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I have a penile issue, today I pulled back my forskin further than usual, wanted to see if I could, and noticed a lump on my forskin, now not having pulled it this far before and looked at it I always thought it was a vein but now I'm not so sure, looks abnormal and has me worried.
I would see the doctor about it but I just went there a few days ago to have my balls checked, different issue, and now I dont know what to do.
More info: I've been to the same doc before about phimosis about a year ago and he looked at it back then, I stopped going when one day I was just able to pull it back, so I have this fear that he think I just want him to touch my dick, he also asks about sexual relations so he can rule out stds and knows I've never done that so its really messing me up.
I never noticed it till today, I've been comparing with dicks online but they all look normal and rounded, mine has a fucking lump on it, its squidgy and when I looked at it in the shower theres some black on it and a black dot next to it that doesn't look like a mole if that description helps, the fuck do I do?
I'm looking to go to another clinic but what advice do you have anon?
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I've personally never herd of a lump on the actual dick.
Get it checked out if your worrying. I had a lump on my testical and was pretty sick about it for a month until I got it checked out. Everything was good.
It might be embarassing but better safe than sorry. I doubt the doctor would give a shit. They're there to help and a few visits a year wont make him think your iso a hand job.
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>>18727844
Your probably right, although I might look into another clinic to see if I can get someone else.
It just that I just went a few days ago you know, idk, thanks for the advice though.
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>>18727850
Same with me. My testical was aching and had a pain just above the shaft. Went to 3 different doctors (because nobody knew what the fuck it was). Ended up getting an ultrasound that showed nothing.
Within a week I was back at the doctor because I could feel the lump. Shits embarassing but you just have to do it. Id reccomend your regular doctor.
Theres a reason women live longer, and its because they get shit checked out right away.
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>have $1350
>owe a bill that is $800
>owe another bill that is $1200
Which one should I pay first? I will be getting more money at a later date, so it doesn't really matter which bill I pay first, and I can pay these bills at any time.
Here is the kicker. The $1200 bill is in another persons name. But, that person has financial help if needed, where as I don't.
My bill is smaller, their bill is larger. If I pay my bill, I will have money left over. If I pay their bill, I will have no money, which would mean they would have to ask for more money from their source.
Which bill should I pay? If I pay their bill first, they will have to ask for more money. If I pay my bill first, we will have some extra money left over to get us through until we can pay their bill in a month.
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Speak to the people you owe money to, many are much more ok with you paying in 2 installments than just not paying.
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Pay whatever isn't your money so in a later time when you need to do this again they will be able to trust you with the money again imo
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Honestly, cucks.
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I'm in a relationship with the girl I would like to marry. We are mid 20s. It isn't all perfect, the relationship is work/compromise for sure. Here's the big problem for me, though. Our sex life is almost bupkus. We have sex once, maybe twice every couple months. That includes anything sexual like making out, oral, etc. It's been that way since we got together 3 years ago. She was very sexual when we were courting each other but as soon as it got serious she lost all interest. Now I don't really mind, it's just that it happened so suddenly in my life. I'm not ready to be in that no sex marriage tier relationship when I'm 25. I've explained this to her and she usually just ends up getting depressed/emotional. My concern is I will grow to resent her once I age up to 30+ and can no longer fuck young girls due to my age. Some of my friends (some of which are 40+, mind you) say I should be enjoying my youth/fucking as much as possible and getting it out of my system. I'm at a loss at what to do. I know moralfags will instantly berate me and say I'm being an idiot, relax, I won't cheat on her. Do I leave her? Stay with her? Some sort of compromise? I have tried just fapping but it really doesn't compare to sex.
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>>18727814
take my word for it man, i've experienced this for a long time now. I'm 27 now. Leave, you will end up regretting it. You will find yourself wishing for an excuse to end it eventually because you just want to get your dick wet. Yes, it sounds selfish, but over the course of years you will grow to resent the lack of intimacy. Your best bet is to bring up the problem and hope it's solved by X date, otherwise say your goodbyes and move on. Wish I had.
