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Most martial arts is about defensive techniques.
You don't need to know how to fight to study martial arts.

>>18609066
Just came home from muay thai practice and pretty good sparring sessions.
AMA

>no aggression
No problem, if you're motivated and want to learn how to fight that won't hold you back. I actually thought the same of myself before I started martial arts. Like in any sport you'll come to a point where you want to win, and that's where aggression will automatically come

>I just simply don't want to hurt anyone
The hard punches and kicks are gonna happen on the pads or bags, people go easier on each other in sparring. Most people are heavily conditioned like you. They don't find it that bad when you hit them, they notice fast that they aren't made of glass, but when they hit you they quickly and deeply appologize.

>>18609066

>i want to learn a martial art
>but i dont even want to spar

why? why do you want to learn a martial art if its fundamentally against you

>>18608926
The only woman you're going to get is the female equivalent of you - unattractive, desperate and a loser. If that's what you're okay with then sure, you could get a girlfriend.

>>18608926

No one is perfect. That said, what do you have to offer? Can you at least hang out and make a girl feel apreciated?

Right now I's say you don't. So yeah, try to be a little bit happier and a positive force towards those around you.

>>18608926

heres the thing: why not both?

put your self out there and see what happens. its not like all the girls you approach now are going to be the same girls you approach in say, a year from now when you improved your self.

so start improving your self, put your self out there, and see whats up.

>>18608903
Girls

were you curious of cocks/the male body during your early puberty years (age 12-14)?

if you were, what did you do?

How often do women fart with the vaggoos

Girls

Were you ever caught masturbating? What was the reaction from both sides?

>>18608885

its not a normies vs 4chan world mate.

some people have sex every weekend, generally ones who are attractive do it once every two weeks if they have the time / resources, maybe once a week if they really go at it and have consistent partners.. many people don't.

My husband and I have sex anywhere from 0 to 10+ times a week, depending on schedule and libido.

Just FYI, since your naivety and lack of self-esteem is showing, you should stop assuming TV and other forms of media mirror real life in the slightest.

>>18608885
I'd consider myself a normie. When I was single it varied greatly. I might go weeks even months without any sex then find a hookup and get it as often as humanly possible. Now I'm married, we probably average every other day. Sometimes more or less depending on schedules and what not. Also this
>>18608900
It's tv man. Would you watch a show about a guy who goes out every weekend and nothing eventful happens nearly every time?

Sometimes it works but you can be sure at least one person fucked someone else and did not say anything.
I mean how will you ever know if he did?

Some people use the long distance as an excuse to get with other people, not like you will find out.

>>18608819
>>18608826
I feel like a lead weight just got put around my neck. Is it reasonable that maybe his power is out or his ISP is out, and maybe he hasn't been giving me the same attention because he's busy with studying? I want to marry him, I'm in crisis mode right now

>>18608742
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Er93eqjZqU
have fun dealing with all of the scumbags of society without any of the protection or training that actual law enforcement has.

>>18608748
Yeah, I saw that. These fuckers were a bunch of idiots because they came into the dealership without their vests on. And from what I read up, you have to go through over 40 to 60 hours of training to be able to arrest people. Besides, these two fuckers were fat as fuck and went for their guns instead of a tazer. They looked like they didn't even know what the fuck they were doing.

>>18608742
>Is it more dangerous than police work?

You'd be tracking down criminals who have failed to appear in court, skipped bail, and have gone into hiding so that they don't stand trial. You'll be dealing almost exclusively with violent, drug addicted, pieces of shit every day and your job is to drag them kicking and screaming to the police station. Yes, it's going to be more dangerous than average police work.

Get a new GF.
You will never be able to convince her to no do that and if she is like that you can easily be replaced if you do not want to put up with her.
I would never date a woman who is more interested at what she has on her phone than me.
Get yourself a gf who is not a phone zombie.

