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Hi.

During the winter, mice came into my apartment through a hole that is now patched. To get in, they had to crawl over an open box full of utensils. They definitely pooped on them and I kind of smell piss.

Is chlorine in city water enough to kill any trace of bacteria or should I dump them in alcohol or something?
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>>18604317
Yes
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>>18604317
Wash them in any store disinfectant and then wash again in soap to clear away the disinfectant
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What the previous dude said.

Also, if you are poor enough to have mice, you are poor enough to have used (thrift store) kitchen utensils. They have probably been in contact with far worse sometime in some crazy hoarders basement before you bought them. And they were not disinfected then, just some minimum wage druggie that has aids and hep-c and does not care, washing them in a dirty sink with some dollar-store soap.

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Advice on long distance relationship.
Wonder if you guys will recognize me from past threads, I'll greentext whatever I can.

>20
>Talking on Skype with cute Japanese girl
>3 days later she confesses to like and wants a ldr
>I'm moving to Japan next September (I don't plan going before so I can save more money)
>Says she will wait for me
>Actually believes her, she's so innocent and sweet
That was like week and a half ago
>Still talking while we can with those shitty timezones, I usually wake her up each morning and we talk for 2-3 hours (fucks up my sleep schedule but worth it)
To the real problem
She is a soon to be university student meaning she studies like 12hours a day to her entrance exam, I understand that she doesn't have time to write every few hours but it's actually makes me more obsessed over her lmao, and I've had gfs before, not ldr ofc but I've never yearned for someone's voice and seeing her face before.
This ldr for now is 75% wondering and unfocused and 25% joy.

Tldr how do I stop thinking about her and actually focus on myself again? I just want to be myself again...

>Inb4 break-up with her
No thank anon I just want to know how to care more about myself instead of waiting for a phone call or a message.
In a year it will all be fine as shit as well, I (want to )believe her words and feelings.

Proofreading this I sound like a faggot, oh well what to do anons?
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Get another girl on the side.
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>>18604314
>Tldr how do I stop thinking about her and actually focus on myself again? I just want to be myself again...
Just takes time, enjoy your honeymoon fase, the relationship will never be better beyond this point.
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>>18604314
> inb4
Ldrs are bad for you. Think of all the stress this is causing you, the financial concessions you are making, and the time you are (not) spending with a gril you; all downsides that do not exist falling for a local. Not to mention shes throat deep in salaryman coock right now.

t. Catfishman

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Can anyone interpret dreams here?

So I had a dream last night that I would need to get a 13 hour surgery for a tooth infection. Previously in the dream, it seemed I had a tooth extracted, and when I used a mirror I saw an empty hole. Apparently talking to my black doctor (I've never had a black doctor), he said that it got infected from the earring he was wearing containing a ringed-bacteria, from him doing the previous extraction (He used a specific name for it, can't remember). I was worried the entire time that I would be killed in a 13 hour long surgery, so I asked if I could receive a second opinion, and waited on signing the papers, then I woke up. The second opinion I was waiting on, would be with my current doctor.

Wtf does this mean guys?
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Whats the fixation on 13 hours? Whats your dental hygene like? It could be possible you are subconsciously stressing yourself by skipping brushes and flossing not as often as you know you should.
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>>18604316
I brush 3-4 times a day. I even brushed that night too.
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Dreams involving teeth are almost always a sign of repressed homosexuality

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What should I do if I am so fucked by porn watching that when I'm with a real woman I take a long-ass time to get hard and even then it's only 70%? Worse still was some slut was willing to give me head but I couldn't get hard. Pretty embarrasing but how do I fix this? I already stopped watching porn 2 weeks ago but even yesterday I took a while to get hard with some girl.
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>>18604288
Your problem sounds like it may be related to performance anxiety. Try connecting with these women on a personal level (I assume you aren't doing this already since you say "some slut" to refer to the women who are willing to have sex with you). Get comfortable with them. Find women who are supportive and caring. You may find that not only will the sex be more enjoyable, but you'll be less nervous too.
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>>18604288

Stop fapping and watching porn. Dedicate 20-30 minutes each day to doing mindfulness exercises, paying special attention to your dick, balls and taint, and performing hundreds of kegels (some much stronger than others... but not so strong that you piss yourself).

