Seriously, what is the big deal about losing your virginity?
I don't mean having regular sex with someone you love. That's awesome and everyone should experience it. No, I mean if you aren't having sex, aren't looking for sex, but you fucked a filthy hooker one time years ago just to "get it over with", what difference does it make? It doesn't feel any different for me.
Why do people say "get it over with" like it's some awful ordeal that you go through once and then never have to think about again? Isn't the real issue in whether you're having sex NOW or not? By the reasoning of "get it over with", if you were molested as a child you're technically not a virgin so your life should be better because of it, doesn't matter how long ago it was or the quality of the sex, you've ticked that box so you're okay for life.
>>18572912
It can be very stressful for a virgin to be with someone who has been with let's say, 3-6 partners. Not necessarily because they think that makes the person dirty, but because that partner will be able to compare the performance of all those previous partners versus your own. Plus there is the fear that you will underperform and fail to have good sex with your partner due to having zero experience.
Sometimes, like you said, there are people who just want to get it over with, just to be able to say that they aren't virgins and earn the "right" to don't be associated with the negative stereotypes of virgins anymore. Although fucking a hooker isn't really a solution to fix those self-esteem and socialization issues.
In fact, having sex by itself won't fix any of that, but it is still a source of stress because you have failed to do this things that all of your peers and people around you have done before you.
>That's awesome and everyone should experience it.
So having always been a world away from it can really bring you down.
>>18573600
I agree, but I said I don't mean regular sex with someone you love. My issue is with the claim that having fucked a filthy hooker one time years ago just to "get it over with" is good enough, as if the binary state of technically having had sex once or not is the important part, rather than the experience of it.
I like this new coworker. She's super hot, and talkative towards everyone. One day I got signals that she likes me and one of the older coworkers agrees, and that she sees it all the other time at her other job.
Now, a bunch of new coworkers came in and basically like her, too. She now has much more rapport with them and now I seem wayyy too inferior. I'm basically the shy introverted dude that doesn't look like he belongs there. What can I do? She also has a fuckboy bf that's coming back in like 3 days lol
I used to work in retail and there was a 'hot' chick working there. I couldn't see it but she had big tits so maybe that's why. All the guys were drooling over her and she would date a new coworker every week. Finally she settled down with a guy, I quit and didn't see her since then. Out of curiosity I looked her up on facebook recently, she is still with the guy but holy hell she is a land whale now. She must have gained 100 pounds.
>>18572926
Honestly she's not even that slutty she just has a shitty home situation
>>18572926
"And what, monks, is the gratification in the case of form? Suppose there were a girl of the khattiya class or the brahmin class or of householder stock, in her fifteenth or sixteenth year, neither too tall nor too short, neither too thin nor too fat, neither too dark nor too fair. Is her beauty and loveliness then at its height?”—“Yes, venerable sir.”—“Now the pleasure and joy that arise in dependence on that beauty and loveliness are the gratification in the case of form. 19. (ii) “And what, monks, is the danger in the case of form? Later on one might see that same woman here at eighty, ninety, or a hundred years, aged, as crooked as a roof bracket, doubled up, supported by a walking stick, tottering, frail, her youth gone, her teeth broken, gray-haired, scanty-haired, bald, wrinkled, with limbs all blotchy. What do you think, monks? Has her former beauty and loveliness vanished and the danger become evident?”—“Yes, venerable sir.”—“Monks, this is a danger in the case of form." - The Buddha
I found a guy to fix up my transcript, which is a relief. Problem is I can't afford it, especially all at once. I'm thinking of paying him off slowly throughout the course of the year. What else should I know?
pic not related - not me
I am 25 years old now. Back in high school I did not have any friends and it was the worst 4 years of my life. Everyday I still think about specific moments and cringe or get mad. I think about hurting people that would bully me and treat me like shit. I was such a ghost in senior year that I wasn't even pictured or mentioned in the year book, everyone just completely forgot I existed.
How do I get over this? I thought time would eventually allow me to live normally and forget about it but it hasn't. High school scarred me so much that it is almost all I think about years later.
>>18572886
Someone said "We spend our lives plotting revenge on the high school bully."
Your feelings are normal to the point of being boring. 90% of the population is haunted, from time to time, with bad memories of adolescence. And the other 10% are those who were actually happy in high school and spend their lives wishing they were back there again.
Let yourself wallow in bad memories from time to time. And then get on with life.
We've all got those memories
The only thing I found that I think helps, is pretty generic - create new, better memories
If you have friends then go and create some memories, go skinny dipping while it's still warm, get drunk then piss on someone's house, get rly high in a wheat field or do some volunteering
I feel the same way but about college instead of high school, high school I actually enjoyed
I really don't know how to get over it, I feel like I missed the normie experience in college and that I'll never be able to recover from it
did you go to college?
