I'll try to make it short. A few days ago I was flirting over chat and messages with a girl that I've known for a few years, through several friends in common. I went to her place once last week in a social context with other friends and we got along very well but nothing happened, and I went home early. Then the next day in a casual chat I ended up admitting I was totally in for sleeping with her, and she was on board too, so we ended up agreeing to meet in the next few days for a sleep over. Anyway, that same day or the next, I finally scored a first date with a different girl, one I've liked for years, and it was a dream, the whole night, we talked and talked for hours, it was fun, interesting, tender. Finally she stayed home and we had sex a few times. It was fantastic. A 10/10 body, lots of kisses, licking, caressing. Spooning, laughs, more kisses, etc. I'm trying hard not to fall madly in love with her.
Anyway, now she's going on a trip with her family for a whole week. I'm pretty sure the sex proposition with the other girl is totally still doable. The thing is, I like this other girl so much, I don't want to do anything to ruin it. I can't even think of another girl now. But I do feel kind of an idiot for not going for it, because, whatever, yolo, etc.
Is there a way out of this? A definitive answer? I guess not. Opinions?
>>17974021
Just tell the other one you've fallen in love with someone else in the meantime (een if you haven't yet it will make it easier for her to swallow). Apologize and move on. You want to give this new thing a chance, it my become a relationship.
>>17974105
Thanks, I guess you're right. The most frustrating thing is that I'm no jock-alpha or anything, I rarely even get the attention of a single girl at a time, and most often not even that. I've spent literally years with no one. And now I have these two pretty girls wanting me, and I even get vibes from a few others too. I feel like I'm on a lucky streak or something.
Just go for both dude. You don't owe them anything, you're not even in a relationship.
If they find out what you're doing they'll probably even want you more.
How do i kill my desire for a gf? I just don't want to have a desire anymore since i'm a omega loser
>>17973994
What is it you like about her?
>>17973995
She has a smile that is warm, it's a sincere smile, i love it.
>>17973998
Have you ever talked to her?
I've done bad things that I'll never be able to give recompense for.
Its been years. I have a steady job, I exercise, I have friends, but I can't tell anyone about it. The times I tried I have breakdowns.
I can't type it out. I tried.
The people who it affected are fine, even if I'm no longer in contact with them. I'm not okay.
Any advice on how to get over this, how to move forward, how to approach this?
Talk about it to someone
>>17973978
Pay it forward. Do good deeds.
>>17973978
Watch My Name is Earl
My friend who lives in Arkansas is having her and her family abused by the DHS. They want her grandmother to clear out all their stuff minis dresses, cloths, mattresses and food. They want them to even toss her deceased mother's stuff along with other questionable items. Is their anything they can do? Any way I can help? Seriously topic please, I appreciate how 4Chan can be funny and joking but I implore, can we work to have a miracle for them?
gonna need more details, OP - is this the Dept of Homeland Security or the Dept of Human Services?
What is the rationale behind tossing the stuff and who owns the property where the stuff is being stored?
Human Services, and their basicly is no rationality behind it. They at first told my friend's grandmother, who owns everything that both they have in the house and my friend's mother's stuff. So she owns everything and she is the owner of the house as well. It seems so odd and just unlawful too. Even her art supplies they were told to toss out and it make no sense at all.
Local court/local politicians
Write letters, see the staff, make a spectacle of it and the DHS will fuck off
Sup /adv/. I'm an accounting student in college and I'm trying to go to networking events and shit to get my name out there.
Problem is, I'm a shy introvert that doesn't like to be around people, especially strangers.
In situations where's there's one recruiter and a few students in a group chat, I feel constantly overshadowed. I'm forgettable.
One-on-one chats go okay, but I get that vibe that the person I'm talking to isn't interested in me at all...happens more frequently than it should.
I know practice makes perfect, but I just am so mentally drained before, during, and after every event. My social skills aren't the best and I feel wayyyy below average (looks-wise) compared to everyone else.
