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>>17960681
Btw waiting for them to go to bed so I can wash dishes because they keep interrupting me and getting in the way. Oh and my dad only works 2 days out of the week so he's always fucking home

Sometimes I hang out in heroin dens where people are killing themselves and shooting up just to get away from them

If you're almost out of high school, just hold out for a little while longer. Just don't get into the heroin, because that's going to open up a whole new can of problems for ya.

>>17960694
But I don't even have a car so moving out isn't possible unless I move to an expensive as fuck city with trains

I'm right there with you bro, used to think I was smart till I tried math, just started college algebra. I can do it, but it never "clicks" I just slog through it

Try Wolfram alpha.com for HW at least, it'll guide you through shit and calculate for you

>>17960749
Thanks for letting me know I'm not the only retard

Same here, suffered through math for HS then chose a major that didn't require match for college. Grades were shit in math related classes but other classes made up for it

However, when we finally made plans to practice, another guy was there--her friend, presumably, and it was really akward because it was clear he was there just in case I was a creep or whatever. I totally got that, even if it made me feel kind of shitty but either way we got to practicing and all of her songs are shitty pop music like Break Even (the song we eventually decided on) and I'm already burning with shame feeling like a massive idiot for even considering the possibility that she'd have good taste.

They ask if I like the stuff and I told them honestly that it wasn't the sort of stuff i'm into, and then they made me play one of the songs I wrote and I'm panicking because it's all tongue-in-cheek ironic whiny loser #relatable songs. I don't think they hated it but they most likely cringed about it, and like me she has a very teasing sense of humor, but the problem is that my music is intentionally super vulnerable. I didn't show it but it really stung when she joked about a line (misinterpreting it too) "repping that single life" and I just stammered like "no, actually" considering the relationships I had earlier this semester, but then I thought about how dumb it was to even say considering i'm single now.

The worst of all isn't that I still have to play this terrible song for someone who, the way it feels, is using me--I'm not one of those "bluh nice guys finish last" kids because I was fully into doing this just as a friend, but pretty much immediatly after we decided on a song it was pretty apparent that I was to leave and "go practice." Don't get me wrong, it still really stung.
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but what I'm TERRIFIED of, is that I'm going to have to perform this at open mic in front of my bandmates, and it'll make everyone think i did it because I was thinking with my dick for some cute girl, especially because of how embarrassing a song it is. I feel so humiliated already; I just KNOW I'll look like a giant fuckin dork playing stuff that's the complete opposite of what I write and usually play just for some "friend". I feel like an absolute loser; I feel like everyone will thinke ven worse of me and assume i was jsut thinkign with my dick and got humiliated, especially when the friendship itself likely goes nowhere. I seriously hate myself right now; the sheer burning shame is absolutely agonizing.

I still feel an immense amount of shame welling up in my face and at some points it got so bad I'm seriously considering offing myself or just moving away again. I know it's melodramatic but I don't know how to stop overreacting; I seirously feel like I'm going to explode. My music career was already pretty fragile; I'm barely gonna be able to make it on my own and there's no way inhell I can go back to my parents' house. I'd seriously rather die. I feel like I'm letting myself down and that everythign I've worked for is now ruined in one fell swooop because I'm such a fucking loser.
I just really odn't know how to deal with this

Honestly man, and I really did read everything you wrote, I think you should just consider all your options, two of which are to a) play the show and no one will end up thinking less of you (they're not going to read into it NEARLY as deep as you are lol b) tell her to fuck off, that you have a musical reputation to uphold (and watch as you get a rep as a dick head?)

I hope it helps m8 , I'll be thinking of you and everything WILL be okay

21 year old male.

I was 19 at the time when we dated. I had known her vaguely from highschool and a close friend reintroduced us and we hit it off. She was shy and wanted to take things slow, which was fine since I had never dated before. We where together for about 3 months before she broke up with me. I saw it coming though. She went back to college out of state and keeping contact was more work than it was worth. Ultimately though I think the relationship would have gone south anyway since we had very different social views, and it created a very awkward tension between us since neither of us were very good at communicating. This also hurt intimacy since I couldn't get much of a read on what she was thinking and she was very reserved, so I was always hesitant with her. I've hit it off with 2 other girls since, but nothing ever got beyond the first date. The one actually cancelled before it even got that far, and the other stopped talking to me even though she was already asking to see me again after the first date. Not really sure what happened with that one. I think a mutual friend told her to break it off, but who knows.

I've dated a few people.
1st. Dated this person because my friends said I "needed to open up more" that was the stupidest advice ever. I was 18. I ended up wasting three months with them. They were decent looking but full of themselves and racist.
2nd. I dated this person in the military. I was 21. Met through a mutual friend. Great conversations, sexy mind, sex was a fail but I was willing to work at it. Turned out our values were completely different and we parted ways. Wish that parting was amicably. They manipulated me into being their "friend" until we "could get back together." Wasted an entire summer.
3rd. Met this person at a school function. I was 24. Highly interesting. Sexy mind, sexy hands, awesome sex. Mental breakdowns on both our parts. Parted ways. Not amicably. Still dealing with the pain from that.

Personally, I'm in the place where I just don't want to date anymore after that. I'm enjoying being single.

