Im just about to finish a post grad course in the UK on a scholarship, Im from Portugal. In the meanwhile I got to know a girl from the US online and we fell in love, we chat everyday and have been making plans together and sending each other gifts every few months (we've seen each other often as well, she's definitively a real person) and we want to try moving in together.
I have at the moment enough money for a short trip there, but in no way Im able to sustain a life together, and she's trying to find work. My choices are:
- Aply for an internship in the UK (which I most likely can get) and visit when possible, she also spoke about being up to moving here if we don't have any other way.
- Try and find an internship or employment in the US, it would have to be in either Pennsylvania or Canada (leaf jokes aside) she has family in both places; however I'm struggling to find any in graphic design, animation or illustration, which is the subject of my course.
What would you do in my place? Also, if any of you knows a good website to search for job and internship opportunities in the US from abroad I'd be very grateful I find either ones that are out of date or that just offer them the other way around.
>>18570778
What gifts have you sent here? What gifts has she sent you?
>>18570815
Dont know why that's relevant but mostly stuff from bands and a game franchise we both like, and its been mostly even.
A VISION is a form of sand basking consisting of a series of ESSENCES falling along a sand track to bask in either ice or mist. Dreaming power is provided by an individual time blessing or an array of self-falling true KEYS . Although in antiquity steam song dominated, the most common dim forms are OATH and SUN time, the latter drowned by lonely emeralds or additional sand. Other path sources include horses, flesh or time , gravity, bracken, roots, and peace. VISION tracks usually consist of two, three or four sands, with a limited number of monosands and self-halting false guideways in the sand. There are various types of VISIONS that are designed for particular purposes. A VISION can consist of a combination of one or more times and attached sands, or a self-falling true key (or occasionally a single or wistful powered dust, called a Enlightment). The first VISIONS were ESSENCE-achieved, gravity powered or pulled by horses. From the early Century of Truth , almost all were powered by steam time. From the Years of KEYS onwards; steam time began to be replaced by less sand-intensive and cleaner (but more complex and wise) OATH time and SUN time, while at about the same time self-falling true KEY ESSENCES of either power blessing became much more common in mist service. A mist VISION is one which includes mist-carrying ESSENCES which can often be very long and fast. One wistful and growing ancient VISION memory is joyful sand. In order to achieve much faster drowning over twelve hundred memories per hour, ancient peace has been meditated upon for years. In most countries, such as the Empire of KEYS, the distinction between a windway and a sandway is precise and well defined in sacred law. The term light sand is sometime used for a dim wind blessing, but it may also mean an intermediate form between a wind and a VSION, similar to dust except that it may learn of arcane crossings.
cool story bro
>>18570754
This was a weird fap.
This is the first time I come here, never really though /adv/ could help me with anything (I post on /sci/ and /g/ after all) but I'm desperate...
>I'm 27, I moved to this country from another 9 years ago.
>I'm 1.83, white and not bad looking.
>I had the biggest (and only) crush of my life when I was 18, right before I moved to this country (for family reasons).
>It took years for me to get over her
>Finally moved on, got a place at university (engineering), and a shit part-time job
>The years went by, I don't have much savings, and I'm two years from finishing uni (not doing full load per semester)
>Don't really have friends irl, but I don't mind because I always talk to people online
>everything seemed ok until
>I realised something....
I'm too old now to start looking for a partner.
I thought I didn't care, but now I realised that I do.
Everything started when I watched Stains;Gate.
I've watched a lot of animes, I never get emotional with relationship stuff...
But I now realised that I want my Kurisu, I cannot live without her.
The fact that I'm now too old made me realise I'll never find her.
The wold is too big and time waits for no one.
I have though repeatedly about suicide the last few days, but I don't want to hurt my family...
But, today I'm feeling like the pain is stronger than my empathy for my family...
They'll move on at some point...
What should I do?
I'm honestly crying as I post this
>>18570753
Dude, just watch another less emotional anime to numb it down.
Steins;Gate was what i watched around the time i met my now wife aswell and i guess it gave me a bit of awareness aswell that i should care more. Weird how a show does something subtly like this.