Wat do?
so the way I get lots of people to be enthusiastic about conversing with me is to just ask them questions about themselves and be interested in what htey're saying.
everyone wants to talk about themselves and they get ecstatic when someone is actually willing to listen to their bullshit. you can build great connections this way and you barely have to do anything (just listen and keep asking them to expand on what they're saying). if they're not totally self absorbed they'll start to ask you some questions too, and you'll get to know each other.
>>17973914
I always try to do that, but after the conversation ends, that's it. I have a hard time turning that conversation into a friendship or connection. If I approach them again at another event, many times they don't remember me.
>>17973880
more practice but if you're really the shy introvert this will only help so much
c'mon you're an accountant, nobody expects accountants to be social butterflies
instead of doing the in-person thing, look into how to promote yourself on the internet
as for jobs, what are you planning after college ? to start your own business ? dumb dumb dumb
almost all accts work for larger firm a few years to learn the zillions of things they were not taught in college, then they start their own business
How do you choose a therapist/psychiatrist? Like you can use the internet to find a list closest to you, but like, I'm not sure what kind of person to make an appointment with. Like honestly I'd rather a young attractive lady, but as a guy maybe I'd be better off with a guy giving me advice. General advice, please?
>>17973846
>, but as a guy maybe I'd be better off with a guy giving me advice
probably so
why not try both ?
>>17973846
If you're a guy get a guy. A young attractive lady is the wrong choice. They're not allowed to do anything romantic and sexual tension can ruin the therapeutic alliance. As for therapist/psychiatrist/psychologist/counselor
Psychologists will employ a number of techniques to improve your mental well being if that's what you're looking for, but they can't prescribe meds.
Psychiatrists can prescribe meds but they won't engage in any therapy or discussion beyond "are the meds working?" "can you complete this measure to see if they're working?"
and a counselor is less useful than either but almost always cheaper. They'll talk to you about your problems but it's more about acceptance than change.
Things to remember:
Be Honest
Meds are a bandied not a permanent solution
Counseling and therapy alone can be a great boon but some conditions NEED meds, especially if they have symptoms such as hallucinations, delusions, or suicidal thoughts.
>>17974456
Thanks. Yeah I don't think medicine will help much in the long-term. Sounds like I need to try a psychologist, I hope my insurance can pay for most of it.
Before we were together, my girlfriend used to make BDSM stuff with her friend. It was like arts and crafts -- He'd show her how to make different things like riding crops and nipple clamps, etc. Long before we ever got together, she told me that they were never more than friends and never did anything, so I believe her. I haven't read all of their texts, but what I got from the little I did see over the last 2 years (we've been together for 1) is that they're always sorta snarky with one another. They make jokes for shock value like two male friends would.
After we got together, she was put off because he still made suggestive comments even though he knew she was with someone. She felt disrespected. For a time, she would just ignore his texts and we'd actually laugh about them. Fast forward to now, and he's moved to our city. Little by little, she's talked with him a lot more, and she just visited his house the other night to play video games. (he has a girlfriend and she was there) I am VERY unhappy with all of this. He even tried to pressure her to smoke weed.
Am I being too sensitive, thinking that them even texting is inappropriate given that past? It especially doesn't help that this is happening in a particularly rocky time in our relationship.
>>17973755
Get the fuck out of here with those spiders, god damn
No, I don't think you're being unreasonable. He's a guy. He wants to fuck her. Make no mistake.
I also don't think your relationship is destined to last.
>>17973755
It is reasonable to be worried about your girlfriend and how her friends treat her. but it is possible, and very likely, that your jealousy may be make you unreasonably worried.
If you are worried that her friend is still disrespecting her, then you should bring that up. A good way to bring that up might be to ask her if she ever talked to him about it. That way you can open up a conversation about it and then talk about how she is feeling. Is she upset about him trying to get her to smoke? was she upset about him disrespecting her in the past, but he apologized? or maybe he did't apologize and it still bothers her?
If you talk to her about it, then you will be able to hear what she is thinking and then you will know what is up between them.
Just being upset about her hanging out with another dude will sound very controlling. saying "I don't want you to hang out with him anymore" just makes you sound like a controlling asshole. but saying "I am worried about how he treats you, he disrespects you, and pressures you to smoke" sounds like you actually care(which I hope you do)
try to take a couple steps back before you talk to her. no matter how reasonable your worries are, if you let any jealousy cloud what you are trying to say, then you will just sound like a dick and make it worse.
how do i be a great lover. like the girl cums everytime great
Become an oral sex god.
