Title says it all. I can go a couple of weeks without masturbating which isn't a major challenge for me, but I always end up creeping back to porn. I think my longest streak was something like three weeks.
I'm just afraid that my brain is broken and don't know what to do. I have a career and plenty of hobbies and friends, etc. The NoFap community is full of so much bullshit and psuedoscience I'm not sure if I even believe in rewiring, which makes me wonder if I'm a lost cause.
Thoughts? Experiences? Thanks in advance.
Masturbating is fine. If you are horny enough that you need to do it then do it but don't look at porn.
>>18577840
they say you never really quit. you just keep breaking your old record.
>>18577848
My longest was 2 months. Also, I limit myself to pictures and webm on /b/ and /gif/.
How do you know when somone or a friend genuinely cares about you?
>>18577824
a good friend laughs when your jokes arent that good, and sympathizes when your problems arent that bad.
and sticks around when they are.
>>18577824
generally, they marry you, give birth to you, or murder you for sexual reasons. anyone who doesn't hasn't done one of these things to you doesn't give a fuck.
>>18577832
OP said cares not loves.
So my girlfriend and I have been having an affair for four years now (over 80% of their marraige) and her husband just found out. He's a mentally abusive and sadistic man who abused their small dog, which she gave away. She quit her job to make sure he wasn't ever alone with her child. He has her as pretty much a house wench and I had to sneak over and help her with things she was unable to, things a husband should do. He's a Mexican here by marriage license and she has been afraid of him leaving with the kids this entire time and now he's threatening her with that. I've been shut out completely and he holds her phone until she needs to use it and watches as she does so. She still loves me and had to sneak away to use another phone to tell me but doesn't want to risk her children. There's a lot more details and I have some things working on my side but I don't want to risk those if some reason he sees this. Baring the things I kept to myself, what should I do?
You should cease your adulterous ways and find a single woman.
>>18577811
>He's a Mexican here by marriage license and she has been afraid of him leaving with the kids this entire time
This makes no sense. She will get the kids almost guaranteed.
>>18577811
either step up or step out. put down the terms for which you're willing to stay, but be prepared to make good on your promises, because if you get that girl out of that situation its going to be hell trying to get her out of your life.
thatb eing said its been four years, so i imagine you could survive at least another 4 helping her get on her feet if she broke away from her husband and you eventually decided to leave her.
Should I make an effort towards marrying and reproducing?
>>18577803
if you feel like it.
>>18577803
No. It's unethical to bring a child into the world without the child's consent. Instead, adopt a child that someone else conceived unethically, and raise that child better than his or her ignorant and immoral parents could have.
>>18577803
no, adopt
Seriously:
>Date rreally kinky girl that shows me i'm a natural bien dominant and into dime kinky stuff
>Things overall Don't end Up well, se just Don't work as a couple because Life sucks
>Can't find any other girl as open and adventurous to push up boundaries with
I just want a girl Who loves a good choking and enjoys breaking boundaries and going out for adventures, is It rreally that much to ask?
>>18577802
I love choking OP
I'm also into MMF, pegging, incest roleplay, watersports, snowballing, furry, and very much bestiality ;)
>>18577809
Look I know you havin' a laugh on me but i gotta tell you i lost It at snowballin'
Didn't made this thread to hook Up or some shit, i just genuily want to find some confort from people Who might have feel the same
>>18577819
I honestly wasn't laughing at you, I was just curious about what your idea of boundaries is. I haven't found a single person willing to indulge in MMF, pegging, nor the furry or bestiality apart from role playing as a dog or cat or something. I'm just glad I found a boyfriend who still thinks I'm a good person despite my fetishes
How the FUCK do you stop this shit once and for all?
>inb4 kill yourself
Nigger you're asking the equivalent of keeping yourself from ever getting the common cold.
It's life. Accept it. You'll be okay
I get bad canker sores when I drink something acidic like orange juice.
