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How do you deal with genuine human suffering? 2017-08-28 06:24:10 Post No.18665077
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How do you deal with genuine human suffering?
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I am a pussy. I can't deal with genuine human suffering. I get so fucking depressed when I see someone legit suffering I turn a blind eye to avoid it completely.
Typical shit includes avoiding homeless people on the streets, permanent residents of the looney bin, or the mentally disabled.
I also hate Facebook for showing me more depressing shit. I see posts from man-children who look like they are in their 40s but are off. They are either missing a tooth, have a forehead that is a tad bit too big for themselves. Whatever it may be, there is something wrong with them. They have like 20 friends and every comment is pure cringe.
I can't speak to women who have been raped. I somehow feel emasculated when I hear about it. As if I could have done something, I could do something, but inaction makes me feel weak.
I can't look at fat people. I am a fat person and I hate myself. I hate seeing fatter people because I feel like shit, so I can only imaging their lives. This extends to little children. I see parents putting bottles of Pepsi in their fat kids. I know that child's future.
How the fuck do I deal with this shit? I avoid it like the plague, but it feels like this isn't an option anymore in today's world. You have to confront it.
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By understanding the world is good, bad, and everything in between. Life is a beautiful horrible accident that frankly should have never happened, the fact that we've made it this far is incredible. There will always be people worse and better off than you, comparing yourself to others is as fruitless as ruminating over things you can't change. Observe, don't absorb.
Feel bad seeing people suffer? Help out! There are all sorts of non-profit organizations that are in need of volunteers. Have extra income? Why not donate to a charity?
If someone is going through a hard time, be there for them. You'll feel much better, they'll be getting the help they need, and the sun will come up in the morning.
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>>18665077
go help people. dont have to change the world but do small things and confront the bad.
i had a rough go at it when i was younger, my father got cancer when i was 19 and when he died when i was only 21 he died and my boss gave me i think 2 or 3 days for it then made me get back to work. i had no time for the grieving process between funeral arrangements. after that i held 3 of our family dogs as they got put down because nobody else could, my uncle got diagnosed with cancer, etc.
but you have to see the good. ive bought probably 4 dozen homeless people groceries or food over the years, some cried because nobody ever did that for them. another guy got out of jail and they dumped him on a road with literally nothing, i stayed with him for a hour and let him use my phone and talked to him until a friend called my phone back and made arrangements to get him and a place to stay. he gave me a necklace someone made for him in jail. i volunteer a couple hours a week with a school kid that doesnt have a father figure and ive helped people in parking lots with stranded cars fix their stuff because i used to be a mechanic.
the worlds what you make of it, if you stay sheltered and only see the bad thats all you see.
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>Be Oregonian
>Have issues with dad
>Never get a (stable) job
>Girl I've had a crush on for a long time dates some guy
>I never asked her out on a date
>I'm a piece of shit
>Can't get her out of my mind
>Can't get how much of a piece of shit I am out of my mind
>Mornings suck, bedtime sucks
>Evenings okay
I'm thinking about working nights at retail (because I'm not constantly on the verge of crying and I'll be at work when my dad's home), getting therapy, and moving to Washington before the end of the year so that I can get away from my dad and meet new people.
I don't think I'll have enough money for a mortgage, and I know how much of a money trap apartments are, but I might be able to stay at a friend's house for a month or two until I can get a mortgage.
Should I do it? Could I do it? How would I do it?
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>>18665068
Mortgage? You mean 1st months rent.
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>>18665074
My parents and I have lived in apartments for about 20 years now. I'm not making that mistake.
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Ok so I'm I don't really know my sexuality and I have a girl I like a lot but at the same time a guy has caught my attention. The girl seems more interested but that the same time it's be nice to know
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>>18665046
Always try the heterosexual option first.