I've never had a girl not cum during oral, usually multiple times. The trick is to not stop once they cum as clits don't work like cocks. It's different for every woman but a go-to first time with someone for me is like
>start slow, gradually picking up the pace
>keep a consistent rhythm
>feel for physical clues that she's reading to pop then tease like you're going to stop, only to actually hit it a little harder
>same applies to when you make her cum - act like you're done but quickly get back onto the clit.
>again it varies at this point but I find going harder and faster here usually a winner.
>what you do with your hands throughout is a judgement call. Touch her all over and see what she responds best to.
Get this down and your golden. Most women will do anything to get served like this and, from experience, I can tell you they will brag to their friends about it.
I've been with women before now who were way out of my league but hooked up because they'd heard about my head action and wanted it for themselves.
>>17973715
I forgot to mention, never dive straight down to busy. Work your way around her body slowly with your mouth and hands, especially inner thighs.
A thing I like to do is lick and kiss up the inside of a thigh, right up to her lips. Linger over her clit for a moment, act like you're going to it then move somewhere else, maybe down the other leg.
Doing this a few times never fails to drive her insane. You'll know when she's ready because next time you pass over it, she'll force it into your mouth.
Have fun!
>>17973790
good advice thanks dude
How would you feel if your boyfriend asked you to finger their butt during blowjobs
Bump?
>>17973555
I've had gf's do this on surprise and I enjoy it.
Also, I've tried to do it to girls before and usually they don't like it. All depends on the girl
>>17973555
that's pretty normal
friends told me it feel good but i never really tried myself
What's the latest your period has ever been?
I've never had a late period before and now it's day 30 and I don't even feel slightly crampy yet. I've never even had piv sex, but I'm still secretly freaking out. Please tell me your stories to help calm me.
Day 30 as in you're two days late? I've been a week late before, as a virgin. happens all the time.
You're probably just stressed out, which delays periods. I had a friend once who was like two weeks late and went to the uni gynecologist worried she was pregnant. The gyno said she wasn't pregnant and that they always get an influx of girls with late periods during finals week (which it was) lol.
>I've never even had piv sex
you're not pregnant
The longest I've ever went was skipping a month entirely, only happened twice. Once, the very second month after I first got my period, and another time a year or two ago.
If it's late enough, it'll typically just skip entirely and come back next cycle although you're not at that point yet. And if you miss twice in a row, it's worth seeing a doctor over. But skipping a period isn't very important unless it's a regular thing.
As for being late by a day or two, that's not noteworthy at all.
Mine has been 4 days late before. You're probably fine, but if it skipped you may just be extremely stressed. Just chill, get a massage, it's all good, hun.
What are some legit ways for a guy from the United States to get an East European wife?
>>17973347
Why not try and live in eastern europe.
Poland is doing better economically than Spain and in big cities there are more girls than dudes there.
Girls from poor cities and areas go to study in big cities and guys just stay behind and become drunks and nationalists.
Come and check it out yourself.
>>17973357
How strict are they on immigration? How hard is it to learn Polish? How expensive is it to live in a Polish city? Is it dangerous to be American?
>>17973364
>How strict are they on immigration?
Dude you are an American. You are free to come and live here whenever you want to.
Its the same in v4.
>How hard is it to learn Polish?
its moonspeak for an American. 80% of young Poles speak english so you dont really have to.
>How expensive is it to live in a Polish city?
500$ per month is more than enough.
>Is it dangerous to be American?
Again you are an American. Bandits that will would normally rob and mug you will fight for you.
Poles love Americans
So im in a long distance relationship with a woman I met on a MMO. But I feel like she’s trying to play the jealousy game on me, or try and make me uncomfortable. I really don’t know how to handle it, I have been very much not reacting on her cues, but no reaction is also a kind of response.
This confuses me, as she get instantly jealous or suspicious the 2nd I talk to an other female. I haven’t fully asked her either, but think she was cheated on in her pervious relationship, she only said she was betrayed by the last guy, so that might be why she is extra suspicious.
