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She'll still have the convo, even it you delete your account.

Is she underaged?

> first is she underage look up age of consent laws
> second why no go with her clearly if she liked you enough to send nude she may be wanting something more long term , ergo you get a gf and fuck buddy , this all depends on my first question though

Join a class for a partner dance.
It's usually really fun because it's a sociable environment, you meet grills and as you improve in your dancing, you have people around, who get excited about that and give you compliments.

Some specific dances like Lindy are also old enough, that they've already stood the test of time, went out of style, but now have constant small groups of enthusiasts. Also, it's a dance where, if you really got into it, could potentially be a basis for a career as a dance teacher or something like that.

And, it's great fun!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NlTVJ9fOmro

The safe route is to talk to someone and get help. If you can't afford a psychologist then try to wait it out for a week or 2.

>>18558171
Literally spend time with him now and ask him questions about his childhood and life. You will only regret not doing this, and by doing it, you make his life more loving.

The goal is not to hide your emotions and swallow pain. It is to embrace it, sorrow of this magnitude is one of the many spices of life and it is important to taste - it shows you care. Who could care more about a man than his son. You must go to him, whatever the cost. All you can give to him now and all he wants is your time.

Thank you Anons, both of you.

>>18558149
Stop caring so much. Probably everything is okay. Some on ebay just won't leave you feedback for some god damn reason, even if you, as a seller did everything correctly.

If he was a scammer, he would have probably already complained that something's broken, etc. And if the item was "damaged during shipping" (assuming you packed it well) or "something missing", you have that video to back you up.

Getting a girlfriend is easy and anyone can do it. Getting a home is out of the reach of many.

>>18558088
If there are people around you who really tell you this to you. Then you have the wrong people around you.

Other than that, not having a home is really either totally blameable because someone cant get hit shit together or he has been thrown out and has to find a new home whole beeing homeless.

While not having a partner might be a choice, altough as high as the importance of a family might be in a western society, not wanting what the usuall folks might want is in their eyes not understandable. And if you cant get a partner, then you are weird.

Tl dr: Dumb people have their mind made up. Try to avoid those people who think in stereotypes.

>>18558088
A girlfriend doesnt require any financial input. A homeless man could have a gf.
Shit could go wrong and you could lose your residence in one night.
All those thoughts are also not the same person and you are trying to make it seem like the general person cares about if you have a gf rather than them just believing that if you dont have a gf then it is a personal issue and not an external issue.

It's dead Jim
if they don't reply the second time it means they chose someone else and you're not even worth the time for a proper reply anymore

>>18558106
It's strange because it seems like he is still searching. Recently I saw he added someone else in the region with a similar profile to me. However, checked that person and his skills were really not as good as mine.

But I guess you are right, probably I don't fit that well.

>>18558075
Try just one more. But don't just ask again about the job. Find some excuse to treat him as a colleague. Share an interesting article you found in a trade journal, tell about some satisfying accomplishment you've just had in your job, ask his advice on some professional issue.

Maybe it is not about changing rather what you have always been.

Seeing beauty in a gender (like your girlfriend) is not something thst comes from sexuallity but simply an objective oppinion on traits like not having acne and beeing fat.

I have had similar thoughts. But it was rather with traps. Gay porn had nothing for me. Hooked up with a guy. I was not even remotely hard, although the guy was very chill and friendly. And now im not even attracted to traps anymore. Like i know now that im neither gay nor bi at all and it all was a blurry fantasy that has crumbled.

Sounds to me like you were always gay but you were simply not aware of such a possibility. Repressing your real feelings.

Although if you get normally up with your girl, and are attracted to her, you might be simply bi.
As far as the definition goes for me, you are either homo or hetero if you heartly csnt even stand the thought of doing something with the equivalent gender. Everything inbetween is either bi or bi curious.

Or btw. You may get aswell a dominant girlfriend that might also peg you once in a while. Heaving red amazon reviews about strap-ons it seems to be like an upcoming trend..

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>>18558013

First start off by going to your community college and tell then you're a new student and wanting to sign up for spring classes of 2018. This will give you plenty of time to get yourself organized and on track by having the correct supplies and saving money.

Secondly, when at the college tell then you are looking to transfer to a University after taking as many classes as you can there. It will be much cheaper and your FAFSA will cover almost all of it.

Last but most importantly, make sure you speak to a financial advisor and apply for the Pell Grant. It's for people who are poverty stricken and gives up to a couple thousand per semester for supplies, classes and books. This is why you want to wait for 2018. Also, if you haven't, you'll need to be tested to gauge your academic level to see where you should start.

>>18558013
A basic subject like CS is going to be taught pretty much the same way everywhere. (Were you studying philosophy or cellular biology, for example, it might be worth aiming for the school where top thinkers or Nobel Prize people taught).