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>>18665050
I've done that multiple times before and fucked up with the guy
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Heh, 50/50
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Long story short I've been dating a girl for a month, we've been on 4 dates and we kissed a bunch on the last one. Out of the blue she says she's not sure if she's ready to commit to a relationship yet and that she doesn't want to "hurt me". I'm not ready for that after just a month either, but I'd like for it to develop eventually if things keep going the way they are. I prefer to take these sorts of things slowly anyway.
What's the go here? I'm not the sort who can date multiple people at a time - I want to focus on her. I like her a lot, and I know she likes me a lot too because she's told me.
Would she continue to see me if she didn't see me as a romantic interest?
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Run!
>You'll thank me later.
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I personally think the "I'm not ready to commit" talk is just an easy way to say "we should stop dating"
Should probably move on bro. However I wouldn't doubt this fickle bitch will come back in a month or two and want to date again.
If you really want to stick to her, wouldn't hurt to ask her where she wants to go from here. Literally ask her if it means you guys will no longer date.
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>>18665024
Not what I wanted to hear desu but I am considering it.
>>18665028
She's actually told me she really wants to keep dating if I do too.
As for the talking about it with her thing - I guess that seems like the logical thing to do. I was always under the impression that talking about feelings in the first month or so of dating was just suicide though.
Should I just be riding it out for a few more weeks without expectation and then having a serious talk with her about it? I feel like one month is just too early to bring this stuff up with her.
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So I've been dating my girlfriend for about 8 years. We're getting to the point where we are thinking about getting married. She absolutely does not want kids, and I do. I can't really hold out for her to change her mind. Is it time to move on?
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Yes, it's time to move on.
Don't fret that you wasted years on this chick, you'll find a younger, hotter one. I did.
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Yes mang. It's do or die at this point. Sorry mate.
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Steven, you can do so much better than Cat. You should hear how she talks at work. Ugh.
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My anger issues are ruining my life 2017-08-28 05:42:35 Post No.18664994
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My anger issues are ruining my life
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This'll be a fucking long one. Sorry in advance.
Besides my "normal" negative traits (mainly narcissism, laziness, manipulativeness, woe-is-me-ism, and lying, above others), I hold three very destructive beliefs about myself. Even though I know they're destructive, fighting against them seems impossible, since they seem to constantly hold true.
- I am powerless against my negative traits
- I AM my negative traits
- I am either a burden or harmful to the people in my life
With that out of the way, let's talk about the viscious cycle that my anger causes.
1. Getting Angery
- I get angered by people who mimic my negative traits.
- I get angered by people whom I feel are trying to control me
2. Lashing Out
- I often lash out at people because of my low self-control over my anger, which feeds both into my beliefs that I am harmful to people, that I am powerless against my negative traits, and that I AM my negative traits.
3. Falling Into Depression
- After I fall into a bout of anger, afterwards I'll fall into a bout of depression due to the feeling of being both harmful to others and powerless to not be that way.
- This period of constant pity parties feeds my belief that I'm a burden to the people who stick around past the anger, which just makes me feel more depressed.
4. Return to Status Quo
Eventually I'll stop feeling depressed about my bullshit, so life will go back to normal, but eventually I'll get angry again, and the cycle just never stops.
I don't even know where to start in breaking this cycle down. I'm seriously thinking about killing myself, since there's no point to living if I'll I'm gonna do is make myself and others miserable. Is there anything I can I do?
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Diagnosis : Depression
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But what can I do about it? I owe several thousand in hospital bills (was hospitilized for attempted suicide back in May), so I can't get anything professional right now.
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Have you considered finding some sort of outlet for your anger? Some hobby or career that lets you channel it in a (slightly) healthier manner than lashing out?
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School is starting soon lads and I am another socially retarded 20 year old with minimal friends that I don't even keep in touch with anymore. Basically how do you start making friends and finding people you connect with or enjoy spending time with? My cousins have started uni already and seemed to have connected almost immediately after moving into their dorm. How do people do that? I try to be friendly but I also don't know how to carry conversations like normal people??? How do I find a people even if they already have well knitted cliques?
