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>>18652901

never heard of it. tell me what it means

There's lots of different kinds of medications you can try. Benzos work wonderfully but you can get addicted. Beta-blockers (blood pressure medicine) helps too but can start to make you fat after a while. All the other psych meds are a mess that left me with a bunch of random symptoms even after I stopped them. Anxiety sucks. A lot. A lot a lot. I've thrown up from it. I've had my face and hands go pins and needles because I wasn't breathing right. The brain fog is because you are using so much adrenaline being worried about yourself that you're wearing yourself out. You need a small amount of adrenaline to do normal every day things but if you're constantly squeezing your brain for every last drop by freaking out all the time you're gonna feel tired. My throat also gets tight and I get veritgo. It sounds like you might have health anxiety. I'd ask for medication if I were you, unless they try to give you antidepressants, don't get involved with those. I'm not taking any medication right now. I smoke pot occasionally (ONLY INDICAS!!!) and I also take CBD oil which helps a lot with anxiety but can be expensive. Take an every day vitamin and go to sleep at a reasonable time even if you have to knock yourself out with over the counter sleeping pills. I've been doing shit like yoga and meditation. It feels fucking retarded at first but there's aspects of it that I like.

Get a second opinion from a psychologist or therapist, then discuss meds with a psychiatrist. Make sure all of them have contact info with each other so you can all make an informed decision. You will most definitely need to experiment with different meds over a few months, and Lexapro might not be the best to start out on. Citalopram is dirt cheap and used to be quite effective on me. I now use Buspirone and I pretty much only have to take it on an as-needed basis.

Very few GPs know what they're talking about when it comes to mental health. What infomercials do they want you to watch?

>>18652966
Were you on SSRIs? Because that sounds a lot like when I was on Effexor. Doctors prescribe them pretty often but they can be expensive and basically cause withdrawal symptoms.

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>>18652875
Cry. Have your breakdown. Go on a bender with your friends. Visit some family that will take care of you for a while. Do whatever you think you need to do to come to some approximation of normal.

I know it's rough bro, but you'll get through it. Reach out, you're not alone.

It feels unreal, and I feel completely empty. All things considered it ended well because we said everything that needed to be said. We broke it off under healthy terms.
but i can't help feeling like this is the biggest mistake i've ever fucking made.

Cry and be good to yourself. DO NOT CALL HER.

>>18652871
Cycling, swimming, rowing machines. I ride a bicycle every day it's my main mode of transport but also an excellent low impact form of cardio with which you can explore the countryside. Pls talk with me im lonelyand sad.

>>18652871
Video games, BJJ, boxing, powerlifting, IDPA

Rock Climbing

Mable3000

>>18652855
Just name it after yourself

Or your mother

>>18652855
Quasimodo

You are probably a little bit deep in the autism spectrum.

I know how to help you.

See a psychiatrist.

He will help you.

If you live in the US and can't afford basic healthcare, then read all you can about psychology,

and self-help books,

but avoid PUA and The Red Pill, they're shameless manipulators and will do you harm,

and make threads on /r/askwomen asking intimate questions on how to manipulate them into loving you

or in /r/askmen if you need to know how to be masculine in a way that doesn't weird out other men.

>>18652825

depends. for the mosdt part it doesn't. once in awhile there will be a sort of 'resurgence' where it happens again, but then it fades out again. and resurgences can be only if you're lucky.

kinda your call. your life.

Not really, no. I hope you enjoy her company for more than merely sex and perhaps one or two other aspects. If not, break up. If you're only in it for the sex anyways, just break up and hire hookers if it's that important. Or, Tinder if you're charming enough.

>>18652825
This is why they say relationships are work. You have to constantly try to find new ways to be interesting to one another. If you get plowed 50 times the same way, you're going to get tired of it. That's hard for you to understand because your dick feels good no matter what. But for someone on the receiving end, the same shit is boring as fuck and eventually you don't feel the need to do it. Talk to your partner and find out what they want and desire and what they'd like to experiment with. Learn what makes them tick. Are they more affectionate when they have a few days off from work? That's a good clue that stress makes them upset, and they don't want sex when they're stressed. So try to make life less stressful for them. Do they tend to be more affectionate when they have their period? Figure those dates out and capitalize on them,

A woman will never be as gung-ho as you for sex. So figure out their patterns and work with them.

>>18652813

nothing. you continue to try to fall aslseep and have a coffee in the morning even if you dont normally drink coffee.

its his first night, he went crazy, hopefully it wlil reign back in

>>18652813
Tough it out and the next day have a talk with your roommate about how it's not cool to come home violently drunk and puking to the point you can't go to sleep. Tell him to knock it off (politely) and move on with your lives.