Also, ensure that you get an erection every day. Again, no porn or fapping, but do get an erection. If you go too long without arousal, you will experience extreme anhedonia.
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>>18604298
This, the part about emotional connection. I give you a very strong chance that removing any attempt to have casual sex will improve your life. Don't fall for the meme about love being a waste of time or whatever. You made a good move giving up the porn, don't get back on it. Honestly, don't.

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While I don't consider myself a virgin nor do I believe some ritual can return my v-card, I've become a strong believer of abstinence before marriage. Unfortunately, at that point I've already had sex once and I now deeply regret it. I know I can't demand my future partner to be a virgin without being a hypocrite, but I wonder how women with their virginity intact feel about being with someone without it (assuming he had very few to one sex partner). Do they only want to be with someone who will also save their first time for them, or would they be more accepting of someone like me?
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Keep in mind I don't reject anyone who isn't a virgin, although I don't want anyone with too many sex partners. Like I said, I can't make that kind of demand.
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Why would you want a virgin in the first place? Did you suddenly find Jesus?
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Every woman is different. Some will expect that, others won't. Lucky for you, virginity is generally not expected in men like it is in women.

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English is not my first language so my grammar may look weird

I need advice please
I can't stand with my parents anymore. I feel forsake since I was a child. My mother make debt and must move to japan . I live with my father but the only one who really love me and take care when i cry is my aunt . now my aunt is gone. after that I sick from depress and have a problem with finding jobs

my parent. they never understand my feeling . i try so hard to make my parent come back together to cure my pain inside my heart . It's seem they understand but nope. they just acting .My father even said the love of my aunt is fake

I can't take my parent anymore but I am so lonely . it's really hurt to accept the true that we can't understand each other. it's hurt but... I must make it clear now. I need to move forward . should i leave them ?
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>>18604228
Unfortunately you were born a gook, which means your parents do not have any empathy for you and do not care for others. You will grow up to be this way too and never be able to make a real genuine connection. Enjoy being a wage slave in Japan and being career blocked because you are a foreigner!
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>>18604228
>leave them
If you leave your parents, your condition will only get worse. They probably still care about you, but their own lives are hard enough so you have lower priority.

Focus on your school and maybe get some friends online or offline. Anybody willing to listen will be enough at the moment.

Also what exactly is your problem? Just feeling sad? How old are you?

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>>18604242
>You will grow up to be this way too
I will never be like them. moreover... have a kids ? seriously I think all 4chan user never have kids

But if I have kid. I will love them without any condition . I will tell them what my parent do to me... for someday if I forgot my kid will use this story with me.

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I need to preface my story by saying that I have no mechanical experience and I am extremely incompetent working with this kind of stuff.

I bought a 2007 Honda Rebel almost a year ago and its been giving me tons of problems. The clutch ended up going out and asshole mechanics tried to charge me 400 dollarydoos to fix it. I attempted to fix it myself, breaking two clutch assemblies. I decided today that the bike isnt worth the the time or effort to fix by myself. I installed the latest clutch assembly, but I mustve reassembled it incorrectly because the clutch had no tension. Either way, I was planning on selling the bike after it was fixed to get a brand new one.

I want to upgrade to something more powerful, at least a 500. I like the classic style of the rebel or bikes like that, but I also like sports bikes and I'm not really sure which kind I want to buy

here are my options:
> New Honda Rebel 500
new take on classic style, but after dealing with the bullshit that was the internals of my motorcycle, I dont really want another rebel
>Kawasaki Ninja 650
>Honda CBR 650R (or maybe the CBR 500R)
looks like they only have one color scheme for them though now which sucks
>Yamaha YZF-R6
my buddy has one and swears by it, but I dont want to break the bank
>some kind of cruiser or cafe cruiser but I dont know any in particular

Things that are important for my purchase:
>dont want to break the bank
>motorcycle/manufacturer must be reliable and well made
>has to look good obviously, color options are important

I dont know much about motorcycles, but I love riding, please help
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>>18603927
>$400 for a motorbike clutch

That's spot on the mark and you should have paid it because, as you found out, clutch changes aren't exactly engine mechanics 101.
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>>18603934
$400 for changing a clutch in a bike I bought for $1700 that was maybe worth $1100. Plus I called another place and they said it'd only be like $250

Either way, that doesn't matter. I failed and dumped too much money (compared to $400 it's not much but still) into parts to justify spending even more money and time on the piece of shit
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>>18603927
I bought a used 2012 R6 for $6k with only 3k miles on it. It now has 12k miles on it and hasn't had a single mechanical issue. I keep it on a trickle charge bc i dont ride daily. Other than that, diy oil changes, cleaning the chain, and tires are the only maint. I've had to do.

