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>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
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>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
STEALING FIRST POST FOR: >>17955621
>>17956598
from other thread, didn't really get much of a response:
>>17953836
>>17956623
>Keep questions short for more answers.
28 years old, had a mutual breakup with my ex after five years. ended up regretting it after having some time to think i contacted her a couple months later and she was dating someone else already. i exploded and said some awful and hateful shit that i regret, and i apologized even though i knew she didn't want to hear from me again. she said thanks for apologizing, now don't contact me again. i haven't. it's been about five months since then, and though i'm better at dealing with it now, i still feel immense regret for doing that and i feel like she was the one and i let it go.
i guess i'm just asking fellow anons who have had lost their supposed "ones" and moved on to better their stories, or how to deal with the regret of being such an immature prick and wasting so much time. the feelings and thoughts for her seem to come in waves, i'll have good and bad weeks but overall the hurt is lessening bit by bit. just wanting to get through this easier. any tips? especially since i'm not versed in the dating world or anything since moving on. thanks /adv/
Alright, I got time.
First question: have you had sex since the breakup?
It helps, but it's not the only way of letting go.
Second question: Have you forgiven her for all the things she did wrong, or are you still resentful of anything she did during or after the relationship?
>>17956575
1. no, neither of us got out too much. that isn't to say i'm socially awkward or anything, but her and i (and our friends, mutual or otherwise) enjoyed doing our own thing. after the breakup i've been a wreck as this thread would show so i don't get out too much, i know that's a problem. been to a few parties but it's mostly been taken women with my friends there.
2. not fully, but i've made progress. i know this is an important step. it's rough to keep my mind occupied.
as a side note, i bought a journal, a kindle, and a piano to try some new things/read shit because i know it's a healthy road. it's just a struggle to stay motivated. i feel drained and listless. thank you for what time you have to spare anon.
It's always the worst when you did something stupid to ruin it. Had you just walked away like a man and not contacted her again, she may have came back to you. Unfortunately you looked like a pathetic dork and got all angry because you didntt get your way.
Learn from this mistake and start moving on. That relationship is over and you need to put it in your rear view mirror because you two are not getting back together. Dont let this ruin your future OP.
So i met this lovely girl,we hit it off well, shes like a clone of me, only one downside to it, shes exactly like me, even family wise she wants to have sex but me and her both l live with our parents and we dont drive either so its like, where could we have some alone time and fuck eachother, her dad disowns her parents leave but its random and the time they get back ks random, my parents the EXACT SAME WAY
Go "study" with her at the library. Ur teach and her teach made a project for you two to visit a "museum" and gather information for extra credit. Ur both going to do some community service. There's a million things to say, or just met their parents and tell them both of you are dating they should understand
>>17956548
That's what hotels and motels are for. Why do you think every bumfuckville has one? Certainly not for the tourists.
>>17956565
Your telling me to fuck at a lublic library or musem? No boy
The only thing that makes sense to me right now is causing my own suffering.
In one way or another, all I can think of is starving myself. Not even killing myself, as I lack the guts.
I am not ok with my way of life, nor with the suffering my mother has carried so far, nor with the insults of her and the people. At this point in my life, all I see is the absurdity of my existence and the laughable situations I've been through and I feel nothing.
The thought of eating disgusts me. Of feeding myself. For what? To perpetuate what? To go where?
Give me your thoughts adv, how stupid am I on the meme scale of 1 to 10?
a perfect 5/7
also b8
You have achieved buddhist nirvana. You have released all desire and with it, all suffering. Monks have fasted and trained for years to achieve your mindset.
You are a 0/10 on the stupidity scale.
>>17956543
>also b8
I swear to go I am not baiting tho.
>>17956546
I still desire things, its just I don't feel contempt with my... flesh? I am disgusted of me.
How to be strong and confident?
>>17956504
There's no single recipe. Look inside you, look at your life and look at the people around you and identify WHY you feel weak. That's the first step. Second step is doing something about it.
>>17956504
Lift weight, do cardio, read actual book as in novels and philosophy, work hard, eat right, create
Listen to this
https://youtu.be/p9nfVrusSMg
Have 20 seconds of bravery and something good will come out of it. Count to 3 and do what you most do.
