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Can I run away to the city? I don't want a family or to live in some "humble" small town shit hole. I just want to crash on floors and look for work and opportunity. I don't want to live where everyone is poor and inbreeding with each other I want to be in the big city where everyone lives life right.
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>>17957085
It's not as amazing as you think it is.
People are still poor and the cost of living is higher. Some pursue an "education" but they're still just as dumb and fall into herd mind more easily.
They might dress better but they cheat on eachother alot more because muh variety.
Crime also tends to be worse cause more ppl.
I've lived in both and im still trying to find that place in-between.
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>>17957103
My friend is from the ghetto of NYC and he has more money than anyone here, doesn't go to jail, and doesn't even work
Literally has the newest iPhone on an expensive plan and thousand dollar outfits and Louis Vuitton bags full of electronics that he buys and trades on Craigslist
And he was homeless at 16
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>>17957111
Your friend probably stole all that shit or bought it from someone that did
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Shitty financial situation, offer to move out to another country to heal (put myself together) and start anew, the possibility is there for another member of my family. If they take it instead of me, my mind will rest and if it goes well, the situation would get better, if I took it, there is a risk I won't be able to work soon enough (health).
The offer is intended for me, but I really want the other member to take it instead (even though it might be problematic with the people it comes from.. a little)
Scared shitless of leaving into the unknown before I'm okay, but staying (for both of us) is no way to be, one of us should go. I'm afraid It'll be me. I want to want to go and I tell everyone I want to. But leaving for there means being in other people's home for a while (friends, but still), not feeling free (however I might be), risking not being able to work while the other person could do it right off.
All and all, a the biggest opportunity in the life, the kind that cannot be skipped if anyone wishes for good life and I really don't want to do it, not as the first one.
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>if I took it, there is a risk I won't be able to work soon enough (health)
No. That doesn't work. Sitting on your ass in another country will only be bad for you. You must only go when you already have your job arranged there.
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>>17957102
Not like that - I have a health issue, which I might resolve by a break (for a few weeks) there, which was the main reason to go at first (and then and only then work) - with a possibility it won't work and I'll have to return for another kind of treatment home (where I have doctors on it, leaving is an alternative, kinda psychosomatic approach, I guess) and until that issue gets resolved, I'm not able to work nearly at all
The other person would be able to work right off the bat if there is anything available in their range of possibilities, even though there would be a little language barrier (not so good english as mine)
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>>17957172
>if there is anything available in their range of possibilities
That's the problem. This offer is simply an offer from your friends to stay at their place for a while right? You need a job offer. There are companies that do specifically this (recruit people to work abroad). Try there first if you're thinking about working abroad.
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Why does my social anxiety act up one day and some days it doesn't? My anxiety is not communication between individuals I'm completely fine with it but its like the feeling of being watched. One day i'll wake up go to work and be without it but then sometimes I'll wake up go to work and my mind will feel foggy and I'll have this ever present feeling that I'm being watched or observed while I do my job(forkilft cherry picker) I noticed when I have anxiety my mind is foggy like I have trouble thinking clearly. What could be the reasons for this? Am I not getting enough sleep? Am I jacking off too much? Seriously I can never pinpoint what exactly the problem is.
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>>17957027
I used to feel similarly anon. I've recently been taking meds for this and other things and my thoughts have been a lot clearer. Talk about this with your doctor.
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>>17957051
I recently just stopped taking my SSRIs that I have been for 6 years. I personally dont feel its a big enough problem to have to take medication and am actually really happy i decided to go off them. They might of worked for the first 1-2 years but this feeling I described happens on/off when I was on 20mg of paxil and still now.
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>>17957027
maybe you're fapping too much
Are there any doctors, nurses, or therapists here? Or anyone who has or who has known someone with this problem? I have a question, how do you tell if the pain you are feeling is imaginary? Like is there a way to tell between imaginary pain and legitimate pain? Personally having some pain for a while, and I'm not sure if its real or not. Any advice from anyone is appreciated.
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>>17957021
i had a bit of this question after i got surgery
what does your pain feels like is it localize ? is it sharp ? does it trigger with movement or anything
is it stomac pain ? because this can happen for a shittons of reason but stress is a big one
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>>17957032
I apologize for the late response. Its my lower abdomen, it seems like it happens at random intervals. When this started, a year ago now, I don't think I was stressed at the time. I am diagnosed with anxiety if that means anything.
