My downstairs neighbor smokes in his apartment and the smell is starting to get into mine. These are supposed to be nonsmoking apartments. I don't want to snitch on the guy because he seems like a nice dude but I'm not going to live with it either. He was smoking outside but now it's getting colder so he's doing it inside. What can I say to get him to go back the fuck outside.
Bust down his door and stick a gun in his mouth, tell him if he ever smokes indoors again next time itll be your dick in his mouth
You can try making up some shit about how your pet is allergic to smoke and it's getting into your apartment. That's all I can really think of that's not going to make you seem like too much of a pussy so hopefully you have some sort of pet. You could also say that you're allergic to it too I guess but that's a pretty big lie that could get found out pretty easily but it could work.
>>18728481
Mind your own business. The smell isn't strong and it leaves after a few minutes of not smoking lol. Literally mind your own business.
Why do people think if you're single it's cause something is wrong with you or because you want to be single?
Why don't people believe in bad luck?
Anyone?
Not even a casual insult?
It's because there's something wrong with you.
How do I know if a girl wants sex or relationship ?
Do I always have to ask her ?
Is it rude to flirt with a girl if I just want sex and I don't know her intention ?
Is there general guidelines on all this ?
>>18728458
>How do I know if a girl wants sex or a relationship?
Look for hints that she does to peak your interest (e.g. You touch her hand and see how she reacts). Assume she is inteested unless she tells you no or backs off. OH AND IF SHE SAYS NO, JUST BACK OFF.
>do I always have to ask her?
Not always, but girls learn from a young age not to act slutty. So, yes...due to society's pressure you have to make the first moves.
>Is it rude to flirt with a girl if I just want sex and I don't know her intention ?
No. Some girls just want meaningless sex sometimes. Just don't make it a big deal. In fact...hold off a relationship until you've known her for 60-90 days. You DON'T have to fuck. But if you do, and she asks. Be clear on what you want.
>Is there general guidelines on all this ?
I have gotten some information from other guys. As well as some girls. There are some places online that give good information. Just keep looking if you're interested.
Trust me, I started looking hard once I turned 26 tfw-no-gf. But, there are good dating resources out there.
>>18728582
Thanks !
That's cool, could you give me a few links ?
No guidelines, you figure it out. Unless you are legitimately autistic you can learn through experience what's what. Think about how you would explain to some alien how to befriend someone, when to know if someone enjoys your company, when they are joking etc. It all sounds crazy complicated when you think about it, yet you do it all the time. Human beings are designed to pick up on social cues.
Asking is possible but it depends on the situation. Basically whether or not you have to really verbalize your intentions depends on whether or not you give a strong impression for one or the other. If you ask someone out on a date, take her to a cutesy coffee place, and talk for hours about your childhood and what you look forward to in the future... then yes the onus is on you to specify if you're only looking for something casual, or she'll feel like you lead her on. If you run into this girl in a bar, ask her to accompany you to another bar, and there you get drunk together and make sexual innuendos, then you don't have to let her know that you're not going to introduce her to your mom some day. This doesn't 100% rule out false expectations, but if someone is simply not reading the situation right that's not on you.
The same applies to others' expectations. If you are sleeping with a girl you don't want to date, but she is going all out with couple-y things and makes you breakfast whenever you stay over, wants to hold hands all the time, texts you "just thinking of you" things and so on... then you should tell her (again, if you already did just that) that you aren't going to be a couple.
Basically you have to correct her/give a nudge in the right direction if you can tell that you don't seem to be on the same page. Sometimes this just isn't necessary at all.
It is not rude to flirt when you want sex. Flirting (loosely!) implies attraction, nothing more.
I have ~95% hearing loss in my right ear.
If someone is on my right talking to me, I can't hear them so I always have to sit to their right, or walk to their right, etc.
