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>lose weight
>stand somewhere

Lose weight is not necessary but makes it easier.

>>18660097
I only ever get creeps or uggos with no personality talking to me

>>18660097
What if the girl is already thin? Plus, there are plenty of pretty girls so what reason would there be for a decent looking guy to go for a less good looking girl?

You've got the wrong mindset. Why do you think growing old means becoming irrelevant? Plenty of men and women (mostly men) age like a fine wine because they don't think about getting old like a negative thing. There's plenty of life left to enjoy, and you can see this if you are open to it. Pick yourself up by doing something you've never done (variety is the spice of life). Pick up an instrument and learn how to play, go biking or hiking, read a book on a topic you know nothing about, etc.
Also, cool it with the drinking sessions. Maybe that's helping you in the moment but it's damaging you health.

>>18660282
good advice anon, thank you

>>18660085
No, they might fix your "problem".

It's called euphoria. It's normal.

This happened to me. Checked me for everything. Gp sent me to urologist which sent me to dermatologist. Tried several different creams including anti yeast, mild steroid, diaper rash cream, and aquaphor. Non of it helped except maybe aquaphor slightly. They eventually said it was just contact dermatitis and it eventually went away after leading to events that ruined my marriage. I do not wish that shit on anyone. Hopefully yours not too painful. I could barely make it thru work when at my worst. Just try your best to supress boners and jerking for awhile.

Stop masturbating. Its friction burn.

>>18660028
You could always pursue art while you work a day job. It will reduce financial stress and you can always use your money to enroll yourself in music classes if you lack self-motivation and discipline.

Chad, balls deep in your gf.

Expect variations of "You'll be cucked into next tuesday because you're a beta fag and your gf is a slut" for the next hour and half. Enjoy the replies.

Just invite her to dinner around your place and eat chicken nuggets while watching anime.

>>18660027
yeah great advice

>>18660015
You should decide where to go. Start small e.g. coffee and build from there if you're enjoying your time. I prefer action dates over regular dates, less restrictive environment. Geocaching is fun as shit as a date.

Stop indulging yourself in these thoughts. Think of what you would tell a girl who fell for an abusive douche and now blames all men for his antics. Now I'm not trying to say that it's your fault that your ex is a piece of shit, but the thing is that if you keep clinging to the idea that you were powerless that won't do anything to better your life and your ability to see red flags. Your responsibility to sniff out her abusiveness was smaller than hers to respect you and treat you well, but you can't change anything about her, only yourself. So cut your losses and focus on learning lessons from it, grieving, and getting over it.

There's shit people everywhere. It's easy to think highly of your own gender when you are not trying to date them. There's a lot more tension, a lot more time spent together and a lot more at stake in a romantic relationship than in any friendship. You see people at their best and their ugliest.

I think you should find a therapist or counselor.

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>>18660053
>>18660053
I don't need a fucking therapist, I need a girlfriend who won't psychologically manipulate me any time she's update, telling me she cheated and that I'm naive for not realizing she would end up doing so, then taking it back, then telling me again that she's been cheating the whole time, then take it back, then threaten to cheat, then give graphic details of what she's doing to do, then physically assault me, then threaten to falsely accuse me of rape, then physically assault me again, all the while denying that any of this happened and getting mad if I bring it up any time she's not in a perfect mood and doing even more things. It's like there are two of her, the version that is sorry which very very rarely comes out, and the version that's just a fucking bitch with absolutely no remorse or empathy or the ability to feel sorry for anything she has ever done to anyone - everything is always the victim's fault, her other partners she's cheated on, everything, NEVER her fucking fault. Fuck everything

>>18660004
Depends on the luck of the draw but if the stats are to believe you have more than a 50% chance of divorce. There is always the alternative of marrying an illegal/immigrant and getting them their papers.

The real problem IMO is if they carry baggage i.e. kids. If they do then you're basically adding an entire world of problems from the starting gate from discpilining(she'll get furious if you touch him) to dealing with the fathers(which can be someone that will try to intimidate you constantly). I've seen it happen with my aunts and usually the guy left within a couple of years or they became really mean to her.

>>18660010
I can't date a girl from foreign lands because girls are all whores

If I am to marry a girl I need her complete sexual past and as I cannot trust whores (all women) I need references and to talk to unbiased people from their past (must be multiple sources) and to know they're sexual history to make sure they are not lying to capture my seed.

>>18660024
>If I am to marry a girl I need her complete sexual past and as I cannot trust whores (all women)

True but the beauty of the digital age is that background checks are cheap as FUCK. I've done it on girls, 20 bucks a pop is not a bad deal. Plus once you talk to her family you'll get a feel for what type of person she is. One weak spot for women is that they ALWAYS hang on to bulllshit memories in the form of photos. Which are a goldmine to study her past.

Also don't discount the stereotypes. If she moved away for college it implies she's a risk taker(i.e. slut) and even moreso if they did it straight out of college. Did she belong to a sorority? More than likely messed around. Did she do a women's study type degree? Then she's probably indoctrinated already.

