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My father is too protective.

I was the last kid in class to be allowed to have my house keys, to go alone to school or to go out until midnight.

But now I'm 21 y.o , I have a job and I pay my own university fees and I have my own car. Yet he goes to check whether my car is ok almost every day or he never leaves the house to ensure I don't make a party.

I've realised he is mentally crazy since I don't deserve to be treated like a retarded meet when I earn my own money, get good grades and I don't do drugs

How to tell him to gtfo and stop controlling me?

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Last we spoke, she was distraught. She spent hours explaining to me how much she loved me, but I'd fucked up too hard. She needed time away from me, and I understand that.
It'll be her birthday soon, and 3 months since we've spoken.
I've written her a letter to accompany the last few things I never got to give her.
Is this coming across too strong? Do I just send a text, or is silence golden in this instance?

I love her so much

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>Graduated high school a year ago and went to another high school for a core program. but my mother believes it's a college. Instantly hated it and started skipping after the last couple of weeks, dropped out of Graphic design to focus on IT. During that period, want to join the military and leave the pass behind. During my time in the school, make more anti-social and decided to cut all of my friends out of my life and ignore anyone who tried to befriend me and sat alone at lunch to not grow any unnecessarily attachment to the younger students. Have no driver's license at 19 and get asked by parents to get one and make up a bull-shit excuse. Parents are never home and I'm stuck at home by myself with regret and self-loathing. Wanted to leave the school since last year but mother intervened instead of me making my own decisions. Feel trapped by my parents and myself. During that period, thought joining the military but fear parents won't let me. Gaining weight and lack of sleep which fucked my memory and I feel like I forget everything. Parents enable these habits of giving junk food everyday after work. Becomes extremely numb and indifferent about the world. Currently at that shitty school learning networking in my hopes of learning Cyber security. During my stay out of high school and in that core program. I have formed a plan to get my life back in track but am too lazy to even bother going through with it.

What do I like do guys ?

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I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years today. For her, it came from nowhere, because the main problem in our relationship was my inability to express my feelings and frustrations to her. Now I feel like an ass because she wasn't expecting anything at all.

Before however, when I already knew that the break up was going to happen ( but couldn't do it right away because of a shared vacation and her going out of town right after ), I thought I would act mostly normal to make it easier for her, by not raising any unnecessary doubts or worries before the fact.

Was that wrong? Should I have somehow "prepared" her? Should I have flat out told her before the vacation we were all looking forward to?

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How do I become braver?
I want to be able to step in when shit's going down. I want to know to talk back and put people in their place.
Been to martial arts a few years, was attacked and reacted enough times to know O have the skill for it.
But in my mentality, I'm a coward. How do I improve this?

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Guys, guys, I'm getting anxious tonight. My 2 months(almost 3 months nexr week) pup won't eat anything. It started around Thursday night but he drank lots of water that time and was pretty active. Around midnight, he was able to eat his usual dog food, about half cup. Then the next day, he still won't eat, however, around afternoon, he was able to eat about a cup of his food and drankmlots of water as usual. But last Saturday which is yesterday, he refused to eat anything. We gave him half cup of milk which he drank then refuses later on. Then this Sunday night, he threw up a live worm which caught us off guard. The former owners told us that they had him dewormed last month so we were confident to take him to the veterinarian for his first 5 in 1 vaccine. But a couple of days later, he just started not eating right. We looked for every clinic to call tonight but they are all busy probanly being Sunday and all. I am very worried aince we were told that having the vaccine first before deworming is not strongly advisable. I am very worried and we are now makinhg him drink more water or at least force fed him with soft food just to have something in his stomach. Tomorrow is holiday which might give me a stroke.

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I have TMobile for the next month and those guys are said I had infinite international coverage on the phone but all of a sudden, they're saying they're gonna terminate my plan because I've spent more than 50% of the time roaming in Mexico or Japan. I still plan to go back to the US but my work demands that I stay extended periods of time in different places, it just happened to be within the US 90% of the time and it hadn't been an issue for 7 years.


