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Take my advice with a grain of salt.

You need to learn through trial by fire. That's how I'm doing/did it. I'm not overly charismatic but the people around me tell me I am. I learned how to act the way I do by putting myself in awkward situations. Got into a few parties I wasn't invited to that way. Good times.


Just put yourself out there, somewhere. Where? Well nobody but you can help yourself with that.

watch this, some good motivation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dZu7_z7SDEQ

You talk about what she is serious about. Whether that's college or family or the environment.

Also, the token serious conversations in couples are about bad experiences you've had, memorable stuff that happened to you, how you changed as a person and what you think of your life so far, how you want to live in the future etc.

Apart from that it's a matter of compatible interests. What you (both) think of your own region, generation, the people you know etc is an easy starting point.

>>17960404
also for reference everyone involved is roughly 22+

Sounds like a beta Chad

>>17960404

he is threatened by you

Just venting. Why do people have to be so confusing?

>Fall for this girl
>She would randomly sit next to me in mostly empty rooms
>Talk to her, we are friendly enough
>Try asking her to lunch
>Say yes, but drags a guy friend along
>Awkward lunch. Guy friend hits on her, and she wants nothing to do with it. (Ends up breaking contact for an unknown reason with him)
>Nothing happens after
>I catch her staring at me, and occasionally she doesn't look away, instead we just stare into each other eyes for a few seconds.
>She still never texts me first, but she will keep the conversation going if I do text her. Sometimes for 6-10 hrs.
>I sometimes slip in jokes that kinda tease her. No one finds them funny, but she still laughs. She sometimes teases me similarly
>She Makes it a point to try an push me to become an EMT. Which she is one, but also knows that I want to do it soon.
>She is always seeming willing to meet up, says "Definitely!" and "We can always give it a shot!" but will never commit to an actual day. But she seems kinda disappointed.

Are you gonna have sex with me? When? Just do it already, please, I can't stand waiting and I can't be free of you until we do this.

I guess you really just want your ex back. That sucks for me. You broke up with him (multiple times) for a reason. God forbid you try something new.

Sell plasma.

>>17960391
How much does that sell for? I'm gonna be needing at least 100 dollary doos for each appointment.

>>17960394
Depends where you sell it and how much you've got.

Let me refer you to this excellent resource for finding clinics that will buy it.

www.google.com

>>17960377
stop browsing 4chan.
Seriously, you say you lost interest but you are here everyday anyways.
Focus on something productive in just do it instead of browsing the internet mindlessly every day.

>>17960377
That's basically life from here on out.

I realized once I stopped having that childish, naive outlook on life -- almost like everything was new and exciting, then it got boring. And quick, too.

Look, you might have a few moments in life when you feel genuine emotions -- when things aren't dull or constantly boring. Those are the moments you have to really appreciate -- they don't come often.

But anyways, welcome to real life. Anhedonia and dysthemia it's going to be from here on out... My as well get used to it.

>>17960395
I didn't go to this site at all last year, I just came back because nothing changed. I spent two weeks doing nothing but reading - no internet/games - and I felt nothing. Hemingway, Cervantes, McCarthy, Shakespeare, Dumas, etc.. The pleasure I used to get from books just wasn't coming. And that's how it is with most things. My goal right now is passing time until I can see a therapist, and 4chan is good at that.

>>17960411
Are you sure? Why do you think it's impossible to recover from?

He's focused on building a career path and long term financial stability and thus your roastie powers have no hold of him.

Deal with it.

>>17960361
probably not happening in my line of work

>>17960357
>direct flirting, indirect and even asking him out
then you've tried everything. he doesnt like you. move on

>>17960345
Most colognes out there are full of chemicals and crap that are bad for your skin and your health. Just shower well with soap that smells good to you man and wear deodorant that complements it well man.

>>17960387
Good colognes are just water, alcohol, and essential oils.

Midnight in Paris is the best men's cologne ever. Smells like pure sex.

>>17960325
Is it time? Are we ending it now?

Will we finally be free?