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>>17957077
does it hurt when you press on it ?
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I'm at the end of the line. I don't know how to live like this anymore and nothing seems to help. I'm 24 and even though I have all the gifts I could need (tall, goodlooking, fit, well dressed), I'm a khv and never had a relationship. I'm so sick of being insecure and getting friendzoned while being depressed and while friends have the times of their lives. Nobody should be this lonely. Why can't I be with the girls I want? I can't stand being the nice guy loser who ends up alone, I'm so done with this. I cry every night and can't see any hope anymore. I'm not even autistic but Iall alone, forever. No therapy nor meds can help anymore and I'm going to kill myself.
What can I do? I can't have a nornal life anymore it's too late now.
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get real help.
but from one man to another, you just sound like a pussy. You've had a lot of things handed to you without having to try, and that's made you weak. Man the fuck up.
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>>17957143
I don't know how to anymore. It gets so old to be rejected for cooler, manlier guys. That's not a life.
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>>17957161
I'll teach you how.
>stop caring what people think of you
>start putting your own needs and desires on the forefront (ie be assertive)
>start believing in yourself
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I looked into my 3ds charging port and it's missing a gold pin. How do I fix it?
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>>17956987
Turn the system off and swab the port with rubbing alcohol. If that doesn't work it probably needs to be fixed or the charger replaced.
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>>17956993
I feel like that'll blow up my house
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>>17956987
Bump
Hello /adv/ I am new here and I was recommended from /wsr/. Here's my life story
>be me, 6/10 young (not underage, @mods) 4chan/Reddit browser browser/ gamer
>highschool
>never had a girlfriend/been on a date
>ask 8.7/10 to movies
>she says yes
>wat
I know all of the societal standards when it comes to manners and etiquette (e.g. pulling out chair, opening door, paying for some of the shit we do) but like any advice??? from the chads of 4chan, or the people w/ experience.
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OP here
edit: paying for most of the shit we do*
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>>17956935
Movie is a terrible date.
Do something cheap and easy like Coffee and walk through the park
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>>17956940
getting coffee before movie. (also not many rando parks here in the capital of North Carolina)
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Right major for relocating to the US 2017-01-14 10:54:28 Post No.17956933
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Right major for relocating to the US
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So heres the deal,
I'm looking to get a degree that will get me into the United States on a work visa one day. So it has to be in demand, ideally STEM.
However I'm really fucking stupid, awful with numbers and the only science I have any understanding of is Biology (which as I hear is at the lower end of STEM majors). No programming/cs knowledge either sadly.
People recommended me nursing, however that is not something you got to university for over here sadly and as such wouldn't qualify for a work visa even if I worked here as a nurse for some years.
Anything else? Any STEM major I could still manage to get into without a lot of brain nor prior knowledge? I wouldn't mind putting in a lot of work while studying, its just that with the big majority of majors I do not have the required foundation of knowledge to even give that a shot (and trying to get on level would take years at this point).
Any other degrees that are in high-demand and that people do tend to forget about?
Not here to start discussion on the (US) Immigration system or laws, so please spare us discussion on that if you can.
Also I know that chances are fairly high that no such major exists and that I should feel bad for even making this thread.
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>>17956933
>People recommended me nursing, however that is not something you got to university for over here sadly
Student visas are a thing too, right? Would it be possible to apply to colleges in the US and relocate if you get accepted?
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>>17956943
Sadly I do not have the necessary funding to study abroad in the US. International students tend to pay more than locals (and even more than out of state US residents) and scholarships usually aren't open to them.
Furthermore I would need to leave the US post graduation - unless I would be able to line up a job afterwards (which I wouldn't be able to do unless it was an in-demand degree).
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>>17956949
Do you know anybody in the US who would be able to help you find work? I think it's very difficult to get a work visa unless there's an employer in the US who really wants to hire you.
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Need some advice concerning my future.
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Hello folks. I'm in quite a pickle, and i'd like to hear your input on my situation, if you want. Sorry for any mistakes in my english, and if the sotry is too convoluted.
