I like to read but I tend to put it off because I don't feel like I ever really absorb anything from texts.
For example, I can read a biography about a historical figure from cover to cover and if you ask me about it a week after the fact I'll be at a loss for words and will barely be able to remember anything that I read about them.. Unless I consciously drill whatever it is into my head over and over again, I always forget the bulk of it. It's like pouring water through a funnel, only a few droplets remain; it's almost like there's genuinely a hole in my head.
I always get kind of jealous when I see people present arguments and back them up by rattling off all of these specific details from things they've read, and they do this right off the top of their heads. If I try to cite even a minor detail about something I have to go back to it to make sure, and generally I fuck something up or miss an important detail.
I guess in more to-the-point and less politically correct times they would have just called me stupid. But no matter what you call it, it's not a great feeling.
I had this same problem until recently.
I changed my diet completely and started doing more memory exercises, as well as physical exercises at home and I have improved a lot.
It could be the placebo effect for all I know, but all I care about is that it worked for me.
Regarding my diet changes:
I started eating more red meat, as well as more fish, more eggs, more chicken, more vegetables and fruits.
I'm also taking multi-vitamin and multi-mineral supplements, as well as an Omega-3 (fish oil) supplement.
Drink more green tea; it is said to help with memory.
I am also drinking more milk (2 cups a day; one in the morning and one in the evening).
Do some memory exercises; there are a lot on the internet.
I am the same person who posted this:
>>18582453
I just wanted to add that I am not an expert when it comes to diet, so take my advice with a pinch of salt.
I just did these things and felt like they helped. I could be wrong, though.
I felt it was time for a change in everything.
>>18582403
Don't be so hard on yourself.
Very few people can call up facts out of memory when asked out of nowhere - that's why school exams are so hard. The brain doesn't file things that way, but by associations. What will happen is that you'll come across some fact about some other person and suddenly "That's just like the guy whose biography I read last year" will pop into your head, proving it was there all the time.
I went to a famous party destination last week with 10 buddies from my college.
Although we all are in serious relationships every single guy banged a club slut except me.
A girl tried to kiss me and I pulled back and told her I couldn't, I was in a relationship.
Everyone laughed and me and tell me my gf is probably cheating on me and I'm just a sucker.
Even the taxi drivers here boast about cheating on their wives.
Am I a sheltered idiot not getting the unspoken premise of a relationship? Or am I just surrounded by assholes?
They have issues. Do not associate yourself with them.
>>18621861
You're in the wrong circle of people
But good job OP, your girlfriend probably isn't cheating on you, most of people are loyal. Even if your partner cheats on you that is not an excuse for you to be an asshole, have your moral system straight and never cross it
>>18621861
No one should be in a relationship in college because so few take it seriously. While I admire your commitment I also agree with your friends your gf has or will take other dicks. I personally do not know one woman that hasn't cheated on their bf or husband and that includes my mother, grandmother, sister and aunts.
I was out last week working with my brother for first time, and I was out in like 40C sun for 5-6 hours. I'm very pale btw, like Sheamus from WWE pale, and after a few hours when I got home, skin on my arms was really red and it hurt, and I thought it was peel off or w/e. But after 2-3 days it just got dark as fuck. It looks so disgusting when im shirtless, what do I do?
Spend some time tanning by a pool or something
put sunscreen on brown hand part, and dont put anything on other parts and go sunbathing/tanning
at least difference wont be that big
>>18582371
Why didn't you take off your shirt before, idiot!
How to act on a first date?
>>18582352
Too little context. Are you going on a first date soon, or about to ask a girl?
Chill, comfortable in your own skin, giving off positive vibes. Don't try too hard to be someone who you aren't just to please the other person. It will turn her off when she sees right through it.
>>18582363
going on one soon
Due to the mere mention of ANYTHING political, this post is unallowed in /k/. But please try to keep the /pol/ shit to a minimum, if you can:
I'm a white male liberal living in a liberal town (Portland). I'm usually for gun control (or at least better gun regulations) and what have you. But recent events in Charlottesville, and other similar events throughout the 2010s, is starting to make me consider carrying a fire-arm on me.
