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Unless you fucked her then just let it be man

>>18615299
He already knows that she's a ho, but you should give him updates, for instance, "I saw her with so and so the other day, and they were being *very* friendly, probably fucking."

If he gets mad at you for this, then think to yourself, man this guy is a delusional dweeb, but just say, "Sorry, man, I was just trying to help. I understand."

>>18615295
The ham is unsettling remove yourself from this world

>>18615302

>remove yourself from this world

I plan to if we don't get bitches, hambone.

>>18615295
I hope your friend dies

>>18615293

Lately things have been going good. No arguments for a while now, I stupidly proposed to her with a massive diamond ring and we're(she is) planning a wedding but... I'm feeling dead inside. I want out. She seems so happy to be with me and her mom loves me. Her friends love me too.

I just need a way to get her to break up with me so that way I can refuse to take her back. I don't want to hurt her by being the one to break things off. It has to be her to push me away one last time.

I don't even want the ring back, I just want my freedom. Being single I weighed 35 lbs less, had $10000+ in my account and was able to spend my days off making music, exercising, watching anime, playing games, posting here and reading. Now I'm overweight, constantly spending money going out on stupid "dates", buying gifts, and heavens forbid I'm not facetiming her when I get off work or when I'm at her place I kinda just lay there bored until we go outside to do the usual shit.

I just feel miserable and trapped.

The best way to start your new life with out her, to regain control, and to find peace in this situation is to take action yourself. You are so affraid to be a villain that you are considering spending the life with her just not to look bad. Come on man! You want to be a man then be a fuckin man and do what you need to do. It is also better for her then you manipulating her into hateing you. She needs to understand thet she is a jealous bitch who sucks out life from people, maybe this realisation will change her and she will find happines someday.

>>18615293
Just be the one that ends it you limp dick faggot. YOU'RE the one that is unhappy and wants out, YOU need to take charge. These feelings of being broken and defeated and shit aren't just gonna end of she breaks up with you. You should take your life into your own hands and end things, that can be the first step in turning your life around.

Good luck OP. I believe in you

No it is not. The world will end, all people you know will die, everything you have done will be forgoten, someday. There is nothing weird in chasing your happiness.

>>18615279
Stop masturbating to porn

If you have never been in the position to have sex with a person different times, I wouldn't draw strong conclusions from this. Dicks aren't machinery and it's not uncommon for guys at all to have a hard time getting it up the first time with a new partner.

Otherwise though, indeed stop watching porn all the time (assuming you do). Masturbating is fine, but using your imagination is better. When you fantasize you are actively crafting what's sexual about the situation - eg you picture a girl going down on you and are not just getting aroused by the imagery or the noises you imagine but also the idea that someone would like to suck on your dick etc. Whereas watching porn is entirely passive, you are spoonfed turn ons. This means that the difference between porn and real life is much bigger because in real life there's always distractions and less sexy stuff, and you have to actively read the situation as arousing and sexual to get turned on.

Just don't jerk off or look at porn for a week and that should be a good enough reset. After that, try to only jerk off from imagination and limit porn consumption as much as possible

Masturbation is not dangerous for your health in any way. It can be healthy way of relieving stress. Porn is dangerous. Porn addiction destroys libido.

Watch this for answers https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

...and next time get creative and use your imagination.

In order to stop you need to also stop looking at porn and stop edging. These activities aren't release, they simply tempt you to climax and keep your brain hooked on dopamine. After a few months you won't even think about either of these things.

>"Porn is a healthy outlet for your impulses!"
>"There's nothing wrong with watching porn, stop being such a prude!"
Every single time.

pls

>>18615205
>doesnt mention state, city, family situation, count of family members, list of diseases he and his siblings and parents had, what job he has, what options his employer has

It is like you are stupid or something. Do your own research.

>>18615360
Doesn't even mention country. Wow.

