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>>18640641
I'd suggest to just do what you did in your last relationships. The rule and what to do is still the same like in your previous relationships, don't get cold feet just because the target is your friends for years now.

If it works then you're meant to be together, if not then nothing you could possibly think to say or do would convince your friend anyways.

>>18640657

Whereas my last gf was textbook tsundere and needed to be bullied into submission, she's very different, and I'm scared of alienating her by being too forceful.

>>18640662
If she's seeing you in intimate way or more than friend, you could never being too forceful on her since she'll go with your flow.
The anxiety and cold feet you've got now is due to you've investing your time on her for long (4 years) before striking the iron.

Just do it, man. Don''t let the pain of regret wallowing on you for the rest of life, the pain of rejections are far easier to go by.

Besides should it ends with rejections, you could still be friends, or you could just have made her relaize her own feelings and sparked her interests while it'll take some more time for it to bloom in full.

Rest, drink clear fluids often, eat healthy food.

Monitor your coughs and mucus. You want what's called a "productive wet cough", where a lot comes up easily with your coughs. Dry, racking coughs are bad, they use a lot of force and can cause some damage. If your coughing is harsh or difficult, take something like an expectorant to help it come out easily.
Your mucus will probably come up yellow, that's pretty normal when sick. If it starts turning green, see a doctor. If it's clear, your sickness is clearing up.

>>18640663
Also, if you smoke, don't. It'll make everything worse.

its been coming up yellow and green

Try acid first, it'll introduce you to psychedelics and you can't overdose.

Acid isn't as visual as mushrooms, but it affects your way of thinking and your perception of things. But make sure you do it with a "babysitter"- someone you trust to stay sober and will make sure you get through a bad trip (if you have one). If you've been really stressed out about certain events in your life, try coming to terms with them before trying acid. Bad feelings can give you a bad trip, and those are no fun.

Tell us how it goes! <3

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Don't be a pussy who only does a low dose "just for safety". That usually backfires because you only feel confused but the dose wasn't high enough to give you any of the positive effects. If you are normal weight, you should do 2.5g of shrooms or 150ug of LSD. You should do it with someone you trust and a familiar place you feel comfortable at. Also you should plan ahead what to do, because it can get boring. Set up a playlist, save some videos, episodes, movies, games, whatever. And yeah. That's basically it. Perhaps prepare a bottle with magnesium just in case the trip gets "too much" for you and you want to end it quicker. Psychedelics make you more open minded, sociable and happy. But only for like 1 to 2 weeks. It can definitely help to cure your depression, but besides tripping balls you should eat healthy, work out a bit and force yourself to be more outgoing. Personally I never had a bad trip on psychedelics and I do it twice every year with some friends.

>>18640639
I found that Acid is the more visual of the two maybe you just micro dosed acid and did a shit load of shrooms

>>18640606
just ask them for a copy of your prescription, they're legally obligated to give it to you if you're in the US. They will not give you your pupillary distance though so you'll have to measure it yourself. I highly recommend ordering online though since any brick and mortar store is going to charge you 5-10 times the amount an online one will for the same and sometimes inferior product.

>>18640617
That's what I'm gonna do, the frames I want are only available online now, and the brick and mortar store said lenses alone are $185. The online store was $114 for everything. The only thing is the online place needs a copy of the prescription before I can buy.

How do I measure the pupillary distance? Is it guaranteed they won't give it to me or is it just a maybe

>>18640638
Zenni.com my glasses were something like 30 bucks.

>>18640598
I'm pretty sure they have your keys in a secured place, so don't bother.

>>18640695
They do, but I have a second key

I may just wait until the morning

>>18640593
Jeeze so many typos. I'm posting from my phone so sorry about that

Meant to say "I "could" go for a college for animation"

>>18640567
She told me that i'm not in love with her even if i said i was, that because of my lack of experience of women i got stuck with her(i did admit i only had 1 gf before at 28 years of age at some point) and that i'm acting like a pussy,that she went off one relationship and wants to live her life, and i should find someone else. She mellowed out later and told me that she can't understand why we can't be just friends, i told her i wouldn't be able to see her with someone else and said that i don't want to do anything with her. I blocked her from facebook and everything and stopped speaking to her.

This has gone on for a month and i literally suffer everyday.She lives next door from me.We work together. I always think i'll hear her fucking next door. I keep remembering all the fun times we had together, not just the sex, she was the only girl i could actually talk to about interesting stuff.To make things worse, we have common friends too so i inevitably bump into her in social situations. I started speaking to her again when i meet her in these situations, just friendly chatter, and i feel elated the rest of the day jsut because i talked to her. I'm thinking of unblocking her and start inviting her to stuff i do like kitesurfing and shooting and shit and i know i shouldn't because i'll be defeated once again. I feel so fucking alone, i travel to a new island every week and i can't find joy in anything. I work out like 4 hours a day just to get an endorphine rush. I hit on every girl i see unsucessfuly because i'm only doing it so i can fuck her and have her hear it to get jealous and i come off as desperate.

Leave it, roasties will be roasties. Find someone else.

