So I had a breakup with this girl that we meshed real well together. We broke up because she's heading back to university 8 months earlier than expected and she doesn't want us to breakup after 3 months and instead wanted us to end after 2 weeks.
but I want to ask her about the possibility of long distance relationship, and that I would do everything I can to make it work
but idk how gay and unreasonable is that to say I feel like she could be the one
any thoughts?
I get it's not a very exciting post but I'd just like advice if possible
The thing is she could say yes, but would that even be good?
Personally, I think LDR are all bullshit and one of the two will eventually have sex with someone else because that's just how things are. People have their needs. So if you can live with the thought that she is probably fucking someone else while she is in university, go for it. Otherwise, if I were you I would just leave it at the break up, date around and when she comes back again I would re-initiate a relationship with her again.
That's what I would do.
we BOTH saw it coming, but i didn't expect it to be so sudden. amicable split. got good advice from my mother about cutting contact, but to maleanons how did you handle a breakup the girl initiated? it hasnt hit me yet but its starting to in bursts and i dont like this. need help coping
Itll suck for a couple of months then youll feel fine. Spend time doing things you enjoy, hang out with friends, and better yourself.
>>18593324
Lay down
Try not to cry
Cry a lot
Genuinely helps desu
Just feel the feels. For real. Try to get this stuff get right into your heart.
Then if you are done crying. Take it as a lesson and move on. Cry your heart out and dont think your life about some lost love. Because it was not ment to be. Dont try to compensate with shot that might make everything longer and harder than it is supposed to be
I've just been to see Dunkirk with my Girlfriend of one year. I'm legit silently weeping through the first half at the desperation of those men on the beach, waiting to be evacuated or killed. I'm reminded of my Grandfather in the RAF. She's asleep for some of it, then wakes up to tell me it was a load of Hollywood shite and got bored of "heavily breathing men" in it. I was so disgusted by this. This film celebrates heroism, while at the same time showing those who lost their nerve, but her taste in everything is subversive, bringing things down, deconstructing things. She's a lovely person at heart, but she is filled with so much bitterness and cynicism. I don't now what to do other than to weather the storm and be a good example.
>>18593321
They brought the dunkirk on themselves. If they didn't betray Poland and actually attacked Germany in late 1939, it wouldn't have happened.
Different strokes for different folks, nigga.
I bet there's a movie/book/thing with a deep meaning for her that you don't give a flying fuck about.
She's a woman, anon. She doesn't understand self sacrifice and valor.
Okey I fucked up. I'm about to going to a club with a not so close friend and all his unknown friends, but in reality it's the first time I do this and I'm a beta that just came from /v/. What must I do to survive this night without showing my autism?
>>18593308
Get on MDMA then you wont worry
Don't get wasted, dance, no one cares about you you're one of the crowd, and do try and pick up chicks.
Clubs are pretty shitty but just enjoy yourself man, if you're with your buddies it'll be fine.
>>18593308
>What must I do to survive this night without showing my autism?
get drunk at least a little bit. enjoy yourself.
It's between CO+IL for college + some other personal shit.
I have extended family (who some wouldn't want to see me probably, but some would) in IL but its more pricey to live there and being a college student I'd rather not have to worry about it.
ANYWAYS, /adv/ which would you recommend and why?
IL has decent schools but moving here permanently is a very, VERY bad idea.
t. lived in il my whole life
IL. We're full here in CO and unless you like the smell of cow shit (UNC), dirty hippies (CU boulder ), sjws and assholes (CSU), or a nice campus with a brutally hard engineering program (school of mines) you're going to hate it.
>>18593302
It depends a lot on your school. If you're going to be in Chicago then it's a nice place to live as a college student for the experience alone.
k i l l m e
>>18593260
y o u k i l l me f i r s t
I have resolved to stop asking to be killed and instead asking to be allowed to actually live since all I am really doing is existing.
l e t m e l i v e
I F D U B S M E F I R S T
>Look at average woman IRL
>Don't feel anything
>See a cute girl
>Heart flutters and get flung into an extreme panic
>Get absolutely devastated as my brain contorts a human being into the visage of perfection in human form
>Feel extreme anxiety and fall into a despondency and believe it's impossible for me to ever really get a girlfriend
How do I get over this feeling?
I never used to have it when I was around cute girls in High-school, but now that I'm in the real world, I can't stop it from happening.
Get the fuck off the internet. Seriously these problems never existed before the internet was commonplace.
>>18593258
I'm constantly outside though.
I'm just never around the opposite sex.