I'm constantly reminded about it all the time. Like a tumblr fatlard retard who posted the video of "get in the shower, I'm triggered, get in the bus, I'm triggered" I'm too aware and thinking too much of "I'm 22 years old and still haven't had sex", which usually develops into "I'm going to die a virgin" and the classic "nobody likes me"
I have no fucking idea of what to do and its driving me completely insane.
same here anon, 22, my gf just left me (long distance) and still a virgin
I'm thinking I'll just go to a party or something and bang someone just to get it out of the way before I'm 25 and it's even worse, but I hate parties and normie girls so idk how that's gonna happen
My advice as a non-virgin likely means nothing if you're obsessed with virginity BUT, being a virgin truly doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. where are you in other aspects of your life? are you/ have you been involved in a romantic relationship?
>>18572952
thing is that I don't mind at all banging a normie at a party because like an octopus I can pass myself as a normie rather well because I'm extroverted (still don't enjoy parties, but I have no problem tolerating cunts for a couple of hours)
the only thing beneath me at this point is prostitution, I think it would be worse to pay for sex
>>18572980
physically: I believe I'm moderately attractive. Manlet for international standards, but on the average height of my country. Skinny fuck, could do with some exercise. Overall not worried in this aspect
I have an easy time socializing, no problem meeting new people, but I have no fucking idea how to talk to girls I actually like, only to befriend
I have plenty of hobbies, specially the "pussy repelant" type of /tg/ (tabletop roleplaying, warhammer40k, videogames, anime, gunpla...) but with the amount of "lol I'm such a nerd girl xD" gals that are around I don't think that's an issue. I have plenty of friends to have fun with those things.
On the weekends I usually go out with friends to a rock bar to drink a bit and talk about nerd shit. I don't care about the music
I've only ever had one romatic relationship. There were so many things that went wrong that I think it left me scarred and was such a disaster that left on the verge of suicide. to name some, I made the mistake of going out with someone I didn't truly like and my dick was too big and she had vaginismus
First poster, need some advice frens
I'm a qualified teacher, teaching English as a foreign language, my dream job as it lets me travel the world.
I got my qualification a month ago and was originally planning to leave my home country as soon as possible. But then I fell in love with a girl. We're not officially a couple but we spend almost all our time together and get along amazingly well, she gets me like nobody else and I get her.
I want her to come with me but am not sure if she's willing or able to.
What do I do? Is any girl worth waiting for like this? Or am I just making us unhappier in the long run?
First tell her that you see her romantically and then tell her about your plan and invite her to join you. If she declines go forth with your plan and say good bye to her.
>>18572887
Already done the last two things friend
She hates the idea of me leaving but is very unsure about coming with me. Says she would like to but doesn't want to leave family behind.
I'm just worried I'd regret leaving without her
Undercooked my beef burger a bit. Will I get ill?
Thats not undercooked, its just medium rare. People request burgers like that all the time and even prefer it to well done. You'll be fine anon.
>>18572876
It's hard to tell from that picture. Quality is kind of crap, it could me med. rare though and if so it's the way it should be. Cooking beef "well done" is for savages.
>>18572865
You'll probably be fine, if you're really unlucky you'll get a deadly prion disease
Going to first yr at community college then uni vs one year certificate out of town?
>>18572863
Do everything you can at community college and you'll save a shitload of money. Transfer to Uni after that. Everyone should do it this way unless they just love and have money to burn (or a full ride.)
>>18572880
I can only do one year ...
>>18572885
That's still money saved. Good luck anon. Don't wait like me I'm just finally graduating at 27. Get that shit done.
If I have depression, will getting a job make me more depressed? How did you deal with going from not having a job to getting a job while depressed? I'm already afraid of how I'm gonna have way less free time than I do now and that I won't be able to do my hobbies like drawing, writing, making indie games, which are already hard as it is with the time I currently have.
I also have no motivation because I can't think of anything I want to spend money on (despite the obvious fact that I can't stay jobless forever). I'm 24 and live with my parents. Never had an actual job. I'm studying in college but here, someone who studies without working is a laughingstock.
>>18572854
Don't get just a job, get an internship related to your major. It's the biggest favor you can do for your future career.
Unless you parents are ok with you leeching for the rest of your life you're going to have to work. Suck it up. Go get therapy if you need to.
>>18572854
>will getting a job make me more depressed
quite the opposite infact, when I had depression and was a NEET my therapist pushed me to get a job and it definitely helped. It gives structure to the day, gets you out of the house, makes you feel like you're doing something and of course you get money out of it.
>>18572942
>>18572890
Thanks! Yes I've tried to get something related to my major, with no luck so far, and I stopped trying lately because of this dumb fear I have that it will make me more depressed when (if) I do get a job. I'll get back to it and keep trying. My parents are not entirely happy with me not having a job (though ironically a few years ago they wanted me to focus 100% into studying). And thanks for the encourangement.
20 this year still virgin, never even kissed or hold hands or hug with a girl before.