Because the world, or at least America, is certainly becoming a less safe place for now. And I've definitely had encounters thus far into 2017 that made me wish a weapon was within my reach. In addition, I'm not only considering fire-arms for protection, but also have one in the hopes of deterring potential ugly encounters from even starting (if that's possible).
So what's a good weapon of choice for someone with virtually no gun knowledge? .45 sidearms have a nice ring in my ear. But I guess I should also come out and say there's a history of mental illness in my family. I've had MDD and PTSD (nothing related to guns) since I was a kid, and made suicide attempts before (but the last recorded instance was 2006). I've been in behavioural therapy since 2005. And I've never been committed or arrested for any reason whatsoever.
>>18621745
>Due to the mere mention of ANYTHING political, this post is unallowed in /k/.
Why can't you just drop the bit about your exact reasons for feeling unsafe?
You dont wave your gun around unless you are about to shoot somebody you liberal mong. Just stay on your meds and get the fuck away from guns.
>>18621745
I live in Portland. I'm also in the military
I've been living in this apartment for 12 years, but just this past year I've begu to find these huge inch long black bugs dead in my room. I've only found 3, each one about 3 months apart from each other.
Today I found the first one alive, stuck in my bathroom sink, pictured. Maybe they are coming from the sink? I haven't seen them in the kitchen or any other rooms, just always dead by my bedroom window, and in any season.
Cockroaches. Don't squish them, they have microscopic eggs on them which will hatch.
I have those little faggots too, and no ammount of cleaning helps.
Also, no way to get rid of them permanently
Do you have a handicap?
If yes, how does it affect your life?
>>18582220
Ya my dicks HUGE!
My ex left me 4 months ago (I think she was talking to someone while still with me) been moving on, getting over her and picking myself up. Just today I get messages from her current bf asking me to Fuck off and leave her alone. Last time I spoke to her was when we broke up so I don't know what he's thinking or what's been said. Do I respond to this fucknugget or just leave it and keep going on with my life like I never met them both. I'd rather not respond but I am getting hit with messages every 10 minutes,''Hello'' - ''Reply'... I guess it's my fault for dating a manipulative slut. Pic unrelated
A little of both. If you respond whatsoever, it gives him the slightest victory.
I'd respond once, with something like "lol I've been done with her four months, all yours homie", and then just ignore forever. It'll stew on him, trust me.
>>18582213
"Hey, mate. I don't know what you've been told, but I have had absolutely no contact with Suzy since April and have no interest in any in the future. If you've heard differently, you've been lied to."
>>18582218
do this anon, that would get under my skin for sure
My crush invited me to play a beach team sport together.
What do? How make interaction with he? Did she just invite me there to avoid interacting with me?
I never understood why people like stuff like drinking and shaking their body like someone having a seizure and calling it dancing.
I went a few times to this events with my friends but never got the feeling, I just pretended it was good.
I don't understand.
>>18621734
And the other thing is that I can't even find a proper girlfriend because of this because in the and all of them were like "i wanna goooooooooooo", even though I fucked them good so they were satisfied.
you didn't drink enough
>>18621747
That's another one. I don't even like alcohol.
I started a babysitting job from Craigslist. The people (a 50 year old man and 28 year old woman) asked me to host for them in their restaurant as well. The babysitting was supposed to be six nights, but they starting having me be a host for three... Wasn't sure if they don't want me to babysit their child (even tho I'm really trustworthy and reliable and put a lot of effort and entertain her the whole time, she really likes me and would cry when I leave) or what, but I liked them& need money so I said I would host even tho I hate hostess jobs for many reasons.
After a couple shifts, the owner tells me I need to dres more. Not sure if he meant dress better or more conservative. What I wear is honestly decent enough, like yeah it's not perfect but i don't really have clothes for this job which is why I didn't apply to be a host I just needed extra money, and I did spend money on pants and a couple
Shirts from express that I would wear with ballet flats. Pretty Standard host clothes.
He told me I'm okay and they like me, and I asked to go home and said I felt uncomfortable. Then I texted and told them that they either need to give me a raise or provide me with what kinda clothes they want me to wear. Is this embarassing?
