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>>18654962
Maybe leave out the "suicidal tendencies" part to avoid freaking him out, but be honest about the rest. That "I don't want to talk about it" routine is far worse than just saying you're depressed. If you let him fill in the blanks with his imagination, he's gonna come up with something worse than the truth to explain your change in behavior

>>18654962
>I don't think he even knows what depression is
What?

I would talk to him about it. Although my gf and I have been together for 2 years and were pretty open about everything anyways. It's different if you've only just started dating I suppose. But it's condescending to assume someone hasn't also been through depression, or at the very least can't empathize with it or understand it. Many people experience it. Your SO should be able to help you through the tough spots in life, most people want someone they can rely on. In any case, bottling up will only send you deeper into a depressive spiral which will do both your relationship and your mental state no good. Don't do that, it drags down those around you. Reach, seize the haul and do what's more difficult - open up to him about it.

Could you rephrase that in clearer English please?

>>18654966
Sure man I'm sorry.
I feel okay when I have no contact with people, having people around does not bother me unless I'm in a crowded area. I would rather have some around, some meaning a few and I mean few. Three people and me I consider a crowd. Need advice on what that means and how to overcome that feeling.

Put her down on the bed and fuck the shit out of her. She just needs some dick.

if you put it up your ass anyway then why not

>>18654953
I dont, It's for partners

>>18654944
Was there an actual problem with your work/the substitute's work that can affect the company? Or was it just a personality clash, basically? If it's the latter I wouldn't worry about it, if it gets brought up at all just explain your side of the story honestly

>>18654963
Basically, I work with disabled children. She accused me of doing nothing and a child almost was outside of the gate unsupervised. The child was still safe, just out of the contained playground we play on, not like she walked out on the street or anything... The school is completely locked too, child wasn't in danger

The kid can't speak and barely comprehends anything. An hour after the fact, the sub tells me the situation and how no one did anything and she just watched a disabled child leave a gated area without anyone noticing.

She then told me I needed to lecture the child. I told her, honestly, if it's not in the moment and immediate reprimand, the child won't understand what we are talking about. She then told me that I am doubting the child's capabilities.

The sub then proceeded to lecture the child. The child had no idea what was going on, as I already knew would happen. I told her, we'd just have to be more careful and catch her in the act to have a teachable moment for this child. She told me she outright disagreed with me.

The sub then proceeded to tell everyone I work with that I neglected a child walking out a gate. Wouldn't doubt she left a note for my supervisor.

The issue is, because of the sensitivity of the place of work, this can be twisted into something that seems way worse than it was.

No matter how much shit you fling back at a monkey, it's never going to understand.

What you need to do is work on fixing your insecurities, and understand that the people trying to start shit with you are only trying to justify themselves in the end.

If it's at work, just get proof, and let the manager know that you're being harassed. See how alpha they think they are when they're out looking for a new job.

To specify, it usually involves banter against me and such. While I can take some, eventually it just gets degrading. I don't see simple banter as "banter" anymore when it is mostly focused on me.

>>18654927
I would do this, but they have other qualities that I'd be friends with them for. I don't want to ruin entire friendships just because I can't handle banter that well.

>>18654915
It means you're a good person and the rare girl capable of empathy, who doesn't want to hurt people who don't deserve it, you recognize their good intentions compared to people who just want to fuck you

That being said, it's better to tell them straight up you're not interested, it will hurt them more if they are strung along or left to wonder how you feel

>>18654905
You tell me?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zqxCxKS072g&t=1s

>>18654905
I used to work at Borders Books back when those still existed. One day an acquaintance of mine walks in, a guy who didn't know I worked there. He was super super beta, very awkward. I ask him what he's looking for and he tells me "The Game". I'm laughing because I thought it was a 4chan reference (this was like 5 years ago), but it's a PUA book. I help him find it since he's too beta and embarrassed to get it himself and then I never see him again.

Earlier this year I found out he became a Satanic transsexual. So OP, judge for yourself.

It works with some naive idiot girls if you execute it well.

I can tell a PUA guy from afar, I always end up teasing them. Their palms are always sweaty.

shameful self bump

Why would you apologize if you claim to be a better person now and realize that you were in fact being overly dickish. Closure through talking between one another is the greastest closure there is.

>>18655024
Wouldn't*

how tall is she?

>>18654880

5'6

>>18654878
Unlike what other faggots would say, manlet status only really starts if you are 5'8 or lower. You are fine, she just wants taller guys. Deal with it and move on.

I am me and as I am me I don't need to care about I.

All illusions of love are shattered eventually, no point in hanging onto something so fragile.

Don't need love to not give a shit.

>>18654887
So your advice is to get jaded? Gee, thanks for that unique standpoint, anon.

>>18654958
It's a first step. You have to acknowledge that the world is black and white. When you know grey, you learn the value of such a distinction.

You know that you're never going to get where you want to be by staying comfortable. Sometimes you need to just let yourself be hurt to realize that it really isn't as bad as you think.

I don't need to be able to love myself to understand the concept of human dignity, or respect.

>And some dudes offered to help them out, they raped both my gf and her niece in their car.
Shit like this doesn't actually happen. Either this is bait, or she's lying to you.

>>18654875
We're engaged to be married mate, we've been together for 5 years now. She doesn't lie. She's been raped 4 times before this, once by her own dad. She isn't lying.

>>18654862
Low quality b8.

>>18654850
Yes. You're putting a finger in your butt.

Congratulations, you've discovered you're not a faggot like these homos who do that and watch trannys on this website

The whole idea is to reach the prostate, which isn't hard and takes about half a finger. Apparently it's like a more harder piece within. The prostate is where an orgasm is centered at.

I've never achieved one, since I tried and didn't like the process beforehand, but just sticking a finger in your pooper isn't going to do it.

Your young, now is the time to try different things and change. The last thing you want to do is get bogged down in a career you don't like.

>>18654840
You can experiment with various computer science disciplines (complexity theory, operational research, mathematical optimization, machine learning, cryptography...). It's fairly mathy (if you want to be any good anyway) and less programmy (programming is a tool in these domains) and still allows you to do shit with a computer. Very high-impact shit, too.

If what you care about is just doing something on a computer, any computational X field will do. Biology, for instance, basically doesn't exist outside computational biology nowadays. We need to know more about your interests to help you further though.

>>18654857
I really don't want to touch programming ever again, I'm now interested in some medicine oriented profession... I love chemistry

>>18654835
Not really. She felt cheated because you said you weren't ready for a relationship and yet started dating someone not one month later. You should have said that you don't know if you like her because you've never met her instead, or been straightforward and said you aren't interested in her as more than a friend (or whatever it is you feel toward her). Her reaction is completely natural, but your behavior was not downright wrong, just mismanaged.