Think about how no one will know nothing about you like 50 years after your death, so what you do, does not really matter.
Don't take yourself too seriously, allow yourself to be humiliated, no one will remember it in a day or two.
>have minor argument with gf in the morning
>it's her PMS week
>later, she is coming over
>she stays in my room while I eat something in the kitchen
>when I come back, she's visibly sad, then starts crying
>begins to cry uncontrollably, sobbing
>tells me it's "nothing" and she's just feeling bad
>then tells me she's unsure of things and doesn't know if I'm doing her good
>then tells me it's nothing again
>then tells me she wants to stay with me
>then wants to go home and stay there alone
Could I chalk this down to hormones or am I fucked? Am what do I make of this?
Well, you arent fucked but there are some problem in your relationship she doesn't yet feel comfortable talking about. You should ask her about it and try to fix it.
I seriously hate this shit, the amount of time I spend extracting stupid from my girlfriend. I eventually trained her to to tell me her problems early so I dont need to sit through a crying session once month.
>>17956535
Yeah, I haven't learned that yet. She does this all the time where she sits on her problems and doesn't tell me if I do something she dislikes and etc., and then it becomes a huge deal in her head and causes a massive fight later on.
>>17956502
pms is not an excuse
dump her and try to find a reasonable, well adjusted woman
My already pathological lying boyfriend is lying about his ex and I wanna die /adv/
One moment he's admitting the other night he found her hot the next he's trying to backtrack about what hot means and it's so obvious he is lying to me. As usual. What do.
>>17956499
>My already pathological lying boyfriend
I don't need to read more than that, liars are cancer, leave.
>>17956551
I'm sat here hiding my feelings but he's sat here lying about drooling over his ex from three years ago and hey I feel really ugly now
>>17956499
He doesn't appreciate your company. You're girl, you pick. There're boys will cherish you for who you are.
I'm male but I'm repenting mistakes I've done with my girlfriend so I'm trying to see through her eyes.
>going to school
>meet a girl, we hit it off pretty well
>go on a few dates, make out
>nothing official
>we're probably never going to see each other again in two months since we're moving to two far away places
>she has a guy friend that buys her a lot of stuff
>know they went out somewhere today
>while on my way to another place, pretty sure that I saw her kissing him
>getting pretty jealous and upset
Should I be mad and confront her about this? I feel wronged but I know the thing we have going on isn't that serious. I mean we were just making out yesterday and I see her kissing another guy today...it just feels weird.
>>17956483
You shouldn't be jelous of something that was never yours. How the fuck do you get feelings of attachment that fast. I mean I'm a little fucked in the head because my parents weren't around much, but I don't give out my heart that fucking easily.
>>17956492
I don't get involved with girls very often. So you're saying just to suck it up? I'm not in love with her or anything, I guess I just put more value on affection than I should've.
>>17956527
I'm saying don't let yourself have any feelings for chicks until you've fucked them and been going out for a few months. Shit is embarassing. When I get an urge to tell a girl I'm looking forward to seeing her or whatever I have a voice in the back of my head that yells "faaaaaaag". I've been fucking a girl for a few weeks now and if she cut me off or saw somebody else I wouldn't fucking care.
So I'm an inexperienced dater, as in I've only been on a few dates in my entire life, if they even qualify as that. I'm 30 so I am a bit desperate. I have a crazy milf who wants to have a serious relationship with me but I'm very wary. She is crazy to the point where one may be even nervous to fuck and run. She has been known to stalk her ex's and make their life a living hell but to be fair, I don't know why. She was also discharged from the military for a reason I am not aware of. What would you do in my situation?
Fuck her, what's the worst that can happen?
I'd try and fuck her. At the least I'd get a story out of it to tell other people.
>dishonorable discharge
>is a stalker
sounds like a keeper
How do you make friends after college?
I know people have asked this question a million times before but I'm desperate. I'm 26, employed, living alone, and I have like three people I'd call "friends". I feel like I'm missing out on my youth.
