Just went on a 2nd date. Things went fine. We had some good laughs and I enjoyed her company.
Weirdly, though, I don't really want to have a 3rd date. Something about the whole ordeal didn't really grab me. We don't seem to have that much in common.
Anyone else feel lukewarm about good dates?
Yep.
Not to be a little bitch but I'm past the point in my life where I'd be okay carrying on with a girl just out of my own boredom. Sex without emotion doesn't do shit for me and I don't experience emotional attachment for a girl until we are pretty highly compatible.
So I was thinking of using a dating website. What are the pros and cons of each such as ie cupid or tinder?
I had fun with OKcupid for a bit. Typical of free sites tho for there to be a sea of dick pics to sift through. So if you're looking for a girl it can be tough to have your words be seen, and if you're a girl you're going to get a lot of nudes.
Otherwise if you answer as many questions as you can it will point you in the direction of a lot of interesting people. I'm a guy and I posted I was looking for anything (friendship.relationship.casual sex) and I ended up talking with at least a few new people a week, and went on dates with a handful. Made a few friends, too, was chill.
>Pros
???
>Cons
Good luck actually meeting any of then in person.
OkCupid is very useful for showing you how few people you match with.
Christ, it matched me to my sister 500 miles away. And all the other matches were people in my line of work. I tried going back and skipping most questions, still only matched a dozen people in the whole East Coast.
How do I get away with making a school that subliminally educates children for certain careers and lifestyles brave new world style under the guise of some literal Hogwarts type boarding school
You want to start a cult?
>>18620339
more like a scientific project
I have an ex girlfriend I can't get over. I realise that's partly because I check in on her social media presence. I've decided to never do that again (especially considering how hurtful it was the times I found evidence of her slandering me).
However, I also think that I need to get rid of the physical evidence of the relationship. Am I correct? The easy stuff I've already done, but the hard stuff is really challenging.
I've never looked at any of the cards she wrote for me since she left, and looking at them before I planned to destroy them held me back. So, would it be better to destroy/remove all reminders or not?
Finally, I have a problem with one very particular item. An expensive piece of jewellery I gave her during our relationship (the only thing of real, tangible value.) I don't want it, but have been hanging onto it incase she wants it back. Is this the right thing to do? If I get rid of it she can never have it back, but I can never give it to another girl. She chose to give it to me, to do as I see fit with it, but I'm torn between my morals (keeping it is the right thing to do incase she regrets losing it), and the reality of the item (I don't want it in my fucking cupboard anymore.)
Please note reconcilliation and a second relationship between the two of us is impossible. I'm not going to regret throwing out stuff she might be connected to incase she comes back, because I wouldn't accept her back. It's more that these items are the only proof I have left that she ever loved me.
Is the potential nostalgia of a failed romance years later worth keeping these for?
Or should I plunge through uncertainty to feel the satisfaction of emotional cleansing?
Thanks in advance for any serious answers. I've tried to make this as unemotional as possible.
has selling it crossed your mind? if it's been years, she won't want it back, dude. she probably doesn't even remember that you got it for her. sell it and keep the dosh for yourself. and yes, you're correct in thinking getting rid of the physical evidence of the relationship will help you move on. godspeed, anon.
>>18620652
Oh yeah, I meant to say that. Selling it seems the best solution. I could get a decent whack of cash for it, and although I don't need any extra money, I could definitely use some.
She's been gone for about a year and a half, but she never stopped talking to me, I did after she got engaged to her current fiancé and was still blocking and unblocking me. She's made attempts to reach out to me since then, and I suppose she might well do so again. The current group of people she spends her time with have threatened to harm and/or kill me and my family though, which is no small part of the puzzle as to why I don't see me ever speaking to her again.
I guess I'm keeping it because I know she gave it to me to hurt me and I'd hate for her to regret it. I've got rid of things I really wish I hadn't before and I'd feel bad if I realised I'd done that to someone else.
I was in a relationship for 2 and a half years, and when it ended I had a large shoe box full of correspondence, and keepsakes. It floated around in my life for the better part of 7 years because I didn't have the heart to throw it away.
I talked to her after a few years, and she still had a box of letters I had wrote, over the span of a year or two. About two years ago I made a nice little fire, and burned all of them and asked her to do the same.
We're not on talking terms at this point, there's too much baggage.
I do remember asking her about ti and she said, "it's about leaving a space for someone to come back to and reflect on who they were."
looking at those letters years later was really painful, because you become simultaneously aware of something that is both irreplaceable and functionally worthless, reminiscent of a time time that no longer exists.
I don't necessarily assert that what I did was right or wrong, but I do think holding on to those things reinforced some misguided sense of hope that I no longer believe is healthy.
These days I approach life from the perspective that the past is just that, and fixating on it does nothing to help you move forward.
