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Recently, I met a girl online in a group chat and we have been going back and forth with each other for about a month. A couple days ago she told me that she has feelings for me, but I softly rejected her because I didn't want to do a long distance relationship (although she said that she can move in a year but idk).

The thing is, we still talk regularly after that and I'm not sure if it's right to do that. I sometimes feel like I might be torturing her by talking to her as a friend after she proposed a relationship with me. Is this okay? It's been kind of racking my brain a bit lately and idk what to do.

I do like her, but I don't want to do anything long distance. And I don't know if it's ethical keeping her as a friend when I know she wants more. Wat do?

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Hello,

First of all I'm not entirely sure what kind of advice is offered here but I'd like an outside perspective regardless. So my GF and I live 60 miles apart but we see each other every weekend with one of us staying at the others, so a fortnite ago I come home from hers and everything is fine. The week progresses and I'm asking about plans for the weekend, a few days go by and the weekend passes as I didn't want to turn up unannounced, I do eventually get a response but they're very dismissive and one word answers.

Same situation again last weekend, trying to make plans, one word replies normally hours if not days later. Then this morning a few pictures of her appear on Facebook of her at a club with some college friends (we both left college 5 years ago) who she is barely in contact with, well as far as I was aware.

I'm planning on taking the second half of the week off and just turning up and see what is happening in a few days since online attempts aren't getting anywhere.

I'm not entirely sure what to think, if there was something serious or an issue wouldn't it be better to get it out in the open? All sorts are circling in my mind making me wonder if I have done something. Am I just paranoid? Any input on this would be appreciated.

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>talking to this girl on and off for the past few months
>asked her out and she did not reply for over a week, then apologizes says she had family stuff
>lately she initiated contact in person and conversation so i figured id try again
>says shes free sunday
>i make plans, tell her i can pick her up
>no response.

This is frustrating as fuck, typically id get the address and green light right after but this one seems to be on the fence - she hasnt even 'officially' read my text yet but you can still read the preview without it being marked read. what's the best way to follow up with her? Id hate to wait 7 days for her response.

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I recently agreed to lend $120 to a single mother with 2 kids that i know on an internet forum, local to my country.

I know her supposed name, and i know her phone number. She has told me her adress, but since its some kind of evacuation apartment for abused women i can't verify the adress.

However i could verify her old adress (her boyfriends apartment).

Question is:
1. What is the likleyhood of ever seeing that money again?
2. How do i turn this into a sugar daddy relationship?

She is 24 and quite ok looking and i want to bang her. How do i make it happen?

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*at least on 3 different occasions*

>be me 19
>lust after man that seems sorta taboo/hardish to get
>get the man
>fuck said man
>1-3 months it's over because i've lost all feeling either based on boredom or the man does something that displeases me

it seems like within the first month of dating or whatnot i feel absolutely everything for that person and then all of the sudden it starts to fade very very quickly and i become bored

my current boyfriend whom i've been dating a month i've began to lose feeling because he's on vacation with another girl. i'm 90% sure he won't cheat but just to be safe im peacing out anyway.

most guys don't do stuff like that but i lose the feeling anyway. it's like some sort of game that i play without even consciously thinking about it


i have anxiety, depression, and was cheated on in a 2 year relationship so it might have something to do with that

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>20 years old
>All of the girls around my age are gone from neighborhood
>Only left with immature teenage girls that I can't even approach because it's illegal
>Even more sexually frustrated than I was in high-school, and I can't stop staring at the first cute girl I see

This is the absolute worst.
Is anyone else stuck in my shoes?

I can't even go to Wal-mart to get a girlfriend because it's considered creepy, and I don't have the mental fortitude to keep it up. Does anybody know what to do? There are no cute girls at my job. They're all 30-40. A part of me doesn't want to get a girlfriend from a bar as I'm more likely to hit shit there than anywhere else.

I've already got a good job coming, so college is a no-go.

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I'm so alone

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after 22 years i have realised that i am no different from a girl. being raised by a single mom, i was never taught man stuff. how do i shit talk with other men? all this time i thought they were being mean but they were just trying to start a conversation. also general man advice

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My ex and I are seeing each other and talking about possibly getting back together. We first separated because of her extreme lack of communication and also doing some shady shit, and almost immediately slept with someone while we were on a break (not officially broken up during that time -- not sure if you'd consider that cheating or not).

Anyway, last night we're in the car coming back from dinner and she randomly asks, "do you think I can have two dicks in me?" I knew this came up from the other night when we were fucking and I used a vibrator on her and we did vag DP.

So we started having a talk and she was saying how ideally she wants a polyamorous relationship but can be monogamous with me and it wouldn't be an issue, but was talking about cuckolding me when we have a child and a place together so "he can watch the kid and if it's a part of the relationship, have sex."

When she told me this stuff I was immediately turned off to the idea of seeing her but I'm wondering if this is too hasty a decision to make and whether or not these are just her ranting about fantasies she has. She's tried saying she doesn't see the big deal since "married men talk about affairs all the time," even though I've never cheated on her and when I told her it wasn't cool with me she said she's considering my feelings and understand if I'm not for it, but I feel like I need to abort.

