Trying to re-establish relationships with old friends and get back into the social circle but am just getting ignored.
I have no friends that I do anything with and a bunch of people that say "oh yeah anon, he's a good guy"
Help please, this is making me even more depressed, even thought im actually trying to fix my situation
Shitty ass bait
>>18717990
not bait :(
>>18717985
Find new friends. You don't need these friends who don't even like you.
So I've started a masters on Monday and there's a girl that caught my eye in class.
The problem is that she doesn't live in the city, she just goes to university for lectures, living more than half an hour away.
How do I hit on her? I've obviously already engaged in conversation etc no number yet
>How do I hit on her?
I don't know...
I'm not good with girls...
Tell me what you did later so I can learn how to flirt with people...
That's how you do it, right?... First you test the waters by flirting... And if the other person reciprocates, then you take it a small step further... And if they don't, then you take it a step back...
I don't know... Can you help me figure this out?...
>>18718455
>That's how you do it, right?
damn poor robot, this post resonates with me so much....
>>18718455
is this a meme
Trying to start a conversation with this girl in my science class that's as socially awkward as me(We're both seniors). I'm pretty sure she either likes me or caught me staring because she keeps walking over to me and not really saying anything but just keeps looking at her shoes (when she's the one who walked over to stand next to me!). What do?
TL;DR me and the girl I like are both extremely shy how do I approach her?
>>18717930
sit next to her. Ask her something about the class, then and the end of the class, ask her Fb or WS. Chat with her, tell her about you, your hobbies, your favorite movies, and ask her the same. Do that for a few days and then ask her out, like "oooh so do you like ice cream? we should go to X place, I like the ice cream there" but dont say anything about the day or the time, if she said "yeah we should", then do it and tell her what day and time.
Just ask her out on a date. You're a kid, this is when you can fuck things up badly without consequences. No matter what happens, you will learn something. The worst that can happen is that she rejects you, which is still a better outcome than doing anything.
>hey want to go to xxx with me this weekend?
That's literally all.
>>18717935
>>18717951
Thanks guys i hope this confidence sticks with me through last period with the girl, ill update results incase anyone is even remotely interested.
I'm so anxious at university when I'm in a class I can barely concenctrate I feel like I'm in a zombie state and I'm not talkative, but as soon as the class is over I'm the centre of the group, I can talk to peope endless..... Also I got really focused on my breathing because I read that deep breathing helps but the problem is now I'm focused on my body and the sensation I feel and I usually feel pressure inside my body upper body, sometimes just below the neck sometimes I feel the whole chest pushing forward, which I have no idea if it is good or not..... What could I do?
>>18717889
Psycholog and CBT.
>What could I do?
Talk to a psychiatrist about your debilitating problems with social anxiety.
What do I do What do I do What do I do What do I do
I'm 18 years old and I'm overwhelmed as fuck on what I should do as a career. Since I'm too retarded to answer the question below. Hlp please.
How do you even make an educated guess on whether or not that the particular career you have in mind should be pursued? You have to consider salary, supply and demand, a PESTEL analysis, etc. right? If that is all the items listed are all required to make a guess that is educated as possible(?) Then how do you do analyse those items as effectively as possible?
If you then decided if the career is something you want to pursue, then how can you answer this question: How do you know what degree or certificate to study, and what institution you need to study at. In order to have the desired career of yours.
Instead of going about it by asking yourself what career you want, ask yourself what you enjoy learning about. Most majors don't just have one pathway anymore, horizontal mobility is growing and employers are more interested in transferable skills than technical skills (though they are important as well). This means that you don't just get promoted upwards, you can also move laterally within a business or between organisations.
>>18717888
Open google.
Write there career test online.
Hit enter.
Dont return back until you do at least 5 of them.
Before you apply for some school, remember the public are cheaper and still as valid as the expensive ones.
Before you apply, search JOB MARKET in your desired location you want to live in. Dont fall for do what you enjoy. Degrer is about getting job. The fun is secondary.
