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>>18617241
The answer to life is 42 FYI
Killing yourself is useless it will just make someone have to clean up your shit , literally when you die you shit your pants and do you really wanna be that guy who the corner remembers as ramen shit guy ?

>>18617241
Why are you wanting to kill yourself?

I am in a similar situation, only it's my dad I don't want leaving behind. Every time I was almost at that suicidal breaking point I would think of my dad and I'd stop my harm, knowing life was worth living if it meant that my dad wouldn't have to carry the weight of my death on his shoulders.

I ended up calling him and opening up about this, and his response was essentially "If you really wanted to die, you would've done it by now".

It broke me for a bit. Felt sort of like my only "reason" for living gave me some sort of... permission to die? Or almost dared me to go through with it? ...Even though my "reason" has lost its value, if that makes sense, I still know I can't kill myself. It's easier for me to enter fits of despair and self harm without my dad as my motivation, but it's also easier for me to think realistically about how I can't pull the plug even if it's the last thing I think I want.

What I'm trying to say is...if your mother is your reason, then it must mean you were at least LOOKING for a reason.

Similar to how you can want to die without any clear reason why, you can also want to live without any clear motivation or goal. Although knowing "why" you barely want to keep existing helps you stay afloat, you've got to learn how to keep going without that "because" in your life.

I have to keep living "because" such and such.

"I have to keep living" is good enough. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket, especially one that is as unreliable and as ever-changing as another human being. It ends badly.

You don't need a reason to keep living, you just sort of... have to. I'll promise I will continue, maybe you can too.

Maybe nobody will understand why you want to die, maybe you won't either. You might not ever know what you WANT when you're alive, or why you are alive. Being alive is all you should do.

I just hope you can trust some random internet schmuck when I say I feel for you and I hope you make it.

>>18617204
He talked you into that shit?
As in coffeine its safe if you take in below the average dosis. So yes its safe.
As in sugar, coca cola has a lot aswell and i bet your person drinks that like a slut.

Personally i feel it gets unhealthy if you drink it every day or 2 and sometimes more than 1 a day

>>18617204
Of course it's safe tard just don't drink 16 per day , just like most things it's safe in moderation

>>18617219
>>18617227
She drinks alot of coffee and alcohol. qq
As I thought thanks for the responses guys!

yeah.

Take it to court, explain and show proof (especially since he just walked off without giving you a chance to actually find it), that part should be dropped especially since first offence

>75 in a 55
This alone is going to fuck you over. There is no excuse for going that much faster than the limit.

Sure as long as she understands it's bro love not sex love. Be Crystal fucking clear because you know she's going to assume it's sex love.

But also know this will more than likely kill any chance of possibly being in a relationship with her if you see each other more as siblings

Just say you love her like a sister, problem solved.

>>18617165
Fag just means person who likes dick ,you tard being bi means you like dick
>itt: am fagbro

Sorry man, looks like everyone around needs to die in a fire. There's no solving that problem (especially with a gun), so try to call helplines if you need the support.

Maybe return to this site when you're a little older than 15 and it won't be as big of an issue then

No. Unless
>you came on her belly and it ran down into her pussy
>she's secretly shoving your cum into her vagina when she goes to clean up
>she fucks someone on the side bareback

lol gtfo sandnigger

>>18617149
tell them to fuck off, if you want a a baby before marriage do it, marriage is just religiously fueled bullshit and means nothing. if you love each other than thats all you need

>>18617144
1) Yes, provided your job is in demand and wanted. If your job is highly sought after you can get a permanent visa, otherwise you will have to come down on a temporary visa and have an employer sponsor you.
2) Get an immigration lawyer if you plan to move you will need one, because you cannot seriously be telling me you thought being a "permanent resident" meant you had to own a house. It is a legal term for a visa that allows you to stay in the country indefinitely and apply for citizenship at a later date much like a green card in the united states.

>>18619835
Thanks boss

>>18617144
Most likely you'll be able to immigrate, just call the immigration office. I'm sure you will find much more info there than we could provide.

I used to jack it to "family nudism" pics (seriously, Google it (in private mode))
I stopped and moved on, just do the same

>>18617127
People are gonna be people. There's such a thing as morbid curiosity. Fuck, people in the middle ages used to cheer in stadiums as people got brutally murdered and they still managed to reproduce. The fact that you realized it's wrong to the point of feeling physically ill means you're not a bad person. There are people on this website who completely unironically want black people to die and think Hitler was a pretty alright guy. It's alright to have a kink for something. At least it wasn't as bad as rape. You're fine, anon. You realized it was bad. Most people won't give a fuck. Think about how sick a person has to be to film those kinds of videos. You're just someone who came across it and thought it was kinda hot. That's natural. You're alright.

This is coming from a girl, by the way. Not just some sick dude who's trying to justify his own freaky kinks.

If I were a potential girlfriend and you disclosed that to me I'd be gone. But I'm somewhat vanilla.

Nonconsent bullshit is for Muslims like their taharrush assault games.

Cut the shit, stop watching, and never tell a girl.

Or find someone else to roam the sexual fringe with you.

>>like half hour later she texts me a long ass message
>>She says everything she said was true, and that she's truly sorry, that she loves talking to me but doesn't want me to misunderstand, she doesn't want a relationship, she has a shit ton of work from uni and her head is somewhere else, also she hasn't gotten over her ex 100% so she doesn't want to have anything with anyone right now and that she's sorry if she hurt me in any way
>>I'm busy getting very drunk so i don't reply til the next day
>>I say it didn't bother me that much being stood up but her walking right in front of me without coming to me and say things to my face, that also i understand her situation and stuff, trying to be nice about it
>>She had a thing today so no reply yet
>What should i do? Why she was so nice to me? Why did she gave me a kiss if she didn't want anything
>I understand nothing bros, I'm lost here, don't know what to do, i really like this girl

what is wrong with you

she said she LOVES you and you're wallowing in your own neuroses?

Life isn't a movie
It shouldn't come out on the 3rd date

>It's just that I cannot initiate any kind of behavior that may lead to sex because it makes me so anxious and uncomfortable

>I have a low desire to have sex

does not compute with

>I'm getting to the stage where I need to take opportunities to have sex


Not everyone has a high sex drive, if you don't want to have sex then don't.

Hooker wouldn't solve that anyway, or at least it didn't for me.

I have the same issue and never really got over it, I can't flirt or make any advances towards woman, I feel so awkward and embarrassed.

My "solution" was just to find woman that had the same issue and bond over being awkward as all fucking hell.

>>18617117

stop caring, go volcel for a while, it's possible this is just a phase and you may find your sex drive taking a U turn some years down the line.

I have the same problem and have tried everything in the books, yes, even guys - it was nothing short of traumatic.

as anon said, just don't have sex if you don't want, there's all this social pressure and normies will never understand where you're coming from but, fuck them.

also, most importantly, you may benefit from a visit to a therapist.

Wrong board oops

>>18617085
ばかだ

>>18617085
>>18617086
/mlp/ is right over there

Shameless non-relationship thread bump

>>18617063
Always take care of your own health first, and don't play around with back or colorectal issues, those have a tendency to get worse over time If the issue isn't addressed.

>>18617349
Ugh I know you're right I'm just fucking bummed out, and don't want to take the semester off. Tough pill.

Move on. This is 100 percent DOA. You're better off at least having the truth if you can't have her.