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Probably won't help you, but rather than never being wanted, I didn't want. I dislike the idea of intimacy or being tied to someone and never saw freedom as something to cope with.

I didn't feel like being wanted for a long time. Was fine being alone.

Then I had my uncle, dad and grandparents die in the space of nine months.
I'm a far different person from a year ago.

I just changed. I used tinder and basically used a good number of my matches as tests for what will and won't. Helped me also realise that a number of people were way more boring than even I was and its a matter of finding someone who clicks with you.

Met someone who seemed super into me, met a couple dates, basically admitted I was a virgin and she was surprised but cool with it.

Just depends on what you want and remembering that progress is always slow and uneven whatever you choose.

I'm just wondering what you consider a well paying job?

You're scared to visit a country because a vocal minority's rights are now protected under the law?

>Anti-discrimination law makes you SCARED
Conservatives really are massive pussies. Not surprising I guess, ignorance hatred and fear are all closely tied together.

>>18580564
Well yeah, you can't talk shittalk genders anymore.

don't do it, don't enable lazy sluts

>>18580526
>How can I tell if she's real or if this is a scam?
if you have to ask that question then the answer is that its a scam.

>>18580538
Do you think there's a way I could do it without paying her?

>>18580495
More like she feels guilty for screwing someone else.

>>18580495
>first thing you should do is get a rape kit done if you haven't already, then contact police afterwards or during.
>find facebook first
>let his immediate family know he's a rapist
>e-mail whatever company he works for and let them know he's a suspected rapist and is having charges filed against him (even if you don't plan to).
>if you have decent tech experience you could trying phishing him with a basic key logger. Although I'd advise against it because that's moving in the direction of illegal and if you don't know what you're doing its easy to come back to you.

Was this actual rape? Or did your girlfriend cry rape and just cheated on you? Please first make sure to figure out all possibilities before you try to kill or assault someone.

Assuming it was legitimate rape, find out where he lives through something like facebook and light his car and or house on fire. Do not let a rapist find out you did something to fuck with them, either go for a killshot, Go for a regular shot with a scoped rifle at a distance, or go to walmart, buy a pair of shoes that are 2 sizes bigger than your regular size and douse his car/house in gasoline and light a match.

If he finds out it was you her may try to rape or kill your girlfriend, or kill you. Rapists are unstable and will fuck with anyone, so play it out in stealthmode. I would personally start with a couple gallons of gas.

>>18580485

Don't ask if you're allowed to touch the kids.

>>18580491
Ok, I won't. Anything else?

>>18580616
Don't ask if you're allowed to take pictures of the kids

>>18580418
Maybe m8, look it up on google. Filming doesn't seem like a crime but it's in her house technically so you might not have the right. But it was the scene of a possible crime so use that as a defense

>>18580563
Yeah that's a good point, thanks.

>>18580418

If the flat was under your friends name at the time, I'm pretty sure your presence in the house and also your recording [of your friend] is ok because of your friend's consent in both those matters.

I would recommend undeleting the videos. Its easier if it was recorded to an sd card, but still possible with internal storage. I would undelete the videos, not tell anyone about them (even your friend) and keep them somewhere safe and hidden (like on a microsd or flash drive) in your house. I would keep them just in case legal action comes up, so that this could be possibly used as evidence. In such a situation, you would show the footage to the lawyer anyway and they would tell you if it is legal/valid court evidence or not and whether to use it.

>>18580403
Don't mess with underage shit. It's not worth it. Find yourself a a baby faced midget if you're into that.

>>18580403
Literally me OP.

I'm 22 but get mistaken for 14/15. Sucks because if I was a girl, that would be totally fine if not advantageous, but almost all girls prefer older guys and then the few that don't are in their 40's and 50's looking for a guy who looks at least 30.

I don't mind younger girls myself (legal ofc, hello partyvan), but I'm not in an environment where I'm surrounded by them like you are OP.

If 16 is legal in your state, there's really no harm in it (other than losing your job).

>>18580416
Solid

>>18580328
Only idiots and sociopaths consider them weak.

Because they are not capable of handling the challenges and stresses mentally healthy people are capable of. There's also the culture of people wanting to be victims and using mental illnesses as a guard against criticism and self improvement. So many people who claim they have mental illnesses are fake which give truth to the idea of mental weakness, and the ones who actually have mentally illnesses can't perform as well as healthy people.

>>18580336
You are denying reality.

>>18580328
Because they're inherently weaker than normal people?

guys:
what's the likelihood you'd dream about a close female friend of yours in a non-sexual way? is it a normal thing?

asking since i scarcely dream about people, so i'm not sure if it's normal when other people dream about me.

>>18580344
i dreamed about a certain friend one or two times, but it's nothing special and has nothing to do with whatever i might be thinking of her in reality, dreams have no meaning, but I'd assume that you dream about a person more often if you have to deal with them (positively or negatively) very often

>>18580344
>tfw dreamt about cuddling with my high school crush
Bliss.

>>18580182
I've gone back to freelance art, but again the jobs are few and far between and I'm not quite sure what my plan is at this point.

I don't even have a clear productive schedule of what to do. I'm still living with my parents, and them constantly giving me the guilt trip of "sitting in my room all day" drawing and applying to jobs, isn't helping. A part of me doesn't want to draw anymore because I'm not getting the work I want or don't know how to achieve it. I have no back up plan.

