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I feel I should also add that the self-interested part doesn't apply to the couple people I really, really care about in my life. When It comes to any of them, I feel I'm not so much of an asshole, and it's OUR best interest I keep in mind, not just mine.

Not really. For most people it's the other way around, when they're young they are self centered in the purest sense of the word and just do not fully grasp that other people have emotions and interests as much as they do. Then as they grow older they mellow out, they realize how much shit many people have been through, that even shitty behavior is usually beyond their control (shit childhood, shit personality, whatever) and not exactly a gleeful conscious choice to be a cunt. Plus they become less sensitive and less ego-driven so on top of having more and refined empathy, they just care less about what others say to or think of them which makes it easier to keep your cool and shrug things off.

>>18621967
I think it just wears off, I'm asshole as fuck and have been since junior year, now I'm starting to mellow out cause while I'm a douche, I see it's easier to just be indifferent about others rather than being an outright ass

How old are you?

>my SO might leave me because I don't have time for them

If you are under the age of 30, don't let anyone hold you back. Woman are easily replaced, the years you spend with them are not.

>>18621965
under 20

p sure you've got to stop watching porn altogether. can still fap, but no more porn.

>>18621958
I've managed to cut it down to as little as possible but even having access to the internet means cutting it out altogether feels like an impossible task.

Of course, probably worth continuing to try.

>>18621999


ey anons can someone with a penor confirm this pls?

>>18621937
Looks sort of like this:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shin_(letter)

>>18621926
Sit next to her and chat

>>18622007
how to start convo ?

>>18622013
Talk about something class related

>>18621889
Mug people on the street.

Send them to the same emergency room.

>>18621889
why can't you work?

>>18621889
Get disability.

>>18621845
>It has been four hours since I left the voice message.I am thinking about sending an email too?
Stalking the guy before he even hires you.
What a great way to start Anon

>>18621896

his contact details were on the business card though?

so what you're saying is just wait and see if he calls back?

>>18621927
Leave it a week lad.

>>18621826
That's called adolescence. You're realizing your past failures and they're filling you with anxiety, guilt and/or depression. The good thing is that these are fleeting emotions, so long as you use this experience to guide yourself to improve.

Think about what caused your friends to disassociate with you, or what led to social failures. Really think about what caused it, because 99% of the time it's because you let it get under your skin.

Monitor how you act in public, or with people you see now and then. Don't moderate your behavior, at least not at first - really take it in, and see how some of your mannerisms or general behavior can put others off.

>>18621900
I'm not an adolescent I'm 24

I have pretty much been alone for the past year because I don't have friends and can't make any new ones

>>18621826
I know it's easy to say and harder to do but you have to go out and socialize. Only you can do anything about this problem. Interact with people more, think about your things less. Even if you want to make friends don't leave home with that thought on your mind; leave home with the thought that you have to feel yourself good and if that requires socializing then do it. It's not a 100% what with time you will forget about these past mistakes, these 'friends' and failures, but you can always replace these memories with newer and better ones.

I'm not really a big help as I am suffering from a problem like yours. I started visiting a psychologist and the therapy was a big help for me. If nothing works out then it's worth to give a try and search for professional help.

>>18621752
Try looking for 30 year old single moms of teenagers.

Girls don't care if you have your shit together. Either you're Chad Thundercock, or you are rich enough to buy the whole plot of land her neighborhood is in.

No one cares if you're okay in life. Sucks, but it's the truth. Women are trashy human beings.

A lot of girls will say: "If I wasn't riding a fat cock every night I would definitely marry you!"
They don't mean it. It's just like you telling your uggo female friend she is pretty when you know she's not, to make her feel a little better.

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>>18621774
forgot pic he's my mentor

>>18621786
Well, I have a girlfriend, so your argument is invalid.

Do you hang out with girls in a platonic sense? If not, that's why. It's also an age thing. Try to get involved in more mixed-sex activities.

>>18621731
bring back sasuke

>>18621782
I have a gf, and she really doesn't let me talk to girls.
>>18621785
),:

>>18621730
>im super depressive
become super aggressive

Get buff, it helped me out. Dress better, adopt better posture and if you feel up to it confront them to assert your dominance.

>>18621730
schizophrenia wouldn't be caused by people bullying you, so get that idea out of your head.

I thought that about me as well several years ago. Then I noticed that I was good at learning to learn and everything changed. It's all in developing a flexible, analytical and at the same time fast processing brain. These things reduce dramatically the learning time for everything. The thing is that most people learn just by instinct and forget about using time effectively. Also, forget being good at something right off the bat, even the geniuses need to practice. That said, do you have any benchmark to prove it? Some people, myself included, tend to underestimate their achievements because of what they know what they should be doing and how, but for some reason still can't (most of the times it's because of lack of practice), and at the same time they forget what they accomplished so far

>>18621689
Looks like hand.

Go to doctor.

will only go downhill from now anon

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>>18621644
Will I get baby peach fuzz soon?

I'm 25, and mine has just started to come in. Could happen to you. If it hasn't happened by 30, though, you should come to terms with it.

I'm a 21 F dating a guy like this. I love him to death, but the trust issues are probably the biggest issue. Always put things in perspective. One of the problems with this is that my boyfriend would accuse me of cheating, or that this guy likes me but then would get upset when I got upset. After the questioning happening all the time, I would break down in tears. Not because I did cheat or anything, I didn't. But just the fact that he doesn't trust me. This ended up with him thinking that because I got upset it meant I was hiding something. Not all people react the same. Not all women are the ones you've met, but there are crazy woman. If someone cannot believe that- stay away. However, your reasoning and experiences are validated. When approaching a topic with someone like this, don't try to be so defensive. And please, please, please, don't always say "Well ____ did this!" Because then I started to think I really was doing something wrong even when I didn't. It's okay to feel this way, just try to keep it proactive and healthy. It will make you feel better if someone feels like you can come to them, and when given a healthy response should in turn make you feel better. The more defensive and aggressive my boyfriend got, the less I even wanted to discuss these things. Good luck friend!!!

>>18621660
Im definitely not at that level,I was like that after finding out my ex slept with another guy on my birthday, granted I should have dropped her right then,but being 2 years into my first legit relationship, and having serious attachment issues, I decided to stay with her,but I acted like your boyfriend and it only further eroded the relationship, so I know not to behave that way, however I'm now at a point where im very apprehensive to even consider getting into a relationship and have already turned down a few girls (I'm intelligent and handsome) thats my current issue