She had some sort of breakdown last weekend, I’ve spent it at her place but she was mostly crying and hugging me, she told me she’s exhausted and she needs to spend some time outside town, just chilling and not thinking about anything. It was a great news cause we've planned a couple of trips together for a long time, so I told her we can go cause I want that too, it’s been rough at work lately and needed to relax badly, but suddenly on monday she told me she's going for a weekend, starting friday with ''a pack of friends'' and she'll be back on monday night and that's it, didn’t even care about me and that we've just spoke about spending this time together. I was acting cool about it, told her to have a good time. I was supposed to go to her place on Tuesday night but she called me earlier and started to be really strange, like she told me she started to think about what we do together and that she’s not sure if that’s ok, she told me again not to fall in love cause she doesn’t want to hurt me (blahblahblah), I told her she needs to chill and stop thinking about it, it’s been hard for her lately and she needs to cool down a little. Later that night when I was almost ready to go to bed she messaged me asking what I’m doing and if I want to come over, but I told her I won’t cause I’ve had a beer and I got work early in the morning, she was sad but ok about it, weird.


Wednesday and Thursday she was really mean to me all the time, like you know, while chatting she told me I irritate her and she doesn’t wanna talk to me, but on Thursday night she came to my place.

part 3

We've had sex like never before, so good even neighbours went out for a smoke after we were done, no kidding. Then she again started hugging me, kissing, smiling, saying it was the best etc. and that she knows sometimes she’s mean but she doesn’t want to be mean to me, she cares about me and I should know that every time she has her meltdown like those two days, I said it’s fine but that my temper has it’s limits and I’m not a dude without feelings, sometimes her words hurt but I know that deeply she doesn’t mean wrong. We went to bed, she hugged me tightly and we went to sleep like this. In the morning she went back to her place and I went to work, she kissed me and hugged on her way out, smiled with that spark in the eye and told me she’s gonna miss me during the weekend, I told her I’m gonna miss her too.

to be continued...

part 4 and done

Right now she’s away from the town on her chill weekend and I’m sitting here and all I can think about is that’s she’s away with that ex boyfriend of hers, cause I’m quite sure there’s no ‘’pack of friends’’, it’s him who took her for the weekend, cause if not she would’ve told me and she was really closed about talking with whom she goes. She’s sending me pics on snapchat but as you can imagine she’s alone in all of them, like she doesn’t want to show who’s with her. I can’t stand a thought that she might be with him and who the hell knows what they’ve done last night, I don’t even wanna think about it.

Yeah, I have a crush on her, I won’t believe she doesn’t have feelings for me at all, there’s no such thing as just fuck buddies, I spoke with my friend about it and he told me I’m right, no girl goes to bed so many times with someone without deep feelings, it’s chemistry, women, eh?

What do you think about this whole situation /adv/ ? I’m not gonna call her or text her cause she told me she needs to be away from everything, but the urge is killing me.

Introspective means you are good at analyzing yourself and your own behavior, emotions, and reasons.

Shy means you're uncomfortable with putting yourself out there socially.

Though they can sometimes happen at the same time, they're not related. Being shy does not automatically mean you're introspective, and being introspective doesn't automatically mean you're shy.

>>18615158
Travel to interesting places and take selfies in them. Because it's a "location photo" it doesn't count as cringe

>>18615149
try talking to him about what isn't working out maybe? And then go from there?

>>18615149
There is no such thing as staying friends with an ex

He will need 6months+ separation. If you try to keep him in your life, you're being a cunt and stopping him from moving on

>>18615149
if you want to break up with him but maintain all the perks of having him as a beta orbiter (friend zoned) without any of the perks (girlfriend, sex), then bare in mind that is a pretty rough deal for him.

The male equivalent of this would fucking a girl but refusing to commit.

Personally, when I got married, my favorite gifts were the ones that were practical and that we ended up using regularly.

All of the "romantic" presents were sweet and all but eventually they just started taking up space.

>>18615142
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