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How to keep the ember alive? 2017-07-22 07:07:42 Post No.18545380
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How to keep the ember alive?
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I lost someone that means alot to me, but at same time I have not.
I'm 23 m, my ex girlfriend is 24.
been dating for a little over 4 years now, but on and off. I've never broken up with her and longest time away was 3 months ha. First time I pretty much begged her back, the other times she came back to me. She broke up with me again about a month and a half ago saying she was not happy but this time she realizes that she wants to just focus on her job since she just graduated and that I've always been more of a stress, but stress because she cares TOO much. which I love that about her but she has to take a step back at times. ex. If I don't eat all day she feel obligated to take me food, which is an hour out of her time increasing stress.
fast forward to now we meet up maybe twice a week now for the past three weeks, see how we are doing because she asked to just be friends. we started having sex again just last week but this week she broke down mid way basically saying that we shouldn't be doing this because she just ends up hurting me again. I can careless if she hurts me again because I can tell she isn't doing it intentionally( fyi I love my self). There isnt someone else involved. just last night she tells me that she loves me alot, but doesnt want to keep repeating this on- off thing and its intuition that its best to be alone for atleast her first year as a teacher because but she has been dropping hints to not letting me go completely . ex. she as talked about getting a place across town, jokingly I said please don't invite others guys over and she said the only guy she was planning on inviting was me but not anymore lol or planning to still go on my bday trip in Oct which was just supposed to be only us two on the trip.
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to sum it up, she means alot to me and I want to keep the ember alive as long as possible, but is this the right way. Should we be doing little couple things here and there or let her go enough to just be friends. I think she likes what we have going on but she is scared to hurt me, she is the one that feels guilty am happy with it. I dont want to get to the point where we block each other out completely but if i have to in hope theres more in store for us down the road I will. whats best?because i know I wont think about another girl other than her for most of my time will go to the start up that i have for the next five years
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Sounds like she isn't that bad but the relationship sounds slightly one sided. What might one day hurt alot if things turn around.
Just tell her that you will have a relationship with her and she shall look out for the things they have an urge to do. Just because you are in a relationship doesnt mean that you have to be all the time together. You will meet each other once in a while, have sex with, talk about things and beside live on your own. Like all this on and off is bullshit since you get together in the end so you might aswell keep it an relationship but loosen some strings. Just because she wants to focus on work doesn't mean she is not supposed to have someone she can love, enjoy time and sex with. The most important thing is that neither you nor she push each other to spend time together. Even if you see each other every 5 days or see yourself only at night while sleeping next to each other. At least having an heartly connection is better than not.
If she contradicts, she's a hoe.
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I'm in college but I just do the bare minimum to graduate, I'm to distracted by video games because that's what all my friends do, I find anyway to kill time besides studying and learning more about my major.
Should I switch majors or just pick up simple jobs and work a hard life? Nothing interests me besides video games and politics (((yes I'm from /pol)))
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My advice to you is to graduate. It's time to grow up and be responsible. You will never be successful in life, in employment or relationships, if you always do what you feel like doing instead of what you are supposed to be doing. Part of being an adult is doing things you don't feel like doing, like paying bills, going to work, running errands, etc. . You can play video games, but your priority should be school. You will eventually grow out of the desire to play video games and if you don't have an education, then what?
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what is your major?
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Silk Road
Alphabay
Hansa
All shut down. Anyone know of any good sites which are still operational?
Many thanks.
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Honestly I'm lost without them.
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Or rather, retroactive insecurity.
>Been an unsuccessful, fat, insecure chump all my life
>Lost my virginity at 21
>2 girlfriends until I was 25
Fast forward. I'm 28 now and I've been working on myself in every possible way for the last 3 years, realizing it's the only way to achieve happiness.
>Got in shape
>Graduated university
>Earning decent money at my first job
>Tinder matches start finally rolling in
>Been seeing a cute 18 year old
>Asked about her sexual history (fuck me, I know)
>Cue details about chads railing her in club bathrooms, being submissive etc
The thing is, she's on the smart side too, having graduated as an honors student and receiving several scholarships.
I really liked her up until this point, and the reason that has changed is simple: All this anger stemming from years of rejection is starting to creep back into my mind. I can't get over the fact that I was never that hunk getting blown by a hottie in my best years of high school and college.
Thought on how you'd handle this? Thinking about pumping her for the fuck of it and simply moving on to the next one when I'm tired of her. I just need to get this shit out of my system, but I don't know how without becoming bitter and disillusioned. And yes, I know that even young girls like this won't be an untouched virgin; this is ultimately not about her past, but my own.
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You can't turn a whore into a house wife. If they're using tinder, they're whores. Go on eharmony or something else that mature people do.
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What makes you think that people on eharmony haven't done the same stuff? Looking to settle down after years of promiscuity?
Meh, I guess after all I'm better off with a 'don't ask don't tell'-policy.
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Id like to grow a sailor beard, along with a sailor hairdo. (Not the arab stererotype) As a guy in his early university years, how would it look on me? Would I still look sharp? What would girls think?