I am average looking, not fat and not ugly either. I guess I am just a boring person, but I really want to have sex and feel a girl up. Thinking of getting a hooker, but here's the problem.
1. I am scared of STD.
2. Hookers charge by cumshots, and I cum easily like 5-10 minutes of masturbation? Is it even worth it?
3. My dick hurts like hell when it erects after the first cumshot when I masturbate so I am scared the sex won't feel good. Does anyone have this problem when masturbating? Want to know if it happens during sex too.
20 is young, don't pay for a prostitute
>>18572962
It is, but I want an experience first and also want to see if I do last longer in real sex than masturbation. Also being unable to do any intimate stuff with girls my entire life make me fucking horny.
>>18572841
>Hookers charge by cumshots
Do they? AFAIK it's just that most guys don't want more than one.
My girlfriend and I get along quite well and I love her more than anything in the world, but oftentimes I can't help but feel like shit because i'm inferior at almost everything. As a start, she's more attractive than I am. I'd say she's a 7-8 while it seems like I'm a 6 at best.
It doesn't help that she's also smarter and I get frustrated whenever she often beats me in competitive games that require mental proficiency like scrabble and chess. This tends to get really frustrating for me, because it seems like I've reached the limits of myself as a person.
I understand that I should stop complaining because she really does love me anyway, even if I'm like this, but it doesn't make me feel any less shitty about myself.
>>18572830
Use that shitty feeling to motivate yourself to practice at these things.
Learn chess theory. Opening strategy. Practicing one thing will make you better at others. It's all brain food. It takes time but you'll get smarter.
Besides taking games and shit seriously is boring as fuck. It's more fun to just mess around when you play games and have a good time.
>>18572830
>>18572830
If you want to really have fun with chess play a variant of it called Fischer 960 with her.
Also there are other things than chess that are brain food.
Math, logic puzzles, reasoning, 3D spatial reasoning.
Dentists take a test Called DAT. On the DAT there is a section called the perception test. Get good at that kinda stuff as well.
If you don't put work into these things you'll never get Better. It's hard
Can a person really change? In terms of personality, I mean.
How does one do that?
What are some good traits that men should seek?
Curiosity and high self value
Specially the second one. Theres too many dudes who are ready to sacrifice without any return or negotiating
The majority of people experience shifts in personality as they age, it's completely normal. Your socioeconomic status changes, as does your mindset/brain chemistry/interests/values and beliefs. All these things plus your perception of them are what make up your personality, and all are subject to change over time.
>>18572811
How do you influence it, though?
what are some niche hobbies?
ive tried all of your generic hobbies like music, vidya, exercise. i need something new and different. any ideas? bonus points if i can meet some new friends while im at it
Crochet circle.
>>18572788
I guess you are looking for smth with a low entry barrier?
>>18572789
this seems pretty relaxing
>>18572850
low or high, it doesnt matter. im just looking for things that i havent thought of
>bf and I met online
>had long distance relationship for almost 2 years
>only got to meet once every other weekend
>message each other everyday though; felt like we knew each other, we really got along
>he was usually very sad and stressed at his last home
>I push that he moves in with me because I hate seeing him suffer
>bf moves in with me finally
>I realize he gets angry at every little thing
>he over thinks and misinterprets everything I do and say
>claims he's stressed but all I've ever been doing is making sure he feels at home
>it's only been 2 weeks since he's moved in and I regret everything
>fighting all the time now
What can I do? He moved from another city to be with me, has no job yet and barely any money and he can't move back to his last place....
>>18572777
Try sitting down with him and asking if there's anything you can do to make the move easier. Moving house is stressful anyway, and moving to a new city is even more difficult.
You messed up slightly by letting him move over without setting up a job first. I went through a similar thing last year when I moved cities to be with my partner (only the next one over) and I made sure I had secured a job before doing it.
Think about it, he has moved over to a new city, he has no money, no independence and he now has to live with somebody who has all of these things and complete control over the situation. He might be missing his family, his friends, his old life, and he is taking it out on you.
I have to admit, it's extremely worrying that he's this unhappy already. The first six months of living with somebody should be a wonderful experience where you barely notice their enormous flaws - he seems like he's baring all immediately.
Ask him where he wants to take his life and then encourage him to start doing it.
I was like that shit too till I realized I wasnt enjoying my life. Then I had some introspection and started working for what I wanted
>>18572785
I'll try that...
The thing with his job is that I tried to get him to find a job here first but he insisted it was already stressful packing and dealing with his other bills and job and he figured it would be better to find his new job once he moved in....
So yeah i got nothing more to say...
My Samsung Galaxy s6 (and previous android phones) have an issue with video and audio playback. Any and all media cuts off a second before it should meaning songs dont crossfade at all and cut sharply and all videos (youtube app, vlc, default video player,etc) does the same. rooted device and has had no effect. this phone is brand new and it has done this since unboxing.
I know others have this issue but its hard to find answers online since other issues related to audio always come up but not THIS issue.