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Drugs?

>>18728712
Go ask a girl you know/like out/ tell her you love her.
This will help.
Otherwise listen to sad music while your doing it can recommend joji medicine (9 min version)
never forget you by fin evans
too much too soon by seba
nothing can replace you by seba

>>18728766
I'll be listening to music when I do it, I was thinking that fatiguing myself beforehand might help to cloud my mind. The problem I have is hanging on to see if things get better. Because the problem is inherent in me, they never will. I need to overcome that urge to cling on somehow.

Yup. I've gotten to the point where when I get those rare random boosts of motivation I drop whatever it was I was doing and immediately jump on doing as much as I can as long as I can until the motivation wears off. Second I even get the inkling, the mere thought of "doing this necessary but otherwise boring thing doesn't feel like the end of the world at this second" I take advantage. Even if I was in the middle of something else. I wouldn't just go to sleep, even if I was tired, I'd get shit done until it wore off and then go to sleep.

But, those bursts are rare and don't always correspond with due dates.
For me the stick just seems to be a better motivator than the carrot, unfortunately. Whenever I have like, school work for example, I usually put it off till the last minute, which stresses me the fuck out, and that stress and fear of failure is the motivation to kick my ass into gear and start studying/working.
I have my calendar out on my wall, very prominently displayed so I cannot ignore it. When I see something is due the next day my thought process is usually as such:
>If I don't turn that assignment in on time, I'll fail the class
>If I fail the class, I'll have wasted the $600+ I paid for it.
>If I fail the class I'll have to retake the class, meaning I'll miss my graduation date and have to spend even more money on my degree.
> I don't have any more money, therefore I'll just have to drop out and never get my degree, and therefore I'll be forced to do slave wage jobs for the rest of my life, having to choose between food and electricity every other month, and never having any savings for emergencies and such.
Then I scare myself so much I just get the fucking work done so I don't have to live in that state of existential dread.

Is it exaggerated? Yes. It's not very healthy either, I don't exactly recommend it, but it works. Fear has always been a very effective form of motivation tho. That's why politicians and religion uses it to control the masses

That's the problem with motivation, it never lasts. What you want it discipline - it lets you do anything motivation helps with regardless of your state of mind. What you want to do in order to see real progress is to become better at creating good habits. It doesn't matter if you start off small, what's important is that you create a routine and just stick to it, then just incrementally increase the intensity.

>>18728678
You didn't feel lucky that you landed a huge amazon? she could have carried you around on her back everywhere you went.

>>18728923
this

wth man, distorted face or not, you scored big time - literally

Post a pic of a woman similar to how she looks like

>>18728675
My garage is connected to my house, so the heat from the house keeps the garage warm enough that I've never had to scrape ice off from there. I don't know what the situation is if the garage is a separate building.

You should still have an ice scraper/snow brush in your car though, in case you need it if you keep your car parked at work or something for hours while it's snowing.

>>18728690
Oh, also you'll probably still need to clear at least part of you driveway in the morning to get your car out, assuming that's not taken care of by some apartment service.

>>18728690
They're an individual row, so not attached to a heating building. So it's like a row of 12 garages, across from the apartments.

>>18728693
They take care of it somewhat. It's an apartment complex, so they do plow it.... sort of. Sometimes they plow it and trap the cars in. Gives me a place to keep a shovel.

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Why don't you join the fuckin Marines?

Go to the library or some shit or go to your friends house.

Okay, I'm an oldfag or whatever you wanna call it. I was probably first of the people, who got cyberbullied with help of technology. I was filmed, when I was doing normal stuff in school, but I had serious issues with shyness, and low self-esteem, it felt horrible. Before that I got betrayed by one of my best friends which hurt me most. This led me to lose faith in humanity for almost a 5 years, and it was difficult for me to find true friends. Thing is, if you are tired of your family then avoid your family, find something productive to do so that you don't spend too much time home. Start playing sports, study at the library, go to friends house. Just spend as little time at home as possible. If someone asks just say that you've got complicated family situation and can't invite people right now. Trust me sooner or later things will turn better, but you need to believe in yourself and work towards it yourself.

he's in love.

>>18728622
This is normal patient doctor interaction.

>>18728646
"normal"
>>18728641
I suspected so.

>>18728616
As somebody who wanted to die because they felt like a worthless failure and that I was a just a pest to everyone and a burden to society:

I don't know.

I'm feeling better now that I've made some improvements on myself, but there's nothing anybody could've said to me that would've made me feel better. The problem was that, objectively speaking, that self-criticism wasn't far off the mark.