Tl;dr

>>17960325
Is this supposed to represent you desire to just fucking scream cuz something or everything is driving up the fucking wall? Or is this just lolsrandom see what reaction i get?

There are plenty of websites where you can skype with people who are willing to practice the target language with you. Learning two languages at once isn't bad or hard, especially when the two languages are closely related to each other. I'd say go for it. What's stopping you except yourself?

>>17960319
this. end of thread.

>>17960319
Besides my lack of discipline, motivation and management. I guess not much, though I've been told countless times that language exchanging is great, i've tried language learning apps and sites but they're just essentially dating sites now. Literally no one is as serious to learn as I want to be, people are either looking for bfs, friends or aren't serious.

What websites would you suggest. Please don't suggest interpals or hellotalk.

>>17960251
Have you clipped your fingernails? Sometimes nails can tear the walls of vaginas which is unsanitary and could give you an infection as well as being sore for a while. You could also be fingering yourself at a weird angle you're not comfortable with.

>>17960261
they're clipped. and idk if its a weird angle it's usually while laying down

>>17960251
One of my exes told me it hurt to get even a full finger in there by herself, but she had no problem when we had sex and my dick is fairly girthy. Doesn't sound too abnormal I guess is what I'm getting at.

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>>17960218
You're a girl.

Girls are experts at replacing people they love with another random guy.

You're going to get over him when you see the next Chad,

>>17960218

Staying friends with exes only work of both are truly over it. You are not. Take distance and give yourself time to recover and get over him. It will never happen if he hangs around, it will just mess with your head and emotions.

I've heard it takes about half the total time relationship time post-breakup to get over an ex. E.g. if you were dating a year, it takes 6 months of breakup, if you were dating 3 years, it takes ~1.5 years post break up etc

you've only been broken up 2 months OP? lol the journey is just beginning. I didnt even start getting depressed over my ex until about the 3 month mark

Not necessarily. You guys actually have real sex, right?

Sending nudes is kind of immature and short-sighted, it's risky, so it makes sense that she'd do it more when she was younger and more naive. If she's kinda grown out of it you should consider that a good sign, even if you don't get as many titty-pictures as you'd like

>>17960217
chances are they were serious friendships but didnt want to waste her time. ask her that.

Agree with the other posters. If you have never been together, nudes are incredibly thrilling. If you have a healthy sex life, they can feel irrelevant (to both sending or receiving party, btw, I've also heard guys go "how am I supposed to react to the tits I see every day anyway"). Or indeed not worth the related risks as you can see them in person anyway.

Also I don't know how long you've been together for, but as someone who has sent nudes and followed this stuff, there's a pretty big rift around the time of the Fappening and before that. I mean, even when I was sixteen you'd be told not to send anything to guys you didn't trust. But the only doom scenario was that he'd be a dick and send them to friends or post them online. The whole concept that someone you barely even know might hack into your email and steal private photos was unheard of.
So if it's a couple of years ago that she sent those, it's also possible that she became a lot more realistic about risks in the meantime.

>>17960188
Talk to a lawyer about what you should do. It is their job to think straight about this and they'd also have more pertinent knowledge on the complexities.

I would just go and buy prostitutes until I end up with some disease, then I'd knowingly pass it on to the whore wife.

There's really not much you can do given your situation. Do you have a lawyer? They can help you avoid a nasty divorce if you have proof of her affair.

>>17960188

trying to go out and meet women so you can take revenge on your wife isn't going to make you feel very good.
just give yourself some time to come to terms with what happened, figure out how you want to proceed, etc.

remember... the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.

>>17960181
Gender Studies

>>17960181
How about you read the board rules before you go to meme IT

>>17960183
this
>>17960182
and
>>17960183
this

>>17960161
Why don't you have and raise your own black child to be an upstanding, non-degenerate model black man? America could use more of them.

>>17960173
Fucking this. I've never seen OP get rekt so hard.

/thread

>>17960173
cause nobody wants to fuck black women, they're fucking insufferable

when they are actually mild-mannered and attractive they're usually half-white themselves and go for white men exclusively

OP just breed a ginger or something. the whiteness will take over and nobody will be able to tell your kids is part chocolate