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>>17954078
During this night, however, she went all out on sitting next to the guy, joking, laughing, literally ignored me when I asked her if there was a chance that we are going to bed anytime soon at around 3 am.
She replied some cheeky shit when I told her that I am really tired and eventually I ordered a cab and got the fuck out of there.
Not my proudest moment but I was feeling really shit in the entire situation and could not behave in the most adult way there.
Next time she came to my place, apologized cryingly, we talked about it, the whole texting behind my back, and so on.
We eventually continued the relationship and that guy wasn't a topic for a longer time.
Around a year later an actual breakup happened. She had just joined some work (rescue stuff, driving a car mostly) where she was hella busy, at the same time she did a lot with friends so we ended up seeing each other 1 of 14 days.
I told her that this won't work out if it stays this way because I cannot maintain a meaningful relationship with someone is see that rarely and I am not interested in anything other than a serious relationship.
We eventually worked up to seeing each other more often again, we planned the time better and from my impression we both were happy.
Last Friday however (around 2 or maybe 3 months after the talk) we had another talk - she said she was unhappy with the situation. My guess is that she found it too stressing to meet up to the requirements I had for how often we see each other, text, etc. We broke up on her terms.

>>17954080
Now, one week later, she came up to me again and said that she fixed some things in her life that made her unhappy. She wants to retry having the relationship with me because, looking back, she was actually happy with me and she misses me a lot.
She changed job and is now with some fire service stuff.
I am willing to give it a try because there is so much work in this relationship and I have done so much emotional bonding with her that I find it hard to throw it away.
I told her we are going to have lunch tomorrow where we talk things out.

Now, I know that the guy that was a problem earlier in the relationship also works fire service. I strongly suspect that he raised the interest in that job for her. Because she didn't ever mention it before.
According to one of her closest friends she also spend some time with that guy the last week (call me naive, but I am 99.99% sure that they did not bang. Neither he nor she is the type for that. I know, hard to believe).
She actually showed me a text from her close friend where she was being called out for being rude to that guy. According to her friend this guy was still interested in her.

I will ask her about this guy tomorrow. I will ask her if she is going to work with him and I am going to ask her, what she thinks about this whole situation.
I wonder, what do you guys think about the situation? What if it turns out that she actually will be working with him?
I don't mean to say that she is morally wrong if she did, but I think that I could deal with it. I wouldn't like it, it would bother me and it would be a topic.

Thanks to anyone that made it to this point. If you need anything for clarification, go ahead.

Quite a pickle you have here mate,
can't really give out any solid advice honestly since I don't know either of you and personally I feel like this is the worst place to ask for advice because there's just so much more to these matters than you can sum up in a few post.

And the way you described this person, I wouldn't really put too much trust in her.
That said I wish you the best and to find a happy resolution.
Have a bump.

>>17954051
If you're gonna do A and B at least cleanup your writing. Just use their names none of that
>Let's call them Todd and xxZeldaF4n69xx

Alright autism aside, it's B's fault. Doesn't help that A is being a little bitch and not telling B to get off his ass. Don't pull bullshit with them. You said Thursday so assume the nearest Thursday. It's the gym not a fucking wedding or some shit that would actually require planning.

>>17954051
Oh come on try not to make it clear you're person A. You even wrote "wtf" after something person B said. This seems like the dumbest thing to argue about though. Who cares who's right, you're friends and there was a misunderstanding. Nothing more.

Todd is now person B.


Todd has now explicitly said "Its your fault cuz I didn't know what time it is"

May post screenshots if the debate gets more comple

>>17954039

How old is your son right now?

>>17954042
My wife is pregnant with him. He will be our first child

>>17954048

Meet him before trying to "make" him into anything. Give him a chance to show you what he's got before making your mind up about him.

>>17953998

Your body will get used to it. Usually it takes a few weeks, but could be more. Working out helps long term, yes, but stretching and eating properly after work and getting enough rest will help you in the mean time.

You have a form and thus discipline issue. No warehouse will have you lifting actual heavy items alone, and most places will have your lifting mechanically assisted if it's any serious weight.

Keep your spine neutral at all times during a lift. Practice bracing your core by squeezing your shoulder blades together, breathing into your stomach and squeezing your abs, and flexing your glutes. Use your legs to move the weight.

>>17953998
Yeah, give it a few months of suck and waking up sore. You'll get used to it and find yourself in better shape gradually. In the meantime, ibuprofen before bed is your friend. Look up proper lifting technique on the google.

>>17953996
Why

>>17954003
I broke up earlier in the year and have been feeling empty since then. I've graduated recently from a decent field and have been having difficulty landing a job in the last few months. I don't have many friends and its hard to find some.

>>17953996

Seek professional help, this sounds like depression.

Why do you feel like killing yourself just because you're being held back from joining the rat race and sitting in a cubicle answering phones for eight hours a day, five days a week, for the next 40+ years of your life?

To me that sounds like pure freedom, but then again I also have enough money saved from running the hamster wheel for five years in a lucrative field to live a comfy life for at least a decade, before having to worry about running low on funds.


> TL;DR
Get rich or die trying, I guess.

>>17953971
You make the best of your circumstances. Don't let them tell you what gives your life meaning. Most all boomers are ignorant of just how badly they fucked up the country.

If they tell you it's a marriage/family know that they are talking through their asses after destroying the institution of marriage by legalizing no-fault divorce.

If they tell you it's getting a fulfilling job, remember that it was they who have outsourced unparalleled numbers of jobs to foreign countries.

If they tell you to buy a house, look at the house that will be about 10-times your annual salary after taxes for the same kind of home they got for 1.5 years of their then salary.