''Walk the talk''
either kill yourself or dont but dont go around screaming your head off that you want to die

>>18728892
>I'm feeling better now that I've made some improvements on myself, but there's nothing anybody could've said to me that would've made me feel better.

What if someone told you to improve and offered to help you do it?

>>18728609
For #3:
Start building a portfolio

>>18728609
>gets $50,000
>doesn't want to build a pc

Get with the program plebian.

>>18728621 #
Holy shit I never thought of that

Lol its fine. Nobody cares about that shit. Dont worry and keep boning her.

>>18728589
I know this is /adv/, but I copy and pasted it from /b/ obviously. My bad

>>18728589
>she says shes on birth control so no rubber
Baka. You're depending on her honesty, and competence at using Birth control, for your life not get fucked.

>>18728578
That's a ticket to PTSD when you get deployed, destroyed relationships when she gets tired of waiting for you, and AIDS if yo7 EVER fuck a stripper. Chad is inside every one of us, you just have to do Metabolic Conditioning, get some confidence in your accomplishments, and never make excuses, only results.

Thats funny because a marine friend of mine has been through 3 stripper wives.

>>18728578
Yes.
I've seen it happen 3 times. You get more benefits if you are married and have kids.

1st instance.
Dude I know from high school joins marines after being in that stupid ROTC program. Goes to boot camp, 9 months after has a kid.

2nd instance.
Dude I know from high school again, he fucked up pretty badly so he resorted to marines. Goes to boot camp, comes back, next thing I see he's engaged to a junior still in school.

3rd instance and the one that really hits home.
My sister dating a guy who after high school goes to the marines.
During the time he was at boot camp he would send her letters and stuff she dug it. He one day out of the blue comes in his uniform and she's gets all happy. Later though, they start to discuss the future. As a marine you have to be deployed 4 years to reap any benefits. My sister was smart and said she wouldn't wait for him. In a desperate measure he comes to our house and proposes to her. He even takes off his dog tags and throws them into bushes to "show" he's serious. My sister still says no. They end there.

Not even a fucking year later, like 5-6 months dude gets married to some other girl. So that's when I figured it out, Marines do it for the money. My sister was nothing but a pay check to him. Love her. She's smart.

>>18728561
Why do you put all your life and hopes in your work ?

>>18728573
Well, Long story. Since 16 I did a lot of drugs and parties, and I grew up in a ghettoy area. I decided that I need to put on my big boy pants, and improve myself cause no one else is going to do it for me.

I was the first of my family to graduate high school school on time. I have a degree, and a diploma in engineering...and I think have a PhD would make me feel personally accomplished. As well, I have learned a lot on improving my life in those years. I worked for an oil company for one year, and I have no debts.

Because of the oil crash, it's been rough to find work, and also, I spent 8 years in school, so It doesn't feel good that I have to work in any other kind of industry (Even though I do, I'm a cook currently)

Being an empty shell that has predictable reactions aka no real personality just monkey see monkey do people

>>18728986
You forgot the alcohol

>inspiration and invitation
aka share your feelings and ask questions

aka exactly what we do here

>>18728511
Shaving in the shower works for me. I use no cream or foam when Under the shower. Whenever I am in a hurry though, I just shave with foam at the sink and always get razor burn on my upper lip.
When I shower I first brush my teeth and then shave so it doesnt cut to much into my time in the morning.

Peel it off at skin level so you can get morphine from a doctor

>>18728500
Your best bet is to just search around your area for dance teachers that teach classes in their spare time.

I took swing dancing and salsa lessons for about a year from a local dance teacher who was just looking for extra income. Very experienced, and willing to do one on one classes.
The woman that taught me was relatively cheap for the time and effort she put in.

But that's just from what I've experienced. It is a great skill to have, and fun as hell to learn.

>>18728520
Do you recommend group classes, even if I'm a total beginner ?

>>18728539
Not him, but group classes are great. Most are designed for beginners and you form a pretty tight dancing bound with the other students if you all stick with it long enough.

>>18728490
She's trying to get dicked down by you and doing it in a pretty cute way. Mention your gf so she knows she's gonna be your side girl and then fuck her.

Girls are more than willing to be side action it's natural for them.

Don't feel bad about cheating either.

>>18728545
I've mentioned my gf multiple times

I don't wanna cheat, if someone cheated on me it'd fuck me to hell and back. And on top of that the guilt would eat my alive. Been with my girlfriend for 4 years

>>18728564
Yeah don't listen to that retard, never cheat.