And remember you can always get career in burger flipping if everything else fail.
https://www.mcdonalds.com/us/en-us/careers.html
>I'm overwhelmed as fuck on what I should do as a career.
That must be exhausting, but we can't make that decision for you.
>How do you even make an educated guess on whether or not that the particular career you have in mind should be pursued?
Talk online and offline to people who have followed that career. Ask them about the pitfalls. Prod around their hanging-out places.
>How do you know what degree or certificate to study, and what institution you need to study at?
Ask online and offline the people who have already went through it.
I need more money and will apply for a money grant at uni. They need to see the last 2 weeks of my bank statement. Could I get that but edit it in someway to make me look even more poor to get more money
>>18717850
Just withdraw all of your money and wait two weeks.
I made a point of keeping my family at a distance. Then my great-grandmother (woman who sort of raised me) and my infant nephew died. So I tried to be decent and reach out to them. That was a grievous mistake. I was forced to talk to the person who molested me as a kid, everyone in the family now despises me because i didn't fly out (i legit didn't have the money, nor could i ask them for aid). Also ome sketchy guy i don't know is calling my phone and demanding money. I am seriously considering changing my number. I didn't give them my address but I gave them the number in a good faith effort. Now, they reward my faith with this horrible shit.
Anyway, after all that I wanted to cut things off and make sure they stay cut off because my life is pretty okay. So has anyone had any experience with burning bridges in a permanent and effective way?
Well. This past year I ran away from home when I was 17. I'm 18 now almost 19. I ran away from home due to my mother being a manipulative, emotionally abusive and her crazy "The end of times are coming" ideas. I planned to run away from home ever since I was 14. I didn't do it until I was 17 cuz I was too young. Anyway. I cut off my mom from my life almost completely. I just ignore her calls and I shut her down when she ever wants to tell me some religious bullshit she found on the internet. I currently live with my aunt and I only seldomly see her.
Anyway if you really wanna cut them off just block all of their numbers. Pretend they don't exist. You don't need that negativity in your life.
>>18717833
What's the problem?
Don't contact them.
Hang up when they call you.
Get on with your life.
>>18717981
This pretty much. I had an abusive mum and one day I just up and left. Haven't had contact with her for a good few months now. Just don't talk to them. I know it's hard but you don't owe them anything if they treat you like shit. Just keep that in mind.
how do i pull myself out of a breakdown, i have been spiralling out of control for the past few days because something triggered my trauma and now i feel like a whirlwind of anxiety, mania, and depression
Physically clear out your living/working space and start by accomplishing little things and then go on to larger scale projects
Start by doing small tasks like doing your bed, taking a shower, cleaning the dishes, taking out the trash, and then move on to establishing structures and routines to keep yourself sane
Remove clutter, both physical and mental/emotional
Remove yourself from stress and expectations, only temporarily, until you have time to get yourself back on track one small step at a time
Tonight I got drunk, had a nervous breakdown, and threatened to kill myself in front of my whole family while walking towards to gun safe.
After a lot of drama, a lot of which I definitely won't remember, I think my dad called his doctor friend to recommend a psychiatrist.
How do I get out of this jam.
>>18717577
Actually anon you just tell everyone in your family your really sorry. You been having issues for a while but you didn't know they were this bad and that you're super grateful for their support and helping you get real help.
or you could be a complete fuckin idiot and make people who actually love you hate you because you went to far.
There's only one way
>>18717577
No idea if this is trolling. You clearly do have problems, and you really should be glad you have people who love you that are looking out for you. The universe only gives you so many of those.
If you were threatening to kill yourself when you were drunk, I'd say you have some seriously buried shit to dig up with a professional while sober, bro.
I've never posted here before, but I need solid advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. We were best friends before we started dating and I trusted him with everything. Since we started dating, he's been repeatedly talking to other girls behind my back. I catch him on his phone all the time and even was dating someone behind my back and who knows what else he has done. I love him so much and I don't think I have the heart to breakup with him. I've become so depressed over this and have constant anxiety. I don't know what to do anymore.