So your state university is probably as good a place to go as any, and a lot cheaper than most

I didn't read any of that because none of it matters. Moving on starts with truly moving on in your heart of hearts. Let go.

Hit the gym. Get amongst your mates. Get under another girl. Get rowdy on the weekends.

>>18558009
more time anon, dont forget to smile at girls you like, dont do drugs

>Dated a couple of chicks but can't make it serious
Did you fuck any of them? Banal as it might seem, it might also help you along just as well

Have you ever seen the movie 'Her' by Spike Jonze? There's a quote there that actually is quite brilliant: "The past is just a story we tell ourselves"

Change your story. Your ex sounds mean, and although you did love her at some point, that part of her you loved is gone, and the part of you holding on to that, should be burried along with it. Realize that she's just another person, nothing more, nothing less. Count your gains with new people, and with yourself first and foremost.

Protip: You are already getting through this, but the world around you needs time to adjust to your new path, so just go out and discover where it takes you. If she pops up in your mind, simply acknowledge that you got a working mind, be open and welcoming to the sensation, and let it pass through you. There's no place for it to stick, as long as you're not fighting it

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>>18557997
I have an austistic mind too (metaphorically speaking, from browsing internet and absorbing huge amount of information about all kinds of shit all these years), but fortunately I also know how to be "social" if necessary, because I am not a misanthrope and acknowledge that sometimes, it's beneficial to appear socially adequate. Here are some tips that have worked for me:

>Comment on surroundings or weather if it's somebody you barely know as convo starter
>If they look 20-something, comment on the most recent news/pop culture (death of Chester right now I guess), starting with "Hey, haven't you heard X, crazy huh? I wonder why...".
>If it's a group convo between bunch of office workers, go stand in the circle/sit down, hold a non-alcoholic drink in your hand (juice/water/coffee etc.), sip it, listen in on what's the topic, and contribute a relevant personal experience when you can tell one, then keep listening.
>If you feel the need to make a joke, keep it very light or dad joke, don't be ironic, the normies are bad at irony, especially when they don't know you well.
>Don't do shit like fidget, have a closed pose, look for the clock every minute, check smartphone etc. be attentive and listen. You can sometimes be recognized as trustworthy if you don't say a thing but just listen attentively and nod sometimes. This usually means that normies may start asking your opinion out of curiosity, since you've been informed of their inside jokes and what not.
>NEVER talk about politics/religion, and if other people mention something related to it, just act as if you have no clear opinion on the topic.

>>18558017
So these are the things that I would do, or even already do, but the problem is that I'm so uncomfortable doing these things and would rather be withdrawn from social contacts. I just wish I could permanently be a normie, or a chad if possible. I'm not proud of wanting to be a normie, but it seems like it's necessary for making a living.

>>18557997
>I've just started

There's your answer. You've got several years to work on conquering your anxiety and shyness before you hit the world of work. Use the time, but take your time. Baby steps toward being with people in new situations.

>>18557976
Some day some genius is going to invent a handheld gizmo that looks something like a texter but that you can actually talk to people through, using your mouth and words and like that, and your problem will be solved

>>18558376
Talking on the phone is such cancer. I honestly don't understand people who like talking on a phone. I mean, women do, but they're not important. Do any men actually enjoy talking on the phone?

>>18558390
I'm a guy and I absolutely hate texting. I miss talking on the phone and hearing an actual voice.
I know you can send "audio message" recordings now but it's not the same as an actual interactive real time talking conversation.
(not OP here)

By not starting your sentences with the word "so".

>>18557918
Thanks this'll help

>>18557913
Did you take it for some pains?
If yes go NSAIDs while reducing the dose of tramadol 50%/ every week.
If the pain isn't your problem , and all thats left to treat is tramadol addiction -you can either go to hospital for detoxication (few days) or try to lower the dose slowly (so you won't get withdrawal syndromes)
It depends on how much you take it but you should reduce doses weekly. You'll need to go like this for about 2-3 months to go to zero safety.

Spend some time around young people your age at the festival. There are a lot of people to meet and on festivals they are more open for new ppl. Last time I went I highfived 5 new ppl in the mosh pit and had some fun too. And everyday I'm in autist-mode. I guess the trick is "not to worry too much, not to expect anything and just chill out (thats super hard for me) and have random fun.

>>18557977
Thanks for advice, anon, I think people hanging out there are more open to meeting new ppl than in most other places.

>>18557992
Just don't expect that everyone you'll meet and have fun will keep in touch with you/become friends after festival (that's what I thought when I was younger, and was salty later) ... still it doesn't change the fact that you can have a lot of fun with random strangers :)

Anyway...have a blast at your festival anon ^^