Kill the bacteria with mouthwash
I had a guy friend that almost 30 and:
>doesn't work much. Never committed to a job for a long time
>traveling to many countries
>playing sports. Like climbing or surfing
>sometimes do volunteer
>no motivation at all
>he doesn't care too much about fancy or expensive things
>cycling a shitty bike
>>18577771
>ITT How to fulfill your inner gold digger
kys roastie
>>18577771
It doesn't matter. His finances are not your business unless you are planning a life together.
no you will not get his money whore
>employer hires a contract project manager for a big month long project
>Turns out shes a qt from East France
>Petite brunette who pulls off the mousy librarian look
>She's kind, intelligent, funny, and good natured
>Becomes my oneitis in less than 2 weeks of working together
>She also has a bf back home
>Fuck this bullshit, I wanna die
>Go to Chicago for a weekend in order to cool off
>Hanging out at a friend's party in Chicago getting drunk
>He introduces me to an old family friend of his
>Turns out shes a qt from Venezuela
>5 foot tall spitfire who throws bantz and wears classy clothing
>She's sexual, daring, witty, and mischievous
>I flirt with her cause I'm so drunk I couldn't care.
>She flirts back and we make out like horny teenagers
>She doesn't put out but she does tell me that I'm hers and no one elses
>Oh fuck I gotta go back home to work
>>18577738
>>38769753
>Refreshed and don't act so beta in front of French qt
>I engage in discussions with her as an equal now.
>Don't hide behind white knighting, tell her my true viewpoints and defend them
>French qt and I hang out a lot more at work and after
>Venezuelan spitfire calls me every night and we flirt and banter.
>Venezuelan spitfire gets so suggestive and her comments aren't even lewd at face value yet still rock hard
>I throw out that I should fly back to Chicago so we can go on an actual date
>Back at work, French qts contract is almost done. We all go to drink with her one last time.
>She and I talk alot about our lives. Out of nowhere she grabs my hand. I don't pull back
>She and I are the only people from work at the bar. She leans in. I can't.
>She knows why, her bf back home. "Come to Paris Anon, it should be fine then."
>Tears roll down her eyes. This is hard and confusing for her.
>She flew to Paris the next day.
>Venezuelan spitfire and I have one of our long phone calls. We throw shade at each other and its hilarious.
>She laughs really hard at a Maduro joke I made and has trouble catching her breath.
>"Anon you get me. Its been a long time since I've felt this happy"
>Her pause on the other line is very telling. "This feels very real. And I only met you 2 weeks ago."
>I just go all uh-huh
>"Anon, I don't wanna just fuck, I think about holding your hand"
>She asks if I think about flying to Chicago for a proper first date. I say yes but don't know when.
>"Anon come back to Chicago, its all I want right now"
>French qt left Friday and my last call with Venezuelan spitfire was Sunday night.
Guys, no memeing.... What do?
so was the bf back in France real or just something she was throwing out to discourage unwanted male attention?
The Venezuelan is talking up a good game but who knows how she'll really feel or act once in a relationship.
You seem to be taking both women completely at their own word and face value. See both, see who's a better match, a more loyal lifelong partner, male a choice, stick with it.
>>18577751
I checked her Facebook. He's real. Hell you can actually see how they became less touchy feely if you look at the photos chronologically
Do women get intimidated by attractive men?
Over the last 2 years I have become pretty fit, slowed down on drinking, and started eating clean but it seems I get a lot less smiles than before from women, as well as even just casual conversation
>not saying I'm anything great, just that I look a lot better now than I did 2 years ago
When I jog top less I'll get looks and whistles here and there but it seems like any scenario where I can actually talk to a woman a lot of times they're stand offish from the start, or they'll actively avoid talking to me in a group setting
Is this just in my head?
Pic kinda related
kind of. some really attractive women are harder to approach, so they're intimidating. I think you would agree that some guys see really attractive girls as "intimidating". you might just have to work on your game a bit. so yes there is a factor that's sort of like that but if you actually look good and your game is okay it shouldn't be a problem that persists.