>>18640602
What the fuck should i do. I can't move on. Nothing helps. I have 0 sucess on dating sites due to small population and my face isn't that attractive.I'm content with my life so far, i have the job i want, i live alone, i make good money, i have friends to go out, all i could think of improving is entering a special forces school but there aren't accepting applicants right now.I know self improvement helps but i don't feel like it. I just want to be with her. I keep thinking i'll talk to her and she'll change her mind and she'll be back but i know even if that happens i have to say no because she has probably fucked a ton of other guys in the meantime. I can't find someone else because i'm not really good with women and the fact i'm desperate to find someone only makes it worse.

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>>18640563
What is keeping you from doing it right now?

>>18640581
Maybe OP doesnt know how to recreate himself

>>18640563

there is no advice. you simply do what you want to do.

>>18640562
Yo, it's literally 3 seconds of googling, but let me share my experience.

First of all of course clean your hands, fingers, and nails. Cut your nails short and leave no sharp edges, nobody likes their insides to be scratched.

Then you could star with gently touching her vagina to know determine her reaction,

If it's a go, start with light massage around her vagina and slowly reach towards her clitoris.

Wait until she gets wet or use a lube, then j-j-jam your finger(s) inside. Slow or all-in is up to you. Best part of using finger is you could curve your finger onto her upper/lower wall to stimulate her spots, not only going with standard straight strokes.

>>18640562
Cup her with your hand so that the curvature of her peach matches gour hand exactly. Rub so that you're spreading the lips apart and dipping your middle finger in every once in a while. Make out with her while you do this.

Once she's wet get your middle finger soaked. Go all the way in and curl your finger so that you're touching behind her clit (her pee hole if you're this virgin). Stare into her eyes the whole time and rub your hard dick against her. Push about 30% as hard as you can at the absolute most. Rub the inside or fingerfuck her, whatever makes her clench her fists the most. Once she starts coming close to orgasm kiss her lips, down her cheek, to her neck. Pretend you're the mosf gentle vampire ever and nibble on her neck, giving her a good bite every once in a while. When you bite rub her harder and faster.

Growl at her like you're a tiger if you're a dom when she comes. She might laugh but it'll turn her on. Growl at her that you think it would be hot if she came all over your finger. Tell her you want her to soak the ned/couch/chair whatever it is. Bite her bottom lip.

A lot of it isn't actually the fingering, but tje attention and lust you show her. That's what really gets women off anyway. Woman love attention. Use that to your advantage.

Make sure you're rubbing the back of the clit with your middle finger tip. This is the gspot.

>>18640588
>going with standard straight strokes
someone actually does this? the benefit of fingers compared to dick is that you can angle them way more easily, i only apply pressure in certain spot and got crowned as fingering master *tips fedora*

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>>18640543
So what is the problem here exactly?

You think you might have aspies but you can't ask your mother to get you tested because then she might think you might have it...?

>I'm still scared that there might be this hidden affliction that I cant get away from.
Then you suffer either way but having a test might get you some help too.

Where is your father in this scenario?

>>18640577

I have never met him

>>18640569

My relationship with my mother is strained and by extension my entire family, ive got the feeling they think im a cold person but no one ever is straightforward with me about their thoughts on my behavior. There is a huge amount of long pauses and frowned faces between me and my family and I dont know if them discussing aspergers is going to make them interact with me better or worse.

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Nah fuck em. You ain't doing drugs and you know it. If everyone is still listening to a highschool rumor than to you they are shitty people and faggots.

My advice: find new friends. Start fresh. They would rather believe a lie than you so fuck them.

"You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there will still be someone who is allergic to peaches"

You can't make everyone like you. Old people always think they're right, so you can't change anything.

Honestly, I would either move on and stop caring, or, try to get close to her and subtly mention about how your life has gone over the past few years.

"Oh I'm doing my bachelor now, yeah haha I guess it is a little late, I was in a rough spot back in highschool but I thank jesus christ that he pulled me out of it and thats a part i dont look back on"

come across as a born again christian, religious people love that shit

>>18640524
Let it go, you hysterical obsessive faggot.

this is the unfunniest thing ive ever read on here. you have to be a woman

wat

>>18640522
>>18640518
same fag

>>18640491
>My gf likes it when I cook for her but when I suggest she cook for me she says we're not in the 50s anymore in a way that hurts me a lot.
Try dating older women. Not like "moms creepy friends" older but like 5 more years. They're usually more secure.

>>18640499
Older women tend to have kids... I don't want someone else's kids and I'm not ready for my own.

>>18640491
Why would you ask her to cook for you?
Do you ask her also to suck your dick just because you went down on her?

Be honest with her and with yourself about why you do things: is it for her or for you (so you can get something back)?

Sedoku

>>18640459

alright, alright we'll put that in the maybe pile.

Any other suggestions?

Get some therapy. Regardless of whether you are into men or women, you have a lot of baggage it sounds like.

She is overreacting.
I am a female and even I wouldn't get upset at a guy saying that. She wants you to see her as so special that you would go so far as to say that there is absolutely no one else like her, E.G. putting her on a pedestal.
This is an unrealistic expectation.

boo fucking hoo who could've ever guessed that there are plenty of women who would be a great match with you? Does she believe in soulmates or something? You're with her so it doesn't matter that there are other girls similar to her.

>>18640442

Yep. It must not be impossible, or else you would never have found her.