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>>18664110

Exercising and meditation doesn't cure mental illness. Its a stupid meme. Get a psychiatrist.

>>18664114

I'm already seeing a psychologist, and that was helping for a bit but now I'm a lot worse off.

I have a psychiatrist too, and she had me on anti-psychotics (I am also bipolar). They didn't help at all so I got off them and I'm on minimal meds right now.

The only pill that I know helps me is a benzo but she refuses to put me on them

Stay alone, or find similar tards. In my case, it's the first, but somehow I've managed to make 2 friends. Not really close, but they're there.

>>18664134
Sorry, If I confused you :)
I appologise for not thinking about the double meaning, but I was talking about a sexual relationship with the opposing sex. ;)

>>18664148
Become fuckboi

You'll need to allocate time to hang out with them. If you're having difficulty finding a good reasoning to hang out, just ask them to help you on something and later offer your help to them. The act of give and take will nurture friendship.

>>18664178

that's a great idea :) but i'm having more trouble with actually getting past the initial barrier of approaching them and starting a conversation without seeming insanely socially inept

Having same problem. Gonna lurk here

Well, uh, that's a dickens of a problem there Padre. I'm not sure this is the place to sort out such issues. Do you have any grandparents, aunts, uncles, and so forth. You can also go to a crisis center (assuming you have one). Another option is to find some form of employment, nothing complex but hopefully one that can cater to what artistic talents you have. If you get a job then that's one less thing people can use against you.

>>18664172

I'd get a job but mentally I can't handle it. I tried and it's always either getting fired or me quiting. Not much money either. I had wanted to focus on my personal artwork that I could earn money from, it will take time but I can do it if I have a safe home. No one believes though, they all write me off as forever loser because I don't promote how hard I work. You look at me you see someone who plays video games all day but really I work.

But while I look for work I still need to sort this out until then and until I get money and find a place. My dad said I can go back live with him if I follow his rules, when I ask what the rules are he says they are not definite. And he has all my belongings and may never give it to me.

In terms of practical advice, I have none. You weren't wrong, cutting you was extremely wrong, I feel sorry for you.

I hope you get it figured out, stay with your dad if it helps but don't piss that guy off, he is crazy for doing that.

I hope others reply b/c I don't know what to say.

>When all you do is argue

I am not a man so I couldn't really tell you how to last longer, but if that's a problem to you, learn how to use other things, trust me, the penis is not the only way to make a girl cum, good luck.

>>18664098
Attempting a hijack

I am very confident in my ability to get a girl to cum using other tools of my body, but I am incredibly nervous attempting to start a new sexual relationship with someone when I know that I'm going to have to resort to them in order to get the girl off.

Its like "Yo I know you in the market for a lambo, but if youre interested I got the best Impreza around. mhu"

>>18664108
It depends on the girl of course, some of them care and some of them don't, if you going all in with a girl try to trust her and be confident, prolly a long term relationship would be the best, she will know wassup and only lame girls will judge you for not using your penis only.
Listen, I have that kind of a problem too (and I'm a girl) I cum really fast and it's a little bit embarrassing sometimes, men don't really see it like that lol, Ijust think you will need to try a lot of girls in order to get to a girl that will understand and it's willing to help.

>>18664051
a faggot

the "i dont give a fuck" look is where its at

>excellent hygiene
>good bone structure i.e. strong and pronounced but also balanced features
>decent fashion sense
>GOOD HEALTHY POSTURE makes the biggest difference
>confident but not arrogant gait and body language

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>>18664056
>the "i dont give a fuck" look is where its at
What does that mean?

Woah there buddy, careful you don't cut yourself on all that edge

You're not a sociopath you edgy fuck. Stop making up problems for yourself and everything else will fall into place.

>>18664070
Actually, this diagnosis comes from my psychologist... But thanks for the effort.

How does it clash? I'd think it'd be helpful to be more gentle and sensitive in a relationship desu

What kind of guy do you want to be?

