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>>18610455
Depends if you're intelligent enough to teach yourself the material to take the test, and what you are wanting to do once you graduate.

If you want to go to college, you're gonna need extra-cirriculars and a stellar SAT/ACT score to get accepted with failing at LEAST twice in grade school, so I would stay in. If you aren't smart enough to teach yourself the test, then I would stay in.

If you can study and pass the test without guidance, and are just looking to get into a trade or get a McJob, then get the GED.

Also, you know that past a certain age, you can't be in high school anymore, right? In my highschool, it was 21. Didn't matter if you were only a half-semester away of graduating, you were done when you hit age 21.

If you have no idea what to do with your life, you could always do a term in the military. I had no direction out of high school, so I joined the Navy for four years to get paid while I figured that out. You may enjoy it and decide to stay in. If not, being former military bumps you to the top of most businesses' lists of people to hire because it tells them that you're the most likely to show up to work on time, in the correct uniform, and that you can follow orders.

>>18610465
I think I could definitely manage to teach myself the material, and what I do after I graduate really doesn't matter to me as of now, but community college is within the realm of possibilities

Would you say the same situation still applies for going to a community college?

And I'm totally aware of that, which is why I'm considering dropping out. My previous teachers have also told me that a good percentage of employers look down on those with GED's as opposed to diplomas, do you think I could still manage to land a decent job with a GED? (You know, besides flipping burgers)

OP here, would like to add:
If i put some brain in it, it bcomes a fucking stupid ideea. I mean..I have a job and trying to finnish college at the same time, I don;t own a house, parent divorced-father won't be able to help that much; mother dumped me in the street and robed me of all my 'buy a house' money, so I won't get that much help from the outside

>>18610391
Hi! Much older than you (43) father of two reporting in!
>How is Life Having Kids?
Much better than I was expecting, but also much harder. I love it. It has given my life genuinely new kinds of love and made my existence meaningful. It's also an infuriating, exhausting, ferociously expensive, inconvenient pain in the ass.
>know that a kid will change our routin 360, but i have no ideea why i want it. I can t explain why i want a kid so badly..it just feels like what i should do.
Maybe it is. I didn't think I wanted kids until I was over 30; suddenly, I saw a dad walking down the street with his daughter and my heart changed. I was really surprised.
>However, you may want to wait a while.
>What I expect: 0time for myself,
Mostly true. All priorities and energy shift to them first, then their mom, then you. I don't go out at night anymore, and my social life is 90% other dads of kids my kids' age. I used to be a big art, music, nightlife person. Not any more.
>huge money invested in the kid,
More than you expect.
>a lot of stress and hard work,
More than you expect.
>and will really slow me down since I work and going to college
Personally, I would encourage you to wait until you're not both in school and working; maybe wait until you've settled a little bit more into a career, or at least have finished school and are just working. It's always going to be hard. But it's a lot harder with no free time or money.
>Why do I want a kid so fucking bad?? My brain tells me how hard it will be, yet sometimes I can't stop thinking about it.
Can't say. I could pretend it's an evolutionary mandate, but I think evolutionary behaviorism is silly.

Perhaps you are looking for meaning in your life (I was).

Perhaps you are looking for something to commit to in a new way (I had a wife for years before having kids, but I'm frankly not sure I would have died for her; I would not hesitate to die for my sons--I mean this very literally).

>>18610426
But regarding home ownership, I don't know where you live, but I live in a very expensive major city where 80%+ of residents are renters; most of my dad friends do not own homes, even pretty rich guys. So while I think it would be nice for you and your gf to own a place (my wife and I own a slightly-too-small condo, and occasionally fantasize about the big house in the suburbs), I know at least a hundred dads who don't have one of their own, and a bunch who may never be able to afford it (my home is in one of the most expensive housing markets in the world).

Depends very much on your location, situation, and means. But millions and millions of kids come out of, for example, Manhattan (where my father-in-law was born), and most of their parents weren't homeowners.

Teaching at a school? 6 years of university

>>18610340
Depends on the state. That said, I would recommend against it unless you're wanting to work for a private school (at which point, your grades better be top notch, and you better spend your "Student Teacher" time in the private school you want to work at.

In the US, it requires 5 years of university work, minimum, to gain licensure to teach.

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>>18610266
>I'm caught between a rock and a hard place.
What's up?

>>18610266
Stumble off a high place

>>18610304
Unrequited love, insecurities, ocd, failure, insomnia, guilt, regret, anger issues I'm taking out on my friends, fear of change, clinical depression, an overactive imagination that makes me too paranoid to be alone, being taken for granted and taken advantage of, being walked all over and undermined. Basically any petty first world problem that I can't deal with so I'd rather end my life than continue fighting it.
>lel

Are you in states ? Do you look autistic?

change cities to a big one nearby, find a job there first and you might be fine, rent a studio and enjoy your lonely life.

Then don't move out... Live where you live for a while until you can support yourself when you move out. If you really want to move out, get a job which will get you enough money at the end of the month that you'll be able to pay your bills and shit as well as you will have to make a lot of compromises.. I would recommend getting a full time job and be a delivery guy part time or some shit.. Try cutting costs over things that dont matter much..