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>>18727814
Sure she doesn't have like, PCOS or something?
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>>18727830
She does have menorrhagia (however you spell it) but we got that mostly sorted out with an IUD. When we have sex she enjoys it and I make her orgasm at least twice, so it's not like she's traumatized or doesn't like it. She just isn't interested in doing it for 4-6 weeks at a time. And if I bring it up, nicely mind you, she instantly calls herself a failure and gets all sad.
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You don't regret losing a relationship that could have gone the distance? Was the sex worth it or just empty waste of time?
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I don't respect my dad. When he came back from his tours in Iraq and NI, he became a heroin addict and neglected to care about me or my mother. They split up, he continued his habit while doing questionable shit like shoplifting, even going as far as to use me to sneak stuff out as a child. He always says he's there for me, but he does literally nothing but watch tv all day while getting prescription methadone and benefits from the government. Never really initiates contact or proposes to do anything with me, it's up to me and he always makes excuses not to go. In a way I feel like a dick for disliking him because he's my dad, but at the same time I look at how good my mother has been with me in comparison and I think I'm right in my thinking. He just wallows in self pity and blames his problems on everyone else. Is my way of thinking reasonable?
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>>18727804
Well I don't know what he did or saw over there. But I'm sure that had a major impact on the man.
War fucks people over. Your father is a casualty. Seems like he needs help, though most people don't recover. Tried telling him this?
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>>18727810
Yes, tried to tell him self improvement is the way to go to get better. Asked him to come to the gym with me, see a counseller, get hobbies to meet people. Not interested - only tv, youtube and his meth fix .
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>>18727804
It's obvious that you love your dad otherwise you wouldn't have bothered asking for help.
He is probably struggling very hard with something he can't let go of. He needs help and love. Try talking to him about why he is being this way and tell him you want to help him. Just keep reaching out in love. You will reach him one day. It may take years but don't give up.
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I try improving slowly but it's so hard finding the drive to do things and to slowly build habits...
What could help me with this struggle ? The apathy is too strong
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>>18727780
jeebus, that booty is a keeper
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Depends on what kinds of habits you seek to impr-
I'm fapping to your picture and deleting it soon as I'm done. Is that what you want, love?
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Is there any way to take your mind off the task? I was able to run on an elliptical for 30 mins each day just because listening to the exact same 30 minute music playlist each day would allow my mind to wander and not even think of exercising. This helped me adjust to the mundaneness of running in place for 30 mins. Otherwise giving yourself a reward that does not backtrack on the good habit can help. Such as every day spent not smoking means you can eat a piece of cake or cookie.
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My mom is delusional and thinks my dad is cheating on her with my sister, and nothing can convince her otherwise.
inb4 their cheating, no i've been awake nights trying to see suspecies behaviour shadowed both of them and have read their phones multiple times with them knowing and their is absolutly nothing supporting my moms delusion
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>>18727723
with them not knowing ***
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>>18727723
please be bait
I've seen kids in elementary who's first language wasn't English have better grammar that your dumb ass
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>>18727744
And how many languages do you speak my guy
No, Google translate is not a language
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>hey anon why are you always so quiet and never talk to people
Is there any reason why this seems to be a commonality among internet introversion, yet, still only in my early-thirties, I've never had one person ask me this or even pay attention?
What's it like to have people actually notice you?
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>>18727719
>What's it like to have people actually notice you?
Suffocating after a certain point.
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Every time I open my mouth I speak nonsense and I stutter and make a fool of myself.
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>>18727719
I know I'm not directly answering your question, but this came up off the top of my head for some reason.
I now proudly call myself ambivert these days (used to be super introverted, now am a bit of both extro and intro). Looking from the extroverted side of things - weigh up what is better, making lots of connections or few connections. Optimially, the answer is lots. So, when one person requires a lot of attention to start connecting with - its just a drain. Extroverts don't hate introverts, they love both extroverts and introverts equally, its just that if we spend more time with one person, that prevents us from spending time with multiple people.