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>>18664034
one that doesn't have the urge to splurge what he feels and thinks out at once. I'm way too honest and that annoys me myself but I can't help it.
I'd like to be cool calm and collective and in control of myself at least.
Chicks say they want a sensitive guy but not one that is more emotional than they are :(

>>18664082
the only way to control it is by placing yourself in that mindset

whenever you think about showing your feelings or speaking of them, inmediately think of not saying it

i am a soft guy aswell, but all my female friends think i am emotionless because of me expressing zero feelings, although I do show feelings when it is required

just place yourself in the mindset and the attitude will follow

>>18663981
>So I get straight up and walk out.
Alpha as fuck.

I'd say you made the right choice, unless this girl has experienced some serious emotional/sexual trauma, I don't see why she'd curve you. If she can't give a good explanation, I would cut her off completely.

yeah, that was shitty from her, but you also reacted pretty rude. how about you actually talk about what just happened and see if there's a solution? but it sounds like you already made up your mind. are you just here to get validated?

>So I get straight up and walk out.
That's an overreaction if I ever saw one. She doesn't owe you a kiss just because you were cuddling. She doesn't owe you anything.

>>18663958

Therapy.

>>18663973
I think it's too early for it and I don't really want it

I kinda understand you anon, I had a break-up 5 days ago with the love of my life and my friendship with a best friend of 7 years is slowly falling apart because of his sociopathic toxic girlfriend which doesn't have any friends and openly says that she wants to be the only important person in his life. I felt the same way you do when I was 16, I was fully expecting that I'm not going to develop enough to be live an adult life and have friends who aren't teenagers with piss for brains.

You should learn to change sadness into anger, anger makes you feel motivated to actually do things. You should realize that it might seem like you're not developing, but from the emotional point of view - do you want to stand in one place? If not, get fucking mad about it and start doing shit.

My argumentation might sound illogical and like some motivational bullshit, but you need to understand that emotions are what drives you to do stuff. So ignore the facts, be more angry about bad shit happening in your life.

I can't really say more since I don't know anything about you

tuck it in and give it a kiss

>>18663912
Keep the kitty he seems cute

if you can catch it, take it to the vet and get it neutered.

>>18663880
>I guess my question is, is my generation just better off without kids?

A few things,

1. I think that question is way too personal to blanket it over an entire generation.

2. The lives of your best friends from high school are not indicative of a greater pattern. Every single one of your friends could of had triplets and it still would have no statistic implications on the child rearing patterns of your generation.

3. The simplest answer is that no generation will be better off without kids because there would be no generation after them if that were the case.

4. Life being different than what you thought it would be is classic growing pains. Get used to the feeling because it'll never go away. You never really figure things out you just get better at rolling with the punches.

if you have a kid by mistake and if you have a kid with someone you don't manage to keep up a relationship then you're just an idiot and immature.
that doesn't mean having kids has to be like that. not at all.
but having a kid and not let it ruin your life requires two functional and mature adults and that is, to be honest, very hard to find.
kids making people miserable is in 80% of cases the parents fault. the only exception is if you get disabled kid, but even then, that's doable without ruining yourself if you're intelligent enough. believe me, i worked with disabled children and the impact that has on the parents is directly related to their maturity and intelligence.

I am 30, married, wealthy, healthy.No kids, same goes for all my friends. Literally nobody had a kid. They also have jobs and partners. While my mum married at 19 and had me at 21. World has changed very much since then.

>falling for the facial hair meme
>not being a part of the clean shaven patrician class

>>18663921
Not helping

pls help

>>18663832
> 4 year old girl version of a 11 year old boy was licking my neck and [vag]
u wot m8

>>18663832
Lena Dunham is that you?

Okay. Start jerking off. A lot. If you can, to CP. Everytime you get an urge to do something like that you should jerk off, you'll feel guilty about your fantasies when you cum.

You're going to slowly get bored with little girls and maybe find a less fucked up and less immoral fetish.

That's how I suppressed homosexuality in me.