One of the freelance jobs I did was create storyboards for a guy who was pitching his cartoon to Nickelodeon. I really enjoyed storyboarding and see it as a possibility of something to do, but there's not many storyboarding jobs out here in NYC. The problem is, any art job I want to pursue, it's going to take time to build a portfolio for that specific job, and I need an income coming in now.

My boyfriend of 4 years is starting to get upset with me, because he feels I have no backup plan or no other skills that will allow me to get a steady job with steady income if we plan to build a future together. He's currently finishing up his master's in athletic training.

I'm almost 28 years old and I just don't know what to do at this point. I'm overwhelmed and not sure the first step I should be taking. Drawing and art what the only thing I wanted to do since 5 years old and I don't know what else I can do. I'm scared of the future.

>>18580214
TL;DR
Unemployed for 6 months, only skills are in art, can't find steady income in this field. I've wasted a lot of time trying to hone my skills to find a job in my dream field, but I need income coming in now. I don't know what my backup plan is or what my first step should be.

Whelp no replies. Guess I'm a loss cause.

>>18580177
Answer this easy question:
>what do i want from my life?
And if you need gf in order to do that, then yes. Otherwise no.

As far as dating goes, meet ladies bith offline and online and ask for their phone numbers and later ask them on dates. Treat them as people, smile and ask for netflix and chill. With enough practice you will get hang of it.

>>18580312

I think I would do okay if I could actually get to the point of going on dates but I have not met a dateable woman in a long time. By dateable I mean things like lives near me or closeish, no kids, isn't obese or extremely unhealthy. I don't think I am asking for much am i?

>>18580177
>I did like one girl for awhile. I even got to go out with her but she friend zoned me. I still think about her every day. That was like 2 years ago. There hasn't been a day I have not thought about her. I wonder every day what I did to fuck up and I may never know. Probably will go to my grave thinking about that.

You have the emotional life of a teenager. To use words like "friend zoned" to describe being a pitiful beta orbiter who can't accept rejection and have such a severe case of oneitis that you literally obsess about the same girl for years, a girl who doesn't give a fuck about you, is truly pathetic. Nobody is that special. NOBODY. The "beauty" this girl possesses, the "love" you felt for her, and the "love" you hoped she would reciprocate are all completely ephemeral. She will grow older and her beauty will fade. Her love for you, if she were ever to develop such feelings, would likely fade and your hypothetical relationship could very well have ended in divorce. Hopefully, your feelings for this dime-a-dozen girl will fade over time, allowing you to move the fuck on with your life. It is crucial that you understand the impermanence of all things. Then you will understand that something as trivial as the female sex shouldn't be the main focus of your life. Impermanence puts everything in perspective. You can pursue a relationship if you wish, but don't become overly attached. Above all, understand there is no such thing as "the one".

>>18580152
the most awful and regrettable 2.5 years of my life
0/10, would not recommend

>>18580152
If theyre getting help and making a legitimate effort to be better, its bearable, especially if they can take a step back and realise their behaviour in more logical spells, apologize, and continue to take steps and action against themselves.


Otherwise it is completely their fault and you should bare no responsibility for their condition. I know you didnt say to say run but in that case.....run

>>18580156
Did you not have any positive experiences?

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>>18580087
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ycc_CHnA7x8
Nothing is permanent anon, even failure. Can you re-enroll? Appeal the expulsion? Enroll in another school? If you have money problems, try to get a job. Becoming an apprentice will achieve both with one stone so to speak. It might also be the sort of practical work you need to feel like you are making a difference. Practical work helped me.

>>18580087
Sounds like you have clinical depression. Have you already used this an excuse? If not you should see a phsycologist ASAP and get diagnosed. Then take that to your appeal and tell them you've been unable to perform for mental health reasons. Legally they have to appease you and will probably tell you to take a year off. Use this to save money and find things that make you happy.

>I have no real "dream"

But this is fine. It's okay to want to be content, happy, and alive. Most people will never achieve their initial life goals. Not having a big "dream" to follow is kind of like not buying a lottery ticket. Sure, you're missing out on a chance to win a billion dollars, but you probably weren't going to win anyway.

I need you to explain why you want to do it first. Back brief me

>>18580080
>>18580080
Whatever.
I'm a pathetic, worthless shitter who was born to a family who hate him, being a constant waste of space and as my mom said to me - she should have aborted.
I've got cucked a few years ago and still can't move on. I'm pathetic with girls even more, and i still in a very shitty way in love with her. She even sends a pic of her face smiling, covered in cum, telling me to kill myself.
i'm working at a dead-end job to get enough money for "studying", but at least 1/4 of it i'm wasting on virtual goods on mobage of anime shit because i'm a pathetic little shitter.
My only friends are fucking internet one, and they are far more normal than me.
I tried to "lift" and get /fit/, only to fail and lost all motivation. I'm not fatfucktard, but i'm not skinny skeleton as well. some chub i guess (82 kgs, 1.80m).
So no friends, no future, no family, no women, no life, only shitty mobage and my worthless life, along with those nightmares of thatr girl covered in cum telling me to kill myself.

I just want it to end.

>>18580112
breathe in some helium and get a mask. there's a guide for it around these parts and it only costs like $90 at the very most.

you lean left politically don't you?

Clearly this guy/girl never tried beer before

>>18580047
What does someones political compass have to do anything with hate towards the human race?