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I made this post in /jp/ which I thought would be the most appropriate board but it was instantly deleted:

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Why can't I just approach people I like (not girls just friends) and be all outgoing and happy. I'm usually happy when I see someone I know and wanna talk but I suppress my urges because I know being nervous will make me look stupid.

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Not a very original problem, but this has intensified recently. Whenever I am not deeply occupied by work / sport, negative and mostly suicidal thoughts completely overtake my mind. Running is the only thing that makes me happy these days. How do you block these thoughts?

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Yesterday I quit masturbating in an effort to be more "spiritual" and "moral" (not nofap related) how do I not go back on my word?

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Dealing with laziness
I’m 24 years old and I’ve been lazy pretty much my entire life and it’s constantly something that’s holding me back. I’d like to think a relatively capable person when I actually set my mind something and I always excelled at school without much effort. At 18 I studied physics and astrophysics and flunked out after a couple years because I just didn’t really try. Spent some time bumming around living with my parents and working some basic ass jobs and a couple years I decided I needed to apply myself and applied to study an engineering degree. About to go into my final year having so far scoring Firsts in most of my modules (top of my class though it’s a relatively small class) but I’ve hardly put any real effort in to it and I barely turn up to classes.
I see people who are motivated and can just do things and its completely alien to me. Even the most basic shit like looking for a job over summer or planning to see a friend or even incredibly small stuff I just constantly put off until it either totally aggravates me or just goes away.
I know if I don’t shake this habit it’s gonna ruin my life. I’ll never do the things I could and want to be doing both career wise and fun wise (travelling or hobbies and the likes). How do you deal with this? I think one the biggest problems is I’ve never really HAD to try and I don’t know how to break a habit like that.

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I'm finding it difficult to find a normal customer service/minimum wage job to support myself through university

Is there any way to make money online?

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Well lads. I've done it, got a gf everything's fine she likes me i like her, her parents like me also, with a little problem, dad is a raging catholic. Yet he isn't casualy going to church and keep it to himself, he forces her to go to church even though she told him she's an atheist, he still forces her AND he is threatening to disown heh if she won't go every sunday. Once when she didn't go, he's shown what he can do, completly ignoring her, saying she's walking next to him not with him. It pisses me off and i can't stand it. Yet we can't do shit, we're 16 and if it helps someone answer me, we are from Poland. Plz halp

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Test

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I basically revolve around when I will next have something that will consume me be it vidya, drugs or alcohol. I mean it's bean some months since a video game has held me, which is arguably the healthiest, but even when it does I wake up in the afternoon and go to sleep early morning the next day. I've been pseudo spiritual ignorant but red pilled taking pattern recognition as 'synchronicities' from the universe so I feel like meditation could help focus and clear my mind.

My problem is I am a 24yrold neet who lives on a remote island and for the past two days I've been scraping out a grinder that has fuck all in to try feel something and the next time I get a few days work I will almost definitely spend it on booze that will last me a few days, any tips /adv/? Thanks in advance.

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Do any of you experience that defense mechanism where you subconsciously reject the persons who you care about when they get too close too you only to feel that comfort of not risking ?

I've recently had a situation where I started flirting with a girl who joined our mountaineer club, we went on this camping trip and got really close, she started flirting back but for some retarded reason I am not interested anymore even when I started flirting

It only then came to me that I did a similar thing with another girl a few months ago even though I had a crush on her for ages. I asked her on a date, we started dating and the first time she said she can't go on a date I took it as a firm "no", it was like I was expecting a "No" from a beginning and then just overexerted the false signs . She continued texting me for months(we still fucking text) but for some reason I just went over it and took it as she wants to be a friend. I am now going trough our recent texts and she is clearly flirting with me

What to do, I always get scared and back out in the last moment, and most of the time I do it subconsciously so that I don't even register it. I convince myself that either I do't want this or that the girl I like doesn't want me so I shouldn't bother

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I'm standing at a crossroad and want to hear some thoughts on the direction I can go. I'm bipolar and today is the first day I'm off pretty much all my meds. I'm 24 and have been on meds on and off since I was 15.

None of them have ever helped me and I've found being involved socially, exercising and a consistent schedule work much better for me. But I suffer more from the depression side of bipolar so it is tough for me to maintain these things, partially out of habit of not doing them and partially because of the depression.

The only pill that's ever made me feel *normal* was xanax. I really feel great when I'm on it, but I've had numerous doctors give me their opinion on my why it's not a good long-term treatment (tolerance build up, it's addictive, it's sedating).

So my choice now is to try to beat the depression on my own now that I'm off the pills or go back to a different, hopefully better psychiatrist who will actually treat for the depression or maybe put me on a benzo

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I think my neighbors smoke weed. I dont but the rooms in my apartment are smoky and smell like marijuana. Has anyone had this situation before? How do i deal with it?

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Seems im in quite the pickle.

>Girl im talking to confesses to me she killed her cousin
>Says shes gonna kill herself three days from now
>She doesnt want to go to jail and im the only one who she told any of this
>Try to explain to her she has a lot to live for
>She doesnt care and tells me shes not upset or sad or depressed shes at peace knowing it will all be over

What do? Do I let her go through with it she seems very content and happy.

I know if i stop her she'll end up in a cell but if she goes through with it....i wont ever see her again. Im lost boys.

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Why do all the thuggish blacks stay skinny and look 19 forever no matter what age they are

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How do i get rid of my negativity?