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>have bipolar 2 starting two years ago
>have idiopathic hypersomnia
>gets worse when im stressed
>nearly drop out of university first year due to a lack of a support network (went to a therapist during all of this)
>emotionally abusive family (sometimes my dad will throw shit at me or grab/choke me if im having an explosive fit of anger)
>in middle of huge city
>only been in working condition (for a job) for around 3 months (bipolar medication helping a little bit with my tiredness)
>doctor won't prescribe me stims even after 2 years of the same issue plaguing my life
>narcissist mom. dad enables her but also helps me and is the only support network i have.
>am disciplined to a degree and draw+exercise consistently a lot
>summer is killing me because i have no friends and interactions with my family are increased because i dont have school to go to
what do i do? my psychologist says i basically have to wait until im more stable and then move out and my dad says it too but im scared im going to kill myself before that point ever occurs. i've been doing everything i can to get better and it feels like the last two years will be on repeat for the rest of my life.
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google bipolar support groups.
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I'm not even sure how to ask this question properly but: how do I get my bf to break up with me and stop caring about me?
The long and short of things is that I've been feeling really bad lately and have just been a drag on everyone around me. And I know that he really worries about me. I honestly just want to quit my job and sleep all day or kill myself or something but I don't want him to feel sad or think that he has a responsibility to cheer me up or make me feel better. Whenever we talk about that kind of stuff he always wants to be supportive even though there's nothing he can do to make me feel better. I just hate being such a negative thing in his life and I want him to move on already because I'm not going to feel better any time soon, or probably ever. I feel like he's wasting his time on me, and because I don't want him to worry about me I'm just wasting my time too. Is there a way to get him to stop loving me without outright breaking his heart? I know that sounds like a weird question but I honestly just don't want him wasting his time anymore. I just want to go lay down somewhere and die.
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>>18644058
make fun of him for having a small penis and then fuck his brother. I guarantee that will 100% get him to not want to be with you.
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I'm young and inexperienced and emotionally immature and have no friends other than my boyfriend, which results in me more or less relying on him to make me happy. I consciously recognize that I do this (complaining to him about being sad and also being disappointed if he doesn't want to spend time with me), but I also recognize that this is unhealthy in a relationship and in one's own life. I want to change. I love him and want him to be happy, which I know I do other than during the occasional setbacks when he feels overwhelmed by the need to make /me/ happy, which I often am not.
Anyway, I need advice on how to do the emotionally independent thing. I am starting a new university and will be really busy with classes, but I have plans of expanding my horizon beyond just academics. I am auditioning for an orchestra (where I can make friends). I live by a game store where I can go to play Magic (and make new friends). When I went to a therapist at my old college, his Buddhist approach to mental health really helped me, so I want to join a Buddhist club of sorts, which would help me dedicate myself to meditating. I am not much of a comedian, but I want to befriend some people with whom to start a comedy podcast about our university life.
Despite all of my plans, I am worried that they will fall through. I always manage to feel good about myself for a while, but then, if I ever take a break from doing activities, things fall through and I feel sad again. I just want to be happy without my boyfriend's help, and not worry about the fate of our relationship which won't have to be affected by my depressive neediness. I want to be a whole person, but I do not feel whole, and trying to fill the void with another person only leads to bad things.
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>>18644038
Fuck off
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>>18644038
If you feel like taking a break causes you to fuck up then don't take one. But don't spread yourself too thin, looks like you got a lot of things planned.
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>emotionally immature
Why?
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Should I be mr steal yo girl? 2017-08-21 05:18:53 Post No.18644035
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Should I be mr steal yo girl?
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I met a group of people at lunch this weekend and we all coincidentally had the same hobbies in video games and anime. There's a really cute tomboy in the group and one of the other girls told me she has a boyfriend long distance across the state at another college. Everyones a freshmen and I know like 90% of long distance freshman relationships fall through. I caught her staring at my muscles a few times when we were all at lunch. I'm going to be hanging with these people the rest of the year. Should I wait for them to break up or should I slowly just say fuck it and make advances? I could get another girl but this one is kind of my type being a tomboy and all
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>we all coincidentally had the same hobbies in video games and anime
Stopped reading there.