Time to.grow up and be man sculpt your.own destiny buddy and learn how to take care.of.yourself

My parents fought all the time, neither were violent, but they only stayed together because they thought they were doing the right thing and raising us together.

I turned out alright but that being said my mom killed herself when I was 16 and my dad died when I was 20 (not suicide).

Your parents should get divorced. There is nothing else to it. They are harming you psychologically and physically whether they intend to or not.

>>18610207
You should go to counseling for yourself, everyone needs it, and tell them about this. You parents could be brought in separately and the therapist might just convince them to separate

>>18610090
i hate when guys shave desu. looks weird. just give it a nice trimming everynow and then

I like hair about everywhere but the balls. If my bf wants me to suck his, I ask him to shave his balls first.

>>18610090
If you don't want girls to floss while going down then keep it manscaped. You dont have to but getting hair on your tongue isn't fun.
You dont have to look like a preteen down there, just keep it in check

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I don't know you so I can't tell you what to do. I can tell you what I would do though. Realize that this isn't possible and long distance relationships are interactive video games for all intents and purposes. The person that he shows online and through messages is not the person he is in real life. It's a persona. I would keep the guy as an online friend and enjoy spending time with him in my spare time but nothing more. Who knows what could happen in the distant future but I would realize that wanting to love and be loved in a proper relationship should come after you are financially stable and skilled. Otherwise you are wasting your time with half hearted people that have nothing to really contribute to a future.


I also have an anxiety disorder. I repeat things like "I want to die" constantly in my head when I make mistakes or think about them. I then fixate on these mistakes I've made, obsessively going over why I messed up and hating myself for months at a time. So I feel like I know how you might feel. Although, anxiety issues aside, you're in love with a person that doesn't really exist and I wouldn't waste my time on that. Have self respect and don't let your anxiety rule your actions and time.

>>18610187
Kind of hard to be nothing more than friends when he also acts as my dom. Not full time dom, we only talk a few times a week, and it isn't always sexual, but our relationship has been that way pretty much since it began years ago. At first it was just fun and exciting, but I think I fell in love with him slowly. I only really acknowledged it recently when I started getting more attention from the opposite sex. It feels good to realize it. I don't want somebody else, I only want him.

But yeah, I know that it's not possible. I just don't know how to extract myself from these feelings. This has honestly been my only relationship with a man that wasn't completely platonic. I want to hold on to it.

just detach and cut off. dehumanize. it's how i got over my ex

Do it. Leave your comfort zone, acquire growth.

How do people do it? I have seen people do it so easily, like its nothing. How do you leave everything behind like that. Maybe its a chad thing?

>>18610004
How much will you be compensated?

>>18609980
no, people are shitty.
you're shitty.
you probably hurt someone and will continue to do it because you can't commit to change.

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You change whether you want to or not, anon.

Your question really is, "Can I control what I change into as I go through life?"

The answer is yes, to some extent. Enough to be comfortable if you keep trying.

>>18609980
That depends what you are trying to change.

>>18609976
>he hasn't realized his beliefs are just as pointless as anyone else's kek
What beliefs are you referring to? I can garuntee yours are just as retarded. You just sound like someone who picks on others beliefs just because it bothers you.

>>18609976
you want to be as accurate as possible? Despite realizing that it is destroying your relationships? You gain literally nothing from this, you're being naive and retarded. And re-reading your post, you're just autistic. Learn when to back off, how to read when you're on pushy topics, and other important skills. It'll get you much further and make you much happier than trying to chase after "muh ultimate truth"

>>18609976
>>18610016
>>18610022
you are all dumb

>>18609873
probably a bad memory block on one of you ram sticks. try reaseating all you ram if that doesn't work try going down to one stick you can ( if you have more than one) keep changing the one if one works then try adding one more(if you had 4 sticks) keep testing all your ram until your confident you found the problem stick then replace it. Alternative if you only have one stick of ram you need to replace it. I 've worked on computers for a long time and ram is the usually the issue, i recommend a good brand next time Kingston is middle of the price curve but extremely high in quality.

Its a bluescreen u retard, just fucking read it

>>18609888
So just plug them out and plug it in again.

>>18609861
for a woman, always fill your partners tummy and drain his balls, and your partner will be forever faithful to you

For me, honesty, candor, mutual affection, and an ability to compromise and find solutions that work for both people involved. It also helps if the two's personalities compliment each other, and they're able to keep one another happy and entertained. Then there's physical chemistry as well.

>>18609861

The same it has always been. Finding a partner who shares your values, world views and major life goals.

To clarify, my questions are:

>Should I be this paranoid?

>Should I trust her when she says she's getting/is on BC?

>I want to stay in the relationship but should I be this careful? I know that distrust can tear relationships apart.

Just a bump.

>>18609829
Every relationship is a mix of love and trust

Right now, trust is the issue, why not communicate what makes you uncomfortable with her?
I mean, I get why, but is the sex worth the paranoia?

Be clingy yourself

>>18609698

Piss them off to get abit of the silent treatment dude.

What triggers her?

>>18609698
You literally can't. It's a personality thing. Just move on.