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>>18657417
Stop constantly thinking about being bad at the job. And start constantly thinking about how you can improve.

>>18657417
Find an elder shopsman and ask him to teach you stuff

I don't have any friends and people generally dislike me 100% of the time

>>18657409
Same.

You kinda get used to it if you don't dwell on it too much.

My sister asked me if I even had any friends at college. It stung a little bit but whatever. I don't really fit in too much with them anyways.

I have approximately 2 friends from way back. Way back being childhood or highschool.

Rest of the people I see some of the time after work but don't really consider friends per se.

Why exactly do you feel you can't connect? Perhaps you aren't giving these people enough of a chance to make a connection?

>>18657403
but here you are telling us you are scared

Perhaps the guilt is because you know yourself that after realizing their interested, you follow through?

>>18657405
No it's the feeling of shameful and guilty. Because I don't like them the way they like me. I enjoy their company and that's it. If they show me a little more than this and started to be more physically involved I will be reserved and just want to avoid them. And it shows on my face

>>18657366
I think my ex was kind like you op, we only "dated" briefly, but no sex or anything physical, she had a really weird reaction to those things. And she wasn't good at communicating so didn't allow us to talk through the problem and find a solution.
I trualy loved her with all my heart and I've been devastated since she pushed me away and stopped talking with me. I still cry every day and my life has lost meaning without her.

Anyway, I would suggest seeing a psychologist, and yea maybe you experienced some kind of abuse that you have blocked out, idk. Try to work this out asap before breaking more hearts like my ex did. I'm considering killing myself because of it all..

This is a blessing. Appreciate it.

=tfw cumming 10% of what I used to
I'm concerned

>>18657362
Unless it hurts or its color isnt whiteish/yellow no, you are ok.

>>18657353
Wait till you get caught

>>18657353
Any check they would have done would have been completed during the admissions process- they don't do random checks of people who are already students to see if you went to a different school, think for a second how absurd that would be and what a huge waste of time and resources.

Relax.

Breathe.

Use your brain.

>>18657407
enjoy your vitamin deficiencies from never eating fruits or vegetables


OP,
>>18657413
and congratulations on the completed semester.

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Some overbearing parents can. My mother would do and at times still does the same. We had a lot of fights before a healthy distance was established.

I'm 33 and completely independent living in a different country and she still calls in panic each time there's a terrorist attack / natural disaster thousands of Km away...

It's a sign she loves you but it can be very annoying. Just learn to live with it and establish limits progressively.

>>18657349
The night-out check-in may be a bit much, but it's a tiny inconvenience to you and makes your mother so much happier, so why not?

The daily message while away sounds totally normal. You admit this is your first time away - that means it is her first time having you away, and she's going to worry.

There's something more going on here. You send dozens of texts to various people every day. Why are you balking at just one more?

>>18658464
We had quite a lot of fights a couple years ago, me basically trying to push her away, my motivation being because I feel uncomfortable having such a close relationship, feeling like I'm a child. It probably came out of the blue for me to suddenly start trying to push her away, it may well have come across quite cold, she reacted very negatively to it, giving me the kinds of expressions of shock like I was saying I basically wanted to end any kind of relationship we had altogether (which of course I wasn't).

There were a couple of times where she had gone to bed and cried, with her telling me afterwards or my sister chastising me for making my mum cry. In the end, the relationship is essentially the same as it was before, no distance was established and my mum is happy with it, though I'm not.

One more little thing, I still call my mum "mummy". I remember trying to change it a couple of times, particularly when I was about 10 and found it quite embarrassing, my mum basically arguing back with "aw but I like it, I don't want you to call me "mum", it's just a bit..." an basically trailing off, so not really an argument, just her making me feel sorry for her for me to keep calling her "mummy". Just writing this pisses me off.

>>18658823
See what you mean with first point. You admit it's a "bit much" and why don't I just keep doing it to make her that much happier. Could it not also be argued that it's a bit much and so this should be limited?

Second point I see what you mean, it is the very first time and completely different to anything I've ever done.

As for the last point, when I think about it I suppose it's actually minor. I interpret it as me not being left alone, even if it's just a single text at 11pm.

>>18657340
I think it depends on the state, but I am pretty sure if you are scheduled then they are obligated to give you half the hours you were promised.

>>18657355
florida. typically feels like no rights here. does that change much? scheduled for 8 hours. sent home after 10 minute. lose holiday pay as well as the whole day sent home

>>18657406
Right to work state. Don't feel bad I am right above you in Georgia and had the same shit

The only people that like me are the ones I never get to see, and I suspect the friends I have from my hobby don't actually like me at all. I often dream I'm stuck up high, on like a mountain or something like that, and I see people below but I cant do anything I can just see them.

>message girl and ask if she will be at a party on campus
>"yep"

I've never met this girl and only asked because I need an excuse to not go to a different campus party
Not sure if I should respond or just show up

>>18657339
How the fuck do you approach girls that are complete strangers to you, e.g. in a bar, or in an event or whatever.

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>>18657323
sleep on floor on back for lu mbar support u get used to it k?

>>18657268
>Using a psychotropic drug to remember things

Yeah, sounds like a great plan.

>>18657268
Yep, but I only smoke 2-3 times a year. Weed definitely has psychedelic properties.

They way you worded it, it sounds like it's about reminiscing missed chances and those "what if..." dreams. Dissecting specific events doesn't seem very fruitful to me.

Anyhow, occasionally I do a kind of personal reflection too, being high. It's definitely interesting to view things in a different light. But I always try to give any insights enough sober afterthought.

Do you feel that a guy should have something to offer you to find him appealing? Something beyond looks or personality.

I'm obviously awkward around girls, how come girls never seem awkward around me?
Am I bad looking or are all girls super confident or something?

>>18657254
I find him appealing when his values line up with mine, when we are easily able to see each other's point of view, when we are able to communicate effectively, when our humor is compatible, when he welcomes and appreciates my embarrassing idiosyncrasies, when he shares my expectations on what we want from a relationship, when he shares my love languages, and when he is very receptive to my style of nonverbal body language.

>>18657244

Keep hanging out with them then?

>>18657585
I don't talk to them much and we went out like this all time. Ever since we broke up we haven't hanged out. 1 of those friends is a girl, the other a guy. I asked them if they wanted to go out but the girl said "get another girl with you and then i'll go". Even then though, it would feel weird to exclude my ex.

>>18657606

Bring her then?

>>18657243
>Have no experience with the opposite sex

I have no clue.
I've got a lot of issues with being close to others.

>>18657243
>am I a magnet for these types of girls?
It really is not uncommon for this to happen to people. Think of battered women who say, "Why is it that all the men I end up with keep being abusers?" Because the traits that they find attractive are often found in abusers.

Consider what "your type" is. Write it out, if need be. Now think about the girls who are NOT like that. Consider the girls who you have passed over for whatever reason. The ones that didn't really catch your attention, that didn't really keep a conversation going with you. Maybe try to get to know those girls better. You could surprise yourself.

>>18657252
Thanks!

I'll give this a deep though

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>>18657240
Get a motorbike instead.

(Pic related is a good bike too)

>>18657255
Too poor. Going to expensive grad school.

Also I'm saying moped because under 50cc I don't nred a motorcycle license