Anyway I’ll post here a conversation we last had, while playing the MMO raid, where I felt she tried hard to make me jealous. Should be said this is not the first time, she has done the exact same thing.
Background information first tho. We regularly raid, and play with other people as you do in a MMO. When we first started flirting she kept saying how my voice on vent kept making her heart beat, and she could die listening to me talk. Anyway she now said that very same thing about this other guy in the raid, to me in a whisper of cause. But I have no way of knowing if she is talking to him as well. Only uses me to boost her ego etc.
Said guy had been very hoarse for the last month and she kept telling me how his voice was changed because of it. Today it was better again and she instantly wrote to tell me said thing. Anyway below is our conversation, so you can judge for yourself if she indeed is just trying to make me jealous, and if so how I should handle it.
>her: Ky’s voice is better today :P
>me: yes
>her: how old do you think he is?
>me: not sure maybe around 30?
>her: so older than you? :P
>me: I would think so yes
>her: Maybe I should have chosen him instead? ;)
Later
>her: Now his voice is hoarse again
I did not respond to that, and instead just carried on the raid.
Some days ago she said the following
>Not to make you jealous or anything, but I really love Ky’s voice aswell.
>Maybe had you not been here, I would have been with him.
Context to the above. we have a significantly age gap between us, with her being 40 and I being 23 – She has remarked many times she fears that when I meet her, I’ll turn tail and run because of her being *too old for me* - where I too have remarked, that I in turn fear she would find me too young.
I don’t only get abit jealous when she talks like that about other guys, but also feel like it being a very very shitty way of behaving if its only to taunt me, as she would lose her shit did I do the same towards her. I felt like telling her:
If that’s the way she feels about our relationship, then maybe she should just go to him after all. If it is all down to who got there first.
To me it means she doesn’t care about me, she keeps doing the same every time there’s an other guy, but as soon as we are alone, on vent/skype etc she keeps saying how much she loves me, misses me. Etc. and wouldn’t want to be with any other person, how she cant wait for us to meet.
So you tell me guys, what should I do here?
What does it all mean?
Am I reading too much into it?
If she is just trying to make me jealous, what should my feature responses be?
Pics related its her.
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>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
Girls
How can you tell if a shy girl is interested or just likes talking to you? Over text that is
Girls.
I wonder if this says anything about how she views me. I don't have her on Facebook or Snapshot. But I did get her number without issue.
>>17972936
You ask her out.
So I'm a 20 year old virgin about to turn 21 & I'm pretty tired of fapping to get off. I'd rather not use stuff like Tinder because it seems like most of the girls on there are really shallow. So how are you supposed to meet girls irl? & before someone says "just meet them through friends" none of my friends talk to girls enough to bring singe ones around.
not OP but bumping for any and all interesting imput
>walk up to girl
>say hi
>talk to her
Literally the only way, since you dismissed tinder
>>17972466
If you are 21 and a virgin, maybe you need a couple shallow bimbos to get you wet before you waste a decent opportunity with a good girl due to your inexperience.
I will admit, I have not been on a real date in a long ass time. Probably close to 7 years now.
I feel like competition is just crazy in the world we live in. Do women really have like 5 dudes chasing them st any given moment?
It seems like every girl has like a armory of dudes she could call if she wanted. I can't remember the last time a woman actually liked me and wanted to be around me.
Is it better to get a lot of attention or no attention?
Do all regular women have like a armory of dudes they could call? Or date at any given moment?
Instead of getting your worldview from /r9k/, why not step outside and see for yourself.
>>17972311
You're not too wrong. Women in their 20's have an "armory" of tall virile swole guys with good career prospects they can call on at any time for casual sex. The problem is, looks fade for these women eventually, and they no longer have unobstructed access to those men. I'd recommend going after women older than 35 if you want a genuine chance without some massive improvements in your own looks money and status. It's just the world we live in.
>>17972311
I mean, an attractive girl surely has a lot of dudes going after her.
An average girl doesn't have many. An ugly girl probably doesn't have any.
It's basically the same for guys.