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Post your pic or dont even bother. Chances are high you are another dumb teen and that you wont be able to grow real beard in the next few years anyway.
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Advice on potential relationship pls? 2017-07-22 06:13:05 Post No.18545223
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Advice on potential relationship pls?
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2017-07-22 06:13:05
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So /adv/, help my ass. I've been single for like 2 months and this girl I've hooked up twice is liking me a lot. The fact of the matter is I'm really not into her type; she's cute, passionate, actually quite hot, that's all cool - but she's into BDSM, she likes being spanked, she's into daddy stuff and such. I'm quite opposite of that, pretty soft, caring (I always explain my ideal love life by saying: I'd rather kiss than have sex; it just feels so much more connecting).
The problem arrived a month ago when she said I'm her type 100%, she rated almost all of my pics on Instagram with 9s and 10s. She always kept complimenting me, telling me how hot, sexy, cute I am.
I'd want a sort of FWB relationship with her, but she is completely appalled by the sheer idea of it. I don't know if I should let myself get into that kind of serious relationship (I believe that's what she's looking for right now).
Thoughts? Ideas? Any similar experiences?
Note: She's an 8.5 (I'm a 7 as far as /soc/ is concerned) if that means something.
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Do I get drinks with her? 2017-07-22 05:51:57 Post No.18545146
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Do I get drinks with her?
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I knew this girl for like a year. We worked on our engineering exit together. She has a boyfriend. I'm also a sperg and living out of my car as I find a new place to live.
What do?
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Go for it and have fun
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smdh
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This might sound stupid, but I definitely would be down to sleep with her. But like the whole living in my car logistics. I guess just keep ot casual? "Yeah I'm out here in X. I'd be down! Are you free tonight?"
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Huh?
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Lets talk about computer science.
Is it as hard as people make it out to be? How tough is it to get a job in the field? Is it a worthwhile career in the long run?
Been thinking about this for a while now and i need to make up my mind before september hits
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>Is it as hard as people make it out to be?
Only if you are a brainlet.
>How tough is it to get a job in the field?
Pretty easy atm if you have some experience and a degree
> Is it a worthwhile career in the long run?
No, automation and pajeets will steal every CS job in the next 15 years.
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>>18545138
Nope, easy, and yes
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Need advice on how to feel right now, or what I should do, I'm super fucked up and conflicted
>Spend all my high school time idolising relationships and what they mean
>No girls attract me, really cba with any of them.
>See this Blue haired girl sitting across, never seen someone like this. Shy small anxious "scene" type.
>I'm 18 and she's 16 nearly 17
>Get the balls and start talking to her, end up together 3 days later.
>She had an online relationship for 2 years, which she was cut up about
>We broke up 2 weeks later, because of her anxiety and scaredness over "us"
>Weekend passes and we get back together.
>We spend nearly a month together again
>Again, split because she's cared and doesn't know, I agree and don't say anything else.
>Stay friends, because I genuinely haven't had a friend like this before
>6 months go by, we fight twice and take a good break twice, both times coming back to eachother as friends
>Talk about "us" a couple times, says she's not friendzoning me, she cares about me
> Helped with self harm and suicidal thoughts
>She helped me, got me to reveal a lot of stuff I thought I'd take to the grave. Rape/bullying/horrible shit
>So 7 months have gone by, gone through a lot. She's said sometimes she doesn't want to form an emotional attachment to me, she's scared to love, she wants to
>Fast forward to a week ago. We're talking again about us, and she says bluntly and honestly she doesn't see an "us" anymore.
>I say I need to go, because I can't take how much i've been hurt over the months. The constant back and forth of her saying maybe.
>Her friends find out and say what she did was bad to me, but I say it was my fault
>I want to be friends? I really like her and my home situation she's saved me from. I could picture everything with her, but I can't take just being around her and not being physical with her? I feel like some animalistic "sex crazed" fuck.
>I just want to love and look after her, do fun shit we planned, but it's all gone
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>We broke up 2 weeks later, because of her anxiety and scaredness over "us"
>>Weekend passes and we get back together.
Once you split up with someone, do not get back together with them. Yall tried and it didn't work out. Move on to others. More than 7billion ppl on this planet.
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There's more detail to this but I ran over the limit.
>I left it by saying I needed to go, she told me she'd be there if I forgive her, she wants me as a friend.
I kind of feel like the only reason I was how I was, so caring and tender with her, was for the relationship aspect, which makes me feel shitty.
>I spoke to her mom and thanked her. Their house and family atmosphere, letting me go round has kept me out of the house while I deal with my shit, like my dad having a mental breakdown and such. I owe her a lot, she felt she owed me more. She says everything about having feelings for me, caring deeply, being interested in me, but just the relationship she can't see for some reason. Everyone else puts us together. I just want to love and protect her, and I can't, and it hurts. I just don't know what to do now, or think, or pretend, or what
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Be me
>party day in day out
>drinking alot
>mixing alcohol
>One day stomach hurts
>Liquid shit
It's starting to slowly turn back to solids but this has been happening for 6 days am I fucked ?
