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I was going out with a girl. We had a good thing going, she was cool and all and seemed to like me, hinted to some long term stuff, talked about her problems and all. At some point we had a date set up but when the day arrived I texted her and she didn't replied. I got mad and the next day I told her I'm ok if she's busy and can't hang out but if she doesn't want to she should just say it to me. She said she wasn't feeling ok and when she's like that she doesn't want to talk about it and so on and not everything is about me and so on and so forth. So I freaked out a little, said I was sorry and acted in a bad way. She replied she's going through something and just wants to stay by herself and that unfortunately that happens to her sometimes (?). I then asked her if she likes me and if we could take our relationship into something serious and she said she doesn't work like that.
I'm confused as fuck. I still don't know if she's avoiding me because she hates me or if she's into me but is going through some shit. It's been about a month and she doesn't reply to me anymore. I actually wish she'd block me and make her intentions clearer, but I'm very into this girl and... well, she's bloody hard to read.
She's also been diagnosed with depression, so maybe that's something to take into account.
I saw her the day before and she just said a "hi" and looked pretty bummed. Today I saw her but she crossed the street before I passed by her. I don't know if she did it on purpose or not (am I that significant to her? probably not).
Anyway, I'm bloody confused. She told me that she's not the kind who avoids when she doesn't want to do something... so, yeah. I'm confused.
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>>18628201
she doesn't like you like that, get over it.
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Move on dumbass
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>>18628201
That's what girls do nowadays. Instead of facing their problems they ghost you and expect you to just forget about them. Something probably happened to change her mind about you but she can't be an adult and talk to you about it.
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Sudden constant back pain 2017-08-16 03:09:42 Post No.18628162
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Sudden constant back pain
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So 5 days ago I woke up with pain in this area and ever since it hasn't stopped once. It's like a dull pain that is constantly there, unless when I sleep on my back straightened out.
Looking down hurts, bending hurts, everything hurts unless I'm laying down on my back. It feels as bad as it did the first day. And it doesn't seem like it'll stop anytime soon...
What the actual fuck?
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>>18628162
doctor.
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Well OP I'm not a doctor but my diagnosis is you have cancer causing back spasms. You have 1 week to live.
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>>18628231
1 week? That's being generous. I've browsed my fair share of online symptoms and I say he has 3 days tops.
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Should I confront co-worker 2017-08-16 03:03:28 Post No.18628148
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Should I confront co-worker
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Holy shit I just typed this all out and it was too long so ive lost it all.
Been working in this bar/restraunt for 3 years.
This girl started 5 months ago and it has been shit since.
Never had so many problems or attitude from other crew members.
First 2 weeks she live streamed on facebook behind the bar while she was working, putting the camera in elderly customers face.
Her excuse was 'do you think im so stupid that I would get caught by (main manager)'
Called in sick once ever 2 weeks over non-issues.
Called in sick because she couldnt find her work shoes, theres a target within walking distance of our bar that has flats for $4
Called in sick because she was going to dr because she was so so ill, turns out she was building a table (co worker is the mother of this girls bf and was helping build said table)
Left 45 mins into a shift to pick boyfriend up from his work (????), came back 2 1/2 hours later inebriated. Turns out she never picked him up as bfs mother (co worker) had picked him up (lol what a dickhead of lying about something that could be debunked so easily)
If you ask her to do something she will give attitude and ask why cant you do it.
Complains she has no shifts or money, constantly calling in sick to work. Its to the point that if she has a shift that takes over from mine i wont make plans because its 50/50 she wont come in and Ill have to double shift.
We have a facebook chat with all works.
She will message at 11pm asking if anyone can do her shift at 10am the following day.
She will get angry when noone can do her last minute shift.
She does this AT LEAST once a week.
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She plays people against others, has caused multiple arguments between coworkers by lying about what others say.
I have tried to give her a fair go, I've been nice and helped her when she started and talked to her so she feels like shes apart of our workplace but she is so lazy that she will stand there behind the bar and watch me serve people while she plays with her hair. I have had to serve around her because shes standing there not doing anything. I've asked her to serve someone and she back talks. JUST DO YOUR JOB??!?
Workers do not want to work with her because she doesn't pull her weight and will stand there.
What can I actually do in this situation?
I've tried talking to general managers but they fluff me off because they will get in trouble for not pulling her up for all the shit shes done.