>>18608688
I don't have this problem because i am not dating a normie.
I got lucky and managed to get a qt that shares the same views as me about this modern age.

>>18608688
My GF has ADD and goes from watching TV to checking her phone to watching snapchat videos to having a conversation with me every few minutes. I used to get really irritated when we'd be watching a movie in bed and she'd start playing snapchat or youtube videos on her phone with the volume up, watch that shit for a minute or two, and then put the phone down only to pick it back up and watch something else 10 minutes later. One time I was drunk and told her how fucking annoying that shit was and now she at least mutes the volume on her phone when we're watching netflix together.

It is pretty crazy how everyone is glued to their phones / other devices these days. Just go out to eat somewhere or sit in a waiting room and see how 9/10 people are staring at their phones at any given moment.

How old are you? You've probably just discovered not so shitty music and are amazed by it.

>>18608740
28yo, the ride never ends. im an experencied listener, i've listened to most of the classics of blues, rock, jazz, metal and specifically psych rock.

its just so good it expresses so many good things all in once it never gets old fuck. its better than sex, its like a constant orgas

Can you share a song that invokes this super strong feelings?

one almost succeeded, but because tried to act like bad boy so was friend zoned forever

>>18608626

this doesn't help

>>18608613
no
just stop being beta, it's unhealthy

have you asked your friend about it? maybe they do look after him but he has some ilness?

>>18608632
He doesn't know what it is. But what I do know is that i would have taken the dog to the vet by now. The dog is clearly suffering due to neglect and filth

if you have to ask, you don't

>>18608539
oh okay

>>18608530
Social events, friends, work, going places, online, etc.

Then talk to them like they are actual humans and find one the there is mutual connection.

>>18608332
Its 4chan. The shy and anxious are all around you.

It was nice that you were asked to be there. If you like the guy celebrating it, try to go.
If it isn't working after half an hour, slip out quietly. Its what I do.

Just know that inversely, no one knows (or really cares) who you are at the party too. They aren't going to be concentrating on you or judging you. If you're feeling like being adventurous, go and see what happens. Like this anon says >>18608381 leave if it gets uncomfortable.

If you are feeling overwhelmingly shy and anxious though, I'd consider not going to a party where you only know one person.

>>18608404
Good points >>18608404 Its feels a bit safer when everybody else is a stranger. Being anonymous is comforting.

>>18608251
100% depends on how he sees you. First off, I'm assuming you only see him as a friend, right?

>>18608251

Maybe he can handle it. Maybe he is crushing on you.

By the way you write, you seem to have no idea about how he feels about anything. That's a problem. Why do you think that is, that you don't tell us much about his emotional state?

just go ahead and date him

>BUT I DONT FEEL THAT WAY

okay, os you don't want this guy to feel like an emotional tampon, but your intent is to only use him as an emotional tampon? if not, just makme sure you focus o having fun and doing normal stuff instead of just talking about problems.

>would oyu mind?

probably. but only cuz im a gay misogynist.

did you already agree to go to one?

>>18608204
Nope

>>18608212
is there a single girl in one of the groups you think you already have a foot in the door or would be essy to get into bed?

And I know it would make more sense to talk to maybe some friends who understand the situation better instead of internet strangers but I have a hard time making and maintaining friends. Though I assume that's probably pretty obvious by now.

>>18608187
*colour

Sounds like a tough situation. You're going to have to turn it into a serious talk and when he tries to deflect, call him on it. This is not an easy thing to do of course, but it's either this or let it keep going into whatever it is right now.

Doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong, sometimes people are just difficult. If he's starting to have feelings for an ex and talk to them all the time again, and you KNOW it, you're going to have to tell him you don't give a shit if he doesn't like it, he'll have to talk about it.

Maybe not so harshly, but that's what it will have to be. Don't let him (or anyone) play a mind game on you that turns you into the bad guy when they're the one in question. It's the oldest ""Alpha"" trick in the book. I've done it. Not proud of it.