I am (?) a medstudent. You see, i've entered medschool for 2 main reasons: to please my parents, and to feel proud of myself for a change... but, ever since the first semester, i wanted to quit it and do something else (like biology, which i prefer over medicine).
But, since my parents asked me several times not to, and because there were some complications in my home, i didn't, and i kept pushing it as far as i could, but showing little interest in the career.
Don't get me wrong, i do love helping people out, i'm just not that interested in the medical career itself... my plan was always to just graduate, have a superior education degree certificate, and attempt to join the Federal Police of my country.
Well, now here is the real problem: i've started failing the semester. I've already failed twice, and i'm sort of ashamed, both concerning my parents and family, and to return to the same uni and see the same teachers again... also, i kind of just want to earn my own money, instead of depending on my parents for everything, which made me go ahead and try to apply to a career at the Military Police of my city... it is a respectable job, with a decent enough salary, so i could survive on my own, and think better on what i should graduate on.
In your opinion, what should i do? I know that i'm the one responsible for my failures, but i've lost the little interest i had in medicine when i felt that i was 'forced' to do it by the situation i was in.
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> i've entered medschool for 2 main reasons: to please my parents, and to feel proud of myself for a change
>I know that i'm the one responsible for my failures, but i've lost the little interest i had in medicine when i felt that i was 'forced' to do it by the situation i was in.
You responded the question yourself already. Feeling no interest, being forced to study something for X motives and failing is a clear indicator to reconsider your career path and also what really interest you.
I recommend you to read Cal Newport blog :http://calnewport.com/blog/archive/. He often deals with students with the same problems as you and he has a lot of articules about it.
This article for example is similar to your case: http://calnewport.com/blog/2009/12/17/the-grade-whisperer-karens-overbearing-parents/
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>>17956959
This article deals with the topic when other people influence your choices: http://calnewport.com/blog/2008/08/08/the-unconventional-scholar-dont-discuss-your-major-with-your-parents/
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>>17956959
>http://calnewport.com/blog/2009/12/17/the-grade-whisperer-karens-overbearing-parents/
thank you for your reply, and for indicating that article. I will read it.
I want to clarify something: i don't mean to throw the fault of my failures on my parents... afterall, it was me who applied to all those tests to enter medschool in the first place, and it is my fault entirely that i am failing so much, since i didn't apply myself enough, but i just find to be excited and interested enough, you know? everyday that i had to go there was a complete drag, even more so whenever i thought about the tuition fee they had to pay.
Also, giving more detail about the police career i've applied to... i've already passed the mental test, but the rest of the entry exams (medical and etc) are only going to happen on the 2nd semester of this year.. which kinda sucks, since i don't know what am i supposed to do until then.
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Me and my girlfriend have been talking about fantasies, and she says she wants to do a mother son roleplay of her being my mother and I'm her virgin son who needs experience
Is this fucked up or should we just do it for fun lol
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>>17956903
It's fine. If you don't like it nothing will change.
It's not like a cuck fantasy that will ruin your relationship once it happens
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You should do it and then greentext it here. So, uh, we can tell you if you're doing it right.
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What's "fucked up"? It's not everyone's cup of tea but it's not the most outlandish thing either. I don't care for incest but I would happily partake in this.
It just boils down to that she wants to be a loving dominant presence with a vulnerable boy she cares for that she wants to give an amazing experience. And it's really taboo.
Doesn't sound too weird right?
Having said that, if you're really uncomfortable with it you're better off leaving it and not going there.
My friends think my girlfriend is ugly. I don't.
Should I get better friends or are they still cool?
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Depends on how obnoxious they are about this, whether they are still respectful and pleasant to her in person, whether they realize that their subjective opinion on your girlfriend's looks means jack shit etc.
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>>17956884
Get better friends, stupid.
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>>17956884
Pics of her?
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How do I hold a conversation? I feel like I don't know what to say during one and the awkward silence is killing me.
I work in the IT, don't have any close friends that you can go out and have a drink for example and I'm starting to feel lonely.
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>>17956857
When you run out of things to say then start asking the other person or people about themselves. Get them to talk.
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>>17956857
You can never run out of things to say if you talk about what's happening around you at the time. Anything that's current.