About two years out from that I do feel better.
My vote is burn them OP, and don't look back.
Alternatively, stick em in a box and mail them back to her, but either way get rid of them.
I have a really old iPhone 4 that i bought from a friend years ago for cheap. Apple discontinued support for the iPhone 4 and so did most app devs. I need a new phone for business, and want to get an older model second hand android.
If i buy a second hand Samsung Galaxy S5 will it still be usable in a few years, or should i pay a bit more for a newer model? I'm looking to spend no more than 200 dollars. Are there any cheap smart phones that would be a better alternative?
S5 is probably too old at this point. Get something that's one or two generations old and buy it second hand from a moron who upgrades their cellphone every time a new one comes out.
Moto G5 Plus
https://9to5toys.com/2017/08/10/moto-g5-plus/
IPhone 5?
I went to Walmart today to get a screen protector for iPhone and they had a massive shelf for iPhone 5/5s, so you know you can still get decent selection on things. Supposedly iPhone 8 is out near Xmas, so iPhone 6 might be real cheap soon.
So I'm pretty fucking dense.
I ask a girl what she is looking for on tinder and she says that she likes a good conversation.
Is that it? I'm meeting her tomorrow and I'm hoping I won't be just a shoulder to lean on.
Go to girlschase.com and read what you need to know for your date tomorrow. free articles and they are great imo.
>>18620328
This sites fucking sweet. Thank you.
Opening a app and getting attention is pretty adicting, try grindr if you want to know how it feels.
>Be 18
>be ugly beaner
>kissless virgin beta faggot
>dont know how holding a girl hand feels like
>tried multiple times to get gf
>all 13 rejected me
>13
>be lonely and masturbate a lot
>cum in seconds
I need to change. wtf do I do
or should i just end my life?
Your funny
YOU GOTTA GET THOSE NUMBERS UP, THOSE ARE ROOKIE NUMBERS.
Seriously, 13 rejections could be accomplished in a single night at the bar once you're 21, or in a single sitting of swiping left and right on tinder.
I'm not that attractive, that well off, or that cool, but I still get a hit rate of like ~1 in 15, but it was worse when I was 18.
Talk to everyone, stop fixating on trying with someone specific.
>>18620326
Lost my confidence on relationship when literally all my friends said my last crush is ugly af. they all said i can do WAY better
>still reject me
yeah feels gud huh.
im a chill guy but ig women want a hot fucking chad
So my housemate / once best friend stole some jewellery ($500 worth), from me 6 months ago, covered it up with a fake & lied about it.
Then, 5 months later, a week before she was going overseas, she tells me she did it, she regrets it, and pays me back (she sold it on ebay to make rent or some bs).
I told her that I forgive her, but it's unacceptable & I'd be moving out while she was overseas (she was meant to be gone for 9 weeks).
Well, I had a pretty bad day the other day, and she heard about it through one of her friends & sent one of her friends around & asked her to go into my room and check if I was OK, I was fine, but I didn't appreciate her overstepping the boundaries, I very clearly told her to leave me alone and here she is overstepping boundaries from halfway around the world, so I sent her a message saying we're done, that I didn't trust her & wanted nothing to do with her.
Well now, a few days later, she came home from her trip 3 weeks early, no phone call or text, because she's 'worried', and I don't know what to do. How do I get rid of her? I'm not meant to be moving out for another two weeks, and I don't want to waste money on an airbnb because she is fucking crazy? Do I just cold shoulder her for the next two weeks? She's clearly fucking nuts (she was in Europe with her bf who was going on exchange for 6 months, and she's left him there to come home), she's always been a little clingy but this is crazy.
This question is for the ladies and/or gays here. Would you consider going out with a "big guy." I'm not gonna sugar coat it, I'm fat. I'm 6'0 280 lbs, I am legit big boned however. My stomach doesn't hang to my knees and I don't have a frog neck. I have a body guards body. Which is funny considering I work Security. I'm also not a dirty person. My job requires me to have good hygiene. Also people always tell me I'm very cute and have beautiful eyes, but they also say I have a baby face. I'm not socially awkward either. It's easy for me to make friends. I only ask because it's very hard for me to tell when a girl is being nice or flirty. I feel like that and not knowing how to respond has cost me a lot of potential relationships.
Photo for comparison, just minus the long hair
>>18620257
Not a woman or a fag, but a good female friend of mine is married to a guy like you (who is also a good friend). Some girls do like guys like you. Most don't, tho. So don't try to cater to those girls but rather to those who don't care much about appearance but look for other qualities you might posess.
I mean you just won't get 8+/10's is all
Like I see these types of physiques on hispanics all the time, and they step out of their tricked out Hondas with slutty Mexican chicks or whatever. Or the bald white biker dude dating a smoker thick chick.
