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Bumping because I too would like to know more

Invite her out for drinks. If she says no, leave it there.

Are you a woman?:

Anyway, you have to reach out for fucking outside help. Go to mental health professionals, counseling, 911 anything.
You questioning your love could mean you're not having a good time anyway, but feeling too invested to actually let it go.

You gotta break the abusive relationship cycle, wether you're a man or woman doesn't matter much unless you plan on going to a woman's shelter since there's obviously very few men's shelters, you gotta break the cycle and the second they bring you flowers after an argument or whatever they do to make up for the arguements/attacks or whatever goes on, you run out and go to a trusted family member's home and explain the situation, I've had to personally help a friend with a very similar situation and lying doesn't help the situation at all.

If you both live in a apartment or something and they primarily or partially own the property then you need to leave, if you own the property then change the locks before they get the chance to continue the cycle, talk to family about possibly getting a restraining order.

The first step is realizing that as fun as it may seem or great it seems in the moment, they're bad for you and you need them out of your life.

>>18664248
If someone physically hits you outside of some consensual fetish thing, they can't change. This isn't someone depressed talking about hurting themselves, or someone saying something mean in the heat of an argument with you. This is someone physically assaulting you, find a therapist who deals with breaking people out of trauma bonds if you can't manage it yourself.

Dump her anyways.

She's not going to feel any better to find out that you've been faking your interest in maintaining this relationship just to spare her feelings.

Are you really breaking up with her just because she won't take birth control though? There's so much non-penetrative stuff that's fucking amazing. What's the whole story?

>>18664257
thats just the reason that just pisses me off the most, she starts arguments over nothing and then plays the victim, shes also really controlling and jealous

>>18664246
Break up with her if you don't want to be with her. Easy.

Though I will point out you shouldn't be pissed off at women for not wanting to take birth control. Those pills were invented in a time before modern regulations and as such have really shitty side effects (including infertility). Not to mention the fact you have to take them every single day at the exact same time or they don't work. It's a lot more responsibility, and potential harm, than you just wearing a condom for a couple minutes.

>>18664235
yes it is

most people lose their friends when they get a serious gf so I wouldn't worry about that.

if you find osmeone you want to build a life with and they want to build a life with you... you'll have what you want.


if you want someone to "date" while you both go on about your business.... it won't last

>>18664235
Yes.

>What if you're a loser with no friends
No. Sorry but positive, lovely girls usually have strong and positive family/friends network and expect their partners to have that too. It's like expecting a cardio bunny to date a fatass who never moves and eats junk food. It doesn't go together.

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>>18664247
I don't want a "positive, lovely" girl whatever the fuck that is. I want a girlfriend who is also a loser with no friends except me so we can be losers together.

uh is he actually cheating or just talking to another girl? Please specify what's so bad about him talking to girls.

You'll need to play a little game of hard-to-get. When he's around, flirt around with his friends or stare at some nearby hot studs. Don't do anything extreme, just enough so he get a little bit jealous.

It actually encourages a healthy relationship, you should do it even if you got no problems with your partner.

It's his fault, not hers, for pursuing her after you (presumably) expressed discomfort.

It's your fault for staying with a guy like that. If something he does makes you feel unhappy and he won't stop, leave. You'll be doing the both of you a huge favor.

1. don't be a snitch unless he's done something to you to warrant an act of revenge
2. if you tell someone and he manages to convince the cops he's clean he can sue the shit out of you, so don't risk it just because you don't like the guy

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>You will never be this pathetic
Thanks OP

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op is a faggot

Get a good job with your degree. Pay it as normal. Use bonuses to clear that shit out.

>>18664191
>It wasn't that bad but it wasn't good either
do you want to fuck her?
then dont apologize
if you are not into girls, then go ahead

>Apologizing
Honestly I've learned that with women it's better to just pretend things like your scenario never happened. They're usually willing to let bygones be bygones if they like you, and bringing it back up again is just going to change their opinion about you for the worse.

>>18664191
What do you mean "embarrassingly high"? Usually if you get super high you just act like a vegetable... If its at a party that shit happens all the time so its not particularly embarrassing. Did she know you were high?

Be a manly man.

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Can you post an example?

>>18664182
this

How old are you two?

>>18664161
I'm 19 and she's 23, she has difficulties coping with that.

Should we just pretend that nothing happened or what should I do?

>>18664133
As long as there's people around and I'm not doing anything, like just chilling going through my phone. If you approach a chick with no one else around, it's a little weird.
The gym, for example, has people all around. However, I'm focused on my workout and it's just annoying having my flow being interrupted like that.
Personally, I hate being approached by strangers if they're just trying to get at me (Hey girl, you're cute. Can I get your number?). I like it when people come up to me, but to ask me about my day and try to know me.
Men being too upfront has never worked on any of my girl friends.
Get to know the girl, be friendly, be respectful, and she'll do the same! (I'm speaking for myself though)

>>18664133
I don't mind being approached by a stranger if I'm waiting for a bus/on the train/waiting outside of class, that kind of thing. It can be nice to have a casual chat with someone new when nothing else is really going on.

However I don't like being bothered when I'm busy. Eating food, working in a library, obviously in a rush to get somewhere, reading a book, etc.

Nor do I like it when it's blatantly obvious the guy is only interested in getting in my pants. I can tell when you don't actually give a shit about what I'm saying.

>>18664133

Why do you need to resort to this? Realizing you have no female friends and no social life should make you want to get those things, not give up.

Start going to parties and places where it's not weird to hit on girls. Start meeting more women and flirting with them. Use this as a wake up call.

>>18664122
jack off

>>18664946
>jack off
fucking degenerate. OP, you need to milk your prostate like jesus and his apostles so that you can release your built-up sexual tension without sinning. Focus on something that isn't sexual like a thumbtack or a potato chip, then insert a large phallic object up your ass until love milk is released

Just fucking wank

Don't do it, at least not in your current financial state. You'll end up hiring a cheap third rate surgeon that would scarred you.

Just set a little aside everyday. Any excess money you acquire (tips, windfalls, etc.) you save up until you can afford it. If you can't wait that long then you'd have to take out a loan, but it's never a go idea to acquire debt if you can help it so it's a last resort kind of thing.

You might also want to see if there's any volunteer programs for test subjects for procedures. You run the risk of complications and unknown results but they are often free and might even PAY you. Hope this helps!

>>18664116
Whore yourself like every other vain and narcissistic fake bimbo out there does

You still got tons of options at 29. You only need to worry when you're reaching 40.

>>18664153
"Fuck-up" is also a key word. I've mostly been drunk for the last 10 years. I don't have a good work history, very limited skills, and failed out of university. I guess this helps to narrow my career options because I am definitely not going for anything too ambitious.

>>18664111
Thats actually a fine idea. No advice needed.

Dude, ive done every kind of job and im university educated. Been management been the bitch and what have you. Listen to me.

All jobs suck. Period. You can divide them into most stressful and least stressful if anything. Im a skill tradesman now. Least stressful and best paying.

Do the heavy machine operating. Theyll pay well and your life is yours when you clock out. I promise from experience if you want more in your life, the pay and the lack of trouble will help you enrich yourself.

Never ever accept a supervisor or management role. You are a happy wage man.