>>18717547
I know this is probably bait.
But why haven't you broke up with him yet?
>chad cheats
>the gf is the one that feels guilty
normalshits, everyone. always rubbing it in our faces.
This isn't bait, I can assure you, but.. I can't break up with him. I have this insane year of being alone after my mom died and my other long-term boyfriend broke up with me. I just can't break up with him. I love him and have never cheated on him, but I just wish he would stop the cheating he is doing. I know I would be happy again if he would change, but every time he says he's sorry and he'll change, he doesn't.
How do I get a gf if I don't have any confidence?
You can get a girlfriend, she'll just be the sort of girl who takes advantage of you and gaslights you because you lack the balls to stand up for yourself.
It's not going to be pretty though.
1.Expose yourself socially as much as possible and play the numbers game. Sign up for every dating service available, mass message every girl regardless of potential partner status, make up a facebook, reconnect with EVERYONE you've ever met and squeeze yourself into their lives and eventually their social circles, get to know your family and friend's friends, etc. Join places that are social, churches, volunteer places, take a community college class just so you can be around that environment. You'll get a shot or two eventually.
Red-pill me on translation work for a non-native speaker with a translation degree.
I've always been interested in world cultures, politics, and geo-linguistics. When I was in HS I wanted to work as a diplomat in the foreign service, but found out I have a better chance being a pro athlete or running for Congress, so translation work seems a more realistic path to take.
I'm in Philadelphia (Eastern US) if extra context is needed. In addition to the large Puerto Rican community, we have a ton of Russian immigrants and some Mandarin speakers.
Alright, I'll redpill you:
Unless you're a cultural native of that language, the private sector doesn't want you.
Unless you were trained by the military(and only in whatever language they trained you), the public sector doesn't want you either.
>>18717458
are u even good lol?
Is sex as meaningless to females as it is to males?
>>18717397
Which one is in your pic?
How do I make masturbation fun again?
While it still feels pleasurable, it's become routine. Instead of feeling an unimaginable rush of pleasure during orgasm, I feel disappointed. It's just boring.
>>18717375
Edge or get a gf
>>18717375
Go without it for a month, then have your mind blown
>>18717375
I'm guessing you do it every day, possibly even multiple times.
Just stop doing it so much dumbass. Limit yourself to a single fap a week.
I'm 20 and I live with very close minded conservative parents and there's a lot of things they don't know about me like I'm not religious anymore and I smoke weed almost everyday and some other shit I don't tell them.
I rarely every talk to them either, maybe like a couple sentences a day because we are so different it's hard to lie about everything and make conversation. I'm not like a hardcore liberal rebel or anything, but if you grew up with conservative parents you know what I'm talking about when their views are very stubborn and misinformed. I don't think I'll ever tell them about these things at least until after I move out because it would be such a headache to deal with and there would be so much unnecessary arguing. Once I move out I plan on seeing them maybe like twice a year for holidays.
On the other hand, I feel fucked up because the only thing I need from them is financial support. They are nice enough to help me with things like my car, meals at home and say they still love me and shit.
Am I a sociopath? What should I do?
>>18717362
>Am I a sociopath? What should I do?
Naw dude just keep on keeping till you're able to move out. Don't do shit to hurt them; just keep the status quo. They're not your enemy - they're just too different to interact with much. Once you're out, try to get as physically far away as you can - not for any drastic reason, but just for your own mental clarity. Just being away from people can psychologically ease the perceived hold they have on you (Like, so you dont have to generally think, 'jeez, what would i do if mom found out'). It's incredibly liberating.
Then just live your life like you outlined.
t. Went through exactly what you wrote; did what you intend
As long as they don't bother you with their Jesus shit or fake newz, why does it matter? No, you aren't a sociopath. My family is Evangelical. I love my mother, but whenever she she brings up religion, I just have to walk away.