Is it worth it to go back to school to study something I really want? I feel like I'll meet some like-minded people, but they'll probably be much younger than me.
>>17956448
You dont.
Now you get peers from your work, gf, marry, have children and so on.
Easy.
>>17956448
Find hobbies and shit. Do volunteer work, join a class, something. It's cheaper than going back to college.
>>17956448
>Find one friend. Somehow
>Meet his friends
>Pick the best friend of his friends
>Meet friends of the best friend of your first friends' friends
>You have many friends.
Or even better find a gf. It will make you happy, and you can meet her friends.
5'3" 104
I can't take my fatass self. I want my to lose weight but my Dad shoves food down my throat. I am so close to my goal of 95 pounds I can taste it. I never wear jeans or leggings because of my fatass legs. Everytime I look in the mirror I want to cry. I have a thigh gap but my legs are still gross and chubby and I try to work it off but it doesn't help. Can someone help me find a way to lose weight?
>>17956444
Recover from your eating disorder and lift weights to stop being skinnyfat.
>>17956444
That's not fat.
>>17956444
You have a disorder. This is why your dad is shoving food down your throat.
I'm 5'3 and 127 pounds. And god I love my body at this state.
My girlfriends biological clock is ticking. She is 23. I'm 26, and like most men, I'm just starting to reach the prime of my life.
Ethically, how "bad" would it be to knock her up knowing that I "may" want to explore other options?
>>17956423
This is a stupid question, because you're assuming that knocking her up exists in a vacuum where you won't be obligated to pay child support, or have a bad reputation as someone that's cheating on his pregnant girlfriend
But why? Why knock her up and force her to care for a destructive money leech for 18+ years?
It's one thing to want children, that's fine. But why on earth would you get her pregnant if you don't want to be with her? Do you WANT to be chained to her through child support?
>>17956423
Don't stress about it man. You could have kids in 4 years and still be fine.
So ive been with my gf for over 6 months (keep in mind we are still younger).And I am madly in love with her , like its crazy. I am dedicating my life to her. But one topic that comes up is sex. She says she probably never wants to have and calls it gross. I can tell she doesnt like talking about it. My pov is that i think its normal to have sex etc. Ill admit im a virgin still. And i want to try it of course. Will she change her mind eventually ? im sure that she never wants to do it,it could be the reason she is young and is scared for example. She said also that its her body and she doesnt want for anyone to take it from her.
What do you guys think ?
pic not related
>>17956421
It's something she just may not be mature enough to handle. Give it time, she may come around eventually.
Depending on young you are, sex may be something you should wait for anyway (17-18 ish).
If she's waiting for marriage or this a choice through faith, she may never come around, well a least for that. Enjoy who she is, and the special moments that you both share, eventually that's all that's going to matter anyway.
>>17956421
You have to be 18 to post here
>>17956465
thank you for the reply , we are both 18 its been bugging me for a a while. it isnt a marrige thing. Its more of a thing that she says its her body and she doesnt want anyone to take it from her. I kinda understand.
Im gonna hang in there for now
Father's friend randomly asked me if I would go to prom with his daughter who is in a wheelchair. It's supposed to be a small prom (less than 20 people) in a school for handicapped people (e.g. blind). I agreed but I don't really know how I should behave and such. Any advice?
>>17956406
Just be a gentleman. Show her a good time. Take her out to a nice dinner, dress nicely, and behave professionally.
>>17956406
Go for your dad. Be polite and kind.
>>17956406
Be a gentleman. Get her a corsage that matches her dress. Rent a tux. Have fun. Converse nicely. Meet her friends. Be polite. Dance if she wants to.
I went to the special needs prom in high school because I was in the buddy club that was for inclusion of the mentally disabled. But this was more for severely mentally handicapped students. Despite their disabilities, they want to be treated the same as their peers. I just talked with my "date", we danced (appropriately) and I talked with him and friends.
How to be very intelligent? I've eating 10 almonds at night lately. Any tips you want to share? I don't want to do drugs.
>>17956403
meditate , have better control of your mind
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLjelIPg3ys
>>17956407
Anything else?
>>17956403
>I've eating 10 almonds at night lately
Have you been activating them?