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>>17956857
talking is vastly overrated
look into social dancing :) contra cajun swing zydeco - all easy enough to learn, don't need to bring a partner, not much talking - would you like to dance ?
really just go & see what it's like you can stand
there like a dweeb for a few minutes then leave, or you can jump in & have fun !
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I'm 3 years into my CS major and thinking about changing it. I hate theory, but like programming. What is the next best major?
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>>17956836
>but like programming
so why change from c.s major ?
next maybe business with minor in computers
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>>17956846
I thought it was all programming, but I'm getting a lot of discrete math courses and I have absolutely no idea how to make sense of it. Every time I ask a question I feel more lost than before. Also there are no tutors for discrete math on my campus. I tried asking the TA and he seems knowledgeable, but I'm too retarded to understand what he's saying.
Basically I'm ass at theory shit and after taking 3 courses I realized I just can't keep up with the work and if I have to do this stuff in a real job I'm screwed.
I realize it relates to programming in a way, but I'd rather just work as a lazy webdev or something.
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>>17956856
my c.s. degree had plenty of programming &discrete math, statistics, calculus, physics,
chemistry because it was from engineering college
so far i've just used the programming stuff jobs
you definitely need to keep grades up, because that is the best indicator that you are a generally smart person, ie. you studied in college to get good GPA so when you graduate the recruiters automatically rank you higher etc
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What do you think of the name Nevaeh for a child /adv/? It's heaven spelled backwards. Cool, huh?
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yeah, don't worry about the name calling. as long as you feel naming your child that will make you closer to god. good job
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>>17956830
What could Neveah be construed to be a negative as far as name calling?
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Late 20s forever aloner. No prior sex, or relationship experience.
I've been dating this girl for two months. She's truly a great girl, nice, funny, relaxed, treats me better than any woman I knew, except for my family. When we first met I fell hard for her and lost my virginity to her very quickly. She was very kind in showing the ropes to me and made sure I was comfortable.
But after dating her for two weeks the initial high has worn off and I was begging to have some doubts and started to feel overwhelmed at times. I tried to push them aside and power through it believing I'm just overthinking it. I thought I could get back to that one track infatuation o had at the begining.
But the longer I'm with her, the worse it gets. Lately my depression has been kicking in. I have trouble sleeping, lack energy and feel general apathy. I like her very much and she's a fantastic girl. But no matter how hard I try I just cannot fall in love with her and at times I even struggle to be physically attracted.
This stresses the fuck out of me because I can't bear the thought of breaking up with her and hurting her when she's so happy to be with me. Lately I've been becoming more and more distant and quiet I believe she might have noticed it.
We still have sex, but afterwards I feel enormous remorse and guilt.
I feel like I'm trapped. Either I stay with her, be unhappy and gradually make her feel unloved, or I break up with her for no fault of her own and break her heart just as she's recovering from a failed relationship.
I still truly enjoy her company, but right now I just don't see her in a romantic light.
What should I do? I feel like such a piece of shit and I feel ashamed to talk about this to even my closest friends. The guilt is slowly killing me.
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Anon, just speak to her. Tell her how long you've been depressed, tell her what the intimate experiences are doing to you. Tell her you have no peace of mind and feel guilt.
Tell her you don't want to hurt her, but you have to get it out of your chest.
The same thing you expressed here, you can express to her. If it ends between you and her, just stay away from relationships for a while, for your sake.
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>>17956961
you can also try remaining friends with her after. if she doesn't want to, least you tried.
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Thanks. I think it might be too early to call it quits. I've never been in a relationship before and I never really loved anyone in that way. So I'm just really confused over what I'm feeling towards her. Was it loneliness? Lust? Feeling desired? Or was that genuine attraction?
But I do think she should know. I feel like half the time I'm just pretending to be happy as to not make her feel sad. I just really want to get it off my chest.
The problem is that she's having exams for the next few weeks and is already stressed about it. She comes to me for support and I give it to her. I don't want to add to her problems right now but at the same time I feel like I can't keep it bottled inside me no more.
As for the friendship part, I think I would have preferred that to be honest. In fact right now I probably think of her more as a close friend than a lover. But putting someone I've been intimate with into a friend zone seems extremely hurtful.