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So, I asked my friend out finally. We have been acting like a couple lately. Holding hands, leaning on each other, being physical. We have a very love/hate relationship where we constantly tease and make fun of each other and don't mean it.

Well, I finally bit the bullet and asked if we are more than friends. He asked me if I wanted to be, and I asked him if he wanted to be. He said he doesn't know and isn't good at making "executive decisions" about relationships.

So, I asked him if he wants to go out. He said he needs to think about it, and if he could think about it tomorrow. I of course said yes. Within a couple of mins we were back to acting like we normally do.

Now, in my personal experience, asking to think about = them trying to figure out the best way to say no.

The thing is, I'm apparently his type. He has a p specific list, and I'm like that entire list. And he's bi, so that's all good.

So is all hope lost? Or is it possible he really just needs to think it over? Have you experienced or know of someone needing to think over being asked out and then saying yes? Will I get any sleep tonight? Probably not, but I need to talk about this and no one I know is awake right now.
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Oh no.
No no no no.

Where's that suicide prevention hotline? Does anybody have the number?
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Being bi is gay
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This is pretty much exactly how I got my first girlfriend. She thought about it, decided yes.

If he's already hanging all over you, then he at least likes you.

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Is it wrong to look at jailbait?

Basically images of girls <18 with little clothing but not technically nude or intrinsically sexual
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you already know it is, you're just looking for validation from someone else who does it too so you can think it's okay enough to keep doing it without feeling fucked up about it
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>>18603827
Define wrong. Do you mean "illegal?" If so, probably not. That said, I wouldn't knowingly associate with anyone who did so.
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It's wrong, but hey if she's 16 I'm 16 amirite?

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How do you protect yourself If a filthy pittbull or rotweiler comes out of nowhere and attacks you? I'm always walking through neighborhoods because of my job as a postman. I've heard pepper spray isn't enough. But I'm not allowed to carry a gun, knife or taser on my job.
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>>18603805
Carry a spiked mace or a taser
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Legit advice. You shove your hand down their throat hard. It'll cause them to suffer mild shock and more pain than you could inflict from punching/kicking them.
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>>18603805
Postmen are allowed to carry pepper spray.

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>3-5 times a day masturbation habit
>go on nofap
>day 5: feel like a zombie. Cant sleep. Anxiety is so high. Brain feels raw like itchy. I feel like i need to scratch an itch but its deep inside


Holy fuck this wasnt a joke. How do i power thru this?
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>18603724

you use a loophole; fuck a bodypillow, thats not fapping and you still get the pleasure
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>>18603724

The 2 week mark is the hardest for me. That's when I go crazy the most. After that, the 'fever breaks' and its liberating as fuck. You stop caring about fap/porn and it becomes infinitely easier to continue nofap. Soon i find myself forgetting about fapping altogether for days on end.

Perhaps your hump is sooner than mine.

As a technique, try distract yourself. If you have the time/lifestyle, try throw yourself into a massive video game and play the shit out of it.

All i can say is, do push through, brother. The experience and satisfaction is worth it. And if you can make it to 3 months reset then bloody well done.
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>>18603724
So masturbate then. Why are you purposely denying yourself? It's not like you've a God damn Crack addition. Go fap and stop being an idiot

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As a man, I never did understand why other men seem to have trouble with the concept of empathy.

Explain it to me while this Tapir makes me feel inadequate about myself.
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>>18603714
Maybe you're not as good at empathy as you think then.
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>>18603714
You're going to need to be more explicit. I have found most men to be empathetic, just not sympathetic. If men can help, they usually will. If they can't do something, they aren't comfortable listening to a person bitch for hours. They want to do things to help, not just be a pillow.

Just my two cents.
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Because we project our fuckups into people and assume their predicament is entirely their fault.

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I'm 24 and I've never been in a relationship. I'm incredibly unsure about how relationships work and I'm very nervous about them. I've tried internet dating and that's about it. It's not like I'm friendless and I make acquaintances at work but I've never been in anything romantic.