So I have until the 18th of September to somehow keep this number which is tied to all my plastic, online services, online hosting and all sorts of stuff. Anyone dealt with something like this before? I don't mind about the money. I would be willing to pay extra if it would save me the hassle of going through all my services and resetting them with a number number one by one.

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I finished college now im a porn addicted shut in with no friends living in a dark room everyday

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How can I be more social in daily interactions?

>be me freshman year
>not very social
>try to be straight edge because "muh pre med"
>don't go out, drink, or do drugs
>go to party for once beginning of sophomore year
>hookup with girl
>meet my now ex gf the following week
>alcohol is great
>gf makes me more social
>grades ended up going up by the end of sophomore year
>now junior year
>going to parties twice a week, meet girls, have fun
>still awkward in daily social interactions without some alcohol

I've become a lot more social recently, especially in party situations; I don't know what or why this happened but my friends are happy that I'm finally not anti-social. I don't have a problem talking to people in my classes, but I struggle with initiating conversation. How do I go about this and making small talk with people? What do people mean when they say "smile more"? Drunk/buzzed me will talk to anyone, but I can't initiate shit because I'm too awkward sober.

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dumb ho shit
Few months back my best friend since childhood got out of a long relationship with her first love. Few days after they broke up I went to his house with the sole intent to get high and make some art. Knew he wanted to fuck though. Went to his room for idk what and I have this weird anxiety about stopping people from fucking me ?? So ya know, I consented even though I didn't want to. I purposefully didn't preform well so he'd not want to fuck me again, and pulled the "omg you were so good" shit build his ego or whatever. Its been months and idk if he told my friend but I feel guilty as fuck and am not sure what to do. He's crazy as shit and still messages her everyday, she says she doesn't reply but I dont believe it. Is it necessary to tell her? If he tells her out of rage its gonna look so much fucking worse. R e g r e t someone help

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Should I confront the dude that threatened me and isn't my friend anymore over riding front seat on the way back of a trip where he had front on the way?Basically two years ago exactly on vacation in Florida my family and another family who's close friends went. The daughter is my sisters best friend..

But he weirded her out by sending unsolicited dick pics... this embarrassed me but I always put up with his flaws and didn't make a big deal of it.

This past Friday he made the biggest deal and was the biggest cut about me calling shotgun on the way back from a trip in which he had called shotgun over fb and I let him have it on the way.... so some res petty shit and I let the big stuff slide...

Should I be like I know what you did and was too nice and accepting of your major flaws to call you out on it? Like seriously I wanna be like you're a weird ass dude and since I was your friend I put up with it but in retrospect should have cut you off then. I just want him to know he's a fucked up dude.

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How do you decide if a girl is just being friendly or there's something more?

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>my libido is much lower than my gf's
>she's very frustrated by this and tells me a few times
>yesterday she asked again (she's asked 2 times before I think) if I want to try an open relationship
>i tell her what I think of this kind of stuff: I see no point at all to have a "relationship" where 2 people have no commitment and fuck whoever they feel like, this kind of relationship is worthless.
>she says I might change my mind if we tried it, I should at least try it before being deterministic like this
>i ask her a bunch of times if she has someone in her mind that she wants to fuck, she says no, I ask if she's sure and being sincere to me so she insists she doesn't have anyone in mind
>i tell her if this is that much of a dealbreaker to her, and/or she wants to see other people we should breakup on good terms and each go our own ways
>she says she never really considered breaking up with me and she loves me way too much

Honestly, I don't really want to breakup with her too, but this is clearly straining her and I don't know how to deal with it. There's absolutely nothing else I can do but breakup? She insists she does not want to breakup and this is not up for discussion, I even said maybe she likes me just as a friend and I'm not the type of guy she's into, but she denies.
I've never been a sexual guy, and I'm fine with being this way, really, I sometimes do it just to make her happy, but she tells me she knows I'm not really even enjoying it.

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Anyone lost their virginity to a person they don't feel attracted to? Do you regret it?


I am thinking of sleeping with a fat friend so I learn what to do in my future encounters, should I go with it or is it a bad idea?

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Why does trying to meet new people feel like 50% anxiety and 50% boredom?