>>18652813
Why aren't you drunk with them?
Your parents literally paid a bajillion dollars for you to live with people who have fun

Listen, they could have paid 1/10 for you to live in a basic apartment for you so you'd take a bus to school

But they paid for you to live at school.
So get fucked up. That's what you parents paid for

Stick around for 6mos for the resume. Make sure you keep track of how well sales went so you can brag about it in another interview. My boss at my last job would show you yearly and quarterly money earned in sales. I never really paid attention, kind of wished I did so I could "wow" people in interviews.

Bosses in sales seems to always be pushy. I got yelled at a lot for my mistakes and get asked "why didn't you met the sales goal today?" Or "we need to push surveys! Are you even pushing them??" They want to make that money. Your boss's boss gets chewed out too if the numbers aren't satisfactory.

>>18652796
>quit?
NEVER! Stay and work. If it is shit hob, simply start lookibg for new job, but DONT QUIT unless you have new job ready.

https://www.mcdonalds.com/us/en-us/careers.html

>>18653273
i mean i sold over $100k first week so im pretty good at it. i get what you mean about management needing to be pushy though. might as well stick around and save up for a Mustang or something silly.

>>18653276
fair point, i dont want to end up mcbound

>>18652793
(Thinks one part of New Jersey is any better than another)

continued
>if your social life is shit, work on making money remotely
>you can fuck your cousin as long as shes cool with it too. you are lucky if you can get it.
>looks matter, maybe height too. but money is an equalizer and can create some defining points. just remember that materialism is a psychological tool that you can use to your advantage and often get quicker results, even if using counterfeit lures.
>if you want a lifelong partner, make amends because nobody is perfect.
>hobbies are fine. video games are fine. but dont let it be your life if you are lacking or feel that you are lacking. it will always be there to be part of your downtime when you are not working on basic improvement or monetary gains.

>dont be afraid of fucking friends gf at a young age of like 18 -29. keep it on the downlow tho and dont do relationships. no regrets
>dont be afriad of fucking married women either if you can keep it secret. the reason being that you will wish you took the chance when you are older
>dont do the above two things if you have access to legit hookers or message parlors on regular basis. the point being that the above two is for guys who dont have much to work with and lack sex or access to sex.
>fucking is important to keeping you enjoying the smaller things in life, like mcdonalds cheeseburgers or runescape.

>dont get into music unless you plan on playing live or have an audience. trust me.
>treat people with respect and if you get the same treatment back, cut them out. its a red flag in the very beginning.

Build up some willpower, but you can start by doing some workout every time you feel like fapping, like 10 pushups and so.
And stop watching porn all the time.

I wouldn't advise stopping altogether. That will create another problem in itself. Being all pent up all the time. Ready to blow anytime you are near an attractive chick.


It is okay to masturbate once or twice a day. People don't say that enough.
IT IS OKAY TO MASTURBATE.

Unless it's getting in the way of your goals and life. Like going at it 3 hours in one masturbation session.

>>18652776
Stop porn 1005. Never watch that shit again. It's toxic.
Exercise every day. Hard. Tire yourself out.
Consume non-sexual media. For example, don't watch TV shows with frequent nudity and sex scenes. Stop reminding yourself of sex. Sex is not important.
Socialize. Girls and guys. Fill your time with friends and hobbies. No downtime = no time to fap.

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>>18652758
Baking soda absorbs odor. What you really want to do is kill bacteria. Wash everything that can be washed with hot water & a bit of bleach, and then spray the mattress with a lot of Lysol.

>>18652758
Wash your fucking sheets
How is this hard

>>18652784
Can I find bleach in a local store or do I need to go to a bigger store? And is the disinfectant really necessary?

>>18652754
Yeah you should talk to my "ex" (not really though)... we dated while her and her bf went on hiatus. You're in for a fucking ride if you've developed feelings for both.

See if you can open the relationship if you want that, but there's no going back once you bring it up. Other than that, tell the friend what you told us.

>>18652734
Do it
Plan it out carefully by phoning every stop. Like never have a hotel not have a room ready for you.

I'm Canadian. My parents drove from BC to Quebec.
Which is nearly twice as long as your trip
And I was just a kid and it was amazing for me.

Do it as an adult and it should be great. Just don't assume that you have a place to stay till you reserve every room along the way

>Are the horror stories I hear about the middle of the country as bad as they sound?

Depends on what horror stories you heard and where they're about.

I've heard some place in the South are pretty fucked up and I wouldn't stop there for very long because of racism (I'm Hispanic) ESPECIALLY now with Trump and all this racial turbulence.

Nothing wrong with just driving and grabbing a bite to eat and maybe stopping at a hotel a couple nights.

I'm assuming you're talking about racial tension.

We have a month between jobs. The choices are across-country drive, for a month, or taking a trip to Hawaii or something.

And yes, racial stuff is what we're worried about.