Please I'm terribly lonely and looking for good people to hang out with.
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hobbies, anon. what are yours?
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Join a club
I'm assuming you're in college, there's plenty. Even sporty clubs are typically welcoming of beginners. Just pick something you like and go at it.
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I have no sound ones at the moment..... but I do art and I draw pretty well, paint, the occasional vidya game (particularly of the shooter or horror genre), am into computer science... god I have to tell you I have no idea sometimes. I don't want to sound like I'm looking for sympathy points but depression has kinda taken most of my hobbies and interests away so I can't remember much to be honest
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How can I become more self centered? Im a pretty selfless person and it seems to always bite me in the ass.
I try to help all of my friends with their problems, but they always seem more interested in trying to fit in with someone else or some other group of people. Nobody is ever interested in my interests or always fakes interest for my wellbeing? Am I the problem? Or are people just fucked up? I feel so isolated. All I tried to do was be genuine and maybe I fucked that up
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>>18664974
You can't just be that kind of person because you want to... You have to hit a point of no return where you'll be hurt like you've never been hurt before, and after that you will become an asshole for a little while. Then you'll balance out and you'll be fine.
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>>18664974
Less history, more mystery.
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I get the same feeling. Human psychology teaches us that people consider those who are easily accessible as less valuable. Also, the person bending over backwards doing the favors seems to generate more of a bond than the person receiving the favors. Some people are aware of this and make sure it doesn't happen, though - that is to say, they will value you for all that you do. The best thing to do is to keep looking for the right friends, let them come to you when they need and also make sure they let you come to them with your problems. Friendships should strike a balance, if you aren't getting in return what you want, then it's possibly time to demote them to acquaintances.
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I have dry skin and I'm looking for an exfoliation mask that'll hydrate my face, whilst also effectively removing dead skin from the surface. What type of mask would work best for me?
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bumping this because by sheer coincidence same my nigga
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Cheers. It happens every winter for me. No matter how much dead skin I attempt to remove by face-washer, it never seems to remedy the problem. I feel a mask would help more-so than any other method I can conceive of without causing too much damage to the skin.
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google is your friend. search "exfoliate mask dry skin"
search for products that have good reviews. you can try walmart, target, ulta.com or sephora.com
if youre on a budget you could always make your own too using oats since it's gentle and natural.
i hear a Glam Glow makes some pretty good exfoliating+moisturizing masks, but theyre like $60.
also since you have dry skin, dont exfoliate often. every 2 weeks or so should be fine. you could always try getting an exfoliating spin brush like a ClariSonic and moisturize after.
get a good moisturizer for daytime and a thick moisturizer for night time. dont use body lotion on your face. dont forget to put moisturizer on your neck.
dont take long hot showers. dont use products with a lot of alcohol or harsh face cleansers.
do drink lots of water, eat more fish or take vitamins that will help your skin.
Here's a diy oatmeal mask: Combine 1/2 cup hot—not boiling—water and 1/3 cupoatmeal. After the water and oatmealhave settled for two or three minutes, mix in 2 tablespoons plain yogurt, 2 tablespoons honey, and 1 small egg white. Apply a thin layer of themaskto your face, and let it sit for 10 to 15 minutes. Then rinse with warm water.
There are lots of other recipes for exfoliating. even just a simple mix of coconut oil and granulated (or brown) sugar.
I've been seeing this girl for a couple of months now. She's a solid 8/10 and can get pretty kinky in the bedroom. Here's the thing, she never tells me anything about her self. As in what her parents are like, past relationships, etc. I don't know a fucking thing. I've told her about some serious shit that happened in my life but so far I've gotten nothing back. I just want her to open up to me so I don't fuck things up if things in the relationship go south, but I don't know how to get her to do so.
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Usually people do this because they are ashamed of their pasts. Maybe she was raped all throughout her childhood and doesn't want you to think less of her for it or somethin.