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Hey there. I also used to be a waiter, and boy, I had some shitty coworkers. If the general managers are too incompetent to fire this girl, then here's what I suggest you do.
First, form a sort of agreement between all the co workers (who are against her) to never help her out in any way, shape, or form. Throw her under the bus. Make sure no one covers ANY of her shifts, make sure no one ever does any favors for her, and make sure that everyone, and I mean ABSOLUTLEY everyone files a formal complaint address in the several issues they have had with this girl.
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I don't think anyone will be doing her shift tomorrow like shes asked, I'm the only one who has responded to her message despite everyone seeing it.
I'll have a talk with others and get their true opinion on what they want to do/if they would even do what you've said.
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So /adv/ it seems the gaming life is treating me better than any relationship. It never screams at me, does not belittle me and does not cheat on me. My friends are always there when gaming is involved and it is pretty cheap. Gaming and I eat together, spend quality time together.
Relationships are fuck ups waiting to bite you in the ass. I cannot go out and ask women on dates after all the shit that has happened to me. Forget all the advice how all women are diffrent because its just not true. All women are sadists and wish for men to bend to their will. Not to say that I am not a gentleman. I still open the door, pour the drink and engage in a polite yet distant conversation. I will never allow another one near me. Is something wrong with me or am I truly free. Whenever I feel lonely I call my friends or family. I do not seek a close relationship with a significant other. I cannot even day dream about a girlfriend/wife without them turning into monsters in those dreams. The other day I had a dream about this perfect girl that mid way through the dream turns into a full blown out demon possessed bitch that tears the flesh from a child face... no kidding this is what I actually dreamed.
Girls in video games and the stereo type of the girl that needs saving have become a turn off and the act of them being helpless just seems redundant to me. Women are very capable and more so. In my case they can make your life a living nightmare. So /adv/ is my thinking fucked or am I on a path of enlightenment. Oh by the way I am perfectly fine living out my life alone with my dog. However I am not fine with living with a stranger who would cheat on me, take my money, sleep next to me without me knowing whether she will stab me to death while I slept, whether she would get me fired, put shit in my food to poison me and the all rounder push me away from my friends. Basically I know I am paranoid.... I even have anxiety attacks but I keep it in check and have professional help.
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It's cool if you'd rather be single all your life, but no, you're not on some path of enlightenment. There's shitty women just as much as there's shitty men. Because most people suck. I'm also wondering if I should just be single because of the shit men put me through.
> whether she will stab me to death while I slept,
Considering men commit something like 90% of all murders, yeah kinda unlikely. Women are much more likely to be killed by their spouse than men.
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>>18628152
THANK YOU.
Someone who understands. Being single is awesome. You go out whenever you want. You stay in whenever you want. You buy shit you want. You walk your dog and talk to women/men and there is no one to judge that conversation eg"why did you say that/ why did you talk to her". I don't think enlightenment is the right word but I have become a better person without someone edging me to do their will, go to their friends parties even though I don't want to. I understand that relationships are a bunch of compromises but shouldn't they make you happier. I was never happier in a relationship.
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I'm starting to work out and thinking about getting into tennis. What are some hobbies that are easy to pick up and put me into social situations (preferably without alcohol or drugs).
I used to be really into video games and tv but my interest in them have faded greatly recently. The new semester starts tomorrow for me and I'm going to a new school so I am hoping that it will be the start of a new chapter in my life of me not being a fucking loser.
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Hey there.
There are probably a billion hobbies out there that will get you into social situations. From the sound of it you're either in high school or college, so you're pretty much in the prime of your life.
If you want friends quickly: Join clubs that have activities that interest you (wrestling, chess, skiing, band, drama, etc). Also, just be generally nice to people, and try to remember everyone's birthdays and first names when you get to know them
If you want to get laid: Learn to play the guitar, or the drums (or make a rock band)
If you want something to do that will pay off long term:
Practice your writing skills, practice your drawing and art skills, and most importantly, learn to play an instrument. Knowing how to play an instrument will come in handy in the future, especially at parties and social gatherings. Guitar and piano are pretty popular, but if you're willing to make a very long term investment I'd suggest the violin or the saxophone (tenor or alto, depending on your preference)
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About a week ago, GF broke up with me after a year and a half. I've been avoiding the relationship for the past two months so this was bound to happen.
I was pretty torn up about it, but I've been hitting the gym harder, journaling, and staying away from mind-altering substances.
