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>what it's like to be loved

The only thing on Earth that prevents me from killing myself. How you still haven't done that yet is a mystery to me, op

>>18661706
>How you still haven't done that yet is a mystery to me, op
Kind of getting close to it, desu.

>>18661699
that's why you've got to create one. Your past doesn't define you, your future does

>>18661686
I used to be you 10 years ago. I remember being a kid like you.
I've got three things to say
1) Go to the gym. Start lifting
2) Make friends with normies. Go out in IRL and in public. Get drunk and fuck up.
3) Be confident and not give a shit.

Women are attracted to one thing. Power.
Power comes in many forms. Money, intelligence, muscles. It's all power.
You may think "Hurr, I'm supah smaht, I gots brains power".
You don't.
You're just a kid who thinks he's better than his peers because he reads books instead of trying to impress girls.

If you ignore everything else I say, go to the gym.
Become a fit twat if you have to be one

>>18661705
Thank you anon, how do you meet with normies? I'm really introverted and awkward AF, but do you just try to make conversation with random people? How do you become approachable?

>>18661728
Are you in college?
My high schooling was abnormal so I can't advise you at all.

But for college, if you're in a class, if someone says something, meet them after and be "Hey, I thought what you said about X was cool"
Bam you have a reason to talk to them.
I know it's hard. It was always hard for me to do that too.
If you can do it once, you can do it again.

If you're up for your first year, go to all your Frosh events. I made a mistake a didn't. Fuck that. Do it. Go to all the stupid Frosh shit.
If they make you do the introduction shit say "Hi, I'm David and I love ice cream"

Just be honest and smile a little more than you feel like you want to

>>18661685
Because all stupid Americans smile like an idiots to attract more people

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Well insisting could be taken as arrogance.

Didn't you already make this thread earlier?

>>18661697

I did but the word normie triggered everyone. I used it in a sense they're more socially successful and generally better people while I'm a fuck up, but some anons took it as an insult and got distracted.

>>18661676
Yep it is , in fact a friend already knows your ugly ass
And she or he will tell straight answer to you , "yes or no "

>>18661683
Listen m8 we both decided that it would be best if we stayed friends

Yep. Took me two years almost exactly, and a shit ton of personal growth. I also spent like 30-40 hours a week alone with her through that time, not sure if that helped or made it worse but I got through it.

Don't worry once she sees how small your dick is she won't want to fuck anymore

Go take a walk and talk about anything and then bar hop

>>18661674
We actually did some bar hopping today, which is when she told me about her previous attempts to set up elaborate encounters, even though she's a virgin.

>>18661671
Well making an abort .. it will fuck her up so badly later.. she will regret her life and regret that she met you because the baby was killed

Be a responcible man and make your gf happy... even with little money you can have happiness

Are you the same guy from last week?
Or are kids nowadays really this fucking stupid

Do the world a favour and abort that fucking mistake. If you're too retarded to put on protection or pull out, and your gf is too retarded not to keep up with birth control, knowing that you're a fucking retard thrn that makes both of you too fucking stupid to be parents.
Plus it starts with one and she'll be wanting more so good luck with that.

>>18661731
Children are the key to world peace and happiness hey? Is that what you tell yourself every night after you rape you 5 wives?

>>18661664
Bump

>>18661664
Been in a similar situation.
Jump on it.
Ask her out on a fucking date. And don't be too ambiguous about it.

>>18661664
If you only text each other, get to meet her more, go out with her, if you don't want this to be dates yet I think it's alright, they're going to be dates over time (when you'll go out)

Buy Indonesia? Like, all of it?

I'm sure there are better investments anon

>>18661644
Start small. Buy Bali first, and then leverage it.

Why? Shit and giggles?

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Being a faggot does have a great impact throughout life.

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>>18661628
>Could this be due to childhood trauma?
Why do you care? What would it change even if it was?

There isn't a strict cause-and-effect between traumas and behavior. We always hear how those who abuse their children were also abused BUT not all who were abused automatically abuse in response.

You can deal with your problem now without needing to look for excuses for it.

>>18661628
Take notes. There's no shame in that. Many "normal" people do that, just to be sure.

Just say "Wait a minute. Let me write this down, step by step, just so I'm sure." Nobody will be offended or think you're being odd in any way.

So, just tumblr.

This is pathetic. Take a few more minutes and learn to close threads while you're at it.

>>18661627

Pretty much Tumblr. Two places with two groups of people who are just looking for someone to blame for the fact that they're unlikable, unfuckable human garbage.

>>18661626
Be hot.

If you arent hot now, work for it. Thats all you gotta do.

And dont die

>>18661626
>I want maturity, not money.
Then you have to have the maturity of a 25-35 year old.

>>18661626
1. be hot
2. don't have had significantly more sexual partners than him
3. demonstrate your willingness to contribute something more than your body to the relationship

that's basically all we want and yet it's just too much to ask for a huge percentage of the female population.

>>18661624
What was the lie? What did the letter say (and why were you opening his mail)?

Lemme guess, involves his family?

Wtf was the back story?

>>18661631
I'd rather not get into the details, but yes, it was about family.

The letter was from someone that he claimed was dead.

Just ask the girl that you're interested on to go for lunch together. After awhile move on to dinner.

>>18661607
Too add into the sage advice: if you're trying to hit and have a success, consider to arrange one of you to move into a different workplace, or if it's only working as a fling, then be professional about it, "don't ask, don't tell."

>>18661607
I used to work at a hotel as overnight... I don't think I'd have ever hit on a girl there. You're going to go from artificially being nice and explaining how you are a servant to trying to be smooth? Idk what type of girls stay there but if it's a cheaper one maybe...business hotel fuck no and a resort probably not.

I have had women hit on me. Drunk ones overnight shoved money down my pants when I went to help them with shit. Sometimes awkward ones would ask me to linger in their rooms but it never escalated and I never had an interest in bothering after work.

Coworkers are a different story. I was able to sleep with a few coworkers. Idk if you get those foreign 1 yr contract workers but the girls are isolated away from anyone who cared about them in a new city/country and usually single since girls are terrible with ldr. It's about as easy as it gets for fwb just don't be a dumbass about it.

>>18661604
Started off Christian, had more issues with it over time. Eventually I gave it up and found my own set of beliefs that feels right to me, at least for now

>>18661611
Did you doubt yourself when going through that?

>>18661604
I gave up on Christianity due to circular reasoning. or at least that was the one of many reasons i gave up on religion in general. it's all bullshit

>>18661596
Don't try to do anything in the first week or two of school. Just be a warm, comforting presence. Smile, offer her a pencil (I am old, I realize that probably isn't still a thing), make small talk about the lectures. Have your shit together (dress neatly, show up on time with margin, appear prepared).

Once you lay that groundwork, then just be up front and honest and steer clear of all that subtly shit (she's introverted, she doesn't like dealing with people's shit). Say something like "Its been cool hanging with you in class and you seem real nice. Can I take you out for coffee sometime?" Or movie or lunch or whatever you prefer.

In short, be forthright but don't come on too strong. Be cool and earnest.

>>18661614

OP, do not interpret 'dress neatly' to mean 'dress shirt and tie'.

Just don't wear T-shirts too large for you and cargo shorts.

>>18661618
Yeah I'm not a fuckboy so that's not an issue
Thank you, I'll gather the most tips I can here