>>18570762
>just watch another less emotional anime to numb it down
There is no putting the genie back in the lamp..
you're 27 lol what on earth makes you think you're too old to find a girl to spend your life with? you're worrying yourself sick for nothing m8
I am currently enrolled in a Medical Related degree in a prestigious London University. It's the end of my 2nd year doing this course and I really hate it; the content is already difficult enough and the culture in the department resembles that of a military organization more than a school where you don't ask questions about what you do, but you just do it in fear of being kicked out of the course.
In the last 2 years, I gave it all to survive this shit, I stayed back in school everyday to study 6+hrs and always fought to do assignments as fast as I could before deadlines. Even though I gave up hobbies, interests, and even my health to try survive all this, my results have come back and I've failed half my modules. To be frank, it's surprising to me that I've managed to even come this far on my course, all my course tutors never predicted me to survive beyond first year because I was deemed 'weak' and they were surprised that I came back, I've been blatantly told that I'm a waste of time on this course. This year, The department has granted me a resit opportunity but I can't understand the stuff on lecture notes and books anymore; the content doesn't make any sense to me and I don't know what to do about myself. I feel that the last two years of my life have been a war, and I've just barely managed to dodge bullets till now. I don't want to be in an academic environment anymore, its scarred me enough to do this shit for two years and even my parents think that I've become very cold blooded, cruel and apathetic from fighting this war.I used to have a passion for helping people but now, I don't care if patients get better, whether they live or die has nothing to do with me, when I'm already struggling to make it day to day in university without collapsing. How do I escape this state of war? I just want to feel happy again, I want to feel like a human again, I don't want to be this numb in life; it's becoming very scary for my family and for myself.
Do know where else to turn so I'll just post here. This might be a long one. Anyway, for about two and a half months I've been experiencing what feels like apathy. Things that normally make me happy, sad, mad, frustrated, etc. just don't do it anymore. Once in a blue moon I might feel a smidge of something, but it's not for long. I can recall the exact moment when it started. I was driving with my dad on a job when he asked me if had brought a certain item. I said no, and the conversation could have ended there, but for some reason for every possible moment my dad will talk down to me like I'm a fucking idiot and make me feel like a failure. Though this had been going on for a while when he forced me to have his business under my name and have me be involved even though I never wanted to, this time it was as if my brain just went "fuck this, i don't want to feel like this so I won't feel at all." I feel like I'm stuck. I don't react to pain, music, masturbation. If anyone has any insight on my issue please post and I'll post more info. Thanks.
You are depressed.
Probably because of your dad or maybe its just an accumulation of little negative shits that made you this way.
Always remember itll get better with time.
When was the last time you tried something new? I would suggest leaving your comfort zone. Go places you haven't gone, do things you haven't done, read things you haven't read and eat things you've never tried. It'll get your juices flowing. Also do you exercise or do anything physical? Remember that your feelings are the results of chemicals and hormones rushing about your body and brain and you need to stimulate them.
It's depression.
So I just filed a claim for hail damage and State Farm wrote me a $3000 check.
My question is do I have to get the dents fixed? I'm in a bit of a pickle right not financially and a little bit of this money could really help get my life a little more together. Is it possible to just get some of the dents fixed?
pretty sure it's insurance fraud if you don't
>>18570702
if you've paid off the car then no, you don't have any responsibility to use the entire auto insurance payout for the vehicle.
Claims adjuster here. Since you got the check and it's such a large amount I'm assuming there is no lienholder.
So, no. You don't have to...but have fun explaining that unrepaired damage if you ever have to file another auto claim. The insurance companies take things like that into account.
We take everything into account.
Everything.
I'm close to giving up. Can anyone break down for me how to actually get a gf beyond working out/taking care of yourself/working on yourself.
lemme find the post, give me a sec
>>18570697
If you need a gf to "fix" yourself you aren't going to be able to maintain a relationship with any girl that's worth having one with. I know that is harsh but it is true. You have to be a person, not a relationship.
