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To expand on our relationship further, I couldn't ask for a better girl. She's cute, she's not stupid, we're very close politically and she acts like she genuinely cares about me despite everything I've done and will keep

well obviously you should break up with her because you dont deserve her

but you wont
because dont give a fuck about her
because you're a selfish little cunt
and that's why you cheated on her
and that's why you asked her to come back to you and let you fuck other women because you know she's in love with you and was easily manipulated in that moment

so you wont do what's best for her ever, this thread is just some fucked up way of convincing yourself you were "considering" what is best for her so that you can feel less guilty for being a subhuman piece of shit

jump off a fucking bridge

>>17971971
Leave her. For the love of everything, leave her so she can be with someone better. You're hurting her so bad.....this is so sad to read. Geez. :/

She's depressed and sleeping all the time. She only moves and probably eats when you come around [if that].

She deserves better. Please leave her, ghost her, whatever it takes. Set. Her. Free.

The only way you can have a platonic friendship with someone of the opposite sex is if they are obviously unattractive, handicapped, or extremely gay, like fairy sassy gay dude and super butch dike. If they are even remotely attractive, you're going to have to limit your contact in the extremes. No unecessary conversations, definitely no need to text, call, or message on social media. You can get a pass on the occasional Facebook like or comment if it's vague enough. The only exception to this is if you are working on a group project that includes at least two other people besides yourselves.

Also, simply do not respond to any messages or any other non verbal forms of communication. You are not obligated to say anything to them. If asked why, tell them the truth, or tell a white lie. They are not owed an explaination.

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>>17971934
Yeah, I don't find them attractive and have always felt my GF was enough female friendship. This has happened before but this other person's romantic intentions were more obvious so it was easy to cut them off and have a laugh about it.

Problem is we are all part of a larger social group at university, so I can't really avoid them, or completely ignore them without drawing the attention of the larger group.

Forgot to say, I don't feel comfortable telling her because we're not a couple, but I don't know if I should confront this if things gets serious. I'd feel like an insecure fuck but at the same time this is what's holding me back from going to the next level.

That's touchy. I wouldn't bring it up at all, ever, if I were you. Girls just like to keep their options open. If you were in a deeply committed relationship it would be different.

That is a fucking great picture, OP.

Respect her boundaries

Oh no! that sucks :(. She either rejected you because she was either
a) nervous and shocked by you making a move, or
b) doesn't like you

either way your next move is to play it cool! the good thing is she knows you like her now so if it was (a) she'll have time to think about it and might make a move on you later once she gets to know you better. The balls in her court though because it might be (b) so i wouldn't try making a second move just yet! XD tehe

>>17971841
When she pushes your hands off that's code for saying "Keep going"

I'd tell him specifics to be more helpful. "I would really love it if you did x more." "I love it when you do x" "Hey let's do x". "X my x" You get what I'm saying. Specifics.

But I also don't think you should stop having sex unless you're horny. It's just the truth that sometimes your partner is going to be horny when you aren't and vice versa. Good, loving partners takes care of each other's needs. It doesn't even have to be piv sex, a bj or handy work fine.

>>17971837
ok, sounds good. i'll do that.
problem is, so far i have never rejected any advances because i always hoped i would get "in the mood" if i partake but it just doesn't work and i'm really tired of having sex despite not being horny. it isn't enjoyable, so why should i keep doing that on that rate? i get that sometimes you will have to make compromises and i'm ok with that. guess it is also my fault for not giving better pointers on how he COULD get me in the mood. thanks for you help, anon

>>17971855
Different anon here, but are you the anime girl?

"Hey, its anon from that party..." can't hurt. But she might be unstable bc of the breakup? Be careful!

>>17971817
Are you ugly? How tall are you? Do you have a jew nose? Serious questions.

>>17971875
I grew up thinking I was always ugly but recently got over my insecurities. My friends say I'm not ugly, I think I'm about average now. I may have a Jew nose because of a fracture from middle school playing basketball. I'm 6'1 though. Hispanic, and she's Hispanic too

You say you feel like you're not improving, yet you aren't doing anything to improve yourself. I always wanna see pictures of guys who post these types of threads just to see if they're all that ugly like they claim.

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>>17971821
I am doing small stuff to improve. In fact I saved money to save a physiologist to help me with my issues.
I have also been reading more and learning how to dance but I somehow suck at everything I do and lose motivation immediately. Pic related- that's me and my literally best photo which is midcore at best. You can see the bags under my eyes. Never had this problem before.
Also never said I'm super ugly, I just said my face is getting worse and more distorted.