Anyway, I moved across the country back in January, was jobless for 4 months living with roommates I met online. Started working in a restaurant, getting along with coworkers pretty well. Then this girl started working there. She looked young as hell but I found out she was only a year younger than me and I got interested but like I said, I have no experience dating or really getting to know girls so I kept my distance. Then we're at a bar with coworkers and we just start talking. And we both liked it and a few days later we went out with coworkers again. Then she invited me to have tacos with her at her old work place and it was just me and her and we hung out for about 7 hours before we decided to split. And immediately we made plans for another meetup to go visit a bunch of breweries a few days later, this past Saturday. We spent 10 hours just drinking beers and talking to each other, smiling at each other the whole time. And then we hung out again 3 days later and this time she spent the night at my house but just because we knew we probably wouldn't be able to drive. We didn't do anything. The most we've done is hug in a friendly platonic manner.
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>>18603704
We're probably gonna hang out Thursday as well and we can't stop telling each other how much we enjoy hanging out with the other, and smiling, and I want to make it something more, but she's told me before that she hasn't been in a relationship for 2 years and she's shy and awkward. And she has no idea that I've never been in a relationship but I feel like if I say that things have the potential to get really weird as well.

I'm really not sure how to progress in this? And I don't know if I'd be jumping the gun if I brought up the idea of dating so soon, or if it'd be too soon at all.
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>>18603704
Is there a question here? This is basically exactly how a relationship begins and if you're both enjoying yourselves then you're doing it right.
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>>18603705
You just keep doing what you're doing, I would say that you should set something that is specifically a date. Ask her, use the word date, and see what you get back. If it's good then do that for a month maybe, at which point you get to find out how amazingly awkward it is to have that conversation where you have to define the relationship.

Just don't be like "will you be my gf?" at any point.

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My asthma is acting really bad and I don't have any sort of puffer near me. Not will I be able to get to one tnight. Any advice on how to lessen it or make is less worse?
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>>18603692
Do you want me to say: well, try if coke makes it go away?
Because if you want me to I'll say it anon.
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>>18603699
Pic is unrelated I just need to know if there is anything I can do. Nothing major just getting a bit bothersome
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Take an antihistamine, and go inhale some steam for a bit.

Failing an antihistamine, some aspirin might help.

this is long but I appreciate you reading.

I have a really weird emotional cycling problem. Sometimes, for even weeks at a time, I feel on top of the world, and the rest of the time I feel ego shattered depressed. I don't know when it started, I was first able to talk about it 2 years ago but it might've been going on for sometime before that when I just considered myself depressed.

Despite this I still have ambitions in life, so I try really hard to deal with this. Carefully not overextending myself and telling myself I can maintain this when I'm on a high, and when I'm on a low making sure to say something recognizable as the "happy" me and generally policing myself from fucking my whole life up.

But this time I'm trying especially hard not to let the bad feelings throw me off my game. For weeks now I've been slipping, feeling shaky and beginning to slur my words and screw up conversations, but I can't even tell anyone, even my parents, that I don't believe in myself right now, so I'm around the clock being fake nice to everyone and people are catching on. Co-workers I was establishing relationships with I think are noticing my difficulty socializing, I just try to say the right things until it's over. People who seemed to like me, I'm now avoiding because it's too much pressure to try and live up to the image I built with them.

Oh and my parents? I've always been honest with them, my genuine self, and I think they too are seeing that I'm faking it around them. They do not know I have these problems, they have enough kids and busy enough lives that I've always been able to fly under the radar. I take heavy advantage of them not knowing me very well.

I understand this may seem like a rather obvious mental illness (no I am not seeking treatment) but I'm just wondering what ways you guys think I could interact better with people during this time. I don't need friends but I can't lose having the respect of being a regular person. I know that sounds bad lol.
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Untreated bipolar supposedly gets worse with time. You may want to google that.
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>>18603662
Idk that could certainly be true, I can see it even, but I'm not going to take drugs and I'm not going to tell my problems to someone who's going to write them down because like I said, I have ambitions in life. so unfortunately cannot get therapy. Also I do google, and people with bpd are basically screwed for life.

Please help /adv/, I have a future with this company as a leader, if I can just hold my shit together.

I'm not socially retarded or anything, I'm just asking ways I can make someone feel liked, welcome, okay with, and the general things we do to make interactions go well, when I'm super depressed and really not into it.
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