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>>18730977
Faggot

>>18730982
bro, a christian 4chan board?
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Get less free time. You'll appreciate free time more and get more motivated to get shit done.

Get yourself a journal, a planner in which you wrote in concise detail all of your schedule to follow. Get a pocket sized, so you could bring it everywhere. Write on it each day, make a time for that. There are apps for smartphones to help you with schdeules, but you know that'll distract you more.

Also I'd advice you to drop some of the activities first. Like focus on one to get a visible result first then move on to make a new one. DOn't go chasing two rabbits at once and go home with none, better chase one and bring home one, you know?

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>>18730935

Also interested.

Also, intelligent girls/girls interested in talking about ideas. WHERE DO THEY HIDE.

>>18730971
they're hidden in their bedrooms, like you

>I want a shut-in gf like me but trust me guys I'm not a shut-in.

Don't feel angry, it's a wasted energy. Just have nothing to do with superficial people and move on.

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I just ignored them. It lasts for like 5 years before you go, meh, we're all morons one way or another.

>>18730923
>changed your whole look to be presentable

Its probably that. Well dressed fat people do fine.

If you look like crap you look weird and untrustworthy. This is human social instinct. You too judge people this way whether you realise it or not.

>>18730906
>>18730906
Its been 3 months. If youre having trouble, split. I think youll survive losing a 3 month relationship.

Been in a ldr for 2.4 years.
I fly to see him every month and a half/ two months.

I am clingy too but in the beginning he was the clingy one.
We skype when we are both home and we both sleep on skype.

It really just might be his preference that he doesnt want to be in contact 24/7. Ldr isnt for everyone and unfortunately if hes having issues this earlie in the relationship then I would think seriously about continuing with him.

My perspective is different though, because I'm the clingyer one I would expect nearly constant contact regardless of ldr.. Id be sleeping in a bed next to my bf if we lived together and we would be spending most of our downtime together on the couch or doing things in our home so its not a hard jump for me to stay in contact nearly constantly, within reason.

honey just take him at his word and dial it back a bit. everything's fine. k?

Do you also have trouble maintaining eye contact with other humans in public?

Social pressure is stronk

>>18730899
>Do you also have trouble maintaining eye contact with other humans in public?

Yes.

>>18730873
Establish your opinions with evidence. There's nothing wrong with being influenced by others (people do it all the time) but there's plenty wrong with not verifying said influence as accurate.

>>18730836
Too vague, delusional in what aspects? Schizo or megalomania tendencies? Better get tested professionally if that's your concern.

>>18730847
Kinda more megalomania (I think) although some examples would be want to achieve some sort of life goal no matter how difficult is would be, always thinking that your opinion or argument in something is always correct and the other person is just being dumb, being wrong with something about yourself, etc

I'm really not sure how to explain it, I don't know if it is delusion or what

>>18730858
Kinda smell like an arrogance and superiority complex on your part. The way I see it nothing wrong with the desire to achieve life goal(s) no matter what obstacles.

Get your behavior of condescending others in check. It's no good to underestimate others because it'll potentially lead to your biggest downfall in achieving bigger goal.

>vanilla
>kinky
If you're not kinky, why are you trying to get into this?

>>18730845
Because the women that I want are kinky

I don't know why I even bother replying to what's most likely some delusional sexless guy.
Basically it's about power/status. Being confident in yourself and your abilities, standing out and offering something more interesting than what an average guy would. And being able to handle it when a woman gives you power over her.
You sound like some guy that wants to learn it in much the same way you would learn to play a video game. This will ultimately blow in your face because the will to do this has to come from within you as a goal in and of itself and not as a mere pretext to sleep with kinky girls to make you feel better about yourself.

Going for lower marks is stupid. How do you shit on others, like what behavior?