>>17971843
Your lips are cute I'd kiss you

Get a haircut tho.. not a cheap one like the one you have pls

If she's still living with you, kick her out. If you're paying for any of her bills, shut them down. Pay whatever you owe for the month of January and cut everything off, phone, insurance, whatever. Do not let her convince you that she needs you to keep paying for things in order for it to make things easier for her to have access to your child. If she has family in town, she can go live there in the meantime. Hopefully for her she has a job. She's gonna need money. The abuse thing will more than likely be blown over as she obviously didn't go to a doctor or file a report with the police. Taking pictures of herself in makeup and calling that proof won't stand.

We do not live together. She has run away with our child though. Now, the claim that I pointed a gun at her, there are witnesses who will say that never happened. (Because it never happened)

When she is found to be lying this far, could I push for full custody?

>>17971848
You could, if you can prove you're a more fit parent than she is beyond a doubt. If you have your own place with a good income, and have daycare set up for when you're at work, you should be fine.

When I was your age, I was engaged, living in an apartment we shared, had a job I really liked, and was having the time of my life.

I just turned 27. I have a three year old with someone I want to punch in the face when they're sleeping, a job that pays too little, in a pretty decent house in a cozy neighborhood. I hate my life.

Life tip, don't knock anyone up until you've been married and are at least 30. Kids are great, but they are traps.

study hard
work hard
play hard

You'll figure it out if you do. Its a process, not a decision.

>>17971805
Sounds to me you just picked the wrong girl to marry.

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>>17971791
Spend the whole day doing chores for her, like cleaning, laundry and washing.

>>17971800
This, so this. She would appreciate it sooo much.

well, the reason you give someone a gift is to show you actually give a fuck about them.
so it has to be something that you clearly put in some effort. that effort can be material (as in, is rare/costs a lot/was hard to get), by paying attention (she might have mentioned that she would want something but that she doesn't NEED it and thus can't justify the expenses like those new fancy earplugs) or by spending time (doing something yourself for her that takes effort, like finally rewire her car so she is able to listen music again or, you know, bake a shitty cake for the sake of it) or give her a voucher to spend time with you (doing something she always wanted like a bungee jump).

>>17971659

Her boyfriend probably started paying attention to her again or maybe she found someone else to fuck. As we all know women are dumber than men and have a lower capacity for logic.

>inb4 r9k fedora virgin, autismo, etc, etc.

I'm sorry but I am far from that it's just what I have observed. Exception sometimes being well educated but even then they let their emotions get in the way half the time.

>>17971669
Yea you're right, I really wanted to see those titties tho

>>17971659
How attractive/old are you? what does it take to get a girl like this? Like legit advice

>>17971626
The only "councilor" that can prescribe pills is a psychiatrist. A therapist usually just talks with the patient to work out the issue, if that's what you're looking for.

Next day he has school, walk him in to the office. Explain the situation and ask to have him speak with the school counselor. Make sure that she discloses to you anything he says about hurting himself or others or stuff like that. Also ask the counselor to give a recommendation for what else to do, i.e. therapy or psychiatry. He has to get help!

>>17971823
This^

>>17971609
No

If you think she shouldn't have to talk to you everyday

Plain and simple no.

You don't girlfriend a girl before you've even gone out on a date you idiot. How old are you, 12? Ask her out on a couple of dates first and get to know her more before trying to throw a label on it.

>>17971601
We've already gone out six times by now. Sixth time was when we finally admitted to liking each other, only at the end where I drop her off.

What do I ask to gf her is what I'm asking. The wording.

>>17971608
I'm lost. How did you go on a date with her if she didn't know what your intentions were? How did she agree to go on a date with you if it wasn't obvious that you two liked each other already? I don't understand.

Regardless, you need to say in person, not on the phone or text

"So femanon, I've been having a lot of fun over the last couple weeks getting to know you, and I really think this could be the start of something good. What do you think about being my girlfriend?"

Or you could do what my fiancé did, tell me he loved me after a week of knowing me and saying he'd really like it if I'd be his girlfriend.

Or my ex, who while introducing me for the first time to his friends as "This is my...Jessica...(fake name but whatevs) and later proclaiming as everyone piled into the truck that only the girlfriend sits in the passengers seat while giving me a significant look that later turned into a slightly awkward conversation.

beginning of the end. its over. accept it and move on.
yes it sucks

In my own experience, yes. I wasted an entire summer waiting for the end of the so called "break" only to be told they didn't want to be with me anymore and couldn't commit. Don't waste your time like I did anon.

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Op here. Heres more context