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Slowly make your advances.
Waiting for them to break up can lead you to being friendzoned.
You have to make yourself the next person on the list of people she is going to fuck after she breaks up.
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What the fuck is wrong with me /adv/ 2017-08-21 05:15:29 Post No.18644021
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What the fuck is wrong with me /adv/
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During the day I am confident, outgoing friendly and fear absolutely nothing. I have an in-the-moment mindset without a single care in the world.
Even when someone points a gun at me I'm like "doet faggot idgaf lol"
But at night I become incredibly anxious and paranoid, get scared by my own breath and can't even look people in the eyes. I constantly have to look behind my shoulder to make sure nobody is following me.
I'm like a completely different person at day and at night, how the fuck do I stabilize my life /adv/ please I need help
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You might have a phobia of the dark. See a psychiatrist.
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Same thing for me but opposite.
I am a creature of the night.
I get confidence when it is night and dark but drained of all energy and confidence in the day.
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>>18644054
I used to be like you for many years, but now I'm like OP. Its odd
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Whenever I cross paths with a girl this is what I imagine they think:
>Ew. Eww! Oh my god, ew! Oh my god. What a fucking creep!
How do I stop thinking this way because most of the time that's not the case
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>>18644016
In a funny way your fears are actually egotistical.
The fact is that most people you pass don't think of you at all. (Test it - can you describe the last 10 people you passed? Most probably didn't register on your consciousness at all)
People only form any opinion of you if they notice you, and they notice you by what you do.
So don't be a fucking creep and no one will think of you as a fucking creep.
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If you only knew what women where thinking when they see guys cross paths with them, you'd be walking like a king.
t. benefits of growing up with normie sister and her 5 normie friends being at our place 24/7, redpilling me on life.
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I'm just invisible to them.
>>18644056
Redpill us now
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I'm ugly and yet I want to be the centre of attention. I try to compensate by being funny but my best friend does it better and hes more funnier. How can I make myself not feel anymore? I'm tired of looking at him and seeing him get attention I want but I know I'll never get because I'm fucking ugly
Being best friends with a Chad is worse than having no friends at all
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I watched a video of David Gandy on /fit/. During the interview, all the ladies were laughing and losing their shit despite him not being funny at all. He didn't even try to, and when he actually said something clever, they all got seizures.
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Question why you want to be the centre of attention.
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Being the center of attention has nothing to do with you being ugly or not. You are just bad at holding people interests and not funny.
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Dated girl in my friends group. We broke up a year ago. Genuinely I'd like to wish her a happy birthday but probably bad idea. I just think it's nice to be remembered and not totally thinking with my dick here..
Don't do it?
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Do it, but don't be soppy about it
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Depends entirely on how you broke up, how she feels about you now, and how you feel about her now.
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My gf of two months told me that she kissed her ex the beginning of this year. Although that was before we dated, I still felt sad. I was confused because they were already broken up years ago. And while she kissed him again, she claimed that she still liked me. What do I do?
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Please I really need help. I truly don't know how to react to this
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>>18643946
>What do I do?
Stop caring...
It happened before you met... Stop worrying breh, what will worrying bring?
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>>18643975
We still knew each other when this happened. And she still liked me when this happened
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What happens if I simply do not pay student loans back?
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Good luck m8
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if they are a loan guaranteed by the US federal government, you can have your wages garnished directly.
if they are privately held loans, they can sue you in court, win, get a judgement, and then be permitted to garnish your wages.
how much do you have?
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>>18643939
the interest keeps building and building and then they send it off to collections which you don't want because your credit score will take a nose dive, so good luck ever getting a car/home loan or even renting some apartments.
if you don't pay for about a year it'll default and depending on who the loans are from you'll be royally fucked up the ass with no lube.
we're talking wages garnished so you have to work under the table for cash
no tax refunds because all of that gets withheld
did your mom or dad cosign for the loan? they're fucked now too, asshole.
and then the lawsuits start coming. the student loans will never go away.