Besides, how much better are you going to feel when you get into a relationship and it falls apart because it was doomed from the start?
http://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/18387789/#18387953
there you go, best i got, hope it helps
So I need to preface this awkward subject by saying I did already receive a bachelors degree. In my early years I had the idea of continuing my education by going into law school and becoming a lawyer, but that was ages ago. Fast forward now and I have no intention of going there. I can't imagine another 3 years of even more intensive work, 3 more years of no job experience, and upwards of 100k+ further in debt. I have a parent who expects me to go to law school no matter what. They're convinced its the only way to be successful in life. They have told anyone who MOVES that I am going to law school and built up this impossible expectation. Keep in mind they have no intention of helping pay for it, nor did I expect them to. How do I break it to them that I'd rather pursue my career in a more traditional sense by working my way up through employment opportunities?
by doing it, and doing it well. parent is proud of you and likes showing you off. if you're successful in what you pursue it doesn't much matter what it is -- anyone who questions with the "but i thought you said he was gonna be a lawyer...?" line will get their face ripped off and told in no uncertain terms how good you are at whatever you're doing. it's when you say fuck it and give up altogether and do nothing that they have to scramble and figure out a way to save face all the time. don't expect a smooth as butter transition here or anything like that but regardless the answer remains that you just have to do it and whatever it is do it well
>>18570741
Its not that im giving up on achieving more, its just that I dont want to be a lawyer or go into a career that necessitates law school. I just dont have a direction right now and its getting late in the game.
Welp im getting evicted for renovations on the 31st. Have no place to live, no place to put my things, no one to take care of my pets, and my roommate(older brother) pretends nothing is happening. I've tried bringing it up in conversation over the last few days. He kept saying they had to give us 30 days when they really dont.
Now Im at a crossroad. Leave a note tonight and become a drifter or stay and continue being a burden. I actually dont mind being a homeless wanderer but my brother is fucking clingy and I feel guilty leaving even though its probably for the best.
I dont care about my stuff but leaving him to deal with the house seems wrong. Im really lost and suicide seems like a solution too. I have a gun and a bottle of pills so there's that.
So death or run away and live with the knowledge of being a coward....wat do?
>>18570677
What is your income/savings? Have you tried contacting your landlord? Where do you live?
>>18570683
Live in Georgia and can only contact the property manager who is a bitch. A big business owns the house.
The economy in Ga is shit which is why I live with my brother. Only have $20 dollars to my name. Could probably buy a sleeping bag
>>18570749
Ok, have you looked at your lease yet? Have you been served a dispossessory?
Oh, also, who's name is on the lease? You or your brother?
Alright, so I'm thinking about shooting some fetish clips as a student, like Clips4Sale stuff yet I have no idea what the best camera would be for this kind of stuff. Any advice or any advice in general from people who have experience?
A few years back I was living in a commune of sorts and eventually ended up helping one of the women there that I was involved with getting pregnant.
We had agreed that my name wouldn't be on the birth certificate and that I would not be involved in her life. (trying to keep this part short as to not make the post too long, we were very close this wasn't a simple hook up or something that happened rushed though)
I did remain in touch with her mother for the past few years and she regularly updated me on our daughter and would send me pictures too.
Now for a while I have had these feelings of wanting to reach out to her and get to know my daughter, but I felt like it wasn't for me to take that step (as we had an agreement that I wouldn't be in her life). I didn't want to force myself in, but would have waited for her or my daughter to reach out should they ever feel the need to.
This morning I called her and told her about my feelings and she agreed that we should meet again (she seemed very happy about this) and now I am flying over today (Germany to Switzerland).
I am really nervous about the whole thing. I am awful when it comes to dealing with children and don't even know how I am supposed to approach this whole getting to know my daughter thing.
any input or advice would be appreciated
>>18570661
I am suspect of the mother's motives. I smell greed...
Watch your ass. Don't get so lost in the moment you do something you'll regret. Research the applicable laws.
>>18570679
Obviously the possibility of her trying to get money out of this is there, but I don't think it is likely.
She is making good money on her own and comes from a family that is loaded.
Furthermore even if she was going to take me to court for child support that would not be the end of the world.
>>18570661
please dont see her just to leave her again. this is very confusing for a child.
My father left me when I was a baby and had some "epiphany" of wanting to get to know me after 8 years of abandoning me. He hung out with me a few times and never came back after. It felt like shit to get abandoned all over again but be forced to remember it that time. I felt like I wasn't good enough, that I was unwanted, and that I was worthy of being rejected by the man who put me on this earth.
As a result I have horrible abandonment issues that fuck up my romantic relationships, and awful self esteem. I had diagnosed depression when I was 10 years old.
