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I think I find myself in relationships more often than I want to be in them. I've been in 5 semi-serious relationships and have never been the person to take initiative in starting them.
Is it normal to feel like you just happen to land in relationships? I'm torn between feeling like I'll end up alone and that my prime is behind me (I'm 25 now) while thinking that no relationship has really fit me yet.
How do you all balance the fear of being alone while trying to maintain agency in relationships?
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How do I hide my past? 2017-07-25 04:08:28 Post No.18553631
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I have a mood disorder and I've been in and out of schools for crazy people for almost all of my education.
I'm afraid that no matter where I go people will eventually find out. I want to get away from it and put it behind me, because right now I'm terrified of making any actual relationships.
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Nothing speaks louder than your actions if you live like a normal human for the past 5 years or whatever, no one will look at you for anything else than what you are.
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Is there anything wrong with this sentence?
His hood was already pulled back to allow his longer hair to dry – hers arranged in rows of close braids, his jaw-length, windswept and unbound.
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Its a little disjointed. You keep switching in between her characteristics and his and it requires the reader to go over it a few times to understand what you're saying. I don't have an specific advice other than to just rework the sentence from the ground up. Something about its arrangement is just very confusing. Most authors would prefer to just write completely separate sentences about both characters as opposed to try to combine them into one strangely spaced sentence.
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Also there's two mixed constructions. Use: Start - aside - end. Or: Start, aside, end. But don't open with a dash and close with a comma.
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Sup /adv/. What's your job? How'd you get it? Pay well? You like it well enough? Tell me all the things in great, great detail.
Trying to get a wide range of opinions on different industries and careers, as I am a 20-something with the world as my oyster and the opportunities are limitless.
OC in return. Thanks boo
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how to tell if your a addict
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how to tell if your a addict
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so i have at least smoked bud every day for about 7 years. not including other stuff. it helps me with literally everything.i got into a HELLA car accident that almost tore my arm off and my left leg. and after that i started experimenting with more stuff other then bud. went from taking pain medicine to doing coke, to trying shrooms, to triples c's and shit, i binged but i never got addicted (or so i thought) to anything, well now im coming to a point in my life were i cant even afford my bud, and im a miserable wreck unless i at least smoke. im supposed to be taking pain meds but that shit is KILLING my liver (shit blood 2-3 times). am i a addict who needs to get help and get over my self loathing ass or does bud truely help with pain and depression that well? basically if i dont do SOMETHING every day i am nonfunctional. but pot keeps the heavy shit away.
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Deal with your problems. Stop running away from them like a bitch.
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Try setting a goal for yourself. Get to a certain weight by a certain time, Teach yourself a skill like coding or 3d modeling or whatever, Etc. I find that when I'm busy doing something else i forget to even smoke.
We forget sometimes that living in the moment, almost on auto pilot, is very similar to a high. You get lost in it and before you know it you realize you were in it.
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How do I get over the idea that I need to get high to enjoy something fully?
I know it's not true, but it's hard to internalize.
I don't just stop thinking "Man, this would be much more fun if I was high", I'm actually thinking "You shouldn't do drugs anymore because it's for the better" but that doesn't kill that primal temptation, that urge of it to go away. What should I do, guys? I don't want to spend my life drinking and smoking this garbage. Pic unrelated, didn't have anything relevant.
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I know where you're coming from and I've felt the same way.
The way to appreciate something more is to give yourself less of it.
The way that I dealt with it is by getting high everyday, non-stop, every waking moment until eventually you miss being sober.
Once you feel that feeling you should be fixed.
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I smoked and developed severe psychosis or some shit. It got too heavy. Get out before you're in over your head. Simple. Just get sober. Stop smoking. It will just rot your brain and fuck your life up little by little until it's snowballed into something worse like with my life. Or at least like just smoke every now and then, every couple of months.
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If you're talking about weed, then there's nothing wrong with it as long as you can afford it and are meeting goals for yourself that YOU set
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If you didn't have sex or date anyone in high schoor and all the sudden you get a girlfriend is it weird ?
Would girls even date a guy like that (yeah I know it's naive but my luck with woman is horrible)
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I was a virgin till after high school. I met a girl who was into me and we ended up together for a few years. My previous experience didn't really come up, but when it did I lied about it and seemingly passed as a nonvirgin in her eyes. I was insecure I guess, but had the lovely shield called "fake it till you make it".
I'm not telling you to lie but if you do, just take your time and don't make a big deal about it if you get anywhere. Being relaxed exudes experience, which makes girls receptive, which makes you more confident in what you're doing.
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Got it thanks, yeah i can talk to girls fine but i can't even imagine a realistic setting in which i get a girl to sleep with me
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Lost my virginity at 21 to my 20yr old gf at the time who was also a virgin. We were together for 5 years before breaking up this May.
Just stay with it brobit.
Give me a hand, /adv/.
A childhood friend of mine has recently been descending into harmful self-absorbtion. We both go to university together, and used to hang out/meet up often when we first started. He had a very high opinion of himself from high school and did welll, but quickly struggled in classes for his major (STEM), and promptly changed. His situation has gotten worse as time has gone on, and now only interacts with the people he lives with and only gives me and his "old" friends quick interaction when we stop by. I feel it's worth mentioning thay he has been living with girls who he wanted to get in bed with for two years now, and no dice on his part (they're in relationships). He doesn't do anything but sit around and watch anime when he's not working, and when he's not watching anime he is orbiting a girl he's known since high school. He recently blew off a friend (also from childhood) who came to visit from out of town, using a snive remark over text. He seems not to care about anything that doesn't give himself immediate gratification in the moment, possibly a result of having his ego and identity crushed and not reflecting/growing from it. What is a good way that I can confront him about this? He's been a lifelong friend of mine and it pains me to see him in this tailspin. I just don't know how to start.
