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>>18629325
Stop paying for the internet, stop pretending you have friends. Done.

>>18629342
>stop pretending you have friends
insulting people is not nice

i want to stop eating too, only eat a small amount to keep hunger away... I don't want anything

>>18629325
Have a rigid work routine where you do nothing but hone the same skill year after year until you die.

How long do you drive and how often do you

>>18629326
One hour to work, hour and a half from work to school

>>18629331
Oh and then a half hour from school to homen

Just out of curiosity, how old are you? Maybe take her out on a date or something, don't just ask for another kiss...

>>18629316
20, I already asked her on a date, but she is kinda busy with college, and so am I, so I don't know when we will have the chance to go out on that date.

>>18629384
No time to go to a party together on the weekend or watch a movie on Netflix? It doesn't need to be a proper date but it'll be less weird than meeting up just for a kiss.

That's love for you, man. Only time can tell what's going to happen next. My advice is to be patient with yourself. Take some time to think about what you want out of life. And love isn't a constant state, by the way. What you're feeling is pretty normal. We don't always feel butterflies when our partners walk through the door. Sometimes love isn't just about how you feel. If you really care about this girl, even when you don't feel like you "love" her, then that's what actual love feels like.

Compare to platonic love, for example. You wake up everyday and you don't exactly feel an overwhelming love for your parents every single day, but when you have to leave them or see the, pass away, you have an intense emotional response because you truly did love them (assuming you had a good relationship with your parents btw)

I'm pretty sure you really do love this girl, even though it doesn't feel like you do at times.

Best of luck to you

Calm down, take a deep breath, and ask yourself what is the problem.

I don't really like to talk about other's relationships, but I feel that you moved in with her too early and this ideal picture you have of her in your mind, might not be what is in reality. And you managed to find this out only now that you live with her.

Mistakes happens with everyone, and it's OK.

Also, Maybe your confusing love with passion?
Passion eventually dies down after sometime together, it happens with every couple, but still remains there even at the biggest hardships.

>>18629276
Ok, so, the butterflies are what's usually called infatuation. It's a hormonal reaction that compels you to breed, and it usually lasts a few months. We tend to romanticize it because... I don't know, because we don't want to appear like the animals we are, I guess.

The thing is, you DON'T want to build a marriage on infatuation alone. Because it'll end up fading, and with time, a lot of problems will arise (you may run low on money, have problems raising your kids... you know, all the good stuff). If by that point your relationship hasn't evolved into a really close friendship with mating rights, you'll end getting fed up of each other. And no amount of butterflies is going to save you from that.

>>18629273
She's definitely a girl, look at the waist-hip ratio. Just alarmingly skinny.

There's no magic trick, OP. You can get on antidepressants, some are famous for nuking sex drives. But to me this is fucking stupid. Realize that if you want to head down that path, there's no saying whether or not your sex drive or ability to get erect will return once you stop.

Just jerk off.

>>18629259
Stop watching porn and then stop masturbating are the basics to lower your libido.

Then take on some therapy sessions.

First off basement is great

Second, I feel like the truth is very important. And if something is bothering you, or making you sad, and she cares about you/you care about her. It's best to tell her what is making you sad so maybe she can not only understand better, but she could also possibly help you in some way.

>>18629237
If you're looking for a relationship with a very strong emotional bond, you're going to have to open up. Being vulnerable is scary, but if the lady is also interested in having a close, emotional relationship, she will respect you for opening up and exposing yourself like that. Women who lose attraction or respect for their man when he cries or allows himself to be vulnerable are retarded because men aren't these stoic, unfeeling creatures who have no emotions because they're so manly. If they want that, then they're looking for a one-dimensional human being, or a relationship that gives the illusion of being meaningful when, in actuality, neither of them get too close or comfortable with each other in case things go wrong.

Wait, I recalculated it and it's about 4000 per year. Possibly 2500 if I cook for myself.

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Drop college for a year and work a real job during that time. This should give you some vague understanding of what you want to do. Use your down time to learn new skills.

DO NOT ATTEND UNI IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A PLAN FOR YOUR FUTURE.

Option number two sounds better to me. If the conversation goes well enough and you feel like you can do it, ask to meet her. If not, try having another conversation sometime soon. Rinse and repeat until you feel the time is right, or until she asks first. Best of luck OP.

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I was in a similar situation a while back. What I did was make a comment on something we had in common. In this case I had moved nearby and asked them what there was to do in the neighboring city.

I then asked if they could catch up with me the following week since I was "busy" this week and haven't seen them in years.

I asked for their number so I could reach them next week and the rest is history.

If you're confident, precise, and don't drag out the conversation you should be fine.


Non Creepy opener, public meet up for the sake of catching up, ask for number for the meetup

cut your ddddick off

>>18629220

I think you're super fucking lucky if you're in a relationship and your biggest issue is that she's a shitty texter.

>>18629251
Well it isn't that she takes a long time to respond, it's that often she doesn't respond at ALL that gets me thinking...

the only way to find out is to send her texts over and over, obsessively over an entire week with increasingly desperate content

then when she breaks up with you, you can accuse her of cheating on you and confirm it in your own mind by her telling you that you are crazy

Wait for as long as possible then feed off whatever everyone else is saying like a leech, eventually you'll blend in and they'll be none the wiser

>>18629182
If you're sure you can get it all paid for without loans that aren't federal and subsidized, then sure.
It wouldn't be great if you stuck within a state without any relatives, and had about 10 thousand hanging over your head.

>>18629182
Seattle is incredibly expensive. I had a friend move there after college who is currently working 2 jobs AND living with a roommate just to keep a roof above his head.
Is living in the city super important to you, and do you think you'd be able to afford it? Homelessness is also rampant there from what I've heard.

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>>18629730
Probably not, no. Family is dirt poor, part of the reason I wanna leave since I live in one of the poorest states, and while I'm sure I can get some federal aid and s half decent scholarship, I'll admit I know it's not the best option. Still, I'm fucking in love with the city, and not too sure what else might be better

>>18629179
Go to a doctor? IDK ur financial situation or really much else as you havent explained but honestly just go to a doctor even if you've never gone before.

No, go to their website and sign up for it.

>>18629136
Constantly think like a charismatic person. Put your self in the mindset and emotional state.

>>18629160
Yeah, believe it or not, at the end of the day this is what works best to become the person you want to be. Just start mimicking the behavior you would want to display. At some point, it'll become second nature.

>>18629136
If there were and people here knew about them, do you really think /adv/ users would be so socially retarded?

>>18629066
Maybe.

Why does it matter?

>>18629066
why do you care so much about thots do. the only woman who should matter to you is your soon-to-be-fiance, fiance, or spouse. literally everyone else can go eat a million dicks (and they will).

>>18629072
>>18629073
Because this is my second girlfriend and I've always had an ambiguous relationship with women. They call me "cute" but I've never been called "hot" and so forth