It makes it pretty stressful in new social situations because I don't want to just announce "HEY GUYS I HAVE NO HEARING ON MY RIGHT SIDE", and I feel like people think I'm lying when I tell them I'm hearing impaired.
If someone is talking to me I have to turn my head so that my left ear is toward them and if I'm in class or at work I often don't hear people and they think I'm ignoring them.
When I do explain myself I feel like people are more likely to avoid me because it sounds like an excuse or a pain to deal with it.
Is it weird to explain to people early on that I can only hear through one ear?
pic unrelated
>>18728437
yes just wear a helmet and people will think youre super fucking retarded but will be pleasantly surprised to find you're just a vegetable.
No one cares. Tell them so they know.
Update about my friend P for the people following!
It was his birthday yesterday. I texted him happy day and that's it. Im giving his space and didn't text him afterr. Then he was texting me and later on asking if I was okay and hoping I wasn't pissed off. He was at a wedding and told me he really wanted to talk about this face to face and I said no at first but I felt bad because it's his bday, I just said if it makes him feel better I can so I picked him up when the wedding was over, he didn't even talk about the subject, was kissing me and touching me. Then I asked him and he just said he's bad texting and on the phone, he was annoying with me texting him days prior and then yeah that's how he felt. then we went to one of His friends house and like five of his friends were there. We stayed for like an hour. I started being a little more talkative (baby steps) but he was kinda acting like we were a couple. Ithink two of
His friends finally started liking
Me a tiny bit. Went to his house and I slept over and gave him a blow job. It was his birthdays and I just pretended like I didn't care about us being just friends haha. Idk it's weeird Bc I can tell he really does care about me and clearly I do for him. So it sucks that's all this is but its also confusing. He saw a guy text me and I could see him get Jealous and be like who's that do you hang
With him?
Well I'm not rejecting other guys for him since he doesn't wanna be with me I'm just scared he's gonna get mad if i find someone else and then stop the sexual stuff with him ya know
Any feedback is appreciated
>>18728370
Also I was surprised he brought me
Around his friends again after how awkward I was last time... And he just said "we need you to be social we have to go there" and I was just like damn he cares about me and wants me to
Grow as a person and doesn't care how awkward I would act
so what do YOU want with P? a relationship, friendship or a fwb status?
>>18728370
You sound cute OP ;)
24yo khv, can't even bring myself to talk to girls anymore. Got rejected or disappointed too many time and now I couldn't even give a fuck anymore about getting a gf or sex. I kinda just want one so people don't think I'm as much of a weirdo as they do now.
How do I motivate myself to do something I know will only disappoint me and that I lack all desire for atm? At this point I'd honestly be fine with dieing a virgin if people didn't judge me for it.
>>18728357
>be fine with dieing a virgin if people didn't judge me for it.
seriously? who cares what other people think. I don't know what "khv" means. Dating is a numbers game. No offence, but maybe you're trying to punch above your weight?
Motivation wise, nothing like getting your dick wet, also sharing experiences with another human being is like food for the soul.
>>18728423
>who cares what other people think
t. service industry worker who has never had a white collar professional career or a trade
>>18728423
Yeh I'm probably trying to punch above my weight, but fuck I'm 200lbs 6'4" and I work out regularly, buy nice clothes, am educated with a job... If having an ugly face means I need to settle for fatties then I'd rather chemically castrate myself on the spot.
So I'm in my final full year of college and basically college has been the most stressful experience of my life, but that's nothing special or unique I know. I've been basically bottling it up and pressing it back to just "power through" for 4 years now. I started seeing the "free" college therapist (aka paid for in tuition anyway), but I'm only gonna be here another year and due to the traffic the counseling center gets from all the other uni students going through the exact same bullshit as me, I can only see her like, once every other week. I'm pretty sure I can't undo 4 years of shit in that short of time.
I can go into detail on what all my specific worries are if anyone wants to take a crack at me in another post but anyway
>TL;DR
What does a broke ass, unemployed/working paycheck to paycheck, debt ridden person do for mental health services post college? Assuming with no insurance.