My original plan was to go no contact for 2-3 months, so I could get over her, then meet up in a last-ditch effort to give it another shot.
But last night I realized something. She's been talking about going to grad school, and I actually want something stable and long-term. I didn't understand this explicitly before. We had originally gotten together as a short-term thing, but then we hit it off and fell in love.
I felt a lot better after realizing this, because it explains why I was ambivalent, and why things probably wouldn't work with her either. I'm not 100% over her, but I'm like 80-90% over her.
But, I also feel like taking her to coffee to explain things, in the 1/100000 chance that me actually stating what I want out of a relationship would change her mind. It won't, but it feels like something I should do, because if circumstances were different, she would be the type of person I would want.
I'm sure a week of no contact is too brief, even though I think my emotional state has changed sufficiently. I'm also making other changes to my life but those haven't taken effect yet. So how long should I wait? I'm sure I need to give it some more time to enjoy being single, and also to make sure this isn't some temporary thing.
I'm going to the gym now but I'll be back in an hour or so. Thanks bros.
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Oh, if she is going to grad school for sure, then I wouldn't want to start things up again. But I suspect that maybe her talking about grad school was a way for her to create scarcity. So maybe this is more about closure than anything else. I'm not sure.
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Its over OP. The sooner you work through the process of loss the sooner you get on with your life. Going back and dragging this out only extends the process.
Yeah I made a mistake. My best friend talked about it and I was at first very skeptical but I trusted him because we know each other very well. I didn't looked into it becausr I didn't know what was a pyramid scheme. Now I do and I really want to get my money back. I did the transaction 10 hours ago and he said a refund was possible. However, I couldn't find anything about the refund and I wonder if anyone knows how?
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If you can't find information on a refund call your bank/credit card company or visit the website and dispute the transaction.
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What's the process of buying a car off of someone privately?
Do I need any paperwork before hand, or is that all on their end? How do you legally give ownership of your vehicle to someone else? (without being at a dealership or anything of the sort)
After I get the car, do I just go to the DMV with the paperwork and go from there?
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There a plenty of tutorials on YouTube.
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>After I get the car, do I just go to the DMV with the paperwork and go from there?
Pretty much. After you buy it and both parties sign the title, you will want to go straight to the DMV and get it in your name. Depending on your location you might need insurance to do anything so if that's the case for you have your policy number or proof of insurance with you.
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Get their ID so you have some protection from a scammer.
Look at the title first. If there is a loan (lien) on the car, it has to be paid off first and usually a new title issued in just the sellers name (with no lien on the vehicle).
Get a bill of sale. If you can, do the exchange at your bank and have someone at the bank review and notarize the seller's signature on the bill of sale.
If the seller insists on cash only, take someone with you so you don't end up without the cash and without the car.
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What is the best trade to get into if I want to move abroad? The easiest ones to get into here are bricklaying and joinery but brick laying looks boring.
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Working for the UN is usually the best way to have your ass moving all around the world. To be quite frank, if you want to move abroad, then just move abroad. Save up some money and make it a goal of yours. If bricklaying is something that will help you do that, I'm sure you can stifle your boredom with a little bit of willpower
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Forgot to mention I'm from the UK
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I have been working abroad on and off for the past 4 years in Bermuda.
First of all, there is usually no shortage of masons in the countries I've been to even as a visitor. I think that would be a poor route to take. I'm from Canada and I've been doing masonry restoration for 8 years and it has not been even a slight advantage other than just being construction experience. I was hired as a firestopper which is an entry level job.
Basically the more obscure or new your specialty is, the more likely you are to travel.
Other trades like drywalling, plumbing and welding are a good route if you would like to work on an island because the populations are usually too small for major projects.
Drywallers made up a large portion of the 250 int hires because humid countries do not usually use drywall, in turn there are few trained drywallers on the island.
A good lead would be to look at major projects happening in small countries with higher unemployment rates. That sounds counter intuitive, I know, but low employment rates means less skilled workers.
Some companies I know of that work abroad are BCM McAlpine, Black & Mack and Keen.
I think the BCM workers moved onto a large project in the Cayman Islands after Bermuda.
If you get with a company that bids abroad and they send you down, they will probably keep sending you abroad. They usually move the same crews around.
In Bermuda I get paid $25 an hour American where as I would make $15 an hour Canadian for the same job.