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How do I stop being annoyed by a coworker?
she is very nice and all but there is one trait about her that annoys and pisses me off to no end.
she has a very soft voice and on top of that she mumbles. it's very irritating when she talks to me I can't make out what she says then when I get closer to her out of politeness she babbles on about nothingness.
she is one of those people who talks a lot and tells stories the long way. it wouldnt be so bad besides the fact you can't make out what she says and you gotta stand there being polite with a nod and smile and just have to walk away sometimes cos it feels like what she is talking about is going no where.
then because she is actually a really nice person I deleted guilty afterwards.
I've tried constanly saying things like
>sorry can't hear you
>beg your pardon
fuck I even be cupping my ear when she is talking to her for her to get the hint to speak the fuck up.
it borderline feels like it's her being rude for not attempting to speak up louder or mumble less when it's everyone who seems to have the same problem.
or at the very least get to the fucking point when she talks
how do I deal with this without coming off as rude. especially how I said she takes a long time to get to the point which is hard with the soft voice and the mumble on top of it.
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>>18727667
I mumble a lot - I would actually prefer people tell me if I'm not speaking up correctly. She might be hurt by you telling her this, but I'm sure it would do her and you good in the end.
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>>18727681
This but don't say it like this >>18727667
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>>18727688
>>18727681
What's the best way doing it because I find myself feeling frustrated when I have to talk to her these days or when she talks to me.
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Anyone else have a really, really bad problem with procrastination?
Like, not just lazy, but somethings-actually-fucked-in-your-head serious
I think I'm addicted to procrastinating. I get a perverse pleasure from setting up an important task, and then not doing it. It's almost impossible to defy. When the deadline gets close and task magnitude becomes overwhelming, I panic and feel sick, and then waste more time on druglike experiences to dull the pain. Repeat ad infinitum.
In 3 years of university, there has not been a single assignment that I have not done in a caffeine fueled overnight delerium the night before its due. Not a one.
I do it with non-academic tasks, too.
Well, now the brain's adapted to intense anxiety by just not feeling it anymore. So I've levelled up from 3 to 4 in pic related.
I'm starting to think I need therapy..
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>>18727637
Yes. You can fix it by prioritizing, force yourself to do it, force yourself to start. But then again, I always fall back into procrastination
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>>18727637
>Doing the same thing over and over expecting different results
Change is hard, but its the only way to get different results.
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>>18727680
>force yourself to start.
Sometimes, the intense work required gets me into a sort of working momentum. But I never, ever keep it going after the causal task is finished.
>>18727686
>Change is hard, but its the only way to get different results.
I try 'getting rid of distractions', but I just always find new ones. When there is literally nothing else but the work, then I start daydreaming every 10 minutes
OK, I want to change. I actually like my subject of study and dream of doing piles and piles of work. None of it is hard, I just NEVER DO IT.
What can I change?
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Hey anons.
Any tips and advices on how to behave when out with a girl?
I have some female friends.
They often invite me to hang out with them and the gir i like is really nice to me too. I'm not a betafag, but I'm not always sure about what to talk about, or when I'm talking about something, does it sound stupid or what.
I'd like to hear some good and smart advices from my fellow anons
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>>18727613
>Any tips and advices on how to behave when out with a girl?
>I'm not a betafag
you definitely are not lmao.
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>>18727657
I am not a beta indeed. I deal with women pretty good. Like i can go over and ask a random girl out easily.
But with the girl i like, sometimes I'm worrying about saying something wrong/doing something retarded. Sometimes i dunno about what to talk abou, since i am insecure of the idea that i might disappoint her.
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I don't know exactly what problem it is that I have, haven't found any precise information about it.
Whenever I'm close to someone or even see someone for longer than 2 or 3 minutes, I start to "feel" uncomfortable. The uncomfortableness is the same sort of feeling you get when you feel sexual attraction, but I'm not aroused or anything. Thought I might be gay or bi, but I don't think so - I can't imagine myself with another guy. This applies to my family as well. Whenever possible, I choose to work on my own, or when I talk to people i stand at a distance.