Also, I want to know what happens if I were to actually admit to my therapist I sometimes consider suicide, or that I self harm in any way? Is that an immediate trip to the psych ward? I don't want to be hospitalized, I've got too much homework for that shit.
Finally, are eating disorders considered self harm? Once again, would talking about the fact I've got anorexic eating patterns get my ass sent to a hospital?
What is a therapist required to report to law enforcement or something? I know they've gotta be mandated reporters. I just wanna know what I can and cannot say to them if I value my freedom. If anyone is a professional, please chime in.
bump :(
>>18728354
I wish I could help more, but for your last question, therapists are required to report suicidal ideation is you go into detail about method and timeframe. Being general means they won't report you, but be prepared for that to be their main focus (as opposed to the issues that caused it and probably matter more to you). I'm not saying you can't get them to talk about the other stuff, but it might be more effort than you want.
>>18728772
Gotcha, thank you that's what I really wanted to know.
So like if I just say "sometimes I feel like I don't want to live anymore" that's ok, but something like "If I don't feel better by next week I'm gonna shoot myself" would get my ass sent to psycho jail.
But yeah you're right, it's probably not worth bringing up unless I am actually gonna do it anyway.
gf tells me she did some modeling when she was in college. no nudity, just ads for like chips and soft drinks. is this a red flag or am i just insecure about something. please help, this ex model thing doesnt sit well with me.
Could you elaborate on why it doesn't sit well? Do you not believe her about the non-nudity? Sounds like just a job for money -- college kids need day money.
no she dropped that hint because she wanted to make you feel insecure.
>>18728350
Have you seen her work?
Why do girls get weird when you stop dating them?
I went out with a girl recently and we broke up after a few months. Breakup was mutual and while we didn't get on badly we had a lot of different tastes so I think it was a good time to end it.
But basically, Girl has made me find the whole situation quite awkward. I accidentally bumped into her a about two months ago and tried to make some small-talk rather than pretending I didn't see her. She seemed really awkward even talking for 5 minutes so I left it there. I text her a few weeks later to ask how she was doing but she didn't respond.
I'm a bit annoyed because it makes me think she thinks I was pestering her because I still want to be with her. I don't. It was more me trying to keep things calm as I would rather not have things end with both us disliking one another.
I won't bother contacting her again but back to my question: what makes girls get really weird when you stop dating them? Pretty much all the girls I've dated have done something similar.
Answer honestly, do you have the autism
It's awkward when you've had an intimate relationship like that and are no longer in that intimate relationship. Even if it's not like you hate the person, it's still weird.
This is why relationships usually kill friendships, and it's naive to think you can still be friends just the same as you were before after. That's not to say its impossible to be friends, but it's extremely difficult and unless you had a particularly lengthy/strong friendship before the romantic feelings developed, it's usually not worth the effort to maintain.
If you really want to maintain the friendship, your best bet is to give space for now. Immediately after is the hardest time, it's at peak awkwardness. After some time/space they might come back around after cooling off. Or they might have decided it's not worth trying to work through and not come back around at all.
>>18728353
i'm not op but yeah I have autism why?
I'm 18 and I have nothing to do.
>no friends
>no money
>no car
>no school
>no work
>no computer or console
>waiting til the end of the year to be deployed
>waiting to start my driving tests
>trapped in a small town with nowhere to go
All I've done is wait my whole life.
I'm trapped. Its been this way for months. I have no opportunities to leave my home. Its become a prison more than it is my home.
I don't want to be alive anymore.
I'm so fucking depressed and I am going insane.
