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You're totally fine. They probably won't find you or she won't press charges.

>>17956790
hahaha well done nigga! that bitch is gonna show some respect now.

>>17956790

i hope she files assault charges on your lame ass

plenty of witness she has your tindr photo etc

you're fucked & well deserve it

It sounds like you haven't fully dealt with the past. There are many things that I have to do: 1) Learn from it & do not that shit again. 2) apologize if applicable, or post on GITOYC thread. 3) Move past it...depending on how bad the stuff was, it might determine how long it takes to move past it. 4) Volunteer an hour a week, you'll feel positive and good about it.

The stuff popping up isn't a horrible thing, if it reminds you to not do it again. But you have to deal with the past to move forward with the future.

Everyone has good & bad. Just have more good!!! If you don't have enough good...volunteer!

>>17956784
>How do I get over all the cringey shit I've done in the past?

if you're a normal human being this will never happen, those embarassing memories are yours for life

get some more positive memories to offset all the negative memories

>>17956784
The best way is acceptance. You want to feel good about yourself and yet you're having a difficult time accepting yourself in the past and in the present, making you unable to enjoy the future.
Accept yourself for who you are and all that entails, past mistakes and accomplishments.

Also, it's important to remember that our feelings are fleeting. They come and go. It's unhealthy to stay stuck in deeply sad or stuck in really happy feelings. The key is to manage our emotions in a healthy manner while accepting who we are. Learning that makes life beautiful.

Be a web dev. You don't even need college for that.

>>17957064
>web dev
I'd say it's a decent job for an 18 y/o to get.

OP it's good if you learn some C++ but it's very unlikely you'll get a job doing it before you get out of college.

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>>17957064
excuse my retardation but why would anyone need a web dev if they can go to squarespace or some similar shit ?

You should discuss with your partner. Honesty is key here. and keeping it a secret isn't honest.

I can tell you're somewhat confused and in the throes of temptation. it is as if it has taken away your better judgement. the choice is obvious at this point. if you decide to cheat, it is obvious what will happen. if you decide to work on this and be honest about it and make the right decision, that's good.

I'm jealous, and in a way disappointed. you have a golden relationship with your current partner, and you already know that it would be wrong to decide otherwise. yet you still consider. In my opinion, you don't need advice, as the answer is obvious. yet again this is so ridiculous that I consider it may be fabrication but it's also possible this is real. doesn't matter to me. If I suspect sliding board filler I will always sage.

>>17956776
Thank you for your answer, it really matters to me. This is no fabrication, this is the very real situation I'm in, and by that I don't mean to victimize myself, I'm quite at the opposite of the spectrum in this...

The throes of temptation, exactly.
Telling my partner would be devastating for the good relation she has with her cousin, she would hate her forever and this would reflect on a part of the family too. No harm is done, telling would surely. Not mentionning things would never be the same again between any of us.
And writing this I realize I'm writing my own answer... When taken with distance, all of this seems so ridiculous indeed... why in the world would I do that?
But still I'm just a man and the temptation keeps coming back , however wrong and surrealistic the idea may be.
How do I fight this? Or should I do what I feel and let everything crumble around me, because maybe this is the real me and this is the actual life I'm done for? All my life I've been fighting this temptation in order not to cheat... With age I'm letting more and more go of the role model I thought I was supposed to project. I should have live a life of freedom but I did not, partly because of myself.
Now that I have something without price in my life, the temptation is the most hard to fight. Irony or just me to blame?

What can I do?

My ex-girlfriend cheated on me and told me. As a result she actually left me, because she wanted to stay with the other guy.

I know you "just" want to fuck another girl, but trust me. When I found out it hurt so fucking much to know the person you commited so much, and actually loved betrayed you. Think about it anon. You are a guy and so I am, I know the desire to fuck another girl, but to actually act on it is another whole fucking story.
Don't do it. For the sake of her and for the sake of your relationship. You will just destroy so much for having an orgasm which lust 4-5 seconds. It's not worth it

Just ask her stuff and let her talk, actually listen her.

>>17956752
What kind of things do I ask her for example?

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>>17956773
>books
>movies
>travel
>countries they want to visit
>family
>pets

Avoid politics and religion. Listen to her answers. Actively listen. ("wow, when you .... I imagine it made you feel ....") YOu will be up to your nuts in guts in no time! God speed OP!

>>17956734

almost impossible unless you never sleep or already know the material

a 3hr credit class will meet 3x week for 1hr and you can expect to spend 8+ hours studying per week for that 1 class

I don't think your school will even let you do that

It's fucking nearly impossible as previously stated. Your daily life will be pretty busy with 5 classes let alone 10. Don't rush yourself. It isn't worth it.

>>17956729
Well, from my expert opinion of being, a 1. untrained, 2. anonymous, internet person, you seem like you have depression. I would say talk to a doctor, maybe look for a therapist. Neither of those things could hurt.

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>>17956767

I did that a couple of months ago. It did give me another perspective, but it doesn't change the main "problems" I have.

I refuse to take medicine that will fuck with my brain. I am looking to do some good.

I just don't know where to start. A broken person can't fix another broken person.

>I refuse to take medicine that will fuck with my brain

This is your first problem. Talk to a doctor and discuss options. Try medication. Try meditation. Etc. You can have a say in your treatment plan, just don't knock stuff until you try it.

