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I'm alone and sad, please help me make friends.
How do I get others to be interested in me? You know, like get them to ask me questions about myself and wanting me to talk with them? It always seems like everyone I talk to only wants to talk, never listen.
I'm okay with listening to others, but there comes a point where I actually want to talk WITH another person, not be talked AT. Even when I show an interest in what they say, they interrupt me, talk over me, or just plain ignore anything I say. I'm not aggressive or narcissistic enough for me to just blab on about myself like they do, but I'm going to get nowhere at this rate.
I've tried learning about them, it doesn't work. I've tried getting them to talk about themselves, it doesn't work. I have to initiate everything, I have to go out of my way just to be able to converse with others... and I still end up with no real friends. Am I crazy for wanting a friend who actually cares about me?
Is this normal? Does everyone else feel this way until they magically find someone else that actually seems interested in them? Or does everyone else have people who want to talk to them and I'm just some weirdo no one likes?
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You need to recognize that EVERYBODY, even you, only wants to talk about them self or relate your stories to their life. It's hard to step out of the "in the center" mentality.
1.) care about yourself, if you need others to listen to you about life, youre probably not satisfied with it. Figure out why not
2.) making friends is about taking an interest in others or in a common activity. If you meet someone that doesn't want to know a little about you then they are not your friend.
Live your life for you and no one else, then friends will come.
Also smile and don't be afraid to say or do something dumb. It disarms others so they are comfy with you
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>You need to recognize that EVERYBODY, even you, only wants to talk about them self or relate your stories to their life. It's hard to step out of the "in the center" mentality.
Yea, I know that, but I still put forth an effort into not making things about me, even so to the degree where a friend I've known for 5 years (online) said he only knows like 20% of me.
>1.) care about yourself, if you need others to listen to you about life, youre probably not satisfied with it. Figure out why not
What makes me unsatisfied is the fact that I have no friends to hang out with, save for 1, maybe 2 people.
>Live your life for you and no one else, then friends will come.
I... don't think that'll help. Trust me, I've lived my life for a long time and didn't find my first friend until college.
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>>18664863
Don't look for friends. Look for activities
Join a club. Join a gym. Take a class. Do volunteer work.
You'll be DOING something in the company of others, and so talking about the something will be a natural opening. From there, one of you will naturally ask "What brought you here?" and go from there
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I've been taking Strattera for my ADHD for about 2 1/2 months now. I wanted to start off not taking stimulants but now I feel like I'm regretting it because I absolutely have no idea if it's working. I took it over the summer so I couldn't really test out if it's working or not, but now i'm in school and i'm scared it's not working. i've been told it takes a while to kick in but i've been on 100mgs for a while now.
i'm thinking of changing my meds but i wanna hive strattera until the end of this month to see if i experience any difference.
has anyone else taking strattera have this problem?
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If it's not working just switch. There's so many ADHD meds out there. Plenty of different things to try.
I take Vyvanse, and when I started taking it it didn't really feel like it was doing much for me, but there was still a palpable difference in my behavior.
Honestly I have no idea how Strattera works, but given what you said I'm assuming it's not a stimulant like Vyvanse is, and it might be extremely different, but what I'm getting at is that you may be expecting it to feel differently than it does. You might already be focusing better than you were before without noticing it. I found that the effects of the medication were there and strong, but my expectations were so far off from the reality that for the first couple of days I didn't it was working.
Just give it a bit of a chance. Ultimately, talk with your doctor about it, but just keep in mind that they might be more effective than you think they are.
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I was briefly on shittera when I was a kid, and it was not fun. I threw up all the time and lost my appetite, and I didn't think it was working. But, according to my parents, it worked like a fucking charm, so probably just keep at it a while and believe in big pharma, anon.
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>>18664862
If you take those long enough, you'll wake up feeling terrible and generally just be a zombie all day. I hated those things. My mom omly made me take them so she could make me out to be retarded so she could get a monthly check. Seriously don't take them, throw them down the toilet.
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I have a problem of convenience, my goals are being affected because either I don't start something because the "start up" cost is too high, or when I do start something the "maintenance" cost is too high.
For example, dieting. I want to make incremental changes to my diet, but the start up cost of cooking is higher than something more convenient. Or I try to build the habit of running but the maintenance cost of how much time I spend doing it eats away from the ease of doing leisure or computer work.
I'd like to break my cycle of "this is more convenient", so if anyone has any advice I'd greatly appreciate it.