Add nobody to talk to on that list too
>>18728301
I can relate anon, I was and somewhat still am in that situation. First, you need to start valuing yourself and exclusively yourself. Build your self esteem, do things you love, don't hate yourself so much. Next you need to find a job because otherwise literally none of that shit will matter. If you have too much time on your hands you won't be able to enjoy anything, all your hobbies will fade away and you'll lose interest in everything, and become more depressed. Volunteer for shit if you have to, but you really need something to occupy your time. After you get those two figured out, everything else will more or less fall into place but those two should be your main priority.
Or, if you're not willing to put in that much effort, you can buy an exit bag off amazon.
>>18728301
also
>no work
Im sure your local shithole bar where the junkies hangout needs a dishwasher, or the fast food places. Theres usually something in small towns, even if its shit-tier.
>no car
Nigger walk.
Been diagnosed with aspergers and I'm in a criminal trial over weed in Australia.
I find it extremely difficult to talk out loud.
I was suppose to ask for my phone back on three prior hearings although because of the stress I just forget, I'm suppose to be defending myself.
Options?
>>18728297
How bad is the charge OP?
Don't you have a lawyer? Might need to declare yourself mentally incompetent to stand trial or need some sort of assistance.
Wow Australia is retarded
Hey guys, need brainstorming help.
Short version of my story:
> Meet girl on OKCupid
> I really like this girl
> We hook up
> I'm Lance Armstrong and Tour de Francing that shit
> Next morning she decides to pay for her own lyft to work, and silently declines my offer to pay for her shit or drop her off
> Brief hug good bye and takes off
>Haven't heard from her since; and I'd really love to go on another date with her and get to know her better
>I can see her fitting in with my group of friends based on interest and personality type
Long version:
> Her profile is short and reads "I'm a simple girl looking for some fun"
> I'm expecting some slut
> We meet up and she seems poker faced; I can't tell if she's actually into me
> We're walking around the park, grab dinner, she offers to pay, she's telling me how she's really enjoying my company
> It clicks in my head why she's poker faced; she doesn't express emotions all that much kind of like myself.
> Ask her why she's on the site
> "My gay friend I've been telling you about has been pushing me to try speed dating, online dating, and all this shit but I hate it. Guys are all creeps. He even was the one who wrote my profile to begin with. It originally said, "If your dick is cold, I have a box that could keep it warm." And so many creep have been blowing up on my box with dick pics"
> "Oh, so if I had sent you a dick pic would you have gone out with me?"
> "Depends on how you did it. If you were funny about it maybe. But I like to be coy. One time some guy asked for a pic of me in my bra. So I sent him a picture of a picture of me with my bra on top of the pic haha" Anyway why are you on there?
> "I like meeting new people, but it's generally harder to do so when you're out of college. I want a girl I can get along with and hang out with. Not necessarily something serious right away but I just need someone who's cool."
> "Yeah I feel you on that one. I just want a guy who appreciates my sense of humor."
>>18728295
Cont...
>We're spending the rest of the time ranting about shitty dating experiences and how we're on the brink of deleting that app
> Night is getting late, I offer to take her back to her place
> She declines, saying stalker issues in the past
> OK, I can drop her off somewhere and she can take a lyft home. Or A lyft home from my place
> Either doesn't matter; I'm sure I'll hang out with you again
> Take her home to my place and we hang out
> She brings up how she's gonna be tired for work the next day because she feels like she's going to make bad decisions with me all night
> I look her in the eye and tell her, "You wanna roll that dice?"
> She smiles briefly, then pulls me in, we start fucking
> she's amazed how I'm doing despite not fucking for a year
> I'm giving her all I can possibly do
> she's really amazing in bed
> After we're done she asks why I decided to bring her back so soon
> I told her I overthink and was afraid if I didn't show her I liked her, she'd friendzone me
> She sarcastically jokes how I was this close to getting friendzoned
>We try getting sleep all night but my bed is uncomfortable. So we cuddle and are half asleep
> alarm rings, she silently declines my offer on dropping her off to work, needing a sweater, or whatever the fuck from me.