Altho I do like them/neeed them, I honestly don't have time/money to buy a new wardrobe for this job.. I didn't even ask to be a host/ don't really want to
I was just trying to do them a favor. I haven't heard back from them. I kinda need the money, but it seems like I'm going to lose the job
you were thrust into a job that you didn't even want to do. why do you care about losing it? find something else if you need money. they're taking advantage of you.
>>18582166
Also I mean instead of babysiting six nights they would have me host for three and babysit for three , but soemrkems they would call me off or ask me to host instead of babysit . I honestly went out of my way for them, I deserve to be paid more, especially if they do want me to have different clothes which I don't even know what they want Bc I dress good enough at least , seeing I didn't wanna be a host and don't have clothes for that for many nights a week
>>18582171
Exactly, I just wanna make sure I'm not like crazy. That's why I asked either for a raise or for them to give me clothes they want me to wear. I already spent money on it too and stresed myself out trying to find time to go shopping
I also was like on cal to switch from babysitting to hosting in a second, so I honestly do deserve a raise if they decide to give me one, I even go to the store during my shift to pick up milk/whatever when they need stuff like that. They ask a lot of me so I'm not working there unless they give me money, if I was to be a host, it wouldn't be for their restaurant anyway for many other reasons but that's another story
I just cant fit into any social group
The impression it gives is that no one wants to be my friend
I try to talk to people but nobody wants to talk
I just kissed one time in a lifetime.
I just cant take with this loneliness anymore.
I just wanted to have a girlfriend and some friends.
A normal life
But I just cant
I have a job, good subjects to talk with other person, knowledge, but socially I've tried and failed at everything
>>18621673
Age, location, gender, been to psycholog yet, how did you trie to make friends, wat job and what do you think is wrong with you?
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation
Meetme, facebook, discord, kik, tinder, grinder, okcupid, eharmony, social events you hate.
Post pic?
I don't have any advice, just wanted to say I'm in the same boat
I'm sure you're a lovely human being
>>18621673
>>18621851
Both of you, forget the girlfriend for a while. Step one is making and keeping friends.
So now, the tough part: why do you think you have trouble keeping friends?
Am 18yo kissless virgin and I fear that if a girl ever tried to kiss me (highly unlikely but not impossible) that I will just embarass myself.
How do I kiss?
For starters, don't tense up. Relax, especially if it's your first one. Other than that, it's a simple matter of pressing lips together. Obviously there's more to it depending on the situation, but you can usually improvise and go with the flow when that happens.
Any kind of skill involving kissing, flirting or any kind of sexual prowess is one of those things that gets better with practice. I practiced with a girl I was friends with growing up. Nothing romantic, we never dated or anything. It was essentially research so we could both get better at it. Just a thought, if you have someone like that who'd be willing to help out.
If my girlfriend want a LDR with me (Long Distance Relationship), because her dream is to work in a ship as a waitress, should I broke up with her because it's more important than me, or just try? She will be on a ship for 6 months, than come back then 6 weeks leter go out, again 6 months, etc..
We are together for a year...
BTW sorry for my english
>>18582115
Ya fuck that shit. You might as well have an internet girlfriend. The 6 months she's gone is basically being single. No doubt she'll be banging the captain. If she wants to go, let her go. But she better not expect you to be waiting.
Wagwan niggas. I had a job interview last week for a marketing assistant position. I did well and they've invited me back for a second interview.
They've asked me to do a task which I assume they will review and discuss in the second interview.
There was the choice between either a 600 word article, or putting together a marketing strategy for a webinar.
I've done both.
Will they think I'm a dickhead for doing both tasks rather than just the one? Does this come across as cocky or keen? Someone pls help.
Come across as humble but still confident and charismatic if you have to talk about it and you should be fine, shows great initiative and the ability to perform quality work in a shorter timeframe (if the work you did is not shit)
>>18582130
It could be shit but I don't think it's shit.
Cheers though man.
Bit worried they might try and mug me off about splitting focus between two tasks instead of putting all of my energy into one.
Actually fucking hate job interviews