Flirt it up niqqa
>>18620257
No because I like lanklets
Im a 24, soon to be 25 yr old male. Never had a gf. Never been laid. Never kissed, nothing. For some reason I tend to friendzone myself as in I never see a girl and go "I wanna be in a relationship with her" until after the fact but by then its too late anyways.
Im at a pretty comfortable point in my life, got a good job (engineer), make decent money, etc, but I dont socialize much. Weekdays are pretty much spent at work most of the day. I dont have any super close friends I hang out with so I dont go out much on weekends. Im also not a fan of bars of clubs, especially since I dont drink.
It would be cool to meet someone at work but there are no females around my age that work with me so that's not an option.
So basically, Im not sure how to meet girls at this point and not sure how to even approach them. Adv?
Dude go to girlschase.com and read. Great stuff there.
Try. If you fail (and you will) try again.
There is a maximum number of free articles you can read. If you want you can sub for a low amount of money. Worth it imo.
Go there and read, and do what it says! if you try hard enough you WILL succed. Up to you.
>>18620292
You will get a lot more info on that site than you will here bro. I fucked myself over with weed for the last 4-5 and havent spoken to any women.
i quit weed now and gonna get my life together and get what i want. I will try until i succed. You can do it too bro!
I watched Blackadder and realised I really want a woman like they were in that time period
How do I get a loyal 19th century gf?
One who will dress up as a man, make me fall in love with them, make me thing I'm gay, then relief me from going to hell by flashing their bare breasts towards me in a dramatic reveal?
Where is my 19th century princess?
>>18620249
>I watched Blackadder and realised I really want a woman like they were in that time period
First of all, there are four time periods Blackadder spans across. Secondly, I can't think of a single character in that show would would actually be desirable as a partner, male or female. What in the world actually inspired you to want someone like any of the characters.
>One who will dress up as a man, make me fall in love with them, make me thing I'm gay, then relief me from going to hell by flashing their bare breasts towards me in a dramatic reveal?
Bob/Kate wasn't a princess, you moron.
>>18620256
I said 19th century, ergo season 3
>>18620268
There is no Bob/Kate in season 3. She's in seasons 2 and 4.
Okay so I recently found out this "woman" I've been chatting with actually is a dude. I had my suspicions but didn't make much of it, what I wonder is: What does a dude get out of it? I'm not even mad, just confused.
I could understand if their victim buys them stuff or sends dick pics etc, but if that's not happening what else could the motivation be?
>>18620241
If you've never trolled someone it wouldn't make sense to you. It's ridiculously funny and never gets old. Catfishing is just a real life way of trolling. You get to make a simple meaningless (to you) thing and laugh as others waste massive amounts of time and possibly money taking it seriously.
Ive had a long history of dating crazy women who seem to be attracted to me and all my relationships had ended with me ending them after i get tired of all their drama and sorts. however over the past months i had met the sweetest girl i've been with and she treated me really well, doing many things just to make sure i felt pleasured. We both had to end our little thing as we were both in bad times in our lives and had many things to deal with by ourselves. are there girls out there that would treat me the same as she did or am i being too stupid to think this and lose hope of finding a sweet girl again? I'm afraid of even dating someone new cause they may turn crazy like my other exs, what should i do?
>>18620230
Stay single or go gay
I'm seriously thinking about suicide at this point. My first girlfriend for 4 years (from 11 to 15) died of a birth defect she got surgery for but didn't work anyway. I just found out last week that my ex girlfriend (we broke it off because she went to Europe and long distance wasn't working) died in a migrant attack on break from her university months ago. I've never had much luck with love and dating in general, and I loved them both with everything I had. How am I supposed to deal with this? I'm actually legitimately scared of trying to love. I don't think I can go through this a third time, but the loneliness feels like it's eating me away. What should I do?
Pic sorta related
Don't relate love with death, that is all in your head. Allow yourself to process the events without any superstitions attached
Just stop caring, harden yourself, someone will look through it and undo the hardening. Ha, that reminds me, my LDgf recently faked her own death so she wouldn't have to deal with me. So, I can kinda relate, mourning for your gf like that.
Fakeass /pol/ bullshit.
Okay /adv/
How do I leave this cesspool? I really want to get away from everything this whole website is, but constantly find myself toning back, whether it be just lurking or masturbating or going to my homeboard, /out/
I just really want to leave. Any tips?
>inb4 you're here forever
>>18620168
It's as easy as leaving.
You don't really want to leave, notice that you have a homeboard lol
You just do, I probably visit /adv/ and /g/ maybe once every few months.
Eventually your mind gets tired of all the fuckery... Things aren't as funny anymore, participating in discussions gets bland and repetitive, and you realize this website other than a few gems is really just a piece of shit.