> She pays for her own Lyft/Uber to work
> Half hug good bye as she takes off
> Text her later "Thanks for letting me take you out last night. I really enjoyed it. Hope you're having a good day."
>haven't heard from her since
> Follow up 3 days later asking when I'd see her again because she's fucking rad
> no response yet
Senpai. What's my play? Did I fuck up anywhere? I'm not looking for a relationship right now but a returning customer is always always always a welcome thing. Especially when they're hella chill
Help?
sit tight, next move's on her
Very short, very easy - I think I'm done.
Nothing good happened to me these past few years and I'm seriously considering just doing it seeing how little possibilities I do have to change myself/my life at the moment.
I am a useless fucking retard.
How the hell are you still keeping it up?
Is picture related any good for removing my retardation? Are there any better choices for it?
>>18728262
You need to elaborate more on your situation. I lose hope just like you sometimes. Recently something happened, which left me devastated and in catatonic stage for days. What I'm saying you gonna get through, somehow. After a long dark night a dawn always comes.
>>18728275
Sad to hear the whole story anon, I hope you are better now.
>You need to elaborate more on your situation.
Crap, sorry. To make it as short as possible:
I'm near the age of becoming more or less a self-dependent person. I'm easily a 3/10 person with a terrible looks and crappy personality making many people not like me very much. I have health issues on top of that which makes me stay away from 90% of things (allergies and shit). I'm currently studying a thing which doesn't really interest me anymore and I have no way of changing it. I was working in at least three jobs this year alone but always got kicked out after a month or two for no good reason. My family hates me. All personal relationships I had with other are down the grinder. I'm a cuck as well - all three relationships I had ended with being cheated on. I was trying to find stuff to work at so I could take my mind of this. Sadly, I suck at most things so the actions I've taken only made me more miserable. Once, I've decided to write something so I could better express myself but I suck ass at using words and putting my thoughts on paper. Things surrounding me are telling me constantly that there is no chance in hell I can be happy/productive/interesting/good to myself any time soon and my clock is ticking. Therapies and drugs does nothing to me anymore, hell, I think I'm starting to have memory loss on top of that and I'm very afraid of such shit.
>After a long dark night a dawn always comes.
I was hearing the similar thing over and over for a past couple of years now from the mouths of the different people and I really can't believe it anymore. It starts to feel more like a wishful thinking thing then an actual achievable and reliable elements. Or at least - it feels like this to me. Maybe such a thing never worked for me in the first place.
If anybody needs more info - ask away. I don't think I have anything to hide anymore.
tried to kill myself last year. succeeded, but got found and saved. find that one thing that really makes you want to die and figure out whether you can live without it.
working drives me to suicide, so I'm trying to get disability and bleed my relatives of cash in the meantime since they're rich and don't want me to try again.
I would say that post-suicide I still have given up on living, but that doesn't mean I can't still exist in life, seeing as there was nothing in death. embrace nihilism, I suppose.
Hey /adv/, first time posting here.
So I'm moving across the USA as I am writing this and a lot of shit has gone down for me. I feel like I need to do something with my life as of now (commit my self to something I wanna do) but I usually just abandon thing. I'm hell'a young, will I just find my place? I really don't know.
no you're not just going to fall into something and be happy
There is no substitute for hard work
Dont do drugs
Push yourself constantly
Any work you put in now will pay off ten fold years down the line.
These are all things you knew anyway
>>18728261
Solid. I wish I grew up knowing this.
how do you get a job as a barista when you're ugly?
>>18728237
HOW DO I GET A JOB ANYWHERE
I got a degree in something everyone would consider "useful" but it's all a lie
No one in my field is hiring and no retail or fast food jobs will call me back
>>18728257
I don't even have a degree, and to make it worse
>Im a trapanon who doesn't pass
at least I don't go to interviews in drag, but it makes explaining the shoulder length hair kinda hard...
>>18728260
Put on a fake beard and man bun your hair for interviews lul