To be clear, if there's no way to just be rid of my convenience mindset, I'd like to start setting up my life so that good habits come easy and bad ones are challenging
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Push through
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>>18665610
Thanks for the encouragement, I'll do my best
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/Adv/ice,
Should I keep photos of my ex and me on my phone? I feel weird going through my phone and deleting pictures of us... but maybe that's a healthy thing to do?
What if someone else saw pictures of her on my phone... what do other people do?
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no.you need to move on.
But if you really want to keep them, put them somewhere you wont have to look at.
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>>18664883
yup
I've got my ex locked in an encrypted fs along with records of various crimes. works for me.
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>>18664852
Delete them.
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My life for the next 10 years
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So I need some advice, any advice on how I'm basically going to lead my life for the next 5 to 10 years. Truth be told I realize I'm probably only doing this to rant, and by extension already know the answers to my problems, but being able to tell some one about my problems and have them listen puts even a bit of it off my shoulders
Long story short I'm 25 years old and currently have a minimum wage job. I have a degree but I didn't do any volunteer work or internships so my degree can get me precisely jack shit. Life's hard living in socal, every things expensive as shit.
I recently enrolled in an adult school for pharmacy tech and hopefully if all goes well i can get my own place and make a neat 2k a month by this time next year.
Here's where the problems arise. Although 2k seems like alot, I've slowly come to realize even living on my own its hardly shit. I'm probably going to have to share an apartment with two other people in a one bedroom and pay 700, max, with another 150 or so counting utility and phone bills. I have no car so car payments and gas aint an issue, but I do have a 27k loan from going to college for 7 years that's currently weighing down on me. Granted 27k is nothing in comparison to other students loans but its still higher then fucking 0. I want to get it out of the way asap and pay 500 a month and basically have it done by the time I'm 32. That then leaves me with about 700 every month, which I know I'm going to have to divide between getting my games, going out with friends, drinking, my *cough*vape*cough* and getting food, though food shouldn't be an issue since I can live off a hundred every month. I used to share a place with 4 other dudes during college so I got this shit down to a science.
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Right now I'm basically paying fuck all for anything since I live at my moms apartment, but I butt heads with her and my sisters to often and I burnt most of my familial bridges due to be a raging sperg. Asking for help after I'm done with school is basically out the window, so I'll practically be alone. I get about 1000-1100 a month at my current job, which makes me realize that the new job isnt nearly as lucrative as I thought. I tend to burn through my cash pretty quick. I'm going to have to kiss some ass until I get at least my first raise.
And ah, the raise, another point of contention. I have no idea how high the raise would be and if there would eventually be a hard cap to just how much I can make, though I'm assuming it's "yes, you fucking lazy imbecile". If any ones wondering, I'm hoping to get work at the local kaiser which makes things some what easier, i can just fucking walk over to my job. I'm hoping there's medical benefits as well though I wont hold my breath.
I've had my dreams of finally being independent, getting my own place and building my dream 1200 buck gayming rig and just being a lazy fucking slob, but I guess ill have to put that off until I'm atleast 35
Anyways, main reason I'm posting is to see if anyone else has any similar experience as well anything you can teach me. Anything that will make life seem like less of a fucking hassle or things I need to look out for being it hits me square in the face.
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Good news is you have a degree and you've been actively working.
Play up any kind of strengths you have on your resume and keep looking. Mention you are willing to relocate (if the pay is much better than min wage). Don't stop working or at least doing something because that won't look good to employers. You need to use that degree asap.
