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>>18649015

while it still contagious its not very likely. condoms are only 40% effective unfortunately, but unless you two were humping one another its not much to worry about. the chances of it first getting on her and then on to you is pretty slim to none.

wait two or three weeks then go get tested. as for continuing the friendship, hard to say. you can push for remorse but you arent guaranteed to get it. decide if this is something worth losing a friend over.

>>18649017
if i have herpes, yes. and plus he was being such a piece of shit if he knew, right? and i've read blood tests are innacurate, is there something that can be done along with it to maybe supplement?

>>18649024

>if i have herpes, yes.

honestly thats a silly condition. thats like saying you'd forgive your murderer as long as you happened to survive. the intent was still the same. dont judge the outcome, judge the action. If you are willing to end this friendship over getting herpes, then you should end it over him putting you in danger.

>plus he was being such a piece of shit if he knew right?

ehhhh yes but also no? stds are rough. even if you use condoms you can get herpes,and when you do you are marked for life, and you will miss out on a lot of life if you tell people. I don't have herpes, but there was a period where i did (turned out to just be hpv with some warts, leaves your system after 2 years). and I was confronted wtih the question. its a lot easier to judge someone when you haven't walked a mile in their shoes, and while I'm not saying what he did was in any way right, im not sure I would have done any better. For my own friend? probably. But for strangers? I can't say.

its a lot like cheating. we all act like cheating is the worst fucking thing ever, but statistically most of us are going to end up doing it at some point in our lives. we don't realize how difficult it is not to cheat until we are actually tempted. same thing here. Maybe he informed his partners at first but after a long period of no sex he broke. i probably would, not going to lie.

its not until we are confronted with the REAL decision that we find out who we really are.

>ive read blood tests are innacurate

meh. just get tested again if you're so concerned. hopefully you're lucky and asymptomatic. thankfully I seem to be immune to herpes. its more common than you think and probably the only reason 100% of the population doesn't have it.

>>18648972
ask him

>>18648972
Luring him in with cooking eh? Good move anon. Go with that. Supply booze.

>>18648972
If he's going on proper dates with you then its not just for sex.

Stop being nervous and just go with the flow for a bit. People have lives that keep them busy.
My GF is busy as fuck cos she's a teacher but we find time once a week even if its just for dinner or a walk or something.

>>18648968
always get timestamps and check for photoshop. lots of men also have that hobby except they pretend to be women and trade the nudes of girls they've already conned.

>>18648978
That's my main concern. Videos on snapchat seem legit tho. I guess worst case Ontario we're basically trading nudes with some guy but everybody is getting some good nudes and my gf and I are getting off so it's not the end of the world.

Go for tinder, then ask for phone number, then look it up on facebook to see if it matches a profile. Me and my gf are always looking for girls to mess around with and I got at least two guys passing off as women like this.

>>>/diy/

>>18648918
Do you have facial hair? Don't it makes it worse imo. What else do you have to boost your mania?

>>18648934
Mania?

>>18648964
haha typo meant to say mana

You just learn to cope with it, like the death of a loved one. The pain never really goes away but it lessens with time.

>>18648904
I would say that it's probably not a huge thing to be concerned with. Of course it's easier said than done but you should let these things go. Of course it also depends on how the molesting was performed : was it like some curiosity of kindda discovering your bodies ? Was it violent or a bit forced ? Etc...

If it's more or like the first proposition, try to not really care about it. You were both child and you shouldn't give to this too much importance. If it was really forced on you, then it's a bit harder to deal with. You should tell us what is your feeling about it, because I can't hzlp you much with general advices,we have to understand how you feel. Disgust ? Anger ?...

>>18648902

not really. either minimize expenses or maximize your income.

you could always share your room with someone for a few months to cut your rent in half. you could eat nothing but rice and beans for a few months. you could unplug cable and internet and such depending on how much you spend there.

as for income, you can get a second job, or like you said you can sell stuff, but were not going to have any suggestions. you already know what you have and what its worth.

>>18648902
How much do you make, what is your degree in and what expenses do you have?

This will answer most of our questions without a whole lot of nothing.