I remember describing it to a doctor once as "I want to be close to people so bad, but at the same time I'm afraid people will feel uncomfortable if I get close to them, so I just stay away".
I mean, I don't mind being with people, I like talking to them and being with them - its just I don't like people possibly getting a "sexual" (well to me it feels like "Sexual", but its not arousal) vibe so it hurts but I stay away from people because of this at times.
Would really appreciate some resources on how to help with an issue such as this because its been hampering my life for a long time.
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>>18727607
>applys to my family
just to clarify, i meant I have the same feeling towards my family, not that they have the same behaviour.
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>>18727607
Anyone?
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>>18727831
>Solve my entire catalogue of mental issues in 2 hours
Christ man no one here is qualified to help you with this issue. I'm pretty sure a therapist is required for this one. It's some high level autism or brain disorder or something.
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A surge in women wanting "rough sex" 2017-09-16 11:51:15 Post No.18727584
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A surge in women wanting "rough sex"
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Has anyone else noticed that more and more women want "rough sex" during one night stands?
Some girl brought up this topic at a party last night.
That got me thinking and indeed I have been seeing this trend in the last ten years.
Any theories on why this is happening?
Any advices on how to satisfy this growing urge amongst women?
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>>18727584
Women have been able to get away with more and have been overtaking men in several fields - so I guess they would like the man to be the one dominating for a change. I don't believe that women always want to be in charge. I mean, just look at the success of 50 shades of grey! Thats pretty much proof that a lot of women secretly want to be dominated, but don't express it.
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>>18727584
Well not like the redditors who frequent this board will agree with me.
But the truth is, by being a chauvinistic, sexist, misogynistic, pig. Modern women love that. It's rare stuff nowadays.
>be me
>be gentlemen
>get cheated on
>relegated to beta provider
>revamp my outlook on women
>treat them like shit
>got a wonderful wife who cooks and cleans and picks up the furniture I shatter when I'm angry
They'll call me an asshole, while simultaneously cheating on their boyfriends with men like myself. Think about it.
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Girls tongue my anus and will take it up the bum without hesitation, it never used to be like this. I'm not complaining.
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i don't know what to call this so, just call it financial problem 2017-09-16 11:43:30 Post No.18727569
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i don't know what to call this so, just call it financial problem
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Hey /adv/ , I needed some help on where to get at least decent pay for drawing, like commissions and stuff because I tried before and well, it didn't get any attention. I am in a financial crisis right now and needed money to pay bills and rents. Is there, like another way to find money? And yes, I did try to find part time jobs but they all failed as they never called back like, a year now. Thanks in advance everyone.
Image file is drawn by me since I can't find a suitable image for this.
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>>18727569
Try asking /ic/, anon. As an artist myself i think you have quite a long way ahead of you before being able to make some decent $ from art, but that's just by judging the image. Do you have any recent, finished drawing that you could post?
Good luck tho <3
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yes i do actually. This is like, what I did a few minutes ago.
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>>18727586
>notsureifb8.png
That's not even gonna get you a furry porn commission desu
Better get an unrelated job and work on your art
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How on earth do you make conversation and flirt with a shy girl?
As someone who's into more silent and mousy girls, I just find it really hard to make conversation with them. I don't want to bombard them with a thousand questions, but they won't supply any conversation material on their own.
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You don't man shy girls are boring. Last time I went for one on the inside she was just like a cliche princess girl who literally told me she "liked diamonds".
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>>18727550
How do i make conversation AS a shy girl?
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How do I stop being autistic on the phone?
I'm having trouble understanding and having even simple coherent conversations. I forget basic grammar and language, fuck up gender (in my native language), interrupt the other, stutter or remain awkardly silent, hang up too early and most importantly, it's like my brain cannot register the fucking voice I hear more than mere sound/noise. I hear words but barely any information so if it's something important I'm fucking lost. Happens face-to-face as well in stressful situations or with authority figures but it sucks on the phone. Am I autistic how do I fix this i cant face the people after I talk to them on the phone like this
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go slow and breathe , everybody is autistic on the phone just calm down
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>>18727535
you may have a very subtle hearing problem