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Honestly im clueless as to what the hell to even do with it. Ive been told to just go back to school and get my masters/doctorate but with my grades and tendency to massive lazy piece of shit I dont want to just end up piling on more debt. For reference, i forgot to mention all I have a psych degree
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I'm 21 and in college, and really like a coworker who's 18 and saving for college. I'll summarize events up to now
>get a job at Taco Bell
>everything is about as i expected
>a girl named Cassie gets hired
>has worked there before and gets hired as a shift lead
>we quickly become friends because we get scheduled around the same time really often
>we have an identical sense of humor
>we both have a tendency to use odd voices and make strange noises
>we both say things without thinking and confuse others with our logorrhea
>btw, she's so fucking hot that half the people at the drive-through flirt with her
>she just ignores it
>i start to get a small crush on her, but ignore it
>surely she doesn't feel that way about me
>i have no confidence or self-esteem
>i have no social skills
>i am a 4/10 on my worst days and a 6/10 on my best
>go to get food while i'm off one night and meet her on her way in
>we talk for a bit and that's it
>next day
>another coworker tells me she has a crush on me
>think he's bullshitting
>she tells me i looked really cute night before
>get super flustered
>i later get taught to fry taco salad shells and do it perfectly first time
>coworker fist bumps me
>Cassie walks by, fist bumps me, and says
>i don't know what i'm fistbumping you for, but when you see a chance, you have to pound it hard
>instant blush and stammer
>later try to ask her about the flirting, get flustered and can't form sentences
>she tells me she doesn't think she has time for anything serious
>we don't work together for a few days, i get depressed over unrelated stuff
>break down at work while we're together
>she tells me about some shit that went on in her past and her current goals in life
>become even more enamored with her
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>jocular conversation with co-workers leads to me being called "a heart-breaking playboy"
>ask whose heart i could possibly break
>hear Cassie whisper "mine"
>start to try to openly flirt with her, but just spaghetti because no social skills
>dude comes to drive through one night asking for her
>looks like he's 20 years older and makes creepy sexual comments
>turns out he's been calling her from a blocked number
>i get really angry and protective, and she assures me it's opkay
>she seems flattered that i care that much
>i try to trim my beard yesterday and keep fucking up and eventually shave completely
>she comes by to get food today while she's off
>sees me with only a day's worth of growth
>tells me i look really good
>instant fluster
I want to have an actual relationship with her but don't know how to proceed. I'm not a really goal-oriented person, but she definitely is. I want to be able to help her.
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This girl would chew your heart up and spit it out. Enjoy the ego boost and do your job
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U6yA3hZ-oz8Can anyone give this person advice on her acting skills, she really needs it.
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That video gave me cancer.
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Alright I've been acting for over 10 years now and did voice overs for over 5.
The girl is too quiet, music is overpowering her. Delivery/emotion/tone for both VA's doesn't match the scene, it all sounds so very flat.
But since it was posted on youtube any criticism will be discarded by the VA's.
Wasn't there a NEET general in this board? IIRC, there was one...
Anyway, here is it, NEET general.
I'm not a NEET anymore. I'm making this thread because I remember thinking: "if and when I get a job, I'll tell the NEET general that things CAN and DO change". And so here I am, writing this.
I was in uni when I got health issues, so I went back home. I lived with my mom at the time, in a small, poor town. After some months, doctors discovered I had HL, and I had to do therapy for a year. After that, I got depressed, and sat at home alone most of the day, most days, for some 4-5 years, barely doing anything, only trying to learn the things I liked (computer in general), sometimes trying to think how to get out of my shitty situation, but not doing much else. I was ashamed of being myself.
After reading some random stuff and processing it for a while, I thought: "I guess there is no other way to fix myself but to start small. I'll find something to do, keep doing it, have some patience, get some money and, from there, rebuild my life." So I started selling small, cheap stuff, and fixing computers/phones. I posted ads on facebook (there are some rather big sales groups), told my friends about it, and got some replies. Meanwhile, I made a website to learn about webdev, applied to some dev jobs and got some replies, but didn't get hired. Then some friends told me about a job, to which I applied... And I got hired. I'm still at it, 8 months later. It's been great. I've also saved some money.
I don't feel lke a good example to imitate. But still, this doesn't mean shit. Life isn't fair, nor it is a linear experience. I've suffered some shit, nothing saved me from having to endure that suffering. Shit happens, that's reality. Try to learn from it, and from others, and do something with that. Even in the worst situation, you CAN do something for yourself. Some people WILL help you.
So, get up and do it.
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>>18664828
What is HL?
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>>18664828
I'll add some stuff:
If you want me to give you tips or help you with something, just ask. I may not asnwer right now because it's late, and I have to go to work tomorrow.
English is not my first language, so excuse me if I made a mistake.
> I don't feel lke a good example to imitate.
I suppose this will sound sort of arrogant, but... I'm stubborn, kinda lucky, smart (according to people who know me, and judging by the things I've managed to do), and not bad looking. I guess this did help me... Which is why I don't feel like a good example.
BUT, I've been poor most of my life. Things changed for good only a couple of months ago. And it was a rather long process to try to change myself..
>inb4 made up BS
Go fuck yourself.
>>18664832
Hodgkin's Lymphoma
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Should I start doing hook ups or wait
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I'm not really into hook ups or physical contact that much because I was molested as a kid. I'm kinda better with it now and I think I'd be fine if it was someone I was really comfortable with. I'm 22 now and I feel like I'm missing out on a milestone because I'm too reserved physically and I'll be behind when I'm older. Should I wait for someone and hope they'll understand or just get it over with?