All of my relationships have ended because I am seen by my gfs as, "more like a friend than a bf"
At the time I had no idea what they meant.
Now I realize now that I wasn't intimate enough with them and this causes me some great regrets in life

>>17960650
Global rule 2: You will immediately cease and not continue to access the site if you are under the age of 18.

And you should ALWAYS see a doctor if you have any doubt.

Dude, just print out what you just posted here and hand the printout to the doctor.

Doctors see a lot of strange stuff - you won't be anything remarkable.

Ok I'm 18 now

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Im in a similar situation,
except there's some things out of my control that I have extreme anxiety over.

Basically if they dont get fixed, I am destined to live a life of mediocrity, which is unacceptable to me, ill be an heroing if that happens.

You probably dont have that thing that is out of your control in your life, so your path is easier than mine.

I dont even know what your goal is, are you trying to get rich??

You don't have to be neurotic about end goals to become successful.

Do you think Michael Jordan was focused on being a superstar every single time he practiced his shots? He just loved the game.

Enjoy the process motherffucker. You will never succeed unless you enjoy the process.

>>17960649
Hoo boy have you completely missed every bit of the point.

I can't explain everything to you but I'll touch on a big one. Giving up when facing failure will never get you anywhere. Nobody has ever succeeded without losing. The key is to learn from it and adapt.

You're entirely too impatient and I doubt you can change at all.

YouTuber, or some sort of streamer...
Cam whore might work...

you'll never be 15 and in love
>lying on the grass on a warm >summer night, watching the stars, carelessly chatting
>not worrying about rent, bills, student loans
>only worry in life is how you're gonna cheat on that history test on monday
>you'll never take a young, tight, hot-bodied girls virginity, pulling out to cum all over her back and have her look in your eyes and say "I love you"
>you'll never have a girl around every day after school, pretend to be doing homework together, but instead just **** like rabbits
>you're in your 20's now
>gotta get a good job
>gotta be a serious man now
all the good ones are taken
maybe a nice girl will eventually settle with you
>they have already felt all those new exciting feelings before, and are usually jaded and bitter
>you missed what it feels like to have not a care in the world other than making your girl happy
you have missed out on teenage love

>>17960648

1st - you've got to get out and get another job - fast food retail stocker at grocery store if you're fit go to ups or fedex

Just look up how to handle a concussion on the internet. If he doesn't feel he needs to go to the hospital, he's probably right. Just keep an eye on him.

>>17960674
>concussion

op drag his dumb ass to the emergency room

you 2 can always say it was somebody else

>>17960674
Yeah hes been fine, no amnesia or dizziness or anything.
>>17960680
I asked him and he says not to do it because they'll ask for the name of the person who did it or something. we live in cali if it matters any

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>>17960619
Leave YouTube and Google Plus. Seriously, 2 social media accounts are not worth your life.

Start again on Twitter or something.

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>>17960619

Google+ is a fucking shitshow. I know some lad that impersonates a priest and he makes girls send him nudes. Last time I saw him he had some girl cut slut into her arm.

>>17960610

if you're into her, keep going. me personally, I can't be tricked. for me its about the smell. im gay, like dudes, need dude smell. one time i kissed a girl i thought was just a girl, but as soon as i smelled her i was like 'lol do you have a penis?' turns out she was trans.

the smell man

She told me she is trans and is turning into a guy in about a year but still has the lady bits... idk man, I think I'm in love but it's just weird...

post pic

you shouldn't try at all. when you give literally 0 fucks you will be irresistible to women.

at this very part i have a huge crush on one of the college friends, shes gorgeous and the only brunette i ever liked, and shes mentally extremely similar to my own mother. Should i just stop and wait ? is it worth waiting or you need to take an initation part? i dont want a girlfriend for sex only, i have been single for way to long, i just want someone to be always with, share my life, share my emotion and spend romantic moments,

>>17960577
Anyone can agree on this?

>>17960532
You have to be weened off of the other drug first. Do that first and then get diagnosed for ADHD or whatever.

Do I say, "I don't want to take Prozac"
Say "I have ADHD or whatever"
= addy??

>>17960532
why do you want addy?
it's worse than opiates to get off of, and I spent the last 9 years trying to get off opiates. failed out of college, work retail still and have failed at life. only just now getting my life on track.

you won't get it if you have a good doctor, which they seem to being careful with you, sounds like you have addiction red flags, they're not going to prescribe it to you. they can see through your shit too, so don't fake it, otherwise they'll red flag you to all other doctors too.

sucks

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Golly, Alfalfa, Spanky says that if you are going to go sweet on Darla, then you can't be a member of the "He-Man Womun Haters Club".

you should have relationships, but don't be a pussy whipped bitch that does everything she wants

>>17960530
>Men Going To Only Whine
Maybe you should grow some balls instead.

Bump
This can't be all there is there has to be a way out.

What do you really enjoy doing? Why are you at this job in the first place? If you could be at any other job that aligns with your values, what would it be?

>>17960569
My obsession is bicycles right now, but go read the forum replies that show up when you google "should I become a bicycle mechanic" and you'll see why that's off the cards.

All I really want is a job that helps people rather than just the company I work for, but most of those jobs require a high qualification and my attention span is too fried to even finish a book.

>>17960469
You make your own resume, they may also make you fill out a application form when you get there. Its ez pz.

pls be real


a resume is something you make. an application is something you fill out.

>>17960481
Sorry I meant application