They are the last people in the world to be telling you what you want, and yet, my fellow millennials continue to lap up that they say should be our dreams. Don't buy into the long-term relationship, job, and house delusions. Those were amazing prospects for your parents, not for you. Do what you want to do. The casual sex market has never been better, travel you countries who love whites is still within most budgets, and video games are still fun as hell. So, while others chase bygone dreams, I'll be here playing games like Twilight Princess and Dark Souls after lifting to improve my Tinder matches. You are your own happiness.

If your parents were successful and you were able to attend university I can understand these feels. It is unlikely you've had to struggle against anything tangible and now you've had a 'decent upbringing and education' you are wondering where the world that was sold to you is.

Thing is, you've had it easy. Your biggest issues have been emotional ones concerned with meaning, purpose and finding something to pit yourself against. It is only now you've found something hard and you are giving up at what is the first hurdle?

First off, I'd take comfort in the fact that the world you've been prepared for and sold on was the world that worked for your parents generation. They might try to hold you to their standards, but ironically their world is the one that is losing relevance and fading, it is our world and experiences which are actually coming into relevance.

So don't feel bad that you aren't a success by their standards because their standards were only really appropriate in their time. Be a success by the standards of those around you. I'd argue that old people didn't exactly make a good job of the world and didn't leave a positive legacy so success is kind of a subjective concept.

Like the old dude at world who keeps badgering me about pensions. Just because he is invested in that ponzi scheme he has an interest it getting everybody else on that bandwagon. I'm a bit more like "does a pension account for migration, climate change, instability in the labour market and the ever increasing pensionable age?".

My parents are kind of irritating. They are retired and spend all their time travelling and eating and drinking and basically complaining about the world while being detached from the realities of it. They have no stake in a workplace or a community, they are just walking wallets. I'm not taking life advice from them.

Look man, once the old people are dead we'll just vote all that shit out of society within a couple of generations and it'll be a bad memory.

>>17953966

If her looks are such a turn-off for you, then yeah, I don't see this relationship going anywhere. Are you really so repulsed by physical intimacy with her?

>>17953966

Is she fat or what?

>>17953972
Yeah, you are right. It's just a shitty feeling to admit it to myself.

>>17953978
I'd say incompatible body type.

Why don't you better yourself instead of lowering your standards?

It's a win/win really.

>>17953948

If you think of it as "lowering our standards" it won't work. Start looking for the good on others. In other words, start hanging out with girls and go out with those that like you.

>>17953950

It's a lot of work. I tried going to the gym and did it for a few months but gave up after a while. I'm not interested in any sports.

what are your degrees in and why are they worthless?

why didn't you network and intern in college?

>>17953936
If you really need contacts and are having a hard time making connections to find a job relevant to your degree, just join the military.

Usually you'd be streamlined into an officer position if your degree is worth anything. And then you'll have all the contacts in the world that you'll need once you come back to the civilian world.

>>17953946
Maritime science and biz admin. I did, but it was on commercial ships and the industry tanked about six months prior to graduation. Everyone I graduated with is having a hard time finding work.

>>17953967
I've thought of it, but I'd prefer to stick to the civilian world.

Is going back to college for engineering or something worthwhile or further digging a hole?

>>17953921
>When should I start freaking out?

You should communicate to him, not us.

If you're uncertain about what his reaction says, then ask us. But no reason to jump to conclusions before all the cards are on the table.

You're a fucking psycho.

>>17953925
I don't know what to say to him, I'm going to see him tomorrow.

I didn't want to ask him over the phone. Or should I?

I know he would tell me if his sister was staying over, and he hasn't called me like he usually does after work recently. He say's he just tired all the time

You're a homo

>>17953915

it means the rush is over and the reality sets in.

think of it like shitting. feels good to do it, but yeah its gross.

you're not above doign it regardless.

>>17953915
Very normal.

Thats nothing, there's 5 years between me and my wife (been together for 6 years) and 20 years between my parents (Been together for 26 years)

3 years is not a big deal, but sometimes you may feel you are with a kid if date her. Go for it.

Most of my friends tell me to wait at least until she is 18, but I don't think that will be easy for either of us

>>17953852
lol

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Why tf haven't you sold it, nigga?

>>17953855
its special edition and limited number item. I nearly did but Im paranoid that it'll be traced back to me.

>>17953827

alright you gotta tell us, what was it?

>deleting your profile
Man, everyone looks through facebook photos with their dicks out. It really isn't important if some people on the internet think that you're creepy. They will have all forgotten by the time you die.

>>17953829
Lesbians, Asians and stuff

>>17953838
It is weird as I am a politician and I have about 15000 followers except friends.
That makes it an issue.

Pretty controlled in what you say but your thoughts are in a stream that never stops

Most people recommend that LSD be done in very calm environments and with people you actually like. As someone that has had social phobia in the past I would highly recommend not doing it at a party. If you must, go somewhere quiet and secluded. You don't want to have to make conversation with ransoms its hard as fuck. But then again everyone has different experiences and it could even be good for you but I wouldn't experiment that hard on my first time.

My personal theory on LSD is that you get what you want out of it. Wether you believe it'll get you to connect with your spirtuality, help you reach a grand realization or just have a good time, it probably will.

Pro tip: if you start tripping out and having bad thoughts change your setting, stand up and move somewhere that's more comfortable

>>17953766
o shit man, are you sure you want to take LSD in an environment where you might be extremely nervous and uncomfortable? i'd seriously advise against that, personally. I'd advise just alcohol and/or weed for a social even youre not comfortable with. LSD could be fine if its not too large a dose, but IF you've never had LSD before it could fuck you up

If its a party with actual conversations thats stupid fucking idea, if its like a rave then its a good idea.