>>18730829
For example, I posted my exam results online which I was pretty proud of because I worked hard for them, and one of my friends messaged me saying that I'm being like one of 'those cunts who just posts their results on social media to rub it in to others' so I took it down.
Another time, me and my friends were on Tinder and looking at what colleges people went to, and I basically sniggered at any there were shit colleges with shit majors. My friend pulled a pretty offended expression so I felt bad then too.
Whenever I'm talking to my friends about girls we see I pretty much always dismiss them as hoes or uninteresting because of the way they dress, walk, talk or whatever, and everyone always says I'm going to die alone if I'm this judgemental, and then I say I'm never going to settle because settling is stupid

These are just some examples

>>18730850
You must be either on the spectrum, or just an asshole. I'm not saying that to be rude, but that really is what that behaviour says about you, especially when you consider the fact that you don't realise how it comes across and need someone else to tell you that you shouldn't be doing it.

>>18730770
No. Listen anon, I know that this is very intimidating. I know that you are probably scared and that's okay, but you are not in a terrible spot you are in a WONDERFUL position. You just have to talk to the girl and tell her how you feel. it might be a little awkward for a second but I guarentee you she will help show you everything you don't know

>>18730770
Don't turn into a 40 year old virgin.

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>>18730776
So, you're saying that I HAVE to tell her? There is no way of doing this without her knowing I'm a virgin?

Bump help please

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.... Leave?

Make conversation

>>18730738
You should note use any of it. Addiction is a serious problem. Do not use the adderall, go to sleep and wake up. Then, stop taking them. You are bingeing hard as fuck and should probably talk to someone.

Do you use other drugs? Which? How frequently?

>>18730787

Melatonin? And I use that only when I need to go to bed a little earlier or when I know I will have trouble sleeping the next day.

>>18730796
Try benadryl to help you sleep from now on. take it about an hour before when you want to go to sleep. It's allergy medicine so it's very safe.

Regardless go to sleep now, and try to wake up a little early This is the smartest thing you can do.

>>18730699
You're a drug addict right?

I just want to say no body should donate money over the internet. There are numerous numerous ways to get free food, although they are not necesarily done with prie. However, it's likely that our friend here has a drug problem which would legitimately only become worse form your donation

>>18730727
What? No im not a drug addict.

>>18730699
I would donate (but I'm broke)

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>>18730679
>What age is too old to be living at home?
I've lived independently since I was seventeen (however that's more than twenty years ago so it was much easier than it would be today). I'd say that if you're not under your own roof by about twenty then you seriously need to start applying yourself. It depends on your financial circumstances though - saw an ad for a 2 bed flat to let in my town the other day, £850 a month. For comparison, the mortgage on my 4 bed house costs me around £1,100, so staying at home to save up a deposit and avoid working to pay off someone else's pension is more than acceptable.

>And could you date someone that still lived at home?
My ex wife and on/off gf of the last twenty six years is in her mid forties and lives with her parents (which is largely my fault desu). Makes no odds to me what so ever. As long as one of you have your own space you can both chill at it doesn't make much odds who's name is on the lease.

>>18730679
>>18730751

There is no choice or state in life which is inherently better than another and anyone who tells you that xxx is better than yyy is probably trying to compensate for other deficiencies by pointing out a way in which they are better than you.

>>18730758
>>18730751
>>18730679
I should clarify what I mean when I say "better than you." I don't actually mean better, but people assume because they
1. did something before you
2. did something faster than you
3. did something better than you
4. got more girls than you
5. have more fun than you
6. are stronger than you

makes them better than you.

Ignore all this, and just leave your life in a way that makes you happy because than you will never have to ask yourself terrible questions like this.

have a good night.

It's up to you to decide what matters. If you decide nothing matters, then that's the reality you choose to live in.

>>18730665
obviously im depressed and suicidal, but the thing that kept me going for a long time was a best friendship with this one girl. she left because my depressive nature was too much for her. it was, and is, hard for me to let go, but why does that matter, a simple friendship. At this point literally Nothing matters to me and the only reason im still living is beacuse im a bitch
so yah

>>18730668
Don't get overly attached to people, they're not what's worth living for. It puts a burden on you to constantly live up to their expectations and a burden on them to constantly have to validate you. Grew up with a dad always telling me I was the only reason he hadn't killed himself, and you know what? Years later while I'm living my life, he barely tries to contact me, so I know he just liked telling himself that so he could pity himself and stroke his ego. Find something that matters to you, if you hate yourself then become really good at something to send a message to the people around you, if a fuck up like me can be successful then what's your excuse?
Btw what's your current situation?