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Normal people would have visited the doctor by now
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>>18545012
No need to see doctor to tell you your life style is shit.
Believe it or not, alcohol isnt part of healthy diet. Maybe try to ask yourself if the parties are worth it.
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>>18545111
I thought it wouldn't really be required
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Am I being jealous or reasonable? 2017-07-22 04:51:40 Post No.18544972
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Am I being jealous or reasonable?
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So I have a girlfriend who seemed innocent and conservative (read: wife-worthy) enough at first, but as I'm dating her I'm finding that she has basically been with every guy in her friends group. She's always complaining about not having enough time, yet always being out with friends, and just generally being very party-girl esque. It doesn't really bother me that she's been with other guys cause I have a track record too obviously, but I'm bothered by her college-mindedness. For example, last night at around 1AM she said she's home too early and is going to go to a party. That's weird to me. I'm not a prude, but I've got a career and want to move forward and maybe have a family some day.
So there are my thoughts written out. Am I just being overly jealous or do I have some reasonable doubt? I was going to talk to her about this later today but I want to make sure I'm not being a psycho right now.
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She's not what you thought. Frankly, she sounds like vapid, hedonistic whore, but do what you want.
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She's not wife-worthy desu. If you want to settle down and have a family I suggest you find someone else.
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She's also 3 years younger than me. I didn't think it would be that different, but apparently 3 college years is a FAR greater gap than say, age 35-38.
Well, fuck it, I guess I'll talk to her about it to day and either she'll get mad and tell me to fuck off and we break it off, or she will accept my comments and try to change. Right?
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losing best friend from highschool?
>had a best friend in highschool
>we did literally everything together since 7th grade.
>always would walk home even waited 1 hr one day so i didnt have to walk home alone
>freindship was strong all the way to graduation.
>he went to college a few hours away
>initially kept in contact
>even visited him but realized he was now into partying and drinking a bunch.
>spent the whole weekned babysitting him puking into his pillow
>a few months down the road realized i was the only one initiation conversation or calling him.
>decide to stop.
>havent heard from him since.
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Yea, i sorta have a friend like this
Hes one of the close knit family types who hangs out with just them or friends from his neighbourhood, after school i tried to meet occasionally at school events we were still allowed to attend
Every couple of months i try to drag him along to my groups weekly meet up, assuming hes home at the time because he never picks up his fucking phone, like ever
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Barber accidently gave me a buzzcut. 2017-07-22 04:42:23 Post No.18544939
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Barber accidently gave me a buzzcut.
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2017-07-22 04:42:23
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So after a long day at home, I noticed a barber shop had a sale going on and I figured i'd get my hair cut. I told the barber to make my hair a little shorter and closed my eyes to get some rest. When he finished and I opened my eyes, I was immediatly reminded of pic related. How long will it take to grow my hair back and how do I deal with this in the mean time?
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Long day at work*, fuck
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If it's just a typical buzzcut it probably doesn't look as bad as you think. When you get a new haircut it usually takes you a few days to get used to it. I guess if you really hate it just wear hats.
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Wear a balaclava
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Is it possible to find happiness while having a boring 9-to-5 job? Can't stop thinking about it and it's totally killing my productivity
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use the 9-5 to propel yourself to something you care about. I actually just got a job recently to hopefully finance the expansion of my online business. I'm hoping to stick it out for a year.
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I am 20 and I honestly cannot say I feel relationships are for me.
I am not emotionally dependent on anybody in fact I am entirely apathetic about most emotional problems people have. Which is another thing, if I get in a relationship I will probably not actually care.
There just is nothing about it I feel I am missing out on. Having friends is enough for me when it comes to being around people.
However, it seems like I am looked at as less than everyone else for this. I constantly get "dude why no gf, that's weird xD"from my friends(even though they only further me in this direction with stories of their cunts being abusive/cheating on them)
I never looked at losing my virginity as important, but they look at me weird for that too.I know my family is the same way given that I'm the only single one.
Should I try to find a gf just for social reasons and pretend to care or will people stop giving me shit eventually
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>>18544918
Tell them you are late bloomer.
I havent started taking relationships seriously until like 23. Focus on school. You will be fine. And pic related.
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>>18544918
>Should I try to find a gf just for social reasons and pretend to care or will people stop giving me shit eventually
neither. you should not get a gf for social reasons, nor will they ever stop. on the contrary it gets worse the older you get.
your current friends / family MIGHT lessen their questioning as they realize its just who you are, but for anyone new you meet the process will just continue but at a stronger pace.
stay single if you want to be single. if someone comes along you might like, give em a try. iveb een single for four years and honestly I love it. I put a much stronger focus on friendship and love my friends as they come and go, though I can get laid twice a week in the city so there is less confusion from others.
if you like your lifestyle simply stand by it. if people ask questions answer with a smile on your face to show you are confident and happy about the way it is. if you get sad and dodgy it makes it seem like you WANT to date but simply can't and it makes you sad.
Or go the opposite direction and just be firm. make it known that you are tired of everyone telling you waht to do and that you will no longer take any questions on your personal romance / sex life.