I don't know if he browses here but if you see this, please text or call me man. I don't mean this like a 'huhhohhah you're living life wrong bro! just b urself haha' sense, I want to know what's eating you and help you out of the pit.
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>ask a girl to meet up
>she says "yes absolutely"
>but she's working 7 days a week until September
>but she's free then
I wouldn't put it past her to be someone like that (I went to school with her she was always at the top of the class in everything, only rivaled by me at math.)
How should I proceed? I want to get out of my shell ASAP.
This goes without saying but I'm a turbo sperg.
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Ask her what hours she works and see if you could meet up dinner one night after work
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My loneliness is getting to the point where I can't get anything done what do I do?
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Plan something anything at all and then do it.
Another thing that helps me is to watch live streams and things of the like it actually feels like you're sitting with a lot of people idk. The future is far out man we're in an age where loneliness is not something you have to deal with especially with thread boards like this.
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Watch Dan on twitch he will cure loneliness
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>>18553379
Take a college class at your community college. It will get you around people and further improve yourself.
Seems pretty obvious. But I'm looking for specific type of girls.
I dated "normies" and I just can't seem to find a single girl who has anything in common with me. I go to bars and parks and I've tried dating chicks from my workplace a bunch and none of them fit.
I've had about 20 different women since january and I haven't had more than 2 dates with any of them because I just cannot find myself entertained by them. Sure, I like sports and movies/tv too, but my biggest hobbies are writing, comic, and video games. And not a single girl I've met had any interest in any of these. The closest I've met is a girl who played mario when she was a kid but has no interest in picking games up.
I'm not a slob. I have a car, a decent job, and I'm a pretty charismatic guy, but every time I bring the topic of hobbies up and they don't mention video games or SOMETHING I like, I feel the weight of "why bother"
I started asking, as casually as I could, if they'd be interested in ever picking up a controller or trying a game out. All but one of them said no, and the one who said she'd give it a go quit because she said mario kart was making her car sick. Fair complaint, but I just can't see myself having an empty relationship where we don't share any of my biggest hobbies.
So...where do I meet girls who like "nerdy" stuff like I do? Should I just hang around comic shops and look for girls who are there by themselves and try to shmooze in or something? At bars, most girls are THERE to be picked up. At comic stores/arcades people aren't there for that. What do?
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not op, bump for interest
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All relationships stem from compromise I don't think that you should completely turn down a girl because she says she doesn't want to play video games right then and there.
Imagine you like the girl and get with her and two months later down the line she says you know what? I'll try that video game that one looks fun.
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>>18553516
This.
Also go on /cgl/ and get into cosplay. Go to some cons, there will be many events; so mingle. Also don't hang around comic shops to meet girls, say that back to yourself aloud and see how much sense that makes.
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Collecting my Payment 2017-07-25 02:26:18 Post No.18553342
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I wrote someone's essay expecting to receive $40. He's paid me before for smaller work.
The problem is that parents found his weed last weekend and took away his money. How the fuck can I get my payment? I've told him that I understand his situation and that he can take his time, but I won't help him with anymore work until I get paid. He seems genuinely apologetic and I think he wants to pay.
How the fuck can I get the $40 or something I can exchange for $40?
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> not reviving payment before service is rendered
You tard , just be patient and wait till he pays you if he wants help he'll pay
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How easy is it to change how you perceive sexuality in your mind. I basically want to try to change my fetish and become "normal". Is there a way to reset your brain? I'm not ashamed of my fetish or anything, I just don't think I can achieve a normal relationship through it and that's what I want. I tried nofap for a month but it didn't really work. Any suggestions?
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Do it.
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I recommend you try just not fappimg at all or anymore
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Bump. I would like to add it's nothing crazy like extreme sissy stuff, just some bdsm that messes up a normal relationship
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Every single time I get in a relationship I end up being a dick to the other person. I don't even plan on it, it just happens. how do I stop?
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Why the fuck is she naked?
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Not really sure how to put this... just don't. The only way you can stop being a dick is by not being a dick. Stop being lazy and asking for advice and whatnot and just actively try to be nice. If you care enough/are committed enough you will be fine.
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If pic is related my advice for you is forfeit pay the court a fine for your stolen goods or pay with your blood
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Hi /sci/,
What are some easy jobs that I can get where I don't really have to do anything, and have plenty of free time to study? For various reasons uni isn't really an option, and my current job (lifeguarding) is too involved to really be a viable choice to allow me to study during.
I need a jon, preferably with flexible hours, where I don't have to do anything for long stretches of time, and where they don't really care what I do during that time.
Any suggestions?
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Are you good at anything? Your picture implies you want us to suggest prostitution or something involving the sex industry so are you attractive enough for that?
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>>18553208
>hi /sci/
not /sci/
only jobs I know of are on-campus jobs at universities that pay minimum wage but allow students to study during. they only go to students at the university though, so you're boned there.
outside of that, maybe a tech support job, or some kind of support job where some days are slow
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Security guard.