome/whatev and end up making out with him because she's drunk.

I know I'm a loser, puss, autist, but can anyone tell me what they tell themselves that makes them confident that their significant other won't cheat when they are out without you? I literally started therapy because of how bad my brain is fucked....

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>be me
>the woman of my dreams, the light of my life, is ready and I'm not exaggerating when I say she's willing to get with me and is practically setting up a landing strip to her vagina
>I'm getting over mad anxiety and depression due to 3rd world tier nutrition and isolating myself for 2 years
>she understands the dark place I'm coming from and mentioned the timeframe of three months until my spirits are back to as high as hers are
>Think she might've mentioned three months because that's how long it is until a trip I planned for us that she knows about
>I don't wanna wait but I'm physically drained and am literally malnutritioned to the point where I get cold way too quick and it brings out anxiety symptoms in me and emotionally I'm still getting used to actually being around people
>I'm fully aware she won't wait around forever, she wants me now, I've realized that as long as I am happy and confident she /will/ accept me for who I am
>I'm a stupid piece of shit and instead of talking about our childhoods in each others arms at hers I'm sat on my own billing zoots at 6.45am and I'm still scared I'll lose her in the time I get back to the world of the living fully
>I want to believe she will wait
>when she asked me to wait for her in a letter 3 years earlier I did, and she got better, but I got much worse and cut her off to protect her from it.
>I want to believe she will wait
>she makes it clear she needs me to be the master of my own happiness before she lets anything happen but she's game the second I do
Tell me she's the one, /adv/, I swear in the name of all that is good and pure I can't fuck this up, I know time is running out and I'm scared I'll slip low enough that I'll mis my last chance

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Ever since my ex broke up with me a year ago I've felt empty inside in regards to any new relationship. For a while I was sad and angry at my ex but since then I've dated a few girls sometimes for a month or 2 at a time and I really can't feel anything for them. Like in my mind I think, this girl is cool and she's cute I should be happy to be with her. But really I feel nothing and I feel like I'm just giving them canned answers in our conversations, I basically have 0 investment.

Most recently I was hanging out with a girl for probably 2 months and she broke it off because she felt like I didn't care and she's 100% right, and I don't even feel sad that I'll never see or talk to her again.

Is this just a normal part of growing up? I'm 27. I met my last gf when I was 24 so I was still in my early 20s. I haven't felt like I did when I first met her with any of these other girls. But then I'll think to myself what really made her so much more special than any of these girls I've been talking to? Nothing really. So I feel like it's just me who's changed

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Been best friends with a girl for a few years and had "dated" and dated on and off a couple times. she's kinda insecure and can't see how wonderful she is even when I tell her all her great qualities. A little while ago after she'd stopped talking to me we reconciled again. She calls me on skype hammered and starts crying about how she doesn't want to be alive and how she misses me and how she wished I was there with her. It broke my fucking heart to hear her talk like that. she's still dating this one guy who live on the other side of the fucking country who I assumed was just rebound. She's so bi polar and on edge all the time. what do I do because I have not the faintest idea.

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Some context: I'm a kiss less virgin that was homeschooled so I don't have much socialization experience. I was able to start college pretty young because of this though.

I'm almost done with and thought for sure I'd find a gf by now, but there is only one that has really stood out for me.
I planned on asking her out today after class, but instead sperged out and just went home. Tomorrow is probably my last chance of ever talking to her again and any advice to overcome my fear would be appreciated.

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I sorely need advice on communicating with women. I am a very analytical person and for the past 7 years I have been taking girls upon their word in regards to what they want to essentially no real success. Recently I discovered the MGTOW movment and a couple of very compelling arguments about female behavior. Does anyone have any resources I could explore?

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You ever feel like you're slipping in little ways?
Sometimes I walk around with the feeling that the world is some sort of movie i'm watching. Like I could reach through the screen and rip it like paper.
I also talk to myself constantly without realizing it. A coworker recently confronted me, told I was muttering to myself. I said nothing but if I was in the mood to say something i'd have said I didn't realize I was saying anything.

These things are normal right? I'm just being nervous?

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How do I stop being like this?

>new job
>couple of cute girls
>talk to them
>make them laugh and such when i can
>feel like i'm getting closer to them
>check their instagram or facebook whatever
>'in a relationship' tier
>get sad as shit
>stop flirting with them, not cruel, just treat them as good coworkers

like i dont feel like its worth it to try. like im wasting my time.
im so god damn pathetic, i reject myself before they do

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Today, I did something I was meaning to do for a long time and....I couldn't stop doing it. You could say that it even lit a passion within me. Nothing could pry me away from my work. It...made me happier than I have been in months. I'm so fucking stupid--procrastinating on shit I like to do! Whew. Losing sight of them and getting myself into thinking they're some sort of chore when I need them to be happy. I am just that much of a lazy asshole.

Main goal: to become work horse rather than lazy cat (to find it at least slightly natural to be doing something)

There's...obstacles to that. My hulking insecurity issues for one.
>swallow everything up and lose sight of goals
>finding ways to rationalize something positive into something negative because of past experiences
>"what if I really am that horrible? What if even my dreams are disgusting? What if I'm not good enough?"

Clearly, even if all my insecurities are true, I still want to do what I need to do for my happiness. So...how do you do that? And how do you accustom yourself to productivity? My natural state of being is utter chaos.

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Ok, so I know and am a friend to a person who is extreamly rude to random people and also disrespects my family by starting rumors and shit. I was friends with them before they started this shit. Now they do this qnd expect me to go along with it. The sad thing is that I am extreamly acward and also shy and cant bring myself to not be friends with her so I ignored her. But recentally, I was scrolling through my friend request list on facebook and accidentally friended her. What do I do?

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I'm 23.

My dad just told me he's been on anti-depressants for years and it's helped him.

I've seen a therapist in the past but stopped going because the co-pay was too high. He was nice, but he wouldn't call me out on my bullshit.

I haven't been diagnosed with depression but I have experienced what feels like cycles of depression since I was a kid. Disinterest in all pleasurable activities, no urge to eat, feelings of hopelessness, of nothing to look forward to, some suicidal ideation, etc.

Any of you have experience taking anti-depressants? Have they made your life better?

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Rather quick question but

What happens if you exceed your credit card limit?

>very long time without job
>just got one 2 weeks ago
>been looking to pay off credit card
>first payday is this friday
>had $780 balance on card
>$800 limit
>make $30 payment on 1st july
>in my mind, $750 balance
>put $40 worth of gas last few weeks
>in my mind, $790
>skipped buying lunch all week cause no $$$
>hoping to buy some dollar menu items tomorrow for lunch
>just checked credit card balance to see how much
>$30 in fees or something
>$830 total balance despite $800 limit

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is it still possible in this day and age to walk up till someone and ask for their number? It is not better to give them yours?