Again, it's a minefield that is more or less gonna get you a leg blown off.

>I should be happy

No, you really shouldn't. Whatever you actually feel is the correct response.

You hurry it up by getting on with your life, and not idealising her when thinking about her.

Do things to keep yourself busy. Pick up new hobbies, enjoy old hobbies, and most importantly TALK TO OTHER GIRLS. If you see a cute approachable girl, go for it. Even if she doesn't end up being the one, the act of talking to her will greatly help you move on.

>>18659973
>room with friend from college, largely because he really needed someone to room with (i could have roomed with someone i would be more compatible with, but thought we were friends that he genuinely needed help)
>roommate does constant weird passive aggressive shit any time i do something he doesn't like, drives me insane, working 80hrs a week and not sleeping enough so i don't have time to deal with it
>can't sleep at night because i'm so stressed out being around someone i think hates me, he has way more free time and energy and free time than me and puts it to use bullying me despite causing massive problems like his dog infecting our apartment with fleas and shit
>gaining weight
>gf losing attraction, starts fights with me constantly
>still have strongly underdeveloped social skills from failed childhood socialization, can't deal with all of this shit at once
>not eating well
>depressed as shit, sit in my room and stare into space on the weekends
>health deteriorating
>realize that i have nothing to lose, decide to start dominating everyone who hurt me
>start lifting weights and intensely meditating out of anger and to make myself better at socially dominating other people
>start doing more and more douchebag shit to girlfriend since i feel hurt
>push back against coworkers who were bullying me since i don't give a fuck if i get fired anymore
>one can't carry his weight when i stop letting him latch onto my output and gets let go
>one realizes i'm more important to our manager than she is and freaks the fuck out, quits for new job despite more or less just getting promoted
>one gets scared and stops messing with me
>girlfriend breaks up with me
>anytime roommate starts with me, bully the shit out of him
>scare his girlfriend, bully him in front of her, and make her uncomfortable like he did to mine
>he starts grinding his teeth from stress and gets a mouth guard

>eventually worry that I'm stressing him out so much because i have a vision of him killing himself
>move back in with parents
>depressed as shit, waste several months doing the bare minimum at work to not get fired and feeling bad for myself and crying
>basically hate people
>don't see the point in developing close friendships anymore
>don't see the point in following ambitious anymore
>start to hate everyone i used to be friends with because (complicated) they complain about white people with easy lives and talk about how much they hate trump voters (vast majority of my family, see white trash part above) but they were born into rich, stable, upper class families and have no idea the difficulties these people face
>realize the only thing that matters in life is having options, because people will turn into jackals and tear you apart if they can sense you don't
>realize that people with easier lives than you will just kick the shit out of you over the most minor of things because they don't see that you're walking on the tightest of fucking tightropes just to function at a normal level
>alternate between feeling like a victim pushed around by careless people born into higher stations in life, a monster willing to push people off the ledge because they tap me in desperation, or feeling that none of my feelings of injustice matter that much because my life is ordained by god and i'm obligated to do good as long as i exist
>start having massive anxiety attacks
>developing weird obsessive thoughts about oral hygiene
>don't know anyone to talk to any of this about
>don't know what to think about any of this
>you probably read half of this
>thanks for taking a look

>>18659973
>me me me me me
sounds like you're ego tripping a bit.

that's a very relatable backstory, though. it always feels good to root for the "underdog" so to speak, because you've chosen to be something better than living like a struggling animal who does drugs and other wastoid shit.

I see you're still posting, so.

It's hot when a girl texts first.

Maybe he does not like texting or social media? I hate it because I am shit at it.
I can hold a conversation for hours in real life but with instant messaging I have no clue what to say and it gets awkward.

I avoid it out right unless I need to make plans.

>>18659967
would you prefer if a girl were the one to ask questions or keep the conversation going through text? or do you consider it borderline clingy?

M I l I t a r y

I think if I can land a job working with my degree full time or at the least combine my part time manager job with something 24 hours then I could jump into an efficiency and work from there. I can't keep doing this and pay the amount someone would pay in an efficiency and have the same privileges as a fucking kid.

>>18659946
The fucked up part is that I'm 33, they'll put me in a position where I can't properly train to qualify, and they'll look at it as a way to punch me up for more money.

They already are taking advantage of my sister's boyfriend who's a marine.

If I do military I'll have to do a great job at hiding that shit from them. They already know I'm a manager by simply walking into where I work.

>not finishing the job and killing the french whore

you have only yourself to blame

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bump, because I'm desperate?

>>18659919
You drop her

You're not responsible for other peoples actions or mental health.

Be honest, be fair, be kind, be understanding.

Ask yourself what really matters for you in a relationship?
Physical compatibility? No
Mental attraction? No
But if you share the same morals and values with this person, accept them for who they are and respect them this is enough for a relationship. Love is about respect and support, not bailing at the first hurdle