>>17956723
just leave her. she is likely using you. either that, or she has issues that will eventually implode your relationship. neither of these scenarios will result in you having a good time.

>>17956736
That's the thing, our relationship is literally perfect outside of this. Finding another girl isn't a challenge, but we have so much in common that I don't want to just throw it away.

>>17956723
How long have you been together so far?

Maybe she was just talking abstractly and meant moving in together in the future, after you're saying "I love you" and all that.

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>>17956718
No. I do not blame a website for behavior/actions I am entirely responsible for myself.

>>17956724

You don't think 4chan contributes to these things?

I used to have friends, and guess what - none of them went on 4chan. And they'd look at me weird when I mentioned it.

Because everybody I know in real life knows that 4chan is a fucking weird place where weirdos go. So I think it probably isn't a great place to come.

Thinking for yourself helps not becoming garbage in any community.

You remind of a person I knew. His mom was the same kind of person but she hides her sociopathy under the facade of religion. Fortunately, he was stupid so he wasn't enable to exercise his sociopathy to the fullest extent.

I'm not sure if you can change your lack of feelings or hatred for other people. You can control yourself so that your actions won't hurt other people though.

>>17956777

Thanks. I was checking something and you confirmed it =).

>>17956703
In a lot of the same boat as you OP, except I open up(?) for people I date. However I can't tell if anyone actually likes me or hates me unless it's glaringly obvious.
Im pretty good at seeming innocent with people usually asking if I attend church a lot.
I rest of things people do to wrong me for a while until they do the same thing and I flip it onto them with a joke and smile for that extra kick in the stomach.

For the most part I just stick to work and don't worry about stuff getting in my way to hinder me. Then I use my good work ethic for promotions and play the corporate game to get the people that like me the most into positions on par (different areas) or under me so keep a stranglehold on things.

>>17956698
You should have neutered your cat. Your an irresponsible animal owner.

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>>17956710

Pretty much this.

You aren't going to be satisfied with the homes that you find but you've gotta give them away anyways. I hope none of those animals suffer due to your irresponsibility.

>>17956710
>>17956714
Thanks for the advice, I guess.
Though I said that it was mine, it was my sister's and now the whole family is paying for her irresponsability.
Kittens stayed with me because the cat chose my room as her refuge and she raised them here.

Okay OP there is a very specific phrase you need to say so don't fuck it up. This is a very delicate situation. Here's the phrase.

>Hi.

Well you fucked up. But no big deal just learn from this mistake and don't do it again. If you want something go for it, worse it can happen is you don't get it but hey you lived like that so far. Now on the contacting part. Say you had fun that night and you forgot to take her number, then arrange a meeting. If she agrees good, if not no big deal plenty of fish in the sea and you learn a lesson. One more option is to make some party in your house call some girls, preferably more girls than guys and arrange some movie night or stuff. And don't hide your feelings for her.

>>17956689
"Hey it was really good to see you again after so long, we should definitely do it again some time, I completely forgot to ask for your number would you mind sending it to me? I'm not very good with instagram haha"

it's really not fucking difficult.

>>17956650
Sure, why not? Communication and practice are basically how any couple learn to maximally please each other.

That's going to cause insecurity and resentment

>>17956650
It's definitely good to TELL her what you want, but don't show her the porn vids unless she's into that. Some girls will get insecure if you tell them to be like a porn star, and it will just make the whole situation worse

It's a skill that can be trained like any other, but she'll only learn if she LIKES sucking you off, and WANTS to make you feel as good as she possibly can. Attitude is everything

>>17956629
>I'm tempted to call him to beg him to properly say goodbye to me so I can get some closure I can't seem to find on my own, but I feel like that's the wrong move.

Asking the guy who couldn't respect you enough to give you the time of day for anything isn't the right move OP. Don't waste your time on anyone who makes you feel like less than what you are.

Take care of yourself, exercise, sleep and eat right. Running and getting enough sleep, even though it's simple, completely changed the state of my mental health.

You're just gonna have to deal with it.

I know your a femanon, but you have to deal with these kinds of things like an anon, like a man. Do things to take your mind off of the absence of intimacy, I've done it for nearly 2 years now, but I'm male so I am expected not to complain or care about it, otherwise I'd be a pussy!

>>17956672
>Asking the guy who couldn't respect you enough to give you the time of day for anything isn't the right move OP. Don't waste your time on anyone who makes you feel like less than what you are.
I get what you're saying and it's probably sound advice, but I guess I just can't get myself out of his head. Which is to say that I've constructed a sort of imagined scenario in my mind in which he felt bad about having chosen someone else over me and he thought shutting me out entirely would spare my feelings more than the truth would. Which would be incorrect, but would sort of be understandable. I guess I'm just having a hard time making him out to be a bad person in my mind because he always seemed like such a stand-up guy in every way.

I've been trying to get into running but so far it's just been making me feel like shit.

>>17956622
anyone?

>>17956622
Why the fuck would you be on 4chan right now? Brew a pot of coffee and watch some tutorials for iMovie. Basic video editing is not hard. Teach yourself. This is a Google question, not a 4chan question

since you did it with an ill intention, you deserve to get rekt