>>18648902
but bitbean

(2/2)
Comparing the two:
>City A's murder rate is 3.6 times higher than City B's
>City A's rape rate is 10.6 times higher than City B's
>City A's robbery rate is 2.6 times lower than City B's
>City A's assault rate is 1.6 times higher than City B's
>City A's violent crime rate is 1.5 times higher than City B's
>City A is getting substantially more violent with time, while City B is slowly getting safer
>State A has 4.6 times as many sex offenders per 100,000 people than State B
>State A has many more open missing persons cases per capita than State B
>State A has historically had (slightly more than) twice as many serial killings than State B

Should I still live in City A for a few months for the experience, or should I skip this crime capital?
Or should I be fine as long as I have a gun on me at all times?
Do I even need a gun if I'm only staying for the warm season?

As for guns, State A's gun laws are extremely lax. I think I can even take it to work, so I'd have it on me on the walk between my job and my apartment. I'd need to practice my aim and draw speed, but I don't think it's much of an issue. I've shot before as a kid.

Thanks, fellas.

>>18648868
You should really just tell us what city you are moving to instead of this city A city B crap.

You are probably overthinking it too much anyways.

Are you going to be traveling by foot at night often? How often are you planning on going out? What are you goin to be doing?

As long as you don't stand out too much people will not notice too much. And stop looking at all these statistics they don't do anything besides fill you with dread.

Get used to the local life, if you feel scared about going out then don't until you got some friends you can hang out with. Know wich places are hot zones at what times.

This is all basic shit when moving to a new city

Just list the names of the cities like wtf, am I gonna steal your identity by knowing what city you will move to?

And also, as someone who had lived in Jamaica queens -and Newark NJ, it's all about your lifestyle. Are you going clubbing at midnight as you walk alone a street with a broken light post? Or are you locking your doors at 8pm and get ready for a cozy night inside? And every city is dangerous.

I got robbed at gunpoint once. When did it happen? Broad day light on a Sunday one block off a very busy street. Literally can't prepare for it.

>>18648858
KEK
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Don't bother, she won't give it back. Save yourself the trouble. Should have retrieved the cash while she was passed out.

You got cucked, move on.

You're not going to get your money back anon. You're better off cutting your losses and finding someone that isn't fuck around and flirt/fuck dudes behind your back. I don't know how long you've known your ex, but in hindsight it was probably a retarded decision to buy her a tattoo.

HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEY

AYE BABY

(HOOH, HAAAH)

I WANNA KNOOOW (WOAAAH)

IF YOU B MY GIRL

:DDDDD

>>18648851
I'm a guy

>>18648850
Ok, I don't know much about writing erotica but let's take this from a business perspective. At first, you've gotta get yourself out there - free examples of your work on a heavily-trafficked platform. I don't know if you've already done that, but it's worth mentioning. You've got to build a reputation for something before you start charging for it. From there, you're going to want to keep an audience hooked in - if you lock all your work behind a paywall, people might lose interest. You've got to hook them into having a story commissioned and make sure you're getting otherwise-lost sales. Patreon is alright for that kind of stuff, just make sure your reward tiers aren't outrageous. I'd say $2 for a general library of your work, and something like $10 one-time for a lengthy commission.
best of luck!

>>18648843
To save you space I would go with the single bed because that is a really small "room" (broom closet).

Get a high-standing single/twin. That way you have plenty of storage underneath. Sort of like what they have in dorm rooms.

>>18648843
try a loft single bed if you've got the cash / vertical space.

Lucky you

All i recommend is lots of foreplay and alcohol

She'll most likely be SUPER nervous so you gotta find a way to take the edge off. Weed is also a good idea if you are into that kind of thing

>>18648846
She was so nervous enough she tried to get through her first time without telling me but I noticed pretty quickly.

>>18648846
Tldr: Mollies

>>18648822
Ask a counselor

>>18649212
They don't help

>>18648806
Wow, are you me? I'm your 24 yo version kek.

I think it must be important but I've been alone for so long I dont know anymore, maybe we are just kinda defective but in a good way? Like, we don't really need it as much.
It's ok, I don't even want to live past my 70s

Just be strong and if you want friends try to make friends with your same interests, it sucks my interests are all alone-related fucking hell I'd say but meh, life is good anyway and the sun shines all the same

>>18648806
Right there with you. I'm 25 and I guess it's still not too late for us?

>>18648806
>Just how important is having close intimate relationships to being human?
I would say a lot.
By not having the opportunity to exercise empathy and compassion you are pretty much guaranteed to become non human.

>dehumanization
>the process of depriving a person of positive human qualities.

>humanity
>the quality of being humane; benevolence.

>humane
>having or showing compassion or benevolence.