>>18593252
Just remind yourself that just because she's cute doesn't mean she's the girl you want. She could be a slut for all you know. Don't get caught up in appearances unless that's literally all you want.
>Meet girl
>We both have a lot in common.
>I tell her one day that I think she's cute and she says she thinks im hot.
>Talk and hang out two days later at my house
>We both get high
>She has a panic attack because she was molested while she was high
>Gets nervous and freaks out
>I take her home and she texts me that she needs time to think.
>Tells me that she likes me a lot.
Am I fucked? Should I just move on?
Nothing's fucked here, dude.
>he gives a girl drugs
I hope you and her both realize now she deserves better?
>>18593245
Basing judgement on just one instance is stretching it.
Try two more times and if it doesn't work out, move on.
Can someone who knows about Meditation or Yoga tell me what is the significance of focusing on your breathing is?
it's an easy way to keep your thoughts clear
*a wild guess*
Perhaps getting higher levels of oxygen than regular automatic breathing gets into your body.
>>18593139
this. It doesnt have to be your breathing but you have to focus on something to stop your mind from wandering.
I hear some people focus on the tip of their nose.
Is this a mosquito bite?
>>18593050
It's a tumor. My condolences, anon.
>>18593050
Cancer, probably got it from walking too close to a sjw rallie.
Ask /out
>>18593050
i've seen this before. Someone's been injecting frog eggs in your leg during your sleep.
Wendys is refusing to refund me the cost of a baconator meal, There was nothing wrong with the food. What happened is a service dog attacked me when I was sitting down enjoying me meal. What do I do? Should i sue?
Sue the owner of the dog. Wendy's did nothing and they don't owe you food.
>service dog
Sounds implausible. They're extremely well-trained. How did it happen?
>>18592991
I bet it was one of those tumblrinas with a fake service dog.
If so you can definitely sue the owner.
(Meatball not related)
>Be me, a lesbian virgin in high school (calm down faggots I'm 18)
>have giant crush on other girl
>decide to become friends with her in efforts to be closer
>become good friends
>sultry jokes at each other, she tells me she loves me
>I'm so fucking into her
I'm kinda just afraid of rejection and looking creepy. What are some ways to ask someone out without looking like a giant beta virgin
So if she's into you, why would you be rejected?
Going to be upfront with you, unless you are out and everyone in your life knows about your sexuality, I would save coming on to a friend for when you are away from the highschool setting.
There is a big mentality of gossip and bullying in high school, your fear of rejection in this situation is quite reasonable. The stakes are much lower once you get out into the real world...high school is this macabre fantasy realm where people act insane.
Good luck with things, I know how much unrequited love hurts.
>>18592994
She's a pretty affectionate person and I'm not sure to take it as friendly or romantic
Is it a good idea to post a resume that has blocked sensitive info. on 4chan in order to receive criticism and the likes? Need help with this employment stuff.
>>18592987
Absolutely not a good idea.
>>18593643
why?
Go for it.
I'm unsure if i'm depressed or not.
Here are things i recognize and feel:
>I'm empty
>Feel like i'm a fail, lost cause (like i'm never going to reach anything)
>I haven't felt genuinely happy for 3 years now
>I can be happy in the moment,
but it lasts for seconds (occasionally)
>Feel like i want to cry
>Also have OCD, and SAD
>Suicidal thoughts
>Existential dread
What is my status, i suspect depression, but i really don't want to make assumptions.
>>18592978
you're depressed.
Welcome to the club bro, enjoy your worthless stay
>>18592978
Depression is a meme.
Think about it, who decides if you are happy or not? The obvious answer its you right? Now, ask yourself what price are you giving to your happiness? You dont know? You most certainly do, in fact you mention one
>i'm never going to reach anything
I am going to guess there is more than that into it. No gf, no money, anxiety, social awkwardness (just mentioning the common ones). Now i ask you, have you ever seen a kid depressed? They dont overthink happiness nor put requirements to it like you are doing when thinking that you are a failure, you compare yourself to some expectation or ideal that its not real and only established by external influence.
In short, the key to happiness and contempt is found within, we can not control outside influences in our lifes. In fact more often than not things are not going to work the way we want them to work and that is ok. Learn about yourself, try to think more on what makes you happy rather that sad and you will soon start figuring out your path.
Good luck anon.
A sort of friend of mine is going through a rough time and I am genuinely worried about her. I try to just say accepting and light hearted things because I don't want to tell her what I really think of her situation.
I don't know any of her friends or family, so what do I do because she has a history of alcoholism and drugs.
>>18592974
Spoonfeed context?