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I have a bit of a dilemma. the story is that I have this best friend, male, 25 years old. I myself am a female, 22 years old. our genders are relevant. anyhow, he's admitted to having feelings for me, however I told him he isn't my /type/. we're good friends regardless, there's not the typical beta orbiter dynamic, I'm not emotionally reliant on him, nor do I use him for his resources. So I guess that's my rationalisation, I could be wrong however, I could be the typical oneitis situation for him.
anyhow, a few days ago, it came to light that I had lied to him about the nature of my friendship with another male, I had led my best friend to believe my friendship with this male was strictly platonic, when it's not. My best friend was very distressed over this, holding me accountable for lying to him. however, whilst I acknowledge that I was in the wrong, I still maintain that it's not really his business as to who it is that I get with. He states that he doesn't care if I get with people, yet he still acts extremely hurt when I do. there's just no winning, I either be honest and hurt him or I lie and I hurt him. additionally, he cites that our friendship comes first and foremost, so what gets to me is why it is of utter importance I tell him who I get with. I get it, I lied, I promised to be upfront from there onward, but it still irks me that this friend feels entitled to know about my encounters.
my question is, are we both in the wrong? I know I am, yet he refuses to accept that he is as well. And my second question is, how do I navigate this friendship from now on?

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I have been depressed truly since about 14.

I have had thoughts of suicide, and planned my suicide, and gone as far to act out 2/3rds of my plans before coming to my senses.

I, however, am afraid of death. I am scared by death more than anything.

As I lay here in my bed right now, I have panic attacks when thinking of death. I can't fall asleep, I get insomnia. I stay awake for days sometimes.

I have dark rings under my eyes because I can never fall asleep. My thoughts cause me so much anxiety.

I am so afraid to die. I don't want my family to die. I don't want my friends to die.
I want nobody to die and I have no control over it.

I need help adv

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I found out my ex is both an animal abuser and a pedophile. He's in contact with minors and apparently regularly rapes his dog. I've got evidence and I just don't know what to do. He cheated on me, lied about me to his friends, did a lot of heinous shit - so I'm not surprised. I hate having this responsibility, I hate knowing everything, I hate being a victim. I'm just torn on what to do.

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Would I have any chance with this girl at all without seeming like a creep ir desperate weirdo? Back in HS I was total fucking loser nerd who was 115lbs, and I had a crush on this girl who was my lab partner senior year. She gave me her number for a project and we'd text each other anout unrelated things occasioanlly, but never really spoke in class because I was a beta bitch. One thing I did notice is I'd catch her looking at me but again, I was too beta to make eye contact or further it. I no longer have her number because new phone but I could add her on FB and IG.
I'm now a sophomore in college like her, and I'm now 155 and fit, cleaned myself up and can talk like a human being now. She, from what I know, has never had a bf and went to prom alone twice, and she has no boys on her IG or FB. I'm not trying for LDR shit but I'd at least like to make contact again. Is this even worth the time?

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People usually think I'm gay.

No like joking, like seriously. For example a conversation I had the other day:

>I think Stacy is very cute, I'm going to ask her on a date
>What? I thought you like men

Another example, I broke with my SO a few weeks ago, then a friend told me that her friends though that I was gay all along.

Why? Why does this happen?

I have a few gay friends they are very outgoing and nice to be with. I think my behavior is influenced by them.

I usually like this traits but I don't want girls thinking that I'm gay.

What should I do?

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Everyone in my family fucking hates each other but me, who they all like. What the fuck am I supposed to do when I'm in college for most of the year

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I've had a strongly positive change in attitude over the past several months that has helped me start to really make my life what I want it to be. Before, I was passive, submissive and overly-sentimental. Now I'm assertive, have a tough love attitude toward myself, and actually get off my ass and achieve the goals I've been setting for myself. There's only one problem: as a result of this, I've been somewhat unfeeling and I no longer enjoy music and art like I used to in the past. Music especially has helped through good and bad times, and it's genuinely bothering me that I feel almost nothing when listening to it anymore. What can I do to remedy this?

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I went to the dermatologist today and was prescribed some antibiotics for acne, normal stuff as far as I know.
However he said that my acne is so bad that he really wanted to get me on accutane.
If the antibiotics don't work after six weeks I'll be put on accutane.
I've heard that accutane can either just cause extremely dry skin or it can be so severe as to stunt my growth/ give me bloody shit and depression.
So what should I do?
Has anyone else been on accutane, how was it?

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I´m pressing charges against my father for multiple forms of abuse, including sexual. My case has been pretty documented, so i hope this will all go smoothly.

Has anyone gone through something similar?

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>be me
>18
>homeless since july
>moving to this homeless opportunity housing on the 22nd
>twin sisters friend shes known since middle school is letting me stay with her for the next 2 weeks
>its her parents apartment
>I like her I think
>I think she kinda likes me too
>both are too scared to say it I think
>confused af
>shes fucked this derek dude recently I think multiple times
>she doesnt know I know
>it hurts me cuz ive known her for a long time
>they made out day 1 after we all went bowling she went home with him instead of us
>wtf lol
>weve kinda went on "dates" just us two getting food together but neither of us called it dates
>staying with her til the 22nd we sleep in her room together not same bed though
>very confused and scared to say anything cuz if im wrong and she doesnt like me this is gonna be awkward til the 22 lmfao
>shes religous
>i hate religion
>ses pretty but i think i can do better not trying to be rude
>help me please
>made green text to help structure it idk lol

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I struggle incredibly with stress and anxiety - no matter how comfortable the place (today drinking beers with my dad at the pool during a vacation day), I obsess about how backbreaking and terrifying work is going to be. The only place I don't feel on the edge of panic is in my bed.

A lot of times it makes me physically sick and keeps me from sleeping. What can I possibly do? While my job is stressful, I've almost always been this way.

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where do I find a gf?

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A good friend and I talked about how people treat each other and how it can be achieved. It was simple enough but I became really upset when my friend explained she "needed" to be assured nothing was wrong.

It didn't seem right because she's a pretty well-adjusted person and I didn't understand why she wanted that. As she explained, she stated she wanted to be reassured. It seemed like her request was sound but I misunderstood at that time and I thought she was being selfish.

I got really worked up and she started getting worked up herself, which is a big first. Our conversation became heated and went eight different places and she eventually said
>"Anon! You wouldn't change for anyone?!?"
>Me: "NO!"
>Her: "I-I would change for you!..."

Her voice faltered at that last bit. She sounded very upset but we stopped talking about that and went back to our usual banter. I took some time to really think about it and I'm confused as to why she would say such a thing. I feel so terrible that I was such a dickhead to her... Anyone have thoughts and opinions?

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Hi, /adv/. My parent will soon be transferring the insurance of a car into my name with the help of some agent. When this agent gives us a quote, they would be analyzing details surrounding my credit score, right? I have some debt in student loans; it's not huge, but it's definitely there. Will this be a problem? Do they even have the right to tell my parent of this or what? I'm a bit scared of this possibility as I wanted to handle it myself, but I can't seem to find out a ton of straightforward information about the topic. I've read some things that give me hope, but I figured you guys could give me a decent answer.

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so i've developed some feelings for a girl that i know. she's cute, she's got compatible interests and she seems like fun. the problem is, she's overweight and it's difficult for me to look past it in terms of sexual attraction. that said, i can't help but feel like i'm being a shallow piece of shit, and i might regret this one day if i don't try to get over it.

i feel very conflicted, wat do?