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If you don't take care of your self , no one will
Stop being crybaby cuz no one will help

If you don't have strength find it in someone that you care for

man up and take the actions necessary to improve your life

I texted them.

I texted them "Hey, how are you :)" or something like that.

Probably not the best way to approach, but whatever, if I don't do it nothing will happen. I'm trying here. You can see I'm still frustrated I don't have "the best approach". Feels like there is always a right way to do things.

>>18607609
there's no right way to do things.
There.

Contemplate your emotions; until you have kinda calmed your mental horse and have some peace.
Then do what feels right

Make a conversation with her, ask if she wants to get a drink sometime, get her number, text her for a week or so, go on a date or two, have sex, end up going out on a few more dates, realize that it's becoming a thing, start calling each other pet names, meet her parents, look into buying an apartment together, take out a lease on a one bedroom apartment, go through a honeymoon phase, have several months pass, start growing more distant and stop having any more fun conversations, stop having sex for weeks on end, realize you haven't made each other laugh in over a month, feel like you're not made for each other after all, you tell her/she tells you that you should take a break from it all, move out, get your own apartment, try to date other people but lose interest in them almsot immediately, jack off by yourself and realize you can't help but think of her and how beautiful she is, ask her if she wants to get coffee, go out, she tells you that she's been seeing someone else, feel heartbroken and betrayed even though you broke up months ago, go home, weep.

>>18606138

Any particular reason you want it to be him in particular?

Will having sex with him while you know he has a girlfriend make you feel guilty?

Honestly, your first time is never as big a deal as you think it will be--especially when it's not with someone you deeply care about.

I think that is because I trust in him, and I don't think make me feel guilty just that probably make him say no and I do care about him

That's....weird. Did it come off in the shower?

Wash it off and save a sample to take to the Dr if you're worried.

>>18606137
I'm still in the dark

I still jack off like 5 times a day when i'm off work and don't have shit to do and i'm 24.

No, obviously you will still be horny af in your twenties because thats your sexual prime.

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>>18606084
>done with puberty
How do you know you're done with puberty?

By pretty even the most socially conservative of standards second cousins is where the line is drawn at.

Scientifically: The level of shared DNA is not enough for it to be any real significant dangers of inbreeding, but conversely, actually makes things like miscarriage, much less likely.

If you actually worry about this then you should ease up more in life bro. I fucked my niece once, was bretty good.

>>18606015
literal 3 pump chump

lmfao

>>18605997
I don't know if it's alright to just lie to myself that there's 2 sides to everything in reality.

Working 40 hours a week for someone else is objectively terrible, and any offspring I have will be forced to do this.

Why bother bringing them into this world in the first place? I know I can't really handle being a part of it, so why pretend that it's an over-overwhelmingly positive experience that you have to sculpt?

I don't think I'll ever stop being an anti-natalist.

Who would want to be stuck something you'll have to take care of for 18 years ?

>>18605997
Adopt a kid then? Adoption saved me from a pretty shitty life with horrible parents.

>>18605976
Don't do that. Just use your screw up as a learning experience, and don't be an asshat in the future. There's no practical reason to talk to her. You, just like everyone else who's considered doing this, have some romanticized fantasy of rekindling a friendship, or turning your relationship to something more. It's not going to happen, and going to her will make your intentions obvious. It's been five years, man. I've met widows with quicker recoveries. She's changed in those five years, and if you go to her, she's going to see that you've been holding onto a version of her that's been long gone, and that you haven't grown up.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and make a life for yourself.

I'm not saying this to be mean.

Man or woman above me just /thread
Don't be afraid of change anon Make new friends. Eventually someone will come and grace the now in your life and you'll forget all about her. Fdb

>>18606359
I appreciate your honesty
I really just want to start over with her as friends of course and let her know I am sorry for the stupid things I did in the past yes i know we aren't going to be together (I figured that long ago) and because she is a lesbian as well but what brought about this need to contact her again was the fact that I'm looking forgive those who I've hurt or let down, so I can change and move on. whether we become friends again is up to her right? thing is I'm not sure how to go about this
thank you for your input

Give it more time, maybe she needs it to open up to you. Maybe she doesn't want to come off as easy. Whatever, woman are retarded, don't take no for an answer.

>>18606103

Thanks. Guess I'll just keep on trudgin on.

Tinder could be a good place to train for him, he'll pull enough matches if he's really good looking, let him try to take things from there.

He needs to push his comfort zone and experience rejection. A good way to achieve this is with cold approach.

I think it's a sign of the times, if people can't control the conversation like they do online on their social media platforms, they don't even want to bother.

>>18605862
Some people just like downtime.

Can you tell me more about the fuckiness? It's possible that you express/expect love in unhealthy ways.
Some of my own examples that I've been working on:

>Equating worry with love
doing dangerous things out of a subconscious hope that my SO will express worry.
>Expressing love through inappropriate servitude
I thought that my worth was defined through how much labor I did, and then I got bitter about "having" to do all that work without "enough" gratitude

etc etc

>>18605981

Not OP, but I just realized that this is me. What can I do to improve it? How can I identify similar problems?

>>18605861
A relationship only works between two people who are at the same level. You are way above most people when it comes to the capacity for love, at least in your area. You simply care way more for the other person than them for you. I'm sorry you had to realize how bad people have become when it comes to caring for eachother. Shit sucks. Hopefully youll find someone eventually.

>>18605859
so after all those reasons you're still afraid to leave cause you don't want to be alone?

that just seems petty

>>18605859
You don't need to have the next pussy at disposal. If you're convinced that the love is gone and that she's holding you back just go through with it

>>18605887

Iam not the best looking guy and I think my friends could possibly choose her over me. I don't want her to fuck my friends......

Iam I still being petty?