Can I make this work and change her mind or is this a tell-tale sign that no way in Hell is this going to be healthy?

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I have a long term GF, 6 years now, we live together and are rather happy with each other.
We aren't the most financially secure, but we live below our means and like I said, happy. We live comfortably in a nice city, and in a nice part of it.

Anyways. Her mother, or I guess her parents, more her mother seems to love making life difficult for us. I am not sure why. but probably a year or so after we started dating she sort of turned against me, continually blaming me for things that have almost nothing to do with me, accusing me of abusing their good will, and taking advantage of them. Which, of course isn't true at all.
When we ask them for a favor, we make sure they are OK with it, otherwise we move on and find another way, but she seems to have held grudges on me, citing certain situations and then projecting them on current or future scenarios.
I cannot think of any time I could have severely upset her, but I guess I have. Even simple things that family are usually positively receptive to she turns into a huge deal.

Since we live in an apartment, we have some things in their basement, well she asks time and time again when will we move all the crap, I understand this, but they aren't short of space. I stored a car part in their garage covered for the winter till I could install it myself, and it was turned into a huge deal.
She continually makes it known that when my GF and I go to my side of the families gatherings that my mother is "Demanding" us to be there, when it's not like that at all. Those are just some situations.
She's extremely selfish, and to be honest it is sort of turning me off from her family as a whole. The constant judging and distrust makes me extremely uncomfortable to be around her, and I am not sure if I want to be part of a family where I am not accepted.

I love my GF, and since she's an immigrant her immediate family is all she has really. But I just do not enjoy their company anymore. wtf do I do?

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What is the best trade to go into?

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Why bother living without 10/10 face aesthetics?
when your face is below 7 here's your life:
>having good body physique is instantanously interpreted as compensation
>being nice is considered weak, being jerk is considered offensive, being clever is considered mr. know all, while you have 7+ face - being nice is cute, being jerk is cool, being clever is awesome
>being better than good looking person at any skill gives you negative feedback and support to good looking , can sometimes even be considered bullying, not being better than good looking person will end in making fun of you, ltypical ose-lose situation

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>male
>21
I have a history of being very thin (underweight) all my life. I never had major illnesses due to said weight issue.

I have also never been inherently non-sporty having practitioned and instructed martial arts (Taekwondo & Wing Chun) for over 10 years and now being an avid rock climber.

I have realised (maybe too late) that for a bloke my age, I have not payed enough attention my 'the aesthetics and build' (believing the mere ability to beat someone in a fight is enough).

For that I have trained with an experienced bodybuilder friend and gotten his input on counting cals and weight regimes.
But I have increasingly realised how inheritily monotone and unrewarding the gym activities themselves feel to me.
Also going through a hard personal time, I have found counting cals and eating 5-6 meals/day an annoying chore.
More often than not I found myself going lead climbing/bouldering instead.

I know that it would take at least 4 months of consistent multi-week food/training regimes to start seeing results.
But when I am at the gym I always catch myself wanting to do other sports.
>Any way to force yourself to gym?
>Are there alternatives?
>How do I stop myself from wanting to train kicking or working my crux instead?

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Me, 24, her, 21. Sorry for long post.

My girlfriend was just gang molested by a group of strangers at a party the other day (I'm in another province for major surgery so that makes this even more stressful for me). She came crying to me and broke down. I told her since she knew a couple of names of the guys there we would get them criminally charged. And yesterday she texted me and is now defending all her attackers and told me to "forget about it and let her deal with it". After breaking down to me over it. She wants me to just "forget" that a group of guys held her down and stripped her naked and then passed her around while they groped her. I'm furious but she legit won't let me do anything about it.

That isn't even the worst of it.


About a week ago (I was to go in for surgery the next morning) she broke down crying to me and told me something she never told anyone else. When she was in grades 6-8 her mother's boyfriend would hold her down and rape her in their basement daily. Bareback and everything. He was nearly 40 and she was legit underage. He also molested her younger sister. She said she tried to be the only one so he wouldn't get to her sister but he did anyways. Her sister went to the police but the case was dropped because she didn't say he was raping her too. It's not too late to have him locked up. He is still in the city and she knows where he is. I promised as soon as I was back home we would go to the police station and I would stand by her side the whole time. She thanked me and then cried for a while longer. She is now also telling me that "I didn't really know him like she did" and to just "forget about it". She is making excuses for him.

There is more too.

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Sup /adv/, I'm currently a biochem major at a really small liberal arts college in PA (about 1700 students total), and I'm trying to start applying for graduate schools (for PhD programs in Bioengineering or Systems Biology). I got a 3.95 gpa, and by the time I graduate will have 3 years of research experience. With the right letters of rec and gre scores and whatnot, do you guys think that Ill be able to get into a top tier university for grad school (Harvard, MIT)? Are there any additional things I should do to make myself look better on paper?