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What is the line between "I am busy, give me some time" and "I am not interested anymore" in a relationship? I haven't seen my girl in 2 weeks, she had been in vacation with her family, this week she is back and I'm home alone so I invited her. I'll make her dinner too. She has a summer job and seems really busy and so far it seemed genuine. Also she actually would like to come along. We had some real fun while we both were working but now when I have these weeks off i can't get off my mind away from her (from which I realized why distance matters so much). I am really patient but kinda worried.
PS. Don't go too hard on me since I've drunk a bit
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Wanting her to meet you at this point is very fair and I think she should come and see you.
> What is the line between "I am busy, give me some time" and "I am not interested anymore"
That is hard to tell, just don't push her too much or she will feel like she looses to much space. In your case I would just focus on a hobby real hard and treat her the same as she treats you. And so far nothing to bad happend right? like rejection or anything?
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>>18644074
No. Well besides my buddy suggesting that she might have lost her phone and me naively believing that. So I asked her co worker about it - she didnt know me - like an idiot. She then only said that she would like to aswsr whenever she likes, that I shouldn't do that. After that I said about this week, apologized, she liked that. So I didn't push it longer (thankfully)
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>>18644174
Also describe "rejection". Not in the mood to look it up atm.
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Are my priorities out of order? 2017-08-21 04:16:22 Post No.18643865
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Are my priorities out of order?
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Am i just a lazy loser?
I'm 24 college degreed working a low stress 9-5 job. Most of my peers I went to school with are becoming lawyers, in Med school, engineers, consultants bankers whatever, hyper-ambitious working boatloads of hours/ going to elite graduate schools.
The only part of that whole circle that interests me is the pursuit of knowledge, being well read, informed, and not being a dumbass. Other than that, I don't really give a fuck about selling a startup to google or owning my own law firm. I don't really care about my professional life that much. I'd rather put in the work that's necessary to afford my own pursuits in fitness, reading, doing outdoorsy shit, building friendships and seeing my family and that's it. Minimize time spent in office and maximize time spent enjoying shit what I can . I dont give a shit about building a dynasty or getting into Stanford and making partner, id rather go rock climbing or swimming or Play with a dog or hold my nephew.
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Kind of offtopic, but how is that working out for you?
In about a year I'm graduating too and what you described seems very similar to what I always had in mind as well.
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>>18643865
maturity is more accepting and managing the consequences for your actions.
maturity isn't a specific set of goals to develop at a certain age.
if you wanna fucking rock climb for fulfillment, go find a cliff, but don't piss and moan about the rest of your life having to twist around making that cliff your priority. That is immaturity.
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Nope.
>I'd rather put in the work that's necessary to afford my own pursuits
Those sound like good priorities to me.
Having a degree that leads to a career is just one socially constructed way of looking at it. I enjoyed mine for the sake of knowledge and being critically engaged with a subject.
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When does a hobby become a passion?
Why is it an attractive attribute? or is it relative?
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>When does a hobby become a passion?
When it consumes your thoughts when you're not doing it and doing it makes you happy.
>Why is it an attractive attribute? or is it relative?
Passion fills you with life, makes you feel alive to do something you love. People like seeing others passionate about things because of it. It is however relative as you can only do so much with a passion of say, stamp collecting. Passions that involve creation of things are definitely higher up the echelon.
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How do I stop becoming a really unpleasant person /adv/?
My life has not been great, people have not been kind to me
Relationships haven't been what they should have, and I find myself alienated in society
I try to be kind, but it just gets thrown back in my face, making me even more bitter.
now I'm stuck in a cycle of bitterness and hatred (see: you're here forever)
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well, life is hard.
strive to make your own suffering less so.
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>>18643841
I'm finding it hard to enjoy life, I guess I'm depressed.
We live in a human world, but there is something deeply wrong with people and the way they relate to each other.
Part of the bitterness comes from my own lack of personal success, because no matter how much I work and endure; success seems to come to the most popular, best looking, most agreeable and most predatory in society
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What do you specifically think is unpleasant about you as a person?
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What if I masturbated so much to weird stuff that now I'm so fucked up in the head that I can't ever have sex with a girl and loose my virginity?
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)kys!!
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Stop fapping so much and be more productive. You're probably just desensitized. Worry about that and less on sex and you'll be fine.