Bermuda has a lot of major projects coming up. They are building a new airport threw the Canadian company Acon. They are also building an entire resort style village called Morgan's Point.
If you look into the companies I listed and the projects I listed that could be a really good start.
Hope my advice was helpful
Good luck!
Pic related, I took this photo in Bermuda during my last stay. Going back in 3 weeks!
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What's some good, unverifiable shit to put on my resume to make it look good? Employers these days won't even let you walk in the door without 100+ years of experience which leads me to believe most successful people bullshit their resumes anyway.
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Regular blood donor.
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Becoming quite jaded with relationships
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>start seeing girl
>am a blatant asshole, only care about sex, try to fuck her friends
>she loves me, cooks for me, hangs out with me all the time
>keep dating
>over the course of a year, start acting more 'boyfriend'-like
>she keeps giving me shitty advice and getting butthurt if I don't take it
>life keeps tanking and i lose self respect as i do gay shit like go out to restaurants and get fat with her
>eventually break up
>decide she's a dumb bitch and ignore her for a month, focus on my life
>start doing better at work and life as my balls grow back
>get back in touch with old friends and spend pretty much every weekend partying and having a good time
>she calls up asking if she can fuck me
>going through a rough patch in life, happy to have someone to talk to
>she stops returning my texts because I'm not ignoring her and telling her she's a dumb whore anymore
How am I supposed to interpret this? This is a relatively nice girl too: parents together, no other boyfriends, only slept with 4-5 other people
I don't want to be a 'red pill' fuckhead, but I'm convinced that shit is real now
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I'm also seeing shit as i make more and more female friends. Like some chick screwing randoms off Tinder then eventually bfing some dude who just cooks for her and does housework all the time. Eventually he got drunk at a group outing and started saying how much he loved her and she just stared ahead blankly and seemed mildly disgusted. This dude is objectively more physically attractive than her as well. Shit is real out there brothers!! I feel like this is the real dating landscape in 2017 unless you marry a religious girl
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>>18627991
Just realize that in life there are things apart from sex, that girl (and you) are more than a meat bag where you place your dick when you want. If you trust her, tell her your problems and that way you will see if she is worth or not
Gl with that m8
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Is it bad if my entire motivation for improving my life is to spite an ex? I don't really feel positive emotions about anything anymore, but I want to make my life awesome and date then eventually marry someone hotter/more compatible with me than her because I'm mad at her for breaking up with me.
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whatever works just actually do it
once you improve your life you wont give a fuck about them
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>>18627953
That's a good point; now I'm even more motivated
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Yeah, the truth is if you start living your life and meeting new people (aka girls that you like) you will forget about her. So use whatever you want as motivation, but do it. Improve your life.
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Hi there,
I need some advice. Since i go every winter to lapland for a few weeks a thought about buying some land or a small cottage with some land. The problem is if i search on website i can only find comercial sites trying to let foreigner pay way to much. Anybody have some good sites? Everything is welcome doesnt matter if it is in Finnish!
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Ei saa peittää, fucking foreigner.
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You will not save any money on owning rather than renting for a few weeks only. If you are here a few months every year, then maybe. What is your price range?
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so i managed to build up courage to go out alone...
then after getting there i dragged my ass straight to the bar and i just stood there watching everyone like a creep
i want to talk to girls but i just can't .. it is like i have no strength or will or something even though i do
and i am not even bad looking (people told me i look attractive) ..
god i am a loser
how do you talk to girls at bar/nightclub
how do you get into that fun guy vibe
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There is an online course by a guy called RSD max. It answers the exact question you are asking here and much more. But ill give you the point: the "fun guy" vibe you are talking about, you get it by talking to people, compliment people randomly on things, like: "hey man, nice shoes", or "i love your scarf, matches your shirt". Greet the bouncer/ security guard at the entrance, smile (even forcefully, eventually it will affect you and the smile will be real.) im actually in that course right now, and ive met a friend that does it aswell and we meet and go out together. If you want i can give you my kik for any more questions, or anything else.
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It usually happens that twice a week i get gay and start thinking about sucking cocks and becoming a girl(male) while have a tingling sensation thru my body when this happens. It eventually goes away the next day or after fapping and i start thinking about girls again.
w-what does this means?
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It means you are bi sexual and bi sexuality is a spectrum.
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You are probably gender fluid if you legit feel like a girl some days
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It means >>>/lgbt/
Having cock in your mouth? You're either gay, bi or trans.