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>>18630236
I'm sure she'd be happy to get any indication that you're thinking about her. Com up with something naturally, even if you think it sounds dumb, it'll warm her heart.

>>18630236
give her a call and tell her you care, doesn't need to be anything complicated

>>18630292
I was thinking of just sending a gif.

>>18630201
As an example: I was once in a group of people and the discussion came to politics. I was defending Trump but fairly neutrally, so it still seemed ambiguous. But it became obvious that I didn't hate him/was against him, so a girl asked me repeatedly if I voted for him. I said something along the lines of "I did a lot of research to arrive where I did now (didn't say yes or no). She left the room on account of being so offended and everyone had to calm her down to come back.

Are you going to college ? Really this happens to everyone so don't worry too much about it . Highschool friends rarely stay in your life after highschool since everyone is going separate ways.

>>18630194
Go to college, make new friends. I swear to god its easier than you think, as long as you don't put friendships on a pedestal.

Yeah thats very normal. You will make new lomg lasting friendships in college. Of all my old HS friends I only hang out with 4 every few months

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Hey I don't know how well this'll work out and I'm sorry if this long but here goes. I'm 18 and going into senior year of highschool. Now I always wanted to be a biochemist but that was mainly for the 6 digit pay. Recently I've started working with my dad's old buddies who worked for him and they let me help them because of his passing(HVAC and Auto Repair). And they say I've got a knack for this kind of work. I've got a lot of colleges up my ass with an Air Force recruiter on speeddial just in case. So what should I do my high school GPA is somewhere in the 3.5 to 3.7 range and I'm a fast learner. My only two setbacks are that I don't have a drivers license just because I've always had like not premonitions but like dreams while awake of me dieing in a wreck when I get behind a wheel. The second setback was that my Christian school(it's not actually one its just rural and in Ohio so it's heavily favored) thought that I was going down a godless path because I(being an idiot I know) told some sorta edgy jokes to some people who I thought were cool and knew I was joking but I guess not so they ratted and I got suspended for 10 days for family death related depression. So what should I do pic related is my dog because I figured I should lighten up this page of text.

>>18630240
Learn to drive. Colleges dont give a shit if you were suspended in highschool. As long as you have decent grades and money you shouldnt worry.

>>18630240
Well if you want to be a biochemist, to make that kind of money is going to be a lot of school. Undergrad then straight into PhD (assuming you're American). It's not as bad as it sounds but requires a lot of thought and being creative in your PhD. There's also more than biochemistry. There's materials, polymers, etc. I can go into more detail if you care. If you're doing well in HVAC, you can go into mechanical engineering. If you want to do both engineering and some form of chemistry and explore it in school, chemical engineering (it's more than fluids through pipes and oil refining). Engineering you can typically get a good job right out of undergrad. Even greater money with certifications and masters. I am the OP and can go into more detail if you want.

As for your lack of drivers license or suspension, no one cares as long as your not a douche. Drivers license is no big issue. Hell my wife is taking her driver's test in early September and she's 35

The biggest step is confidence. We all know those guys who are fat ugly assholes that still get pussy and think "how?" Well sure they're probably punching below their pay grade but it's also because you have to actively try and fail and continue to try again.
If you're asking "Anon, how do I get confidence?" Simple, you be confident. Confidence is not an actual emotion that people feel, no matter how much people let on. The mind learns by actively doing things through repition. If you actively put yourself into situations you usually avoid, you try to make decisions faster, you walk as if you're not a sad sack. Learn confidence, fake it till you make it.

>>18630165
I used to bone my neighbor's wife. Eventually I moved away and it stopped ofc. Super hot though.

it's not a crime to steal some wine, pp, poet did't no dat

you lack self esteem, I recommend you join the Marines

>>18630158
Delete

>>18630140
I'm going to guess that being good at poker is likely the best way.

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>>18630145
This

Waste

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Hell yeah!

Why not? Could change everything

as a fan of microdosing any psilocybin based drug I'd say go for it. depression is a serious issue that needs to be sorted out and everyone has different ways to make themselves feel better. microdosing a drug that won't cause the same side effects as your typical depression meds is probably your best and safest route to recovery.

the best part about microdosing is that when done correctly you will be able to go through normal life the same way you currently are, just with a better outlook.

Good luck and have fun

>>18630123
For the past few years in particular I've been feeling family is important, and I'd very much like to have my own one day. For a few reasons such as having been to a fair few weddings and funerals, that my own family life growing up has left a lot to be desired.
But I've more or less given up hope on that. My social inability makes it quite difficult to have any success with girls. Then I'm just unattractive. I'm also relatively choosey of course - I wouldn't marry just anyone. I've always felt factors such as these working against me. I have tried asking a few girls out to no avail. But the most recent one hit me the hardest; that was about 3 months ago. I was head over heels for her and was pretty sure she liked me back. Well she didn't. I was in the pits for about a month and I haven't really recovered still.

In fact, I don't think I've been happy since. I can't remember being happy since that period before I asked her out, and I was busy making plans in my head and imagining how things would be. And I figure, that one felt like it was almost a certainty. Surely the best chance I ever had, but ultimately I had no chance... what hope do I have?
Well long story short I've more or less given up on girls and the hope of having a family.
I've also given up on finding work. Even if I could I figure what's the point? Living to work isn't appealing to me.
On top of that I don't have many friends. I spend most of my time at home playing games by myself. I've felt my relationships becoming more distant too, particularly over the past 6 months. And it is difficult for me to make friends.
I have a handful of interest but rarely have the energy or motivation to do anything with them.
So overall my life feels really bleak.

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>>18630123
>there's always going to be someone who presents/communicates/looks better than me

nice one anon, this is a perfect example of approximations making the best absolutes. bcos i know you know you can step it up.

im 28 and i find it hard to admit defeat too. i couldn't even kill myself, had the noose ready but just sit and look at it

>>18630110
>How do I deal with this shit?
focus on your hobbies and career building.

>>18630110
You sound retarded and creepy

Learn one or two Norwegian phrases

ask her about what it was like back in her country seem interested and let her know if she needs any guidance or advice in america say hmu

During afterski walk up to her and say "skal vi knulle og ta en sigg"

>>18630094
goal setting. start small, cleaning your room, finishing a book, etc. Then move on to larger and larger goals. the key is to not overextend yourself, keep it to 4 or 5 goals and break them down using the SMART method. it's a hard skill to learn not gonna lie but extremely rewarding.

Honestly for me it's taking a shower in the morning. Otherwise I am just lazy and tired all day.

I had to stop telling myself I'd get shit done on the weekend. It had me doing nothing after work and then getting nothing done on the weekends because I make plans. I started getting things done on the weekdays after work, and then I had plenty of time on the weekends to make social plans and enjoy myself, or even be more productive.

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>>18630089

just be yourself and invite someone after class early ^^ to a bar or something