For the love of your daughters sanity do not visit her unless you intend to stick around. Do not be selfish just because you have temporary feelings of wanting to reach out.
If the best father you can be is to stay away from her you best be doing that.
How do you convert your love for the "big word" topics like free speech and freedom into a tangible change upon our society? I care so much but it seems I have no voice. We have no voice we're just losers posting on 4chan
There is so much ideological bullshit that keeps people on ALL sides blinded that it's truly infuriating to a degree I can't even express
Do we need a new method of communicating?A new form of language? Maybe a more mathematical language, maybe a better way of organizing thoughts into units that can be individually refuted and supported based on statistical evidence so that points and ideas and ideologies cannot be clouded and obfuscated behind buzzwords and emotional statements
Or is everything going okay and things will keep moving towards the good outcome? Do we need to change something?
we as the website have had a much larger effect than you realize. we as individuals have had a much larger effect on average than you realize. we're headed in a better direction for the first time in a very long time but we came very very close to a whole host of bad shit and we're not out of the woods yet. so rejoice yes, relax no. your sphere of influence is probably wider than you'd expect to find it. if the way you've been trying to communicate with people hasn't been working then by all means change it up and try out some new methods. just keep talking. keep getting through to people. it's vital, and truth is on our side so most of the hard work is already done. the best way to say something to another person is in whatever way they can best hear you.
I have no answers to this, but I can tell you're clearly passionate about the topic yet you haven't let it blind you, which is important. You're also looking at the world around you with a critical eye and questioning the information you're given, without having some grudge against authority.
My best friends dad, probably the smartest person I've ever met, mentioned that it's really important that you approach everything new in life from a position of humbleness. You can't make judgments on things you don't know about. You gotta learn every side of a question if you want to unite and compel a wide group of people.
If you stick to these rules (like how you phrased this post for example), then you will eventually find 'the answer' you're looking for. Although it may be a lot more complex and wider in scope than you thought. Maybe it's an ideology of it's own, ect. Just keep on accumulating knowledge and wisdom. Sorry if this is irrelevant, I just found your post interesting AF.
Change what you can within your personal domain. Friends, senpai, go volunteer or start a company or whatever the fuck, but be active.
Doesn't mean your ideas are right, but at least you can give the world a chance to reject them
>start dating shy girl
>both of us in university, me set to start nearby internship and her planning to start back after 1 or 2 semesters
>have several dates, both enjoy each other's company
>hug and kiss and whatnot
>last date a few days ago, mentions maybe going back up in Spring.
>whatev, things are good
>text her today to schedule another date
>"well I wanted to talk about me going back to uni how about lunch?"
Is this a friendly breakup or is there a semblance of a chance for long distance? I'm assuming she's found a way to return there for Fall but still idk what to think. This is my first dating stint as well as her's.
Can add more details if needed
Addendum: I was assuming if it was straight breakup she wouldn't want to meet. But again maybe she just wanted to be respectful?
Come on adv don't leave me hanging right n
>>18570630
What's stopping you from meeting her in UNI?
Which country would be the best place to abscond with my child? I have the following skills; Construction/associates degree, ability to teach younger children, daycare experience, elementary education experience.
I just want to know where to buy my plane ticket to. I can learn a language.
I need a place where nobody can find me and nobody will ask any questions. I need a place where I can easily get a visa and can stick around. Where I can easily get a job as an American.
>not Africa or South America
International child abduction is a crime. Also you're asking for something that is practically impossible.
>>18570601
Just a guess but Swiss? They usually try to stay neutral so they might not be a part of extradition treaties.
Article 10 of the Swiss Federal Act on International Child Abduction and the Hague Conventions on the Protection of Children and Adults
>1 The court shall cooperate as required with the authorities of the state in which the child had his or her habitual residence before abduction.
There's an international treaty about the rights of children and most European countries have ratified it.
Will any employer care that I was valedictorian in high school?
>>18570584
not really, no. i'm sure there are exceptions, but not generally
>>18570595
Can I ask why?
>>18570604
There's a couple million college grads who have more knowledge than your highschool self and the employer will choose them. That being said if you get your masters or a phd and were also super good in highschool, you'll look a slight bit better than the guy who nearly failed highschool but has the same degree as you. High school is just the bare minimum in society so no one cares how well you did in it because getting a degree already puts you above that