>>18577710
get us a before and after and we can tell you whats up
>not saying I'm anything great
Then you're not attractive enough to intimidate women.
pls help me, i'm having such a head fuck with this
>be me
>dating girl from tinder for 4 months
>she's great but has really bad depression and anxiety
>struggles to be affectionate and is a virgin
>i've been with a few girls and i'm desperate to fuck her
>been 4 months and we've tried a few times but every time she just gets too nervous
>had a talk today and she said she doesn't really have a sex drive
>said she doesn't know if she's interested in sex
>we're meeting again next week and getting drunk and maybe doing some coke
do you think there's any hope for this? I really like the girl and she's fun to be around but I can't cope with the lack of affection and sexual stuff, the best I can get from her is kissing
pic unrelated
I'm not so sure that coke is good for anxiety.
>>18577704
she said she's done it before but it's been a while
I was kinda hoping it'd give her some sort of sexual energy cause a lot of people use it as a sexual stimulant
it's like she's said to me she wants to try have sex but she just gets so nervous, then today she backtracked on that
>>18577719
>Shes done cocaine before
>virgin
Hmmm
Need help with gf
My girlfriend and I are going back to different schools next month and we have decided to split for college because we don't want to go long distance and accidentally ruin the relationship. We both love each other but I love her more so this whole ordeal is very stressful for me.
The current problem is an argument of a night out tomorrow. I cite a reason as not wanting to spend a lot of my money on her anymore because we're breaking up in two weeks anyways so what's the point. When I brought this up an hour and a half ago she became very upset and is currently still crying, saying that "I don't care about her" anymore because we're breaking up in two week anyways.
I don't know what to say to calm her down. If it were up to me we would stay together but she agrees that it's best we split for college. I just want to work things out
>>18577669
Seems kinda dumb to set a break up time, anon.
It isn't even worth it to argue and attempt to mend shit. Things aren't going to work out, that's why you guys are breaking up.
Should have just broken up now and not have to linger around each other when it's at it's end. That's how closure issues come up.
She just wants to siphon some more money out of you while she can. Don't let her get to you.
>>18577669
Why do you feel breaking up for college is less likely to ruin the relationship than being long distance?
How do I find a woman that I can trust enough to not divorce me until after our kids have grown up? I want to get married and have children more than anything in my life but I know that the divorce rate is like 50% and I just have this idea of marrying a narcissistic and self-absorbed woman who has kids with me, gets bored with me, cheats on me, and then takes the house and kids, leaving them without a real family.
>>18577487
What do you define as "grown up"?
Why do you want your spouse to not divorce until after that time?
By not going into a relationship with divorce at the forefront of your mind. You're doing nothing but sabotaging yourself when you read about shit like divorce statistics and how awful women are.
>>18577491
"Grown up" meaning finished college
how do i get people to care about my life?
Why do you want them to care about your life? Why do you feel people do not currently care about your life?
>>18577485
You can't do much. Be nice and don't be too much of a downer ALL the time. Nothing wrong with complaining with a friend, but you have to be fun every now and again.
Also, some people just won't care. That's not your fault. Try hanging with new people.
Doesn't matter.
Have an ex-girlfriend problem. She broke up with me a while back and now says she misses me and thinks about me everyday. Yet on her Snapchat she's going on dates with another guy. Im supposed to have lunch with her this Thursday. Should I be worried? Or is this an attempt for her to just be friends with me, nothing more?
monkey branching
woo woo ahh ahh :D
>>18577472
>backup plan
backup plan
>backup plan
backup plan
>backup plan
backup plan
So I'm the back-up plan? It's strange how she would go after her ex.
I'm fucked
>Two years ago meet a cool guy via a mutual friend
>He's cool
>He's attractive
>Has a nice job
>Can fuck
>We immediately start dating. Six months into the relationship he wants me to move in with him
>"Ok!"
> Family doesn't approve; I don't care and pack up my shit and we move three states away
>Fast Forward to July 2017
>We're a month behind rent, He's verbally abusive, breaks things, has referred to me as "Chinkerbell" to his work buddies/friends, he's bailed out with some bitch from his job, I've been looking for a job with little to no luck.
>My family wants nothing to do with me Haven't talked to them in over a year.
What do?
>
leave him before he hits you
>>18577454
He's been gone a week, all his shit is gone. He's not coming back.
>chinkerbell
But seriously, this is what you get for picking the asshole.