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All my friends are in college together and having fun without me while I'm stuck at home with my parents because I fucked up my last year of HS and have to do class over again. We're all pretty tight but I'm afraid theyll replace me with some random faggot they meet out there, on top of that the girl I have feelings for is there too. How do I deal/cope with this anxiety? How can I not feel like a failure for fucking up and having to leech off of my parents some more?
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hard truth time bud
unless you find some way to maintain your relationship your friendships will whiter and die.
Not the end of the world though. If it's any consolation everything is meaningless, just look for purpose in life and you'll be find anon.
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>>18664928
One must always keep moving ahead.
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I'm a 25 year old male and I'm almost certainly addicted to bestiality porn.
It began when I saw a video when I was 18 and I've been hooked since. It's beginning to affect my relationship with my girlfriend and overall I consider it rather degenerate.
That said, I feel completely helpless in my day to day life and struggle to fight the urge to consume.
If anybody has any experience with dealing with something similar I'd appreciate your input
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What type of animals? You shouldn't be concerned over it being degenerate but over that it can harm your future dating/relationship prospects and possibly your health.
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Always women and dogs/horses so I'm also concerned there's a level of misogyny ?
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>>18664932
It's not misogyny but you just have an unhealthy obsession with porn. You could replace bestiality with any other type of porn and would achieve the same problem. I recommend that you give up watching porn and solely focus all your sexual needs towards your girlfriend. The only way to overcome this is to get rid of porn completely.
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Unable to post on /vg/ 2017-08-28 04:48:44 Post No.18664904
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Apparently my ISP, IP Range, or the United States has been blocked from posting on the /vg/ board. Is this something that is likely to go away on its own or are ISP / IP Range blocks usually permanent? If it expires, how long does it typically take?
The banned page shows I'm not banned.
https://www.4chan.org/banned
I've looked at the FAQs and links provided but they don't offer a real solution. All they really say is to buy a pass and pay a ransom fee to use /vg/ which is bullshit.
https://www.4chan.org/faq#blocked
https://www.4chan.org/pass
What should I do?
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I've had this issue several times. It goes away eventually.
From my personal experience it ranges between a week and 2 months
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I would just change my ip or email mootles.
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My friend's been in jail since 2013. He gets out next week. Is there anything I can do to help him get back into society?
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Somehow convince him to stay sober. Going to be hard to get a job. Volunteering will help make you look better.
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Be a good friend. Check up on him when you can. Help him get a job. Keep him away from drugs and alcohol. Keep in mind he might have changed in prison things may be different.
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>>18664877
society not sobriety
just take him out, try to get him a job, be there for him
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Where the fuck do yuppie 20 something's hang out? 2017-08-28 04:23:55 Post No.18664872
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Where the fuck do yuppie 20 something's hang out? 2017-08-28 04:23:55 Post No.18664872
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Where the fuck do yuppie 20 something's hang out?
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Pls help
I'm a working early 20s male in a new city and all the activities I flock to seem devoid of people my age and are catered to older folks (30+)
Hardcore/powerlifting gym cause I don't want to wait in line at golds with a bunch of curlfags- Only dude under 30 there half the time.
Rec sports league? Everyone is older with children, not a millennial to be found. Even the club/venue i frequent doesn't have that many young people.
Meanwhile I see people my age running around in fucking droves going to brunches, hiking trips, rock climbing gyms, fitness classes, happy hours and whatnot. My coworkers do none of this shit, I actually mostly work with old shits and middle aged fucks.
I've tried meetups and only ran into fucking weirdos.
Where is everyone? Fuck.
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>>18664872
>How do I make friends? :(
>pulls up /adv/
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I'm in the exact same situation except not a new city
My coworkers are all middle aged yet I see groups of people my age hanging out all the time
like those groups had young people and mine just didn't
it's literally fucking impossible to get friends outside the group I grew up with