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bump before bed
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There's no harm in getting out there now and trying to find someone to be happy with. Everyone deserves at least that much. But you need to be up-front right away. Lay your situation bare, and let the other person know that you struggle with physical contact. If they're worth keeping and making those memories with, they'll not only understand, but they'll reciprocate your feelings in a way that is comfortable for both of you.
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>>18665125
Any tips on bringing it up? I haven't told anyone, ever and I don't want to make them uncomfortable.
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What is a dignified way to ask my parents if I can borrow money?
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Depends how old you are and what its for.
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>>18664826
28 and it's because my gf had a babby.
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>>18664816
29 and how da fuck 2 get out house srsly considering bank robbery
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>gf "breaks up" with me after especially bad fights
>for example says "bye" when hanging up and then "that was bye forever, by the way. I can't take this anymore" etc
>know it's at least partially a reaction test, but it's true that this relationship is a really unstable one, full of problems but we both love each other
>afraid that one day she'll mean it, and I'll ignore it like the girl who cried wolf
How can I know? It's just as bad to take it seriously every time, because it becomes a subconscious way to bait me and make me beg and crawl
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>>18664814
Next time say "Alright then" and ghost her until she can be actually bothers to contact you. Stop being a lap dog that just crawls back all the time.
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>>18664821
That's what I've been doing, and yeah she always comes back. But I'm still scared I'll ignore it when it actually matters
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>>18664827
It won't ever matter. She's an attention seeker. Since she does come back, ignore the first few attempts. Make her work for it for once.
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Went on a date...the girl was super pretty, easily one of the prettiest girls I've been on a date with. But I didn't really feel like there was any kind of spark. Not too much in common, except that we're both Christians. She is super Christian, which I like. Still, I didn't feel like there was much of a flare. I don't have much of an urge to see her, whereas with the first date with my ex, I really wanted to see her after the first date and every one after that....
Should I give this girl more time? Try seeing her a few more times? If she likes me, I don't want to lead her on...though maybe she feels kind of "eh" just like I do.
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Personally, I would. If after those other dates you still don't feel anything, time to say goodbye.
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How big a part does physical beauty play in your love life, /adv/? For clarity's sake, let's all imagine a person with which you could come to have a LTR.
In the scale of looks vs personality, what's your share? 70% looks vs 30% personality? 80% personality vs 20% looks? Even?
Would you be able to date a plain person (not necessarily ugly) if their personality was top-notch? What about the opposite? Do you think that since looks fade over time, they become irrelevant in the long run?
Discuss.
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>>18664798
I'm ugly on the inside and outside. I really don't know how I would rate myself. Maybe 60% looks vs 40% personality? I know some find me attractive before they get to know me.
Out of all the things you listed, I'd pick an average person with a top tier personality.
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I'm 33 (old fag) and this has been my experience:
I've been in situations where initially I didn't find someone at all physically attractive, then after getting to know them and liking their personality, I started to find them physically attractive.
Looks may hook you in, but the personality and emotional bond built is what makes you stay. You could be in a relationship with the hottest person you can imagine, but after fucking them hundreds of times over the years, it'll lose its spark eventually.
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>>18664798
>In the scale of looks vs personality, what's your share?
The thing is, that's not how it works. You can have 100% looks AND 100% personality, and you can have 0% looks and 0% personality. It's not like you have to trade off one to get the other.
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>deleted Instagram
>GF asks why, I say because I'm ashamed of my life
>see cool stuff people are doing on other Instagrams, feel like people are judging at me or laughing at me because I've done nothing
>not where I want to be at all; 24, still live with parents, shitty job, etc.
>gf was offended because the only pictures I've ever posted were of me and her
Am I the asshole for deleting it, implying that she's not good enough to constitute a fulfilling life, or is she overreacting?
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You and her are both overreacting and need to take a step back and ask who really cares.
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>>18664799
Sorry, it started from there and snowballed into a much, much bigger fight. I'm still shaken up
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>>18664804
So of course, there is something else. Social media is fucked.
What are some good careers that I can get with a 2 year degree years that aren't nursing?
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bump
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>>18664778
The world will always need plumbers, electricians, bus drivers, truck drivers, barbers, mailmen, firemen, HVAC engineers, sales clerks, factory workers, etc etc - all honorable and well-paying professions
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>>18664778
Engineering technician.
>>18666076
Plumbers, electricians, HVAC don't require degrees, but they do involve 4-5 years apprenticeships which include some classroom training.
Will the world always need truck drivers? I would love to do that for a living, but I am afraid of automation. I know that the industry isn't going to be wiped out overnight like some tech geeks are prediction, but what